Where is wife/mother
Posted By: Patti on 2006-09-27
In Reply to: Need opinion on family issue - at wits end
Watch the intervention program but basically what it boils down to is that even with forcing them into a rehab program if they are not willing to quit they won't. They really need to hit bottom and you can force that by an intervention and get them into a program but if they don't see the "light" in the program they will only come out and do it again. But first concern is the children -- where is wife/mother? If they are in harms way then something needs to be done for them. Hate to see them go into the child welfare/protective services programs but if someone in the family cannot take them if the situation does not change then that is the last recourse. But get together with grandparents, siblings and pull together to try to get him to quit and see if someone can take the kids if there is no wife/mother around. If there is a wife/mother then she needs to do something about the situation for the kids sake and if she is not willing, step in. You would hate to not and then see something happen to the kids and not only that if something physically does not, mentally and emotionally it already is happening. Good luck. I might distance from him but not the kids. Patti PS - Dad was an alcoholic and ex was one so have had some experience with it.
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The minute you said *wife* the
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Thank you. We are descended from the Hoots who lived in Killjoy, Alabama, right near June Bug. My mother was a Hoot.
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Yes, as mother's we should take the
responsibility. Whether they were married or not is not relevant. Everyone makes poor choices in life. Everyone, married and unmarried, might need help at some point in their life. What difference would it make if my sister in law was married? The courts wouldn't enforce the order anymore than they are now. You say you are all for going after the father, what difference does it make then? They are not held accountable by your government, but you think it is okay to speak against any woman needing help only momentarily because they made a poor choice in life?
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My mother's day
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As one of the other posters said, remember this on your kids' birthdays. Turnabout is fair play. If you keep giving to them and doing for them, they will get the message that they can treat you anyway they want.
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prayers. She is a very sick lady.
mother ill
If I were you I would move her to Georgia. I would just tell her she needs someone to care for her and I didn't want to uproot my family.
Like a mother, eh??
My mother.
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I just saw mother on Dan Abrams
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Someone should take Beth (eyelashes) Twitty home and get her a nice antidepressant and a Southern Comfort cocktail.
Saw my mother-in-law's couch LOL
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