Here's what I have done...

I am not sure if this applies, but I have tried to teach my children that it is okay to stick up for themselves.  They can still be friendly, but they can set boundaries.  Maybe some role playing between you and her about what to say when people start bullying her might help.  I have taught my 9yo son to calmly and repeatedly say *whatever, whatever...* whenever someone tries to press his buttons until they stop.  Also, I have told him not to tattle, but to say in a strong tone of voice *{Insert name} stop {insert action}* ex *Lisa, stop taking my pencils.*  That way the teacher will probably overhear, but my child does not come off as a *whiner* or a "tattletale* to the kids.

One child told my son that she was going to tell the principal on him.  We discussed it and the next time she did so he said he would be glad to talk to the principal as he had something to tell the principal about her.  That stopped the behavior soon enough.

• Advice about a bully sm - MT
  • This is a letter I sent to the parents of a - kid who was bullying in our school.
    • What sort of response did you get? - Did it help? - nm
    • Why is this so bad? It's true. - nm
    • I think the letter is fine (sm) - MT
      • Please note sm - MT - original poster
        • Of course I'm not the OP...hello! - MT
    • OMG! Please tell me you didn't send this - NewEnglander
    • That's horrible. OP--Don't follow this poster's example. - You did the right thing.
      • Flash forward: If the bullied child goes postal some day, - the BULLY will be the first one shot. -nm
        • Flash back: Going postal? That's so 1990s... - hmmmm....
    • anything positive come out of this letter? - nm
  • VERY IMPORTANT - been there
    • Good advice! sm - MT
  • Isn't it great having a daughter! :) - sm
    • Guess what......it still goes on in high school too.....sm - MT is me
    • LOL! sm - MT
  • Update sm - MT
    • i'm glad things worked out well. - jss
      • Thank you nm - MT
    • Oh my! Poor you and your daughter! - mtMOM
      • Thank you! sm - MT
  • It sounds to me as though you are doing - ER MT
    • Thank you! sm - MT
  • Here's what I have done... - MTHubie
    • I've dealt with this on both sides. - mtroadie
      • Thanks nm - MT
    • Thanks sm - MT

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