Ditto this!! If you adopted me, then you
Posted By: The Other Sunshine on 2008-02-07
In Reply to: Your last line made me - laugh...sm
could be the greatest grandma that I wished my kids had now. Mom and did don't live too far from us (couple of hours) but don't make any extra efforts to spend time with the grandkids. Apparently, their idea of grandparents and mine are different. I remember spending nights at my grandparents and tooling around in their garden, building train sets, going for walks and adventures and even walking down to the corner donut shop with my g'pa for donuts and coffee(hot chocolate) every saturday morning. I practically beg for my parents to come down - I send them schedules of the kids activities, special school events, everything but there is always a reason they can't come (mainly they don't want to leave any of their critters alone for any length of time - but they are willing to animal sit for their neighbors all the time). At Christmas, the kids get one outfit and a book. If you ask me - to all the grandparents on this board - spoil them with your time, hug them, kiss them, and keep on creating memories.
Sorry, didn't mean to rattle on but this is always a touchy subject in my household because I had such fond memories growing up but my kids will have none of that.
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I was adopted
and didn't find out until 2 years ago!
Adopted Kids......
I know somebody who has 2 kids who are adopted. The kids are 9 and 11 years old. Should I tell the kids they are adopted? Everybody knows and someday somebody will slip up and the kids will resent the parents.
As a parent of an adopted
child, I would definitely say the answer is 'no" and it is for this very reason that my husband and I have from the beginning talked to our son about the fact that he is special because he is adopted - we wanted to be the ones to tell him the truth rather than him hear it from someone else. This is definitely something that the parents should do and should do so when they feel comfortable talking about it with their children...My son is 6 and he knows he is adopted. He understands that he came from someone elses belly (he's my heart baby as we have told him. We answer his questions when he asks them and tell him just want he asked for - divulging nothing else to confuse him - take for instance at 4 is when he noticed my SIL's pregnant belly and knew the baby was there - he at that point put 2-n-2 together and realized something was up - which prompted us to talk about him being from someone else's belly. Then a few months ago he asked about this other person - why she didn't keep him, what was her name....(yes we were very surprised as our social worker said little boys are usually much older before they really inquire!)...but we answered his questions reinforcing the positives of being adopted because he had brought us so much happiness and that this other woman did love him enough to know she couldn't raise him and loved him enough to give him to us -making us a family! Sorry for rambling....adoption issues usually get me on a soap box sometimes!! Either way the answer to your question is definitely not your place to tell - leave it up to the parents.
I recently adopted a cat
from a rescue facility. She is a total sweetheart and so petite! I named her Tinkerbell. She shed like crazy at first but I think it was nerves because now a couple weeks later she has stopped shedding and seems to have settled in nicely, plays with my other cat (male) and loves my dog!
The only thing I've noticed is she is a bit gassy - not a lot but at times worse than others. My question is, is there something I can give her otc to help with her "problem"? 
She looks just like my adopted dog, Brandy!
Brandy also is a notorious snorer. But she's such a good dog.
Here's the kitty I just adopted!
She's an 8 year old Exotic Shorthair Persian named Charlotte. Her little tongue sticks out all the time, 'cuz her face is so flat & her mouth is so small. She's tiny - and only weighs about 5-1/4 lbs. right now. Needs to gain a pound or two.) She's a total cuddle-bug!
(She just came out to say hi to me - she was annoyed with me earlier because I had to give her a pill. Not easy with that tiny little mouth!) Whenever I'm on the computer, she sits on the back of my chair and "helps".
I just adopted a declawed cat
who was abandoned. she looks like she has no toes, with floppy little hair tufts and going the wrong directions. Like other poster said, she does not cover her stuff in the litter box (maybe feels she cannot manage it) and her attitude is so defensive to the other cats, even after a month, and i wonder if it isn't because she feels so defenseless. I sure would not do it to a cat.
I have some friends who adopted 2 of them;
The more I see them, the more I like them. If I had room for a dog, I'd consider a retired racing greyhound!
We have adopted several pets from shelters
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Don't laugh, but we also adopted a rooster
A rogue rooster was hanging around the back of a convenience store my husband goes past every day and we knew he must have gotten off a truck or got lost somehow, because there is no place around here to keep a chicken. Anyhoo, he was determined to catch that rooster and he and my son went and rounded him up with a net... he is now sitting on our deck in the back yard crowing every morning around 6, as soon as he sees a touch of light. I know our neighbors think we are now the Beverly Hillbillies. I have named him Elvis and he is already spoiled. We have a friend who owns a miniature horse farm and she is going to come and pick him up. She has only one hen and now Elvis will have a lady in his life. Thank goodness!!!
Here is our Becky (recently adopted)
Becky loves to cuddle and loves to get her belly rubbed. She would rather be in your lap, but is content to lay at your feet if that's where you prefer her. Becky enjoys her toys and will even carry them around the house and toss them for herself. She knows commands like "sit" and "come", and she comes when called 100% of the time. If you lay on the floor with her while you watch TV and scratch her ears or stroke her fur, she will go right to sleep. Just be sure to have the remote handy so you can turn up the volume once the snoring starts. :)
This is my other kitty, adopted 10 months ago.
This is Xanadu - a 2-year-old calico Persian. When I first got her (both came from Persian & Himalayan Cat Rescue in Mill Valley), I figured she'd be happiest as an only cat. But after 10 months of careful observation and getting to know her really well, I decided she needed a companion. She had a pretty traumatic history with other cats at her original home, one of whom scratched her cornea, so her new friend had to be exactly the right cat. And as always, the people at rescue matched me up with the PERFECT kitty-companion in Charlotte, the one posted below.
Some adopted kids have a lot of issues
I had a friend who adopted 2 kids and she said you had to walk a fine line between making their birth mother a saint who selflessly gave them up, or a villain who didn't want them. Unfortunately a lot of these kids think of their mother in one of those two categories. So they find themselves longing for the childhood they didn't have (if they think she was a saint) or struggle with feelings of worthlessness (if they think she didn't want them.)
Personally, I think it is a noble and selfless thing to give up a child who you know you cannot raise and I admire you. I'm sure it was not an easy thing to do. Hopefully your child will find a way to resolve their own issues because they have put you in an untenable position.
At the rescue where I adopted my cats, they have - sm
volunteers to clean cages & feed kitties, and one day when I was there they had a girl (about 12 years old) who was actually getting some kind of school credit for coming every day to socialize and play with a large litter of kittens so that they'd be adoptable. It was so cute to see her in the kitten-room playing with the little feather-wand with them. They were jumping all over the place, climbing in her lap, etc. They LOVED her! They ALL got adopted, (and they were all BLACK kitties, too!) So that girl did a wonderful service to all the kittens.
My children have adopted a baby pig - sm
My ex-husband went to the feed store and a man was there talking about how his hog had only had one baby and that it would "not be worth the trouble to let her raise it". My ex-husband asked him what he was going to do with the little one, and he said if he couldn't get rid of it that he would just kill it. My ex-husband told the man he would take the little pig. Long story short, our kids are feeding the baby pig with a bottle. Her name is Pinkie. They are in love, LOL. I asked him what made him decide to take this little pig, and he said, "We watched Charlotte's Web the night before, and I just couldn't stand the thought of him killing that little pig." I am praying that Pinkie makes it.
Oh, the chows and the rott are right in there with not being able to be adopted
as they also fall into that same category, aggressive and just was at the animal shelter this morning (run by police department at this particular place) and lots of pits there and they are not adopted out. That is the bottom line so must hold some truth in it whether people believe or not. There was a case of a 60 something year old man recently killed by his son's pit, family dog, he had been around for a long time, knew well, just the breed.
Gracie has been adopted with a good person
Dobermans are misunderstood. They love their people, they are protective and noble. They love to follow you around the house and be with you. They need patience in training. They love to run. Please, if anyone knows of an abusive case, get invovled. Visit Doberman Rescue.
I hope you get him! I just adopted a 2nd rescue kitty - sm
on Thursday. She's a 7-year-old Exotic Shortnair Persian with the cutest little personality and face! Her tongue sticks out all the time (VERY flat face!), and she's tiny, only weighs about 5 or 6 pounds. She looks a little bit like "Yoda" from Star Wars. My other Persian is interested, but still feeling threatened and hissing a lot. But today, only 2 days later, they're at least coexisting peacefully. Hopefully in a few weeks they'll be FRIENDS.
I have adopted older cats for just that reason.
Kittens are cute as a button but they can destroy in no time flat. I had 1 kitten who grew into a wonderful loving cat, but vowed never to get a kitten again. I adopt cats who are a year old or better, declawed, fixed, and thoroughly enjoy the heck out of them and, yes, they enjoy being lazy sometimes just like their mom!
Why hasn't that hospital adopted the *Time Out*
The entire surgical team is involved in the *Time Out* and *Pause for the Cause* (called different things in different states). All involved in the surgery standing in the OR at that moment must be in agreement on confirming the correct patient, correct procedure, correct site of procedure, correct position of the patient, etc.
I went in for surgery and they asked me multiple times to repeat my name and the procedure I was coming in for as I went through multiple rooms on the gurney.
That is really scary that these types of errors are still going on.
Obviously, that is a hospital I wouldn't even take my dog to.
AW he is soooo cute. We just adopted Chip last week - sm
He is what the shelter called a beagle mix, but if he is mixed with anything I will eat my hat... Okay I do not have a hat, but I would be surprised...LOL.
Here is a pic of him..
[IMG]http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o182/mamahawn/chip3.jpg[/IMG].
I hope your transition is as easy as ours was. We have 2 other rescue doggies, both lab mixes and female and the three of them were fast friends. Of course we have no diningroom left with 3 creats in it, but who cares...
Ditto
I made my little cousin take back some stuff from the grocery store when he went with me. His mother was a bit upset with me for doing it, but to my knowledge, he never stole again. Sometimes, the immorality of it doesn't sink in, but getting caught and confronted by a non-family member can scare them enough to stop it. Also, you could tell her you simply cannot trust that she won't do it again, so she is no longer allowed to go shopping until she can convince you that she will behave appropriately. It may take a while, but she'll see the consequences and miss the outings with you.
I'd definitely bring it up to a counselor if none of the above worked. They may be able to bring up the behavior of her birthmom being wrong, so you won't have to seem like you're downgrading her to the child. I'm sure it's got to be confusing if she saw this behavior much.
Good luck!
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Put it down and leave it. It could take a couple of days but hang in there. Forget the baby food, etc, as that does not have the vitamins that a cat needs. I have always fed my cats on the dryer away from the distractions of the house and family....might try something like that too. Good luck!
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Ditto from me! :-)
Now, Antonella could probably model, but she can barely sing compared to Lakisha. Hope she wins it all!!
LOL, ditto here too!
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Woo-wee..He made night manager at the Pizzaria in 3 months...or was that weeks. Guess she could not see her self the wife of the new owner of the Pizzaria chain! How many mink coats and cars will that buy!
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I had one of those husbands as well. He actually called my job a "hobby" I know exactly what your going through. I agree with the other poster, have him sit down and do just one report, he won't. Like mine said, I don't know how to type, I asked him to at least listen and he still refused. Lots of luck to you.
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I wish someone would put her under house arrest! Actually, I just wish she would take herself and her wonky fake British accent and LEAVE. I can't even go to the yahoo homepage without having to see something about her. It isn't that she doesn't understand her actions, it is that she doesn't care. There is a big difference there. She is putting other people's lives in danger and possibly their kids lives while she is out driving around aimlessly having 30 cars of paparazzi following her driving in the wrong lane. Any other celebrity in Hollywood doesn't seem to have the same problem Britney does, and its because they know she is a walking trainwreck and they get a good paycheck out of her. But she is SO attention-hungry it is ridiculous. Luckily I live VERY far away from her and hopefully it will always stay that way :)
And on that note, I have come to the conclusion that either her doctor is ignorant for letting her go this early because obviously she is still not right, OR she is simply doing all of this for attention. Could go either way.
Ditto. Like it here better now, better than ever!
Boring over there at that other place.
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Gimme a break, imagine a queue of mothers waiting for their turn to get milked.
PETA shouldn't go this far in their love for animals to make humans act like animals.
There are lot of risk factors involved as well.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_milk_banking_in_North_America
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I agree.
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I think this is wonderful news!
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Fabulous advice. At this point, also, I'm not sure I would worry so much about Mom's sensibilities. It sounds like she already knows something wacky is going on with the husband. Strongly recommend/encourage her to get a power of attorney that is not family and have the executor of her will be someone who is not family.
Good luck. That's a horrible position your sister is putting you in, and it sounds like she is not being a good daughter.
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I went quite a while ago. Stayed on resort (The Oasis) most of time. We did go downtown once, rode the bus down and back one night, and also did a tour to one of the Inca(?) temples on a bus. But played it safe and stayed at the hotel the rest of the time (4 women). Watch out for the bees though. I am not allergic to bees but stepped on one on the beach (ocean side) and got really nauseous and dizzy from it, spent most of that afternoon in bed feeling sick from the sting, was a huge bee too. The Oasis had it all there though, 1-mile long pool, pretty cool place. Hot and breezy, ocean was too rough the whole time we were there to go in though, red flagged the entire stay. Have a good time, beautiful place.
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I'm a big fan of living up to commitments and making marriages work, but this one doesn't sound like it has a chance. He's going to destroy you if you let him. Momma has already done a number on him. He's never learned to pick himself up and do for himself and at 30 he sees no reason to change.
Let him move. Can you handle the rent by yourself? Whose name is the lease in?
One important thing, though: If you do let him go, file the paperwork for a legal separation. That way any debt that he incurs after that point is his and his alone. Close any credit cards that you have that might be in both your names. Change your bank account/s to ones that only you have access to. Make sure your direct deposit for work is going into one of those accounts.
Don't let this guy ruin the rest of your life by his complete selfishness. Good luck.
Ditto on that!
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