Aging - How old is your Mom?
Posted By: starving artist on 2008-10-02
In Reply to: Anyone here caring for aging parents? - ANONMT
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Aging parents
Well, ya know, you just do what you need to do during these times. I helped care for both my folks and they each died in their mid 60s of cancer. I did a lot of praying to find the strength and really kept remembering I only had one mom and one dad and after all they had given up to give us kids a good life growing up, it was the absolutely least I could do. My brothers and sister were just great too and we got to the point we took shifts, even when they were hospitalized. Looking back, we had some really very nice moments. I can actually say I have no regrets and feel no guilt about perhaps what I should have done later. If you do have siblings, ask for help. Take care of yourselves as you really are not as capable of caring for your parents otherwise.
He looks like an aging ugly female! nm
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Anyone here caring for aging parents?
Whoof. This is so very hard. My mother is/was a brilliant educator, highly respected in her field.
We are walking a very thin line these days. I just hate it, and I do not use that word often.
We have found an assisted living facility that she likes, and I do as well. But, she is not liking the fact that she must decide. Oh, it is so very hard.
She was quite ill back in the summer, went to a nursing home for therapy (to recover from pneumonia), and then home. She is failing, and not going "gentle into that good night." She wants so very much to live on her own, but it is such a struggle. I am afraid for her, and I am so very tired.
Is anyone else living with this? If so, what do you do? I have read a thousand articles, talked with so many specialists, and still am lost.
I understand about the aging parents thing
because I was there also, older brother had died and just me for not only mother, father but also my stepmother whom I adored. My mother died first, then my stepmother and father killed in accident at age 90 but I worried so much about stepmom and father- I lived close enough to where I could be there in a couple of hrs and told them phone call away. It is not easy but I really understand. I think most of the younger crowd now is too much of a me generation for the same consideration.
Check with your local department of the aging, too. nm
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as I'm aging, I do not like HEAVY pots/pans
La Crueset was too heavy for me as is cast iron plus cast iron is bad for people with hepatitis problem(s) so I tend to stay away from cast iron (puts off iron in the food and hepatitis C feeds on iron) as I have a family member with this particular hepatitis.
My hands are also very bad after transcribing for 30+ years - so I tend to want nonaluminum lighter cookware which would be something like Farberware or Revereware if they still make the latter. *lol*
anyone have an aging dog on meds for arthritis pain??? sm
my bassett is 13 years old and has arthritis in her hips and probably other joints. the vet put her on Carprofen and the first few days she did great! then she started having diarrhea and acting like she's hurting again (shaking, panting, a little whining). I told vet, she said to stop meds until she is over her "sour belly". she tested her diarrhea and it was fine, no blood or parasites. she went without her medicine for a day and a half and it showed, as she couldn't walk as well (which before she went on this medicine she couldn't use her back legs). so i started giving her medicine again. vet said the carprofen was going to be temporary. i was reading some bad side effects for this medicine. i think this medicine is making her have the diarrhea. she's only been on the medicine for about a week and a half at the most.
just wondered if anyone else had pets with arthritis problems and what you used to help. i'm not sure if i should try something alternative. or maybe even Dr. Frank's spray.
thanks
They're supposed to be a normal part of aging...yuck! Dunno if a derm doc can zap them or not. nm
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