Hmmm, I don't think that would work for my situation
Posted By: TimeFadesAway on 2007-03-16
In Reply to: This came up when my daughter got a divorce - Lana
because it's not a civil split. We both want the dog and I think it is going to come down to the Judge's decision, just not sure what criteria they base it on. Thanks for all the replies.
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Similar situation, my hubby drives 1 hr 45 mins to work from house and sm
he suggested 2 nights a week staying at a hotel that his company would pay for if the company apartment was full. I say company apartment "lightly" as it is a room above the office and just has bed, AC window unit. At first I was hesitant but then I drove it one way in the morning and again in 5 o'clock traffic and said you must be nuts! He gets up at 4:30 am to be at work by 6:30.
Indeed, why would he??? Hmmm...nm
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hmmm
I haven't heard that he is going to come back as victor jr. i dont think i would like that either, but i wanted him to come back and be with phyllis. sharon gets on my nerves, and i think she will end up with brad, and i dont like him too. heck, why do i watch the show haha.
also if you havent check out www.yrnews.com. its a great website, and has spoilers sometimes.
Hmmm, another one? lol
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Hmmm, will try again
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hmmm, that is too bad...
I feel that way about my mother - I love her but I don't usually like her that much! She just acts so childish and selfish most of the time, but she took good care of me when I was younger, and I definitely respect her for that. I know she'll always be there for me too, which is a wonderful thing. I guess I do like her half the time, but she really drives me nuts!
How old is your daughter? Maybe you could sit her down and explain to her that while friends come and go family is forever, and you are the one she will most likely come to when her life falls apart or she just goes through hard times. Tell her you would appreciate it if she would compromise with you on the dog thing - tell her it is her business, really, but you just want to help and purchase a doghouse for the dog. Apologize for maybe coming across the wrong way, but let her know your heart is in the right place here, and maybe you can't save the world, but this is a situation you can help with and that's all you're trying to do.
She may just be hypersensitive when it comes to you and might be holding onto old grudges or trying to get back at you for controlling her when she was younger or something - I don't know. Obviously you know her best, and if you think she'll freak out about a doghouse then maybe you're right, but I think it would be sad to ruin your relationship over a dog (my mom didn't talk to her mom for 2 years over a dog, and it was hard on the whole family!) Sometimes I think difficult people are put into our lives to make us stronger, better people, and it definitely sounds like you two are pushing each other to change/better yourselves. Sorry, I'm rambling, and I definitely don't have all the answers, but I wish you the best of luck with the situation!
N/T - hmmm let's see
They haven't shown Kimber and/or Matt in a while. Kimber is on tonight's episode. She got involved in porno again and is divorcing Matt. She told him she never loved him. The baby is with her and her new boyfriend (Bo Duke a/k/a John Schneider, who is the head of the porn studio). At one point Christian said that he wanted her to give up the baby, and she agreed, but of course the next thing you know she changed her mind and no one is doing anything about it. Matt blew himself up in a homemade Meth Lab and now he's getting clean. Julia can't decide whether she wants to be a lesbian or be with Christian although they supposed now love each other. The only problem is, Julia hasn't told Olivia yet. She hasn't been on in a really long time either.
Sorry so long. If you have any other questions, please feel free to email me. Oh, and next week is the last episode for a while.
Hmmm
"I always have the mentality of not having enough money although realistically this is not the case"
You know...most people who feel they don't have the money don't generally take three vacations in one year. Just a thought.
hmmm
Whether or not they have insurance, if I knew they were taking a trip under the influence, I would make a call the local police department. They could kill someone.
Hmmm
From this post, my reaction is that she doesn't sound self-centered to me if she offered to take him in her house. That can be some hard work to take on. It sounds like she has the way she would take care of him and you have the way you would take care of him, and both your ways are different. That does not make her selfish, IMO. She is contributing the way she sees fit, and you are contributing the way you see fit.
Unfortunately, this is a pickle. If he is unable to care for himself because of all his conditions, there has to be some sort of compromise with his situation, meaning he will have to change his living arrangements in some way with home health or something along those lines OR change where he is living. I am not sure what his level of disability is from the post, because while blindness is a disability, it does not mean one cannot live by himself. I don't know how far the RA or heart problems are from your post.
You can take him to his PCP and he or she may have some ideas for you and some decent referrals as well.
Hmmm
She usually drinks the sparkling water with lime if I remember correctly but she has been eyeing the alcohol lately. Catherine has seen her and is the only reason why she hasn't drank since this whole David thing so maybe she fell off the wagon again. I bet David tries to say she was committing suicide.
Hmmm....
I think that is a weird attitude to have toward your child. Unfortunately, he is going to be out there is society doing these behaviors that make him so intolerable at home. It is your responsibility as his parent to ensure that he is fit for society so that he can be accepted and successful. Kicking him out on the road when he's 18 is not the answer. I have a 19-year-old and there were days that I was counting down until he went away to college, but no matter what, he's still my son. He is actually starting to act like a human this year, so there is hope. Just make sure you keep your heart open to him and not just wish he was gone. He can feel that from you and will resent you for it. You only get to do this once, so do your best, not just enough to get him by until he's 18. I don't want to sound judgmental, but your post does sound a bit harsh. Beleive me, I have also had my moments that I was more than harsh with my son, but make sure you give a lot of love too. 
Hmmm
I read the book also and never thought of that but that is a very good point!
I would not call it life-changing for me more thought provoking.
Hmmm...there have been so many
In high school I worked for the summer at a greenhouse. I was hired to clean it. We all know how much dirt plants have, but would anyone imagine how much dirt gets up in the support beams to the roof of a greenhouse?
I used to be a dogsitter and a house sitter for about 6 months when I was 18.
I worked in a college cafeteria.
I worked in a laundromat cleaning machines...that was kinda gross.
I worked 5 years as a CNA/CMA.
Oh, my most interesting one must have been when I worked for a year driving an 18-wheeler. You see just about anything/everything doing that. I can't tell those stories on here.
Hmmm, let's try it
Frontwards: SIS
BACKWARDS: SIS
Upside down: SIS
Doesn't matter I guess unless you turn the S backwards too. Upside down S is still S.
Hmmm ...
I don't think there is anything wrong with questioning God. He did give us minds and feelings after all.
It seems you are also being a bit self-righteous in telling someone if they don't believe in God it is the least of their problems.
No one knows for sure what the truth is and plenty of "God-fearing" people have huge issues ... of course they get Heaven as their consolation prize, don't they? Well, if they believe in the Christian God that is.
Not that it matters, but I have been a vegetarian basically since I was 15 (give or take a few smokey links in the few years after). I am now almost 50.
The meat I do think sounds good once in awhile is bacon. Seems like an odd choice, but it must be the texture and strong flavor.
I must be lonely, as I want to tell a little story. Some friends once rescued an ill runt from a litter of pigs. The husband made my girlfriend agree they would nurture it to healh and raise it to eat. She agreed even though she would have rather kept it for a pet.
When it grew up, they butchered it and put it in a big freezer in their basement. One day they noticed something smelled really nasty. Come to find out, one of their sons (whose room was in the basement) unplugged it for some reason, and all the meat was ruined!
The really sad part is that one of their dogs had made friends with that pig when it was little. They used to lie together and play. It was so cute.
Let me see, hmmm
No sweetners, no soy products, use sea salt only, not the blue box lady under the umbrella type, have filter on the water. No weight loss, still hair loss, dry skin. Glad it worked for you.
hmmm... I'm right along with ya..
as if all the junk he's putting your daughter through isn't bad enough, the part about him asking for money before he could pray for this lady.. apparently he is doing this for all the WRONG reasons.. I think he has major problems in more ways than one
With a body like that, hmmm you could also do
porno but just not the way I would want others to see me. Sorry, I have family that I just would not want to shame them much less myself. Just not an exhibitionist here.
Hmmm.. what good is
being skinny if you are confined to your bathroom? Yuk.
Hmmm, disrespectful?
Maybe it runs in the family?
You post in one paragraph about your 2 cousins, in their 40s yet, dropping dead of MIs, one just last night?
Then in paragraph 2 you joke around about dating.
The least you could have done was make two separate posts.
Tsk, tsk.
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
Hmmm,,,use the guy only for his money so...
one does not wind up destitute even if you don't love him...Wow, you've come a long way baby! How feminist of you...There are good guys out there, prince charmings too, Wow, you must have really got burned at one time. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Hmmm, some people really like them
NM
Hmmm, I'd say probably a thief...
I agree with what you said, too...that's probably how I would have handled it!
Hmmm, a Dexatrim candle?
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Hmmm...shows up for me right under the MQ board. nm
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Hmmm, could make some type of
shutters too like the white boards but have them open like the old fashioned shutters. thanks
Hmmm, wondered why they had the cap on that baby
in the Bahamas? Did anyone else notice that? Baby mama drama continues.
HMMM, I would...Be HONEST and pay in full...nm
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Hmmm, rather than warm weather, could it be
menopause? I don’t have the sweating during the night. As far as the weather, my grown daughter told me one time if she had been born where there was snow (as you are talking about) as soon as she grew up she would get outta there- it is just what you prefer. I have only been snowed in twice in the past say 15 years and that is fine with me. Oh, I do enjoy the soup and salad at Olive Garden- and eat without sweating.
Hmmm. they're her kids too...
she could have helped pay for college if she wanted to. All I can say is thank goodness his child support obligation is over...it was his choice not to pay for college, so be it. Too many ex-wives expect too much.
Hmmm... here's what the actors say about next season:
Found online, George may or may not stay:
Katherine Heigl and T.R. Knight are both leaving “Grey’s Anatomy,” according to co-star James Pickens Jr.
“Yes, she is,” Pickens told Us Weekly when asked if Heigl is leaving the ABC hospital drama. “Wherever Katherine goes, I wish her nothing but the best.”
Pickens, speaking backstage after last weekend’s NAACP Awards lunch in Beverly Hills, expressed similar sentiments regarding Knight.
“He’s going too,” Pickens said. “He just wanted to pursue other career paths.”
Both Heigl and Knight have made no secret about their unhappiness on “Grey’s.”
The vociferous Heigl, who’s complained about storylines in the past, made even fewer friends on the show when she blamed her lack of an Emmy nomination last year on the “Grey’s” writers (for not giving her more to work with).
Knight has publicly complained about his lack of screen time and was reportedly threatening to leave the show earlier this season.
Ironically, ABC entertainment chief Stephen McPherson told TV critics last month that he expected Knight to return next season (although he didn’t say in what capacity that would be).
hmmm...interesting story..
i guess the crux of the problem is that i cannot participate or make $$$ from the enterprise, and i got laid off from my religious affiliated inhouse position and my psych position
Hmmm, less sugar helps your pain? sm
Geesh, I'll have to try cutting back. Since the holidays when I way overdid the whole sweets issue, I find my pain has increased signficantly, but I assumed it was due to all the painting I have been doing in addition to all the stress. I take Relafen 200 4 tabs daily and have Darvocet for the more severe pain, but I only use that at night, unless of course I have a nasty daytime headache, then I take one. I only take 1 day ususally. Would like to be able to cut back on both but it hasn't been possible.
Hmmm...there never was a stray issue in that city!
Humping the same bear toy he suckles on? Hmmm!
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Hmmm, actually don't think she needs Idol, after seeing those pics, Playboy will be calling her,
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Did you hear Greta say she was twitching and shaking? -hmmm.
nm
Hmmm - I dunno.... the way the banks ALREADY handle money,
;)
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested
Hmmm, I did note the barking and the lady should have gotten her pet under control, true, BUT
made some rude comments to the lady, which was unnecessary and why I said the OP needed a lesson in manners. I don't see that I need a lesson in manners at all. MY dog doesn't bark at people when I take her shopping with me, but if someone got in my face and made rude remarks to me such as the OP did, that person would have a serious problem with me not because of my dog but because of her rude comments. If I were to be told by a clerk or management to take my pet out of the store, I would gladly do so. It's no big deal to me. I'm not dumb enough to take my dog INSIDE a restaurant or to the grocery store. Times are different, culture is different, what was once not allowed in the past is allowed in the present. The fact is you aren't willing to conform over something so small and that is your prerogative, but it's also mine to take my pet into stores that allow them.
Strangest things? hmmm. Vintage Turkey Basters
Yup, sounds weird I know. It started with one of my grandmothers from the 1940s or 50's. They are glass with the rubber bulb on the end, but the reason why I like them is because of the interesting packaging tube they come in.. Vintage ads PYREX, etc. Usually with a picture of a big Juicy Turkey, etc. I like the coloring too, kind of primary colors but sort of faded with age. Got three of them right now displayed on top of my kitchen cabinets, along with a BUNCH of roosters (way too many), also collect antique crocks.
I also have about 50 Vernon Kilnz (sp?) plates, the kind with scenes from different states, etc. They sort of tell a story about each place. Once had an idea I would do a bed and breakfast someday and use them, so they just sit in the cupboard, all lonely, etc. Yup, if I see any of these things at the flea market or antique shops, I pick'em up, it's like a compulsion or something... just can't help myself.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
you are right, you do not know the situation...
and I did not go into complete detail, but at all the churches I was a giver of time, money, and self. I never said anything to members that would have hurt them in anyway. I was told by one pastor that I was a dying plauged horse that needed to find a field and die because he asked why he could not keep any men in the church and when my husband and I very lovingly explained why he got mad and what happened next got very ugly.
In the last church I was in I was basically running the church for him because he was too busy working his other job and such, spending church money on things other than what he was telling the congregation, etc, and when I told his fiance privately in a very loving way after much, much prayer that she needed to think about her children, as child services was getting ready to take them, he found out and called me every name in the book and told me that if I ever stepped on the property he would have me arrested. He told the congregation I left on my own and he had nothing to do with it. There are many more details that go with this situation, but I will leave it at that.
One church we were stuck in the middle of a church split and were on the wrong side of the split.
I will not go on. But I have tried to be a dedicated church member, doing every thing I could to fit in, do as I was told, sing and lead 3 worship services a week, at the church every time the church opened, lost friends, etc. trying to do what I thought God was instructing me to do and every time I ended up getting so deeply hurt that this last split has made it to where I get physically sick even thinking of going back to church. It is called "spiritual abuse" and unless you have gone through it you have no idea what it is like. I am glad you have a church you like and treats you correctly, but until you have been through what I have seen, heard, and been through you have no idea.
There are many a pastor out there who are independent and get corrupted by the power they have from the position of being a "man of God" and it is scary what can happen.
I will leave it at that, but there are times where Christians need to look at their actions and words and make sure they are inviting people to want to become Christians instead of making them want to run as far as possible in the opposite direction. Just my 2 cents.
Very sad situation......(sm)
I really do feel bad for you because of what has happened. Your sister should have offered to pay 'something!' And since she did not offer, I know that makes things difficult to forget about, but I'm sure that you would have been able to move on. She took it to an entirely different level when she put her hands on you. She should have stayed away and gave you time to cool off & herself time to cool off instead of showing up to ignite the fire. I know it makes you feel bad, but please do not blame yourself for what has happened. Regardless of the quad theft, she was the one who made the choice to physically attack you. She is the one who did something wrong, not you. She will hopefully learn a lesson that actions such as that have consequences.
Give yourself & her some time to cool off. Eventually the situation will calm down. It will probably take awhile, but don't let it take too long...time is precious. My older brother (only sibling) died in a mva a few years ago. We disagreed on everything most of the time. I always think back to those 'little arguments' and I think about how much precious time we wasted on trivial things, when we could have been enjoying our relationship. I would do anything to have him back now. Just a thought. Hope things get better for you. Stay positive. Do your part to try to re-establish peace, but do not feel guilty about what happened because it was not your fault. Hopefully, in time she will come to her senses and will be the one to suffer with the guilt of what she did.
same situation here -
However, we DO have a charter school available but it's a 45 minute round trip, have to pay an arm and a leg tuition, and STILL have to support the public school with our property taxes to boot.
Our migrant student to teacher ratio in our district is current 1 teacher to 6 students. Regular class ratio is 1 teacher to 31 students. Nice huh.
Not exactly the same situation
but a hospital I worked at went belly up and we went to work that morning and by 2 p.m. we were out of jobs. Not only that, but this was on a payday and our checks were not there and were not going to be coming. Then on top of that I find out that while we all thought the owner had been keeping up on our insurance he had not been and for the previous 2 months we didn't really have insurance, so all the tests and stuff I had during that time I had to pay for. And there was no Cobra to keep it going because there was no company anymore. It was a nightmare, and I already was juggling bills and I just got into a state of despair where I would quit even answering the phone. It took quite a bit to dig myself out of that pit, and still my credit sucks probably worse than yours- I couldn't even get a secured credit card 6 months ago. Dont know about now.
I'm in the same situation
I'm postmenopausal for 4 years now and started having trouble with the sleep pattern during menopause. I thought it would go back to normal after the menopause completed, but according to my doctor, it can take 10 to 15 years for some women.
When I get too badly sleep deprived, I take generic Benadryl - Walgreen's antihistamine, Wal-Dryl - 50 mg and I'm sleepy within 30-40 mins. and usually sleep through the entire night, 6-7 hours. Normally, I will take a 500 mg generic acetaminophen with the 50 mg antihistamine because I have shoulder and neck pain from transcription posture. That is the same as Tylenol PM but much, much cheaper.
If you read the labels, the sleeping pills that they charge $15 or so for, have the same medicine as the $3.50 antihistamines.
Also, since I started walking again about 6 weeks ago, I'm sleeping better.
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