"Good Man"

Posted By: Lilly on 2008-04-19
In Reply to: Thank you all - Ms. Guilt trip

You say you have been married 25 years to this "good man." The man who agreed to a visit from your sister, let her buy nonrefundable tickets, and then refused to let your sister visit? The "good man" who never does anything to celebrate your birthday? The "good man" who you are nervous about telling that your sister would again like to try to come out for a visit? The "good man" you cannot bring up the past to because it will infuriate him? 25 years, huh? That sounds like a prison sentence to me.

Abusers always try to isolate their victims. Self-help books will not be enough. Please seek counseling and truly help yourself.

Lilly

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What do you think - Ms. Guilt trip
- Classic sign of an abusive is a very , very fast romance - sm - xxx
- Yes he is a good man - not 100% but for the most part - Ms. Guilt trip
- Thank you all - Ms. Guilt trip
  - let us know how it goes - sm
  - "Good Man" - Lilly
- ABUSIVE HUSBAND! - Rosemarie Danelle
- stop it - jlynn
- Abuse - Lilly
- What do I think? Time for a divorce! - wow
  - I agree. Aren't you married adults?... - phillychick
- I feel so sorry for you. Please rethink your relationship with this man. - nm
- This is America. Your husband does not have the - sm
- Just how often has he abused you in the past.If you - have not been physically abused, I will eat my hat
- O Boy, where do I begin? - sm
- You can't wait until he is better....he will never - get better (sm)
- Tell your sister she can come visit, and tell him to - find himself a motel room.
- I think what a passive/aggressive manipulative jerk!. - Why do you let him do this. Tell him to get a job!
- I've been married 13 years and - mtroadie
  - Good advise - Ms. Guilt trip
    - Mormons in this country have not been polygamists for MANY years. - Deb
- dang! am I glad I'm single! - Xanax
  - I wish I was too - Ms. Guilt trip
    - Whoa...hang on a second - sm
      - My guy is awesome too. sm .... - phillychick

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