You need to join a divorce support group. Look around. Helped
Posted By: me. Good luck. on 2006-02-15
In Reply to: I understand exactly how you feel- - going through a divorce now too!
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I think we should form a group alright, but no support group!!
How about a group of MTs forming their own transcription company?! We don't need some yahoo with an MBA who only cares about the bottom line and doesn't realize there would be NO bottom line if not for the MTs. We do this work on a daily basis, we know what to do and how to do it and most of us have dealt with doctors one on one. I am so disgusted with these companies and from reading this board, so are alot of others.
Another group to join...sm
DeadBeatHunters@yahoo.com - you can learn from other posters. Be careful about the accuracy of their advice, though. The monitor told me that you can get retroactive to your application with CSE, but the CSE attorney said they do not do that. Since it took 2 years to locate my husband' Ex, that could have been alot of money!
http://www.deltabravo.net/custdy/ - you can go here because one of the forums is called Child Support. They even have a page there where you can learn things that are specific for your state. I think that's where you can read about child support laws in your state.
What's your case about? Do you have an CS order signed by a judge? Can the deadbeat be located? Is he interstate (it's a felony to leave the state if you are in arrears for child support).
Just don't give up! Good Luck!
Join a church? Seriously. I have a mom's group through the sm
church where we get together for lunch once a week amongst many other activities within our church. Fairly large church. Couldn't survive without it.
Have a friend who wants to join our group but
I forgot exactly what I did to get to chat in the first place. Can someone walk me through it so I can let them know? Thanks!
You could join a study group through sm
AHDI, but there is no radiology-specific CMT credential. In fact, I took the test within the past year and there are hardly any rad-specific questions on it.
Can she join a mom's discussion group or exercise where they have childcare? She'll feel bette
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Join as in moral support, call me and I will be there with my name on the line.
I have called the attorneys and given any information they may need including my name, phone, e-mail address and home address to contact me if and when I can officially become part of the lawsuit. For now, I have joined in the solidarity of supporting the original MQMTs which is better than them just standing out there alone with no support whatsoever. So if the attorneys go to them and say hey, we got a list of 1000 names who have phoned us to join in support of your efforts it's a whole lot better than no one responding the attorneys who asked MQMTs to call in their complaints.
WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?
Maybe we should form a support group
"Rad MTs Anonymous" - LOL
But hey, anyone who has participated in this thread who had a similar experience to mine is welcome to email me. I would be happy to swap stories, offer support, and just generally help you (and me) feel that we are not alone in this.
Thanks to everyone who responded positively. Your support is greatly appreciated.
Me too. Been there, done that, got the divorce.
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For those of you who have gone through a divorce...sm
My husband and I have decided to go our separate ways after only 2-1/2 years of marriage. I have no idea where to start and what to do because we bought a house together, bought a new car together, have credit cards together, etc. This is a mutual decision for both of us to end our marriage so it's not like it is a bitter divorce or anything. We would like to NOT involve attorneys but how do we separate all of our stuff?
Thanks
You have a point there. I wonder if it's the divorce?
It's like Tom Cruise not aging well also. And have you seen Robert Redford? OMG. His face is ravaged with time and his neck..... terrible. But you get Paul Newman he he does look better as he ages. Guess it's in the genes?
Not due to divorce, but our family went their
separate ways after both of our parents died. Strange, because I always thought we were close before that, but it could have been wishful thinking.
He was my divorce attorney
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My attorny put in my divorce that I have to take him
to court to enforce any part of the divorce agreement, he has to pay fees for both of us. To the best of my understanding, it's very difficult to have something changed once it's been a legal and binding contract in a divorce. The judges normally stick to what the original agreement was. Good luck.
Well, if it's due to divorce, you DEFINITELY want an actual
real estate agent. You are thinking of the money you think you could save, but what it will end up turning into is a bigger mess. If you sign a 60 or 90 day contract with a for sale by owner agent (i.e. Help-U-Sell, Assist2Sell, BuyOwner) and all they do is plunk a sign in your yard and give you a lock box then you're not getting much. They don't do a lot of advertising other than on their own website and they might print a few flyers for you.
With the market soft right now, unless you price the house really low just to get rid of it, expect it to sit for 90 to 120 days.
when I got a divorce -- see message
Whe I got a divorce my husband tried to make me put a price on my small business and there basically was no value as most of my clients would probably not go with a new owner. Most of the value was in my computer, printer, etc. which after a year is worth nil. It is mainly an income and not much else as you cannot quarantee that when you sell that your clients will go with the new business. Sometimes it can be valued at a one month income. There are real estate agents that sell businesses and she can check with them to see what they say. I worked for a small MTSO that sold and what they did was to not tell any of the clients that it was being sold, ran under the same name with some of the same people there and it went okay but that is touchy. You are selling more the name of the business than anything else. Again, she needs to contact a real estate agent that specializes in selling businesses. She is selling her client list and name mainly and hoping that they all go with the new owners which is a gamble and not one I would take. Good luck.
She hasn't filed for a divorce yet -
Because the state she lives in does not recognize legal separation, she had an agreement drawn up by her corporate atty. This agreement handed the house (quick claim deed) and business over to her, while her "future ex" draws his pension and moved to warmer weather (California). This all happened when things were friendly. Now she wants a divorce so she can get on with her life (with her new beau she is buying the house with). BAD idea since she has not filed for a divorce. Anyway, thanks everyone. I think I'll be visiting her in jail.
I guess I was wondering how a divorce could have been
the agreement or been before the judge with your lawyer to dispute something in the agreement. People with nothing to dispute rarely have to appear, as they have already signed the documents that the lawyer presents to the judge. I don't know if you signed your portion of the agreement without having read it to ensure your wishes were followed...hope you find some resolution.
And they say divorce is less traumatic on adult children....
Unfortunately, this is NOT the case. Adult children whose parents divorce quite often end up just as you have described. They are old enough to form their own opinions which are quite often colored by their life experiences and how they relate to each parent as an adult with adult biases and opinions. Divorce, regardless of the age of the children, always affects the children and people who are "waiting until the kids are grown" are only deluding themselves.
Each state has different divorce and family laws; however, sm
ex-hubby is not entitled to anything after the date the divorce was filed. So, if she filed for divorce on January 1 and hit the lottery on January 2, he gets nothing!
At least that is how it is in PA. Don't know about other states.
This is not illegal in most states. Sometimes it's in the divorce agreement.
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I needed to divorce cheating DH of 27 years. This was
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Divorce will be final in 2 wks, can I stay on my ex's health insurance?
My ex is willing to leave me on his health insurance. Is it legal to do this? Will we get ourselves in trouble if he doesn't take me off?
How true, mine is trained quite well....before we married he asked if I would ever divorce him -
abused me in any way. So far so good after 9 years. He admits to cheating on his first wife a couple of times though as she did not like having sex (not the reason of their divorce and long before I met him which was 2 years after his divorce). He is germaphobic so it's amazing he ever cheated in the first place....but I think he was actually trying to get her to divorce him (subconsciously)....took 12 years for it to work though. Luckily they had no kids. She did not want kids either, at least not then. She has since remarried too (a month after he did) and her 2 sons are very close in age to my 2 girls. Weird. Men can be such weenies though. Now to just train him to throw out his used paper towels instead of leaving them all over the kitchen counter (my dad does the same thing too). Oh well.
I'd hire an attorney and do a quickie divorce. They're cheap and well worth it.
If it's uncontested the attorney can help you amicably sort through what needs to be split and do it fairly and according to the laws of your state. This will avoid potential problems later.
I'd join it!
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I will so join you on that!
If you'll also add a branch for cell-phone drivers ... SHHH*T (...In Traffic).
Why thank you ER MT, and sure you can join
me anytime you'd like. It is very cold here in the state of Delaware, too, and I think the snow is coming! I love the snow when it first falls because it is so pretty. We like to go to Rehoboth, which is a little over an hour south of us, so that's where I drift when it is cold and stressful. Thanks for you help by the way with the avatar, I greatly appreciate it. 
join me???
Me and a few other transcriptionists are going to do hand-written letters to The White House about how outsourcing is affecting hospital employees, transcription in particular. I am having them to mail me their letters, and I am going to put them all into a big envelope together and mail them to The White House. If you would like to join us in this, please email me and I will give you my address so that your letter can be in there as well. We are trying to get our voices heard and save our careers, so please join us.
Join Curves or a gym...really
I have found that if I get up in the morning and go to Curves on a regular basis after I send my kids off to school, I have the chance to interact with people, get some exercise, and even make some good girlfriends because you are all there at the same time every day or every other day. You feel good by the time you get home, take a shower and sit down to work. I've also found church to be a huge outlet as well as getting involved with community events (i.e. volunteering) to be very rewarding. You have to make your life, it does not come to you. Hang in there, this is a great job to have, don't give it up for that reason, you can really make the isolation a non-issue. Best Wishes
don't join in the conversation if you sm
don't want to but don't censor others from doing so!
join the club
Age/arthritis? - see a doctor. Out of shape? - exercise. Here are some PT back exercises: http://www.nismat.org/orthocor/programs/lowback.html
Feel better!
joint/join
Ummmm - that was join, not joint.
If You Can't Beat Them Join Them
There's an old saying which says "If You Can't Beat Them Join Them" I dunn think any of us can stop outsourcing and I dunnt feel there is any point crying over loss of income. So I have followed this ("If You Can't Beat Them Join Them") and I did't lose a dime as the companies outsourced big time. I have myself started taking 100% more work than before and am outsourcing them to individuals in India (the quality generally is good) who does the transcribing (obviously I get the work done at a much lower rate than what I myself get paid). By doing so my hourly rate works out even higher than anno's
VLM -Tried in the 60's to get transcriptionists to join a
union to no avail. Nurses at that time also were non-union - they decided to unionize as their pay and benefits were also abysmal at that point in time. Compare that to their income & benefits now compared to ours. The reply I received for not joining a union then was that the transcriptionists did not want to jeopordize patient care in case of a strike. Well,I agreed we played an integral part in patient care, albeit felt it was secondary compared to the role of nurses regarding patient care - who decided to risk going on strike and made the choice to unionize!!
I totally dropped out of transcription for 10 yrs, only to return and find that AAMT was the answer to our problems. Need I say more ?
As far as the scenario of striking in this day and age with no income, I imagine if I'd add up all the slow days, days without work, holiday periods without work, I could also survive a strike. Only difference being knowing I'd return to work with better benefits including help with health care coverage and increased pay, rather than decreased pay. Shoot - maybe even being recognized as a "Profession" instead of a typist - cognizant of our intelligence & knowledge!!
I don't know to this day if unionizing would have helped us back in the years when it was feasible, but still feel we couldn't have been any worse off than where we are today!
Trying to organize a union now I'll leave in the hands of my internet savvy young ones. How this could be accomplished in this day and age is now beyond my level of expertise!
You 2 should find each other and do lunch sometime! I'm too far away to join ya...nm
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Not sure on this but I think you pay to be listed with the BBB - (join a member) so many probably j
the money to do so. Search the archives or Google them. Otherwise unless they are offering some outragous pay over such as over .12 cpl, then I would not worry about it and go for it.
RadGuy, come join my family,
I'm sorry if I'm laughing about your relative but with 3 different religions in 2 sisters and my mom, I totally understand.
The last time my BIL came to a family get together (he is a quasi-minister), he was talking about how we were all going to hell because we have never spoken in tongues. My mom couldn't help it and a big gawk came out of her mouth. All eyes were on her as she is not known to hold her tongue. She looked him straight in the eye and said, "well, you know, what if you're wrong and I when I die I get to heaven and I'm having a good time, then you die and go to heaven....will you be just as excited on that day to see me as you are today? I bet you'll be wishing you had gone to hell instead at the thought of spending eternity with ME!"
Food and beverages spewed over the entire table.
Each of my sister's sons told me I was going to hell because #1 I wore shorts, #2 I cut my hair and #3 I wore makeup. I sweetly told each of them I'd be the hottest looking chick in hell if that were the case  Now, I'm the "cool" aunt they all love to come to visit. Lighten up and enjoy a little bit of witty banter!
Did you see where they were asked to join churches?
How can they ignore a question like that? "Would you like to join our church?" Suppose they could just say no, which seems a little rude as to why not exactly. I can see her dilemma.
After divorce, child chronic illness, involuntary job change, parents illnesses and death, was force
I frequently regret it, the changes it has made to my life, but when life hands you horror, at least there is this "final solution" to your financial situation. I must admit, I sleep better, and I can finally hold my head up, and I no longer feel hopeless. Find the attorney you can work with,get your free consultation and DO WHAT HE TELLS YOU TO DO. If you have doubts, see a 2nd and a 3rd attorney, till you're comfortable with the person you choose.
Hope California would join the two states
doing the protest soon!!!
Join the club on being confused. With turning us
things are charged, billed, or anything any more.
It just seems like they wanted me to work for nothing to clean up ASR reports. It was pitiful what they wanted, considering what they needed me to clean up. I could have typed it faster and better using my word expanders.
Maybe she should join Tatum O. on Dancing With the Stars. (sm)
The Desperate Housewives are always great, they get my vote.
i agree... Maybe I will join MENSA, just for the companionship
no shame in having a good IQ, when all the dust settles. Go for it MT!
Regarding AAMT, is it wise to join? Opinions please...
have been an MT for almost four years but have not joined as of yet. Would like to hear pros and cons. TIA.
Funny... can I join the Bon Voyage party with a few of my own? Seriously though
it's so very hard to just leave a blank, we are so so so anal retentive in this profession, so beat down most of the time, because everyone wants perfection all the time (impossible) we have to lighten up on ourselves, take a deep breathe and realize that sometimes a "blank" is the best you can do.
maybe he's thinking of a plan to join forces with winner of HOH?
The thing with Kaysar is he wants to do everything perfect and wants to win so he fights to win HOH even if Janelle would not put him up for evictions. That's why people like Kaysar.
Join the crowd. No it isnt just you. Is that what they tell you. That seems to be MQ favorite line
that they tell their robots to tell us. Its just you. Bull. You aint alone my dear. Just cant figure where the lines went.
what helped me
I had to stay away from situations or places where I tended to smoke.
I know you cannot quit work just to quit smoking but maybe rearranging your home office/work area could help.
I also agree with finding a substitute. For me, it was the holding of the cigarette, not the oral contact, that was a tough one. I need to have something to do with my hands - try a stress ball if you find your hands feel empty during your breaks.
I quit in 1997 and still crave a cigarette from time to time but the feeling passes quickly. The first 4 years were really difficult, though. Good luck.
Thank you to everyone below who helped (sm)
me with the PTO question. I got an answer so am a happy camper again
YOU HELPED ME FIX IT!!!! sm
THANK YOU SO MUCH! You helped me figure it out...I knew I needed to change something with the field codes but could not find it!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! Something good will happen to you for helping me!!! THANK YOU!!!!!
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