Ditto on that, first thing I asked my DH was - sm
Posted By: on 2007-03-10
In Reply to: Wouldn't bother me at all. - sm
was he divorced/married (he was divorced), did he have kids (no he didn't) and did he smoke (no again--yeah) I didn't mind that he was divorced but after having seen what a friend was going through aftering marrying a guy with 2 kids made me not want to deal with that issue; as for smoking I hate it and every previous guy I date (most of them anyway) smoked, though they all did quit for me, but took it back up after we broke up (what dopes). Other important issues were, did they have a car, a good job, and could they cook for themselves.
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It's not the same thing, but since you asked
I do also think most protect-the-poor-American-from-his-own-stupidity laws are pretty unnecessary.
I do think pot should be decriminalized (not legal per se, just not something that can ruin your ability to get a job because of a conviction, not something that should land you in jail, etc).
I do think cigarette smoking should be illegal in public because the fumes travel to bother innocent bystanders.
I do not think seatbelts should be required for adults, although I do think they should be mandatory for kids.
I think helmet laws for motorcycles are ridiculous - if somebody wants to see their brains splattered on the pavement at 75 MPH, well, I think it's called Survival of the Least Stupid...
Back to the chemo question, though - I think doctors do a very good job of explaining the risks, benefits, expected outcomes, side effects, etc. of their field of knowledge (chemo), but they're not as educated about alternative means.
The alternative specialists have not invested nearly enough time and effort into precisely quantifying the success ratios of their products. (i.e., they haven't spent nearly as much time on double-blind placebo-controlled studies).
As a result, when I came in as an overwhelmed petrified hysterical mom trying to figure out what the best thing to do for Joel was, I made the choice to go with what I could quantify, and that meant traditional chemo. And it was a living torture to watch him suffer, to watch him turn frange of motion a beautiful happy precocious very deeply insightful 3-year-old into a way-too-wise for his years child who once asked me if "all little kids go to chemo?"
But I'll keep saying this until I'm completely hoarse: It is the PARENTS of the child, not the politicians or the doctors or the lawyers or the newspaper editoralists, who are going to have to live with the results of their choices. The parents, therefore, deserve the first and the final choice!
A couple years ago I asked about the same thing - sm
it my case it turned out to be the dog food. Maggie was on Purina One, I switched her to Wellness a good quality dogfood, and presto no more smell. So if the dog has always been stinky the dogfood may be to blame.
So glad you asked this, have wondered the same thing. nm
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I know it is very harsh...the thing is I have asked her so many times (sm)
and the things she says are hurtful to my children. I am not petty and it is not over something small like candy or just having a difference of opinion. The things she says to them really scare and upset them. She let them watch a woman giving birth on TV once when they were very young...I had not explained yet to them exactly how a baby gets out...they were both very upset. She also has told other family members that she believes my husband is a child molester and that he has made my son, who is 11, gay. My husband is not a molester. My son likes girls. He has no idea she ever said that, but if he ever heard that she did, it would probably be very devastating to him. Each time I have sat down and tried to explain to her that we don't expose our children to this or that, and that we don't teach them to believe that there are ghosts or demons after them, she says she is a grown woman and can say whatever she wants to and gets all teary-eyed and wants to cry. Then later she yells at me, "oh, yeah, that's right I'm not supposed to say anything." She kept the kids while I was gone overnight this past weekend and I specifically asked her not to say anything that would scare them. She let my daughter invite a friend to sleep over. She told them all about ghosts and demons and how she once saw a demon in her closet. The girl sleeping over got scared and cried to go home at midnight. My daughter called me on my cell at midnight crying because her friend was scared and going home and she was also scared. At what point do I draw the line?
First thing my husband asked when I told him was...sm
Did she get married before it happened?
That is either the sweetest or saddest thing I have ever heard.
Ditto! Agree she can't keep her mouth shut, remember the Kelly Ripa thing?
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Same thing happened to me plus they asked for a contribution to the honeymoon!
My husband's cousin's daughter was married in New York City. We traveled from Virginia for this wedding. The bride and groom barely spoke to our table, just came by to say hello and collect the envelopes. Six months later all we received was a picture card (same as the ones we receive at Christmas) with "Thank you for your gift. John and Jane" printed on the bottom. No "Dear Lois and Louie" written at the top, nada. Needless to say we will not be attending another wedding for this family. I was shaking my head after receiving this. I guess we were supposed to be grateful that she invited us at all?
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I made my little cousin take back some stuff from the grocery store when he went with me. His mother was a bit upset with me for doing it, but to my knowledge, he never stole again. Sometimes, the immorality of it doesn't sink in, but getting caught and confronted by a non-family member can scare them enough to stop it. Also, you could tell her you simply cannot trust that she won't do it again, so she is no longer allowed to go shopping until she can convince you that she will behave appropriately. It may take a while, but she'll see the consequences and miss the outings with you.
I'd definitely bring it up to a counselor if none of the above worked. They may be able to bring up the behavior of her birthmom being wrong, so you won't have to seem like you're downgrading her to the child. I'm sure it's got to be confusing if she saw this behavior much.
Good luck!
Ditto!!!!
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Ditto for me
 I am no good on the keyboard before 9:00 a.m. lol
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Put it down and leave it. It could take a couple of days but hang in there. Forget the baby food, etc, as that does not have the vitamins that a cat needs. I have always fed my cats on the dryer away from the distractions of the house and family....might try something like that too. Good luck!
DITTO............
 
Ditto from me! :-)
Now, Antonella could probably model, but she can barely sing compared to Lakisha. Hope she wins it all!!
LOL, ditto here too!
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Woo-wee..He made night manager at the Pizzaria in 3 months...or was that weeks. Guess she could not see her self the wife of the new owner of the Pizzaria chain! How many mink coats and cars will that buy!
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I had one of those husbands as well. He actually called my job a "hobby" I know exactly what your going through. I agree with the other poster, have him sit down and do just one report, he won't. Like mine said, I don't know how to type, I asked him to at least listen and he still refused. Lots of luck to you.
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Me too!
ditto that one!!
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DITTO!
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I wish someone would put her under house arrest! Actually, I just wish she would take herself and her wonky fake British accent and LEAVE. I can't even go to the yahoo homepage without having to see something about her. It isn't that she doesn't understand her actions, it is that she doesn't care. There is a big difference there. She is putting other people's lives in danger and possibly their kids lives while she is out driving around aimlessly having 30 cars of paparazzi following her driving in the wrong lane. Any other celebrity in Hollywood doesn't seem to have the same problem Britney does, and its because they know she is a walking trainwreck and they get a good paycheck out of her. But she is SO attention-hungry it is ridiculous. Luckily I live VERY far away from her and hopefully it will always stay that way :)
And on that note, I have come to the conclusion that either her doctor is ignorant for letting her go this early because obviously she is still not right, OR she is simply doing all of this for attention. Could go either way.
Ditto. Like it here better now, better than ever!
Boring over there at that other place.
Ditto......
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Ditto.
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Ditto!
Gimme a break, imagine a queue of mothers waiting for their turn to get milked.
PETA shouldn't go this far in their love for animals to make humans act like animals.
There are lot of risk factors involved as well.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_milk_banking_in_North_America
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I agree.
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I think this is wonderful news!
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Fabulous advice. At this point, also, I'm not sure I would worry so much about Mom's sensibilities. It sounds like she already knows something wacky is going on with the husband. Strongly recommend/encourage her to get a power of attorney that is not family and have the executor of her will be someone who is not family.
Good luck. That's a horrible position your sister is putting you in, and it sounds like she is not being a good daughter.
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Ditto on above.
I went quite a while ago. Stayed on resort (The Oasis) most of time. We did go downtown once, rode the bus down and back one night, and also did a tour to one of the Inca(?) temples on a bus. But played it safe and stayed at the hotel the rest of the time (4 women). Watch out for the bees though. I am not allergic to bees but stepped on one on the beach (ocean side) and got really nauseous and dizzy from it, spent most of that afternoon in bed feeling sick from the sting, was a huge bee too. The Oasis had it all there though, 1-mile long pool, pretty cool place. Hot and breezy, ocean was too rough the whole time we were there to go in though, red flagged the entire stay. Have a good time, beautiful place.
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I'm a big fan of living up to commitments and making marriages work, but this one doesn't sound like it has a chance. He's going to destroy you if you let him. Momma has already done a number on him. He's never learned to pick himself up and do for himself and at 30 he sees no reason to change.
Let him move. Can you handle the rent by yourself? Whose name is the lease in?
One important thing, though: If you do let him go, file the paperwork for a legal separation. That way any debt that he incurs after that point is his and his alone. Close any credit cards that you have that might be in both your names. Change your bank account/s to ones that only you have access to. Make sure your direct deposit for work is going into one of those accounts.
Don't let this guy ruin the rest of your life by his complete selfishness. Good luck.
Ditto on that!
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I agree! Having to address your own thank-you note is tacky. They might as well hand you the thank you card too and just have you take it home with you since they obviously can't be bothered to take the time to write it out themselves.
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Well said. Ditto.
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OMG ditto
Mac got married at around 17 and he would've had to be around 16-17 at time of his *donation,* but MJ could get anything he wanted. The resemblance is absolutely striking!
Ditto, didn't get much here either..
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ditto - I agree with you on that......SM
people got shot over the new play station or some electronic thing I saw.......on TV news early morning of Black Friday......
gotta be a masochist to participate in that what-has-become-total madness......
Cataloging is much more serene....*lol*
Ditto... our prayers are with you.. nm
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Ditto! I feel the same way.
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Ditto on that, I am an A on one side, AA on the other - sm
talk about fun! Either go without or those stretch ones since I don't need any support really except on the 1 side a little bit. There are more AAs out there now but 5-10 years ago other than shopping in the girl's department it was impossible!
Ditto on Kenmore. nm
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Ditto! I'm with you. Just say no to kids....LOL
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Ditto! 27+ yrs together and he still says he loves me EVERY day, AND thanks me
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Ditto and NEVER again. I'd rather pay double! lol
Amazing what some people will do to save a buck.
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