Caught my housekeeper red-handed stealing from me
Posted By: Aggravated on 2008-03-17
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My household is small, just hubs and myself (with 2 pets). Hubs went out of town to visit his brothers, left early Saturday. I got my housekeeper of say the past 15 years or more to come clean up for me yesterday. Knowing that I was having a doctor's appointment today I had laid out fresh underwear to put on (this is unusual because most times I am without my undergarments but thought I better wear panties today). I put them in my first dresser drawer Saturday night, went and picked her up Sunday, started to lay out all my clothing Sunday evening and my undergarments gone. I am literally ticked beyond belief. I am about to lose a housekeeper- my husband told me for sometime that things were going missing such as things he bought, toilet paper, some forks and spoons, things like that which I normally do not see. If I let her go, I have to do the work myself (she does washing besides housework) but yet I cannot let this pass. Any ideas? I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her but cannot stand the fact of being stolen from - especially since if she needs something she could ask and I usually get for her. Ideas??
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I think a lot of the sentences handed down
depend on the judge. Unfortunately not everyone of them are animal lovers. Send him to Judge Judy, she would have him hanged.
No wonder you have no real sense of value; everything's HANDED to you.
What a classless snob you are. I always giggle at your type...Can't wait til hubby dumps you for a chica half your age (with half your attitude) and you have no choice but to manage on your own. We'll see just how far down your nose you look at others then, especially with this *gasp* dreaded RENTERS next door to you.
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Hmm, really don’t care if you call red-handed or oops but
she and I were the only ones in the household so process of elimination. If it walks like and looks like.....well I think you probably know the rest. Oh, I think cleaning lady is a degrading term and I would rather not use. The term for housekeeper is one does basic domestic work around the house so what is your issue?
I am not codoning stealing...
I simply meant that over a course of 15 years you never stated things of value were stolen. Any time you invite someone in your home to do work for you, you cannot expect them to hold back and not take anything, no matter how trivial - it's human nature. Why don't you get a service where they are bonded and usually two or more people? By the way, $70 is NOT a lot of money to pay for housekeeping. I live by myself in an apartment and pay 134.82 but I have a service. If anything gets broken or stolen I just pick up the phone and call their manager.
stealing for scrap
Just this last week there was an article in the paper that someone stole 300 bronze vases from a local cemetary.Isn't that the lowest?
I'd pay it, otherwise I'd feel as though I were stealing which just isn't right. Karma wil
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Stealing then giving to charity?
Used the stolen money to make donations to churches?!? Who does she think she is - Robin Hood? Or was she thinking on judgement day she could say "Yeah, I did some stealing, but I gave some of it to God, so its all good"?!
Stealing child: How to break the habit??? sm
We have a 6-year-old foster child whose birth mom had a stealing problem. Our 6-year-old has had several episodes where she was caught stealing both before she came to live with us and since moving in with us. Conversations with her about it being wrong to steal, talking with the caseworker, psychologist & even a policeman have helped but occasionally she steals something from a store anyway. The last episode was this weekend when she stole some nail polish when my husband turned his back for a moment, even when she was being allowed to buy some lip gloss she was wanting.
Does anyone have any ideas of how to get her to stop stealing? I've talked to the local juvenile court system and all they said was they couldn't do anything unless she is actually arrested.... which of course we're trying to stop. Of note her biological mother had a problem with being arrested several times for stealing and even though it's not documented, we suspect that this child would see her mother steal or her mom had her steal at times for her. There are plenty of times we can go into a store without problems with her, it's only every few months she steals.
Thank you.
Of course! Stealing? That's the oldest trick in the book. lol
I guess she figured what does she have to lose if she thought she was dying. :(
speak of spooing; ever see Stealing Harvard?
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For those who have a housekeeper, what do you have them do and (m)
how much do you pay? I am thinking of hiring one. Never had one before and just wanted some input. Thanks!
Housekeeper
I've had 3 different housekeepers over the past 10 years. Got my first one when mom came to live with us and I became her full time caretaker.
The first was 2 girls. They charged $6.50 an hour. I gave them $10 because I hate housework and they were fantastic. Had the house in shape in 4 hours and would come twice a month. They would start on opposite ends of the house and meet in the middle. They vacuumed, dusted, mopped, brought their own equipment too.
The second one was even better. She did EVERYTHING. Windows, etc. If there was a dish in the sink, she'd wash it even though I have a dishwasher. I paid her the same rate, but she was unreliable. Never knew when or if she would show up, never called if she was going to be late, which was often, and she would gab constantly for the 4 hours she was here while I was trying to work, so I had to let her go.
The third one was good. She did anything and everything that was asked. Paid her the same rate. She came twice a month for 4 hours. Then I got a new job, hubby got sick, and I couldn't afford her anymore.
Wish I could afford another one as I am still working long hours and now have a dog and a coal stove to contend with...just can't keep up.I should be able to keep up, but I work 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. I get to sit down and relax (hm-m-m, make that conk out) after doing supper-usually 7 pm. 
BTW, I live in rural PA. My home is 75 feet long x 24 feet wide, 3 bedrooms, 1-1/2 baths, great room/kitchen/dining room mix and there are only 2 of us now. I know they say to do 1 room a day, but till I'm done working and then there's the grocery shopping, recycling, washing of the clothes,dishwashing, taking care of the dog, taking care of hubby, etc., just too tired. When I do get a little time off (usually 4 hours on a Sat. or Sun.), I just want to sit and do nothing, or spend time on the computer like I am now, or research.
Housekeeper?
Who here uses a housekeeper? I am curious as to how often, a service or an individual and how much do you pay.
The services seem like they charge quite a bit more than an individual, but I am wondering if it is worth it to get a better job done. I had a lady who I was using and she did great the first time but then started slacking. I've responded to some ads on Craigslist right now for some individuals.
Just curious on what others pay and your experience. 
Oh, BYW, my housekeeper does any and everything
I ask her to do, besides say the washing, drying and regular housework. I get her sometimes the night before, she spends the night with me and then cleans the next day while I work. I am not gonna pay someone $30.00 an hour- that would be more than I make an hour- ridiculous say Transcriptionist versus housecleaning?? Nah, no way. I pay anywhere from $65.00 to 75 or 80 for the day/night.
When you say housekeeper...
do you mean like live-in, Hazel-type housekeeper, or simply a cleaning lady?
My housekeeper just told me
my plant probably needed a new Potainer..... Guess she meant a container?? She is from Atlanta by the way.
I would kill for a housekeeper...
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I have had housekeeper for years
probably 15 or so and this lady works when I want her to, does most anything I ask of her, washing (ironing if I needed but don't do that), cooking, cleaning and even the grass. I usually pay her anywhere from 65 to say 100 for a very full day and if I ask extra of her. She always cleans, vacuums, washes and I just enjoy the company also. I only work part-time but don't care for housework in the least. I can always count on her.
I just have had housekeeper here twice this week and
plan on using her twice next week to deep clean my house. I do not like housework, but I love a clean house, just do not care to do. Husband does the yard. Some people like to do their own work around the house like you but personally with my fibro might feel like cleaning once in a blue moon, otherwise housekeeper it is. I wash the clothes and then sometimes she does those. I will get someone in a heartbeat to do work for me, hired people to clean out the garage before.
No, but I hate my lying, stealing, sociopathic brother. Does that count? NM
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As we were talking about this my housekeeper called
and wanted to know if I needed her- picking her up tonight at about 9:30 after Idol goes off, of course and then she can clean up tomorrow. She has her own bedroom and sleeps as late as she wants, might cook us some breakfast if I want or she does, otherwise we buy something out and I only make lists when I want something different done, such as washing the windows at the front of the house and cleaning the door or maybe cleaning the microwave. Since she has been with me so long, she just knows what needs doing. She has the run of the house and if I have to go somewhere, feel perfectly safe in having her here.
I am a terrible housekeeper, aaaugh, the work I have to do
to have my parents over for Father's Day.
Caught in the act sm
Sounds like a really selfish person to me. Don't let it get to you, I can't imagine living with someone who would do this with a busy household at that time of day and in what I think was personally degrading to you. Where are his family values anyway and his pride, never mind yours! Don't accept being talked down to or treated as "less than." Perhaps you had no place else to go, so you vented to us, at least you got some support. Sounds sick to me.Yours sounds like a normal reaction to a very distasteful situation.
I had a cat who once caught a bird...
in mid air. I saw it with my own eyes or never would have believed it.
Caught the rhyme!!! LOL...nm
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If they get caught, off goes their water!
Have my shutters open this morning and I see my next door neighbor starting to water her lawn. We are in a drought really bad here and the water is being rationed, so to speak. No one waters on Sunday (and Sunday as I write) and we have an odd, even day system when we do water through the week. Atlanta, which is close by, has gone to a 1 day a week watering system. Some places in my state have turned off water to people caught abusing this. I remember in the 80s we had such a drought our showers were limited to 5 minutes. I would hope it does not get that bad again.
i got caught in the middle
of a redneck area. needless to say, I fled the area and the boyfriend. too much for me. I'm a yankee, and so is he, but he was use to the so called rednecks. I do love the more cosmo parts of south. Can't help it!!
Right?! I once caught a fish so big...(sm)
that I wanted to run back to the house to get the camera or at the very least an eye witness, but was all by myself. This fish I caught, it was a carp, which is a basically a goldfish on steroids. This thing was as big as a 5-gallon water bottle--no word of a lie. It actually broke my fishing rod.
So there I was, down below the highway with my huge catch, and I had no way to contain the thing and didn't want to kill it by taking it for a walk with me. So, I did what any insane person would do. I unhooked my bra, took off the bra, strung the straps through the mouth, out the gills, and attached this "tethered" but quite safe carp to a sapling that dipped into the river.
Mind you, this all took place in the CITY (I so totally don't belong in city) and I had to scramble up an embankment and cross a 2-lane highway, while holding down my flapping boobies, to get back to the condo to get my eyewitness.
My husband was home and he got to witness the whole spectacle. No camera though...all I have are my memories, which I am told are degrading, as my fish gets bigger and bigger every time I tell the story.
Long live us rednecks! 
I only caught a bit of the interview, but - sm
she looked almost like she was on drugs... She was very stone faced and did not seem to show any emotion. I do not know, just take the baby and leave seems to e a better idea than shooting him... Just my opinion
Ah, caught the peek up there. nm
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Caught husband looking at wfm ads (sm)
After he had used the computer in the history there was a list of women seeking men ads that he had been going through. I waited a day and then asked him this morning if he was looking for someone else....he said "Ummmmm, not necessarily." I said, "No?" Then he said, "there are none available." I said, "I would hate to think that you would do anything risky." and he said, "I haven't found anyone risky." So I said, "then you are looking?" and he said no, and then started to deny that he was looking, etc. We have been having some marital problems and I am not completely surprised, but was asking him to be honest with me. Anyway...how would you react?
I caught about the last 15 or 20 minutes. Can't hardly
wait until next week. Maybe House and Cuddy will finally get together.
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage."
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage." Good Luck!
Caught my index finger in the
front door storm door this afternoon. One shriek wasn't enough, so DH had to hear a second one. I iced it and elevated it and still it throbbed. Feels fine after a hydrocodone though, and I can type! I'm glad I'm off today though so I can rest it. Whew, that was close.
Oh, and when I shrieked, DH was sitting at the computer desk. He tried to get up so fast he banged his ankle, so now he's limping.
We're such clutzes.
Glad you caught that quickly and put it out
And that nobody was hurt.
Thanks for the reminder!
They caught the guy from the sex tape!! He admitted who he was!!!
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071016/ap_on_re_us/sex_tape_suspect
The guy who raped the little 3 year old girl was caught - he got pulled over for something else, confessed who he was and said he was tired of running!!
I caught the blues when trying to eat the red meat
because husband is a health food junkie and I think sometimes he expects the same of me. I love steak but hardly eat-are shrimp bad for someone who has high cholesterol? He eats fish- I don’t care for- fish is fish is fish to me- all taste alike except for the shrimp with the sauce and horse radish in it- yummy! My physician when I mentioned about my cholesterol told me to tell hubs to leave alone- mine was excellent and I could eat most anything. So there, man of the house!!
I see your answer in post below me; so he did not tell you, and he would not have; he got caught
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Does your city have a fine if you get caught?
Does your city have a fine if you get caught? I don't know about mine. I don't think there's one, but I could be wrong.
ALBANY, N.Y. -- The New York state Legislature has given final passage to a bill that would charge $250 for pet owners who don't pick up after their dogs in some parts of the state.
Dog owners currently have to pay $100 if they don't pick up the poop. The change would apply to the five boroughs of New York City, Albany and Yonkers.
The Assembly passed the bill Wednesday and the Senate had already passed it.
A spokesman for Gov. David Paterson said the governor will review the measure.
Mine was caught at an older age,
unlike the listing above and we have so much in common. He makes me laugh and a big love, just want to take a little bite of him. Oh, that is the cougar I guess coming out.
Caught between pride and terror
I became a mother in 1970 and have been actively mothering non-stop ever since. Now my baby daughter (who is actually 17 and a senior) has received acceptance from two of the four colleges she applied at, with the other still undecided, and it finally became real - - - She's actually going to leave! She is not only my youngest but my only daughter and she and I have been inseparable all her life. I can't begin to imagine not knowing every facet of her life, down to where in her messy room I can find a particular item of clothing! My oldest son is 38 and long since married and I only see him every few months. I guess I'd see him more if he had kids but unfortunately it's not in the cards for him and his wife.
I think I'm kind of going into mourning, thinking of not having her here. I'm so proud of her, and thrilled that she knows what she wants to do - study anthropology and travel the world and make a name for herself. If anyone can do it, she can! And I'll continue to live vicariously through her somewhat, but I know it won't be the same. The idea of having to do the "well, how have you been - - - good, good, how are you - - - what have you been up to - -" stuff that I do with my son terrifies me. Is is possible to maintain a really close relationship with a grown child even over time and distance? I mean really close? We're taking a trip to Canada for her graduation gift, just her and me, and I'm afraid I'm going to be crying the whole time!
Thanks for listening.
You are caught, you assumed and completely wrong!!
I love it, have been a stay at home mother, working mother, everything rolled into 1- I never saw that much trouble with it and I do not really remember hitting the playgrounds to be interviewed for how hard of a life I had. What a joke.
I was a total cougar til my prey caught ME, lol!
My boyfriend is YEARS younger than I am. Started as a one nighter that turned into a 4-day sleepover...I thought he was totally hot but also totally dumb as a pet rock.
Fast forward 2 years...He's sitting on my couch watching the news, and we've been living together 1-1/2 years. He's still totally hot, but not at all dumb as I had initially suspected and, in fact, handles our finances, etc.
Yeah...being a cougar totally rocked, but it turned out even sweeter than I expected when my prey caught ME!!!
Remember Me? Caught Between Pride and Panic?
Well, my daughter has been accepted at her #1 college choice, and we're going to the Accepted Students day this weekend.
In her Creative Writing class in school, they were assigned the task of summing up their Senior year in six words and then to illustrate it. What she came up with blew her father and me away! I hope those of you who have had children leave home will get an inkling of the emotional impact this had on us. Suffice it to say, there was not a dry eye in the house! See below.
Caught him when her husband called my house to ask for her -
My husband introduced me to J. We became good friends. When I was working and could no go places, she and her son would go with my husband and my children. We stayed at each other's houses all the time, went places together (me and her/us and her). I noticed her husband never would do anything with us or hang out, but she said he was just antisocial. Eventually she and her husband moved away because of a transfer and me and my husband separated. Then one day her husband called and asked me to speak to J. Long story short, my husband and her had been seeing each other even before he introduced us to be friends and her husband thought that I was just a front and not really married to my husband but was just a third wheel willing to cover so that they could be together whenever they wanted to hang out...
That Iranian president is a real laugh riot. Caught
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I watch both CSIs, caught a typo on a Vegas episode, they spelled Novolin wrong! LOL. nm
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