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wife OMs are always trouble -- jealous, paranoid

Posted By: and rarely make good biz mgrs with hubbies' ofc on 2006-07-12
In Reply to: Advice Please - In a Crunch

poor hubbie lol



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being paranoid about
I totally agree. I am always checking, double, triple checking things and worrying about commas and hyphens, account specifics and my line count shows it
No one was being PARANOID except the OP
Someone inquired if she were in India, no accusation, just a question. Someone else posted to ask if Curious had a problem with the OP being in India, to which Curious said not at all. Then a couple of other posters pointed out this is a board for AMERICAN MTs ONLY.

I'm failing to see where anyone except the OP is paranoid (or just defensive, which is probably more accurate since she indeed does not type as the usual American MT, at least not to my eyes).

I normally agree with your posts, Robin, by this time I'm failing to see why you are accusing other posters of being paranoid when the only one who has expressed ANY paranoia or accused others of being paranoid, etc., is the OP.

I think maybe you need to re-read the thread again. Even the one where she refers to you as being smart is oddly written.

Nope, I don't smell any paranoia here, just perhaps someone who detected an odd syntax, asked a question, and the OP blasted off into orbit.
I'm starting to get paranoid....
I've been with Medquist only a short time and have a good experience so far.  After reading some of these posts, though, I am becoming paranoid that things are not so good.  Someone please fill me in on what is going on.  I received the letter a couple of weeks ago from the CEO and just assumed it was a hand full of people involved with this lawsuit.  Now what is up???
off subject -am I being paranoid
I have some genealogy information on my computer and my grandfather had a very unusual first name and middle name-  today when I was going through my junk mail there was junk from someone with that  same name-  just kind of stopped me in my tracks I didn't open it ---but is that a coincidence  How does that happen - I should have better Spyware I guess  .  maybe Im just paranoid
Becoming paranoid about work and QA

I would like to find a job that I do not  have to proof report 2-3 times as when audits roll around  QA dings for more grammar than actual medial terms.  I would just like to sit and type. I have done this for 29 years, and we all make mistakes, but it is just rediculous anymore.   This company I work for now is so picky about even the smallest thing such as hyphens, comas, colons, etc that a few of MTs on the same account are becoming so paranoid that we are wasting too much time on each report and IM each other that we are not getting anywhere.   I have lost my rhythm with jumping around so much for each WT.  I love to do Op reports and have asked twice and that is about as far as it gets.  I used to enjoy transcription, but not anymore.  If I could afford financially to quit I would.  I used to do over 1200 lines a day, but not anymore.  I feel like I am back in high school English class.  Those days are gone.  Jobs are hard to find anymore with the economy the way it is, but at least I have something coming in, but just not enough and I still am working two jobs.  Just getting tired, frustrated, aggravated, you name it.  Thanks for letting me vent. 


And folks think I'm paranoid
If someone is sitting in a corner at Starbucks or the library or whatever on a laptop working, I'm not sure I see what the problem is. If you're that stringent about things, do you jump from your chair and throw your body across the monitor if you feel a family member approaching your work area? If a person isn't doing their work on external speakers and does not have a 26 inch monitor facing the room at large, I do not see there to be any more of a 'security' risk than there is at home.
I am american so someone is paranoid here. but sm
I still cannot get the proper search.. doing what everyone says. Try it. Search for TTS the company and you will get nothing new even though a month ago I saw a bunch of recent stuff. Where does it go?
Feeling paranoid but...
Has anyone ever felt as though they are set at a certain amount or say a cap per hour... if though I get .09/65  seems I never ever can make more than 14 or 15 hr... even if it is the easiest reports... I hope I'm just being paranoid!!  Just wondering if anyone else has thought this.
feeling paranoid...
Yes - I have worked for MQ since 1999 and have always been able to get 13000+ lines in a 2-week pay period (except for illness/vacation). Since Dec 08 it has been a struggle to approach and pass the 12000-line minimum, and now since half my reports are ASR, my line count has plummeted. Am not sure if perhaps this is one way to weed out the number of employees meeting the requirements for full-time with benefits. Did wonder if there was something off with line counts, but ws never able to get a response to that question, either by email or by phone. At this rate, I am going to lose my benefits, and my line count as it is disqualified me from full-time employment. From 200+ lines/hour to barely 131/hour. I'm frustrated and worried.
Boy, my husband is paranoid too but not to that extent - sm
If I were you I just tell him I am coming and that is that. You miss him, the kids miss him, etc. I find it hard to believe he has a girlfriend on the side already (its only been 14 days). It could be he is just very tired and wants his 1 day to himself, granted I am sure he has unwind time at night. But he shouldn't be that selfish about his free time since he has a family to consider. Can you get one of those video cams for the computer and at least have the kids be able to see their dad that way since he is unwilling to drive 5 hours to come home every 2 weeks, or unwilling to let you "get in harm's way" by driving to see him? You have every right to be pissed, but as suggested wait until you calm down, then ask him WHY and that it has to be a credible reason, not because he thinks there is too much traffic in the area, or some such crap like that. As I said, it is probably because he is tired, being selfish about his time off and (here's the big one) probably enjoying being by himself for the first time in a long time. I actually take my kids up to my dad's about 3-4 x a year to give him some down time, granted I never get any except for a few hours here and there when he takes them to the movies or something, but at least it is something!
I've encountered a strange situation and I don't know if I'm being paranoid or not.

I worked at the same company for 17 years, left in 2003.  Since then, I've been job hopping.  The problem is, any company can tell you anything they want about how good they are.  You can't really find out the actual workings of a place until you work for them.  So, I get hired, no problem, work for 3-4 months, and if I'm not happy, I start looking again.  Since 2003, I've tried 5 different companies.  I'm looking again. 


This is the weird part:  I always seem to get responses because I have extensive experience.  This time, I applied 4 places, got 3 responses, one of which I immediately ruled out after searching them on the company forum, so I applied and tested with the other 2.  Passed both tests, they were both "very interested" and passed me on to the next step.  Talked with the next person in line, received e/m from one "will call you by such-and-such a date."  The other, message on my answering machine, called them back, person was busy and would return my call.  Then.... nothing!  From either one.  It has been one week and no contact from them.  So I'm wondering if there is a blacklist of MTs.  You think it's possible ... names of MTs who have had more than a couple jobs in recent history and left after a few months?  I just really don't know what to think. 


One of the companies that I was really interested in, I even wrote to the last person I had spoken with and asked them to let me know if I was still being considered or not, because I had other offers to consider and needed to make a decision.  Nothing.  What do you think?


If this isn't the case, this is all extremely rude!  Don't you think?


 


 


 


You sound paranoid .."they are trying to take our supplements away". lol nm
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You are one paranoid woman (?), rather obsessing over cherrypicking.

Her post had not the slightest to do with cherrypicking, you have egg on your face, and you SHOULD apologize. Though I doubt you will, as you get to hide behind your anonymity.


I am so paranoid of being replaced with a lower wage employee.
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I'm paranoid by nature, I guess. :) I agree that not all of the services out there are bad. SM

I've just not had much luck with any service and the one I spoke about above was the worst.  That was early in my career and I felt like I was pretty close friends with the supervisor and then to be treated the way I was treated, really just hurt.  Ever since then, I've distanced myself in my work life.  Business is business.


I will say, though, that I am a loyal person.  If I'm treated fairly, I will give 110%.  I think that's what happening these days in the MT world.  MTs aren't getting treated very fair and there are just bad feelings everywhere.  You're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.  If a job offer is too good to be true, then it probable is too good to be true.  And now everyone is playing cover your behind and making sure contracts cover everything.  I just think MTs need to play hardball like the big companies.  If you are working as an IC, you should have a ready made contract for whatever service you contract with.  Why should you be the only one signing rights away?


I've also had the opportunity to read the contract between a big service and one of their hospital clients.  The line rate that this particular service charged was mind boggling.  I don't feel bad about stealing accounts away from services like that.


You can go to BioLife website and read that I think, and no you do not sound paranoid! nm
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I keep the minimum amount of cash in the bank. I may sound paranoid but I fully

there to be locked up.  The banks are scampering around if you notice.  They have written notices that they can raise your interest rate to 28% or more for just about no reason on the credit cards.  I think they have let way too much money borrowed out be on the books, and now the little man is having to pay either with money, or his financial credit. 


If you read about GOLD, gold is selling for a lot, all over the world, even in this supposed stable time.  That's a sign they say that things aren't as steady as the powers that be want you to believe.


another wife
My husband has been active duty for 20 years.  We were stationed in the same place for 17 years.  As soon as he hit the 20 yr mark, they decided we needed to move.  Not all military services have crappy housing, though there are some WWII vintage houses still around as the other wife mentioned.  I've never lived in housing as a wife, but did as a kid.  I told my husband before we married that I wouldn't live on base, but a lot of people do it to save the money.  Your kids will miss their daddy, no getting around that.  My daughter spent two months on IV antibiotics, two hospitalizations, blood work, etc.  Didn't cost me a dime!  Just remember, in the military if they want you to have a wife they'll issue you one!
and he and his wife for MT'g ONLY use...sm

expanders/shortcuts and he said that's all he used to transcribe and that he was making $$ hand over fist this way and his wife too.....again he said he never *typed* anything, only used shortcuts for absolutely everything regarding MTg....and in that case you could do 500 LPH I suppose.....if not even more


I don't know the cost of this program any longer, but when I bought Shortcuts from him it did cost $149....it was a very long time ago though....hopefully that price came down over years.....


His wife

I think they are a total mismatch.  I don't see how she could have been attracted to him, ever.


OM doc's wife
I have seen closeup a similar experience (a friend of mine) and sorry to say, the deck is stacked against you. Lesson learned= never work for a doc whose wife is involved in his practice in any way...nurse, OM, whatever. Any woman who wants to be that involved is in need of a life, and will almost certainly get on some kind of power head rrip sooner or later, just because she can. Poor doc!!!
I need a wife is what I really need
Told my aunt the other day how much running I had to do and she said just don’t do it. Well, how pray tell does it get done then? What I do is, by working part-time, I take the mornings and/or nights to do what I need. The 2 days during the week I am off is kept for doctor appointments, and taking care of business. I also have a housekeeper which allows me time to do this running around. Working out of the home or working in, I never take time for interruptions. I will answer the phone for 2 and that is if husband calls and/or daughter, other than that goes on answering machine. Even those 2 know not to be pesty in calling.
And, the wife usually
looks at any office expense as a rip-off of her husband's money.  Having no idea of the knowledge and skill base required to MT, it probably looks like a pretty easy job to her.  Wonder if she'd like to try doing a couple of reports just to see how it is.  She might end up doing that very thing if you leave.  What a mess that would be!
both he and his first wife were gay. He is totally gay, and says so. sm
He is not bisexual, but has been partnered with David for years.  Get your facts straight. 
Military wife
Yep, my husband has been in the AF for 29 years. He has been deployed since middle of March and will be coming home at end of May. I've been MT for 3 years, but all at one place. Wish I would've done it sooner, when we were moving around. He's retiring this summer.
Wife swap

I loved it.  I have the same problem with my fiance.  He comes home and makes cracks if the kitchen table has stuff on it.  My deck is the other side of the kitchen table so of course it has stuff on it.  Men, gotta love it.


 


Thanks for letting me vent.


 


Lisa


I saw his wife yesterday. Don't know where
you get the overweight.  Sure she isn't rail thin, but hardly fat.   Chris is a local guy.  There has been talks for weeks that he didn't really want to win because he would be tied to contracts for a year.  He has a family and doesn't want to travel.  Look at the year Ruben won.  Clay was second and he has been more successful than Ruben, so I don't see not winning is going to hurt Chris.  Personally I don't think he can sing, he can scream, but he sounds like a moose in heat to me and I think he'll soon fade into the spotlight.  I have better things to do with my time than watching AI so I don't now about the others, though I did see a clip of Taylor on our local Fox news and I thought he could sing and he had a wonderful personality and is very comfortable in the spotlight, something Chris doesn't seem comfortable with. 
So, you are friends with his wife?
I loved watching his shows...so sad. Hope his family is making it through this okay.
Where is wife/mother
Watch the intervention program but basically what it boils down to is that even with forcing them into a rehab program if they are not willing to quit they won't.  They really need to hit bottom and you can force that by an intervention and get them into a program but if they don't see the "light" in the program they will only come out and do it again.   But first concern is the children -- where is wife/mother?  If they are in harms way then something needs to be done for them.   Hate to see them go into the child welfare/protective services programs but if someone in the family cannot take them if the situation does not change then that is the last recourse.  But get together with grandparents, siblings and pull together to try to get him to quit and see if someone can take the kids if there is no wife/mother around.  If there is a wife/mother then she needs to do something about the situation for the kids sake and if she is not willing, step in.  You would hate to not and then see something happen to the kids and not only that if something physically does not, mentally and emotionally it already is happening.   Good luck.  I might distance from him but not the kids.   Patti   PS - Dad was an alcoholic and ex was one so have had some experience with it.
Ugh, wife in the office! sm

I hate it! She is obviously "shopping around" as they all do. There is no loyalty when it comes to wives. If you cannot afford to dump them, then hang onto them until you can replace them. She will make your life miserable. I did the label stuff with the 1" pressure-sensitive transcription labels, Don't pay stationery store price.I am sure you can Google it. I used a paper cutter to "chop" the transcription and return it. The wife wanted me to take the face sheets, already handwritten by her, and print on those! I hope it's a large volume account. If she's saying get as much as you can on a page, she is being ridiculous, the only way you can handle that is to reduce your font and then she'll want you to reduce your price. I feel your pain dealing with the wife, they're ruthless!


If you can't get them to go digital (God forbid, that costs money) then you will have to work around her. I have walked that walk and it ends up you'll have to be the dumper instead of the dumpee which will happen eventually anyway because of $$$.  My heart aches for you. If it were a big $$$ acct. you could set up a laser printer offsite there with the bottom half printing out the labels and the top the letterheads. But, of course, they wouldn't want the work of cutting and placing it in the chart. Been there, it hurts! I thought the doc would intervene in my case as he would rave to everyone about how pleased he was, but he said he only deals with the patients, does not want to know anything about the office staff problems. I finally gave them a notice and left promptly after two weeks. My pocketbook suffered but my pride suffered worse that he didn't step in. Grrrr! If you know digital, you could also buy them a recorder (out of your own pocket of course). Hope you get some good advice here, it's been awhile since I dealt with those "paper dolls" I used to call them,.


The minute you said *wife* the

No wonder you have to do all this.  He has a wife telling him that you should be doing all this.  First of all, if he pays you, you need to be talking to him about this, not her.  Secondly, you need to decide if you can afford to go without this income.  Do you work for anyone else?  Could you pick up more work elsewhere?  If so, then I would do as other posters recommend and confront him with a new charge schedule.  If he wants you to do the corrections in-house, then have him schedule a time for you to come in and do this and tell him what your charge is.  If he's late, his office should have the courtesy to call you.  If not, I would make it a point to call in before leaving to check if he's running on time. 


He doesn't see consultations for free.  His time may be valuable, but so is yours.  Don't shortchange yourself.  Nine chances out of 10, he knows what he's doing is wrong and also knows that no one else will do it either unless he hires in-house. 


Your just jealous. It can be done. Other MTs can sm
produce and you can't. HA, HA.
What's there to be jealous
about.  FORMER BANK MANAGER- things obviously didn't work out. 
Don't be jealous.

I don't need 9 accounts to have to get work. I rarely pull work from most of them because I have get enough from my primary.


It is utterly ridiculous that you find a negative thing to say about everything you read you nasty, nasty lady.



 


jealous :(
Jerome and Prescott are definitely to die for. Also Silverton CO. oh but I miss my biker days *sigh*
I am so jealous!

I am an 80's teen, so he's a bit before my "time", but I still absolutely LOVE him! He is so awesome. I'm jealous.


Hope you have a truly wonderful time...think about all us back home while you're there!


I'm so jealous!!!!!
I keep hoping he will come to my area of the US, as I know he has been doing some concerts. I will camp out for tickets if he does!

I don't think he is really "beautiful" or "handsome" but he just has that "IT" factor that makes my heart swoon!
Jealous?? Of WHAT? LOL!
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So, 3 or 4? Like where? I am jealous.
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I'm jealous, too!
My vacations consist of going to see family, bringing my laptop along and I work where ever we go!! Wow..I'd love to have a real vacation with no work involved...I'm dreaming...
Perhaps not jealous

I don't that the responders were jealous but sharing their experiences with you and telling you that there is a chance that you may not get that raise even though you feel -- and I agree -- you probably deserve it.  But at least they stayed through your move with you and you no longer have to pick up, deliver, print, etc. and kept you at your same rate while someone in the office was doing that.  So that saves you time.


 Again I barely pay attention to the cpl that I receive.  I look more at the hourly rate that I need to make and see how that works for me.  Especially since I also do mostly clinic notes like you and have the same dictators and can make so many templates, macros, auto corrects, etc.  -- I can type 300 to 500 lines per hour.  So at 12 cpl that is good money.  I utilize hundreds of short cuts, do not do repetive typing at all.  So that is money in my pocket and I feel a raise as I am working less and making more.  The MT world is going the same way as the trucking profession did several years ago and I lived through that with my husband.   10 to 15 years ago it used to be so lucrative driving a truck and now a days you are lucky if you break even.   Look at the foreign truck drivers that cannot speak English and or read the road signs.


I still feel that it is the insurance companies that are getting rich and I know that the physicians are not getting rich from them when they receive anywhere from 60 to 75% of what they bill out, but the insurance company does not cut our rates 60 to 75% when we use their PPO's.   If you raise your rates 1 cent per line, that is about an 8.5% increase which over five years is not that much.  I did raise my rates this last year and explained to them that I had to either raise my rates or get another account and then they might not be receiving the same service that they were these past few years.  They all said "Raise them"  so I did.  All you can do is to be honest with them, do not be defensive but do be prepared that they may not like it.  I think that is what everyone was sharing was that be prepared for the worst, hope for the best and go for it.  After having some of my accounts for 5 to 18 years I still get butterflies in my stomach when I raise the rates.  But even though I have only gone up 3 cents per line in 16 years, my production has doubled so I  work less and make more. .  .Anyway that is my thinking for what it is worth. 


I think his son is jealous of him and wants him sm
in trouble. Dog has come a very long way from being a drug addict, etc. I think phone conversations should be kept private. Sorry, but I would not want my son to date a black woman. However, I would never use the "n" word.
Leland has a wife and 2 kids?? nm
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Sounds like his wife has a leg up. I hope
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They think they're hurting the ex-wife, so they can't see that
they're actually hurting their kids.
Just found out that the suspect's ex wife--sm
is providing an alibi for him, saying that he was with her in Alabama at the time of JonBenets death and that he only knew certain things about the case because he did alot of research on it, as well as another case in California. Why would he confess to it, if he did not do it? and why would she, the ex, defend him?
Yep, I'm a Navy wife! Perfect job for me!
nm
Harry Truman's Wife....
Her name, her looks, her personality, just EVERYTHING about her was just TOOO COOL!!!!!!
Did anyone see Wife Swap last night?
One of the wives was an MT married to a chauvinist.  It was great because the "new" wife made him do all her work and chores in the house and with the kids, plus her MT job.  He was up until 4 a.m. typing !!  Ha !  He had a new respect for his wife after that! 
ditto the wife comment sm
I would say this is Problem No. 1 in a doc's office. They are a royal pain and they actually want you to lower your price in some cases. Leave them home!
re Dr wife and new charge schedule
I do have 2 other contracts and informed them that I had sent in my resume and that the new office might call for a reference on me. He told me he would gladly give me a good one - then the wife started confronting me and asked/told me that she knows I will resign because this is how it starts... and that I will not be allowed to just go but will have to keep working until she can find somebody else as it will take a long time (MTs in town know this doc & wife and won't work for them). I am a foreigner so I eat more of his nonsense than others but I think I have had enough! I will basically have to wait for payday and then tell them Im leaving you cold turkey or it will be a long dragged out nasty situation as she will just tell me she cannot find somebody to replace me. They have tried and this is the 2nd time I have gone back, first they got somebody in-office and let me go, then they got her back and let me go and then she walked out and they got me back again. I do have 11 years of exp and the new contract I have I can get more work if I want. Im just wondering if I won't be better off working my 40 hour week and having a life in the eve and weekends since my body is really giving me a hard time because Im working such long hours every day, 7 days a week to make not even what I can get at $10 p/h x 40 hours p/w.