Hmmm, disrespectful?
Posted By: sm on 2007-08-25
In Reply to: Two things for y'all to consider... - is it just me???sm
Maybe it runs in the family?
You post in one paragraph about your 2 cousins, in their 40s yet, dropping dead of MIs, one just last night?
Then in paragraph 2 you joke around about dating.
The least you could have done was make two separate posts.
Tsk, tsk.
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I don't mean to be disrespectful or
anything, but was really curious about this. I have had several posts deleted before, one concerning my relationship with the hubby (which was a good post, nothing negative), and now these posts deleted. I think that if any of mine were deleted for the content in them, hers should have been to. She makes these statements which some could find offensive and they are allowed to remain there, and any statements made that contradict her views at all are then removed. I don't see how what she says is appropriate in that post if the other posts were not appropriate either.
Maybe I do not understand though. Compromised?
I think it was very disrespectful sm
and I think the punishment is just. The problem is our kids have no respect for our teachers or parents or anyone anymore - if this child called this teacher a name at a mall or something to another teacher it would be his word against another's word - but this is black and white and think it was handled correctly.
I am not trying to be disrespectful but her religion- sm
is/was her business. If I was on my deathbed the last thing I would want do discuss with my relatives would be if I had accepted Jesus into my heart, etc. I really hate it that new "christians" feel it is there mission in life to "save" everybody and feel they have to convert everybody and save them from themselves. My dad has recently refound religion and it is causing lots of strife in our family which is very non-religious. No one wants to be with him because his is constantly nagging us to go to church with him, to convert, etc. He blamed it on my mom (who is dead) as the reason why he did not return to the church sooner - horsepucky as Colonel Potter would say-- once she died he was re-born 3 months later. I am not baptist, nor do I go to church, nor do my kids. They know about Jesus and God though, but I don't feel the need or desire to go to church every Sunday and hand them over 10% of our gross income which in our case would almost pay for a second house. You should not be worrying about your grandmother's salvation, worry about yourself and stop trying to save the world. I am sure she is where she wanted to be and her spirit will live on in your heart and memories.
SIL/MIL are disrespectful and irresponsible
not to mention how your daughter feels. Come on, did SIL even apologize to her niece? You need to tell them they are lacking compassion, among, uh, brains.
disrespectful husband
Anon, I know exactly how you feel. My husband is the same way, and he is the worship leader at our church. He had a problem with internet porn about 10 years ago, and trust me, I have never looked at sex the same way since - instead of something beautiful it's something nasty. I can only imagine what goes through his thoughts. My husband says the same thing about if I would give him "some" then he would be happy to do things around the house, etc. Hello!! He lives in the house, too. It's not always about sex!! I think once men get into porn they are never the same. My prayers are with you.
disrespectful husband
Well, I went to our pastor at the time and he said that a lot of times men use church or positions in church as a way to cover up the sinful things in their lives. Isn't that sad? I'm afraid that more church-going people do things of this nature more than we realize.
disrespectful husband
Oh, yeah I feel like a fake!! Especially when I hear, "Put on a happy face." Go behind him and check things he may be looking at on the computer - once I did that and found out for sure that's what he was doing, he then confessed to other "stuff" that he had done.
Husband so disrespectful (in & out of bed) am I overreacting? sm
I don't know if this will be removed - if it is inappropriate, I'm sorry, but I want to be able to ask anonymously. I am not a prude and I don't think there is anything bad about two people in love having some really good sex - but my husband is so disrespectful - he is just disgusting to me. He is very active in church and well thought of but with me he is just rude and disgusting. We have not been getting along well for a long time so I have not wanted to have sex with him - I keep asking him to work on how he treats me first, and he keeps saying he'll treat me better if I have sex with him, so we have been at a gridlock for months now. Yet he comes in and at night and wants to mas*****te, grabbing at me and saying really repulsive things to me at the same time. When I am sitting and trying to work he comes and does rude things as well - things that might be okay if we had any kind of relationship, but we don't. We have been on the verge of divorce for about a year but he keeps asking me to stay. Yet, rather than working on a relationship with me, he wants to act like this. It makes me want to leave so bad. I feel almost abused, even though that probably sounds silly. I keep asking him to stop acting that way but he does it anyway. Am I overreacting?
I loathe that commercial. The kid is so disrespectful. (nm)
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reads like he's disrespectful to women in general
If he is a passive-aggressive type, there is ABSOLUTELY NO HOPE for the relationship....get out while the gettin' is good....
Indeed, why would he??? Hmmm...nm
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hmmm
I haven't heard that he is going to come back as victor jr. i dont think i would like that either, but i wanted him to come back and be with phyllis. sharon gets on my nerves, and i think she will end up with brad, and i dont like him too. heck, why do i watch the show haha.
also if you havent check out www.yrnews.com. its a great website, and has spoilers sometimes.
Hmmm, another one? lol
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Hmmm, will try again
http://www.centennialbulb.org/photos.htm
hmmm, that is too bad...
I feel that way about my mother - I love her but I don't usually like her that much! She just acts so childish and selfish most of the time, but she took good care of me when I was younger, and I definitely respect her for that. I know she'll always be there for me too, which is a wonderful thing. I guess I do like her half the time, but she really drives me nuts!
How old is your daughter? Maybe you could sit her down and explain to her that while friends come and go family is forever, and you are the one she will most likely come to when her life falls apart or she just goes through hard times. Tell her you would appreciate it if she would compromise with you on the dog thing - tell her it is her business, really, but you just want to help and purchase a doghouse for the dog. Apologize for maybe coming across the wrong way, but let her know your heart is in the right place here, and maybe you can't save the world, but this is a situation you can help with and that's all you're trying to do.
She may just be hypersensitive when it comes to you and might be holding onto old grudges or trying to get back at you for controlling her when she was younger or something - I don't know. Obviously you know her best, and if you think she'll freak out about a doghouse then maybe you're right, but I think it would be sad to ruin your relationship over a dog (my mom didn't talk to her mom for 2 years over a dog, and it was hard on the whole family!) Sometimes I think difficult people are put into our lives to make us stronger, better people, and it definitely sounds like you two are pushing each other to change/better yourselves. Sorry, I'm rambling, and I definitely don't have all the answers, but I wish you the best of luck with the situation!
N/T - hmmm let's see
They haven't shown Kimber and/or Matt in a while. Kimber is on tonight's episode. She got involved in porno again and is divorcing Matt. She told him she never loved him. The baby is with her and her new boyfriend (Bo Duke a/k/a John Schneider, who is the head of the porn studio). At one point Christian said that he wanted her to give up the baby, and she agreed, but of course the next thing you know she changed her mind and no one is doing anything about it. Matt blew himself up in a homemade Meth Lab and now he's getting clean. Julia can't decide whether she wants to be a lesbian or be with Christian although they supposed now love each other. The only problem is, Julia hasn't told Olivia yet. She hasn't been on in a really long time either.
Sorry so long. If you have any other questions, please feel free to email me. Oh, and next week is the last episode for a while.
Hmmm
"I always have the mentality of not having enough money although realistically this is not the case"
You know...most people who feel they don't have the money don't generally take three vacations in one year. Just a thought.
hmmm
Whether or not they have insurance, if I knew they were taking a trip under the influence, I would make a call the local police department. They could kill someone.
Hmmm
From this post, my reaction is that she doesn't sound self-centered to me if she offered to take him in her house. That can be some hard work to take on. It sounds like she has the way she would take care of him and you have the way you would take care of him, and both your ways are different. That does not make her selfish, IMO. She is contributing the way she sees fit, and you are contributing the way you see fit.
Unfortunately, this is a pickle. If he is unable to care for himself because of all his conditions, there has to be some sort of compromise with his situation, meaning he will have to change his living arrangements in some way with home health or something along those lines OR change where he is living. I am not sure what his level of disability is from the post, because while blindness is a disability, it does not mean one cannot live by himself. I don't know how far the RA or heart problems are from your post.
You can take him to his PCP and he or she may have some ideas for you and some decent referrals as well.
Hmmm
She usually drinks the sparkling water with lime if I remember correctly but she has been eyeing the alcohol lately. Catherine has seen her and is the only reason why she hasn't drank since this whole David thing so maybe she fell off the wagon again. I bet David tries to say she was committing suicide.
Hmmm....
I think that is a weird attitude to have toward your child. Unfortunately, he is going to be out there is society doing these behaviors that make him so intolerable at home. It is your responsibility as his parent to ensure that he is fit for society so that he can be accepted and successful. Kicking him out on the road when he's 18 is not the answer. I have a 19-year-old and there were days that I was counting down until he went away to college, but no matter what, he's still my son. He is actually starting to act like a human this year, so there is hope. Just make sure you keep your heart open to him and not just wish he was gone. He can feel that from you and will resent you for it. You only get to do this once, so do your best, not just enough to get him by until he's 18. I don't want to sound judgmental, but your post does sound a bit harsh. Beleive me, I have also had my moments that I was more than harsh with my son, but make sure you give a lot of love too. 
Hmmm
I read the book also and never thought of that but that is a very good point!
I would not call it life-changing for me more thought provoking.
Hmmm...there have been so many
In high school I worked for the summer at a greenhouse. I was hired to clean it. We all know how much dirt plants have, but would anyone imagine how much dirt gets up in the support beams to the roof of a greenhouse?
I used to be a dogsitter and a house sitter for about 6 months when I was 18.
I worked in a college cafeteria.
I worked in a laundromat cleaning machines...that was kinda gross.
I worked 5 years as a CNA/CMA.
Oh, my most interesting one must have been when I worked for a year driving an 18-wheeler. You see just about anything/everything doing that. I can't tell those stories on here.
Hmmm, let's try it
Frontwards: SIS
BACKWARDS: SIS
Upside down: SIS
Doesn't matter I guess unless you turn the S backwards too. Upside down S is still S.
Hmmm ...
I don't think there is anything wrong with questioning God. He did give us minds and feelings after all.
It seems you are also being a bit self-righteous in telling someone if they don't believe in God it is the least of their problems.
No one knows for sure what the truth is and plenty of "God-fearing" people have huge issues ... of course they get Heaven as their consolation prize, don't they? Well, if they believe in the Christian God that is.
Not that it matters, but I have been a vegetarian basically since I was 15 (give or take a few smokey links in the few years after). I am now almost 50.
The meat I do think sounds good once in awhile is bacon. Seems like an odd choice, but it must be the texture and strong flavor.
I must be lonely, as I want to tell a little story. Some friends once rescued an ill runt from a litter of pigs. The husband made my girlfriend agree they would nurture it to healh and raise it to eat. She agreed even though she would have rather kept it for a pet.
When it grew up, they butchered it and put it in a big freezer in their basement. One day they noticed something smelled really nasty. Come to find out, one of their sons (whose room was in the basement) unplugged it for some reason, and all the meat was ruined!
The really sad part is that one of their dogs had made friends with that pig when it was little. They used to lie together and play. It was so cute.
Let me see, hmmm
No sweetners, no soy products, use sea salt only, not the blue box lady under the umbrella type, have filter on the water. No weight loss, still hair loss, dry skin. Glad it worked for you.
hmmm... I'm right along with ya..
as if all the junk he's putting your daughter through isn't bad enough, the part about him asking for money before he could pray for this lady.. apparently he is doing this for all the WRONG reasons.. I think he has major problems in more ways than one
With a body like that, hmmm you could also do
porno but just not the way I would want others to see me. Sorry, I have family that I just would not want to shame them much less myself. Just not an exhibitionist here.
Hmmm.. what good is
being skinny if you are confined to your bathroom? Yuk.
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
Hmmm,,,use the guy only for his money so...
one does not wind up destitute even if you don't love him...Wow, you've come a long way baby! How feminist of you...There are good guys out there, prince charmings too, Wow, you must have really got burned at one time. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Hmmm, some people really like them
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Hmmm, I'd say probably a thief...
I agree with what you said, too...that's probably how I would have handled it!
Hmmm, a Dexatrim candle?
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Hmmm...shows up for me right under the MQ board. nm
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Hmmm, could make some type of
shutters too like the white boards but have them open like the old fashioned shutters. thanks
Hmmm, I don't think that would work for my situation
because it's not a civil split. We both want the dog and I think it is going to come down to the Judge's decision, just not sure what criteria they base it on. Thanks for all the replies.
Hmmm, wondered why they had the cap on that baby
in the Bahamas? Did anyone else notice that? Baby mama drama continues.
HMMM, I would...Be HONEST and pay in full...nm
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Hmmm, rather than warm weather, could it be
menopause? I don’t have the sweating during the night. As far as the weather, my grown daughter told me one time if she had been born where there was snow (as you are talking about) as soon as she grew up she would get outta there- it is just what you prefer. I have only been snowed in twice in the past say 15 years and that is fine with me. Oh, I do enjoy the soup and salad at Olive Garden- and eat without sweating.
Hmmm. they're her kids too...
she could have helped pay for college if she wanted to. All I can say is thank goodness his child support obligation is over...it was his choice not to pay for college, so be it. Too many ex-wives expect too much.
Hmmm... here's what the actors say about next season:
Found online, George may or may not stay:
Katherine Heigl and T.R. Knight are both leaving “Grey’s Anatomy,” according to co-star James Pickens Jr.
“Yes, she is,” Pickens told Us Weekly when asked if Heigl is leaving the ABC hospital drama. “Wherever Katherine goes, I wish her nothing but the best.”
Pickens, speaking backstage after last weekend’s NAACP Awards lunch in Beverly Hills, expressed similar sentiments regarding Knight.
“He’s going too,” Pickens said. “He just wanted to pursue other career paths.”
Both Heigl and Knight have made no secret about their unhappiness on “Grey’s.”
The vociferous Heigl, who’s complained about storylines in the past, made even fewer friends on the show when she blamed her lack of an Emmy nomination last year on the “Grey’s” writers (for not giving her more to work with).
Knight has publicly complained about his lack of screen time and was reportedly threatening to leave the show earlier this season.
Ironically, ABC entertainment chief Stephen McPherson told TV critics last month that he expected Knight to return next season (although he didn’t say in what capacity that would be).
hmmm...interesting story..
i guess the crux of the problem is that i cannot participate or make $$$ from the enterprise, and i got laid off from my religious affiliated inhouse position and my psych position
Hmmm, less sugar helps your pain? sm
Geesh, I'll have to try cutting back. Since the holidays when I way overdid the whole sweets issue, I find my pain has increased signficantly, but I assumed it was due to all the painting I have been doing in addition to all the stress. I take Relafen 200 4 tabs daily and have Darvocet for the more severe pain, but I only use that at night, unless of course I have a nasty daytime headache, then I take one. I only take 1 day ususally. Would like to be able to cut back on both but it hasn't been possible.
Hmmm...there never was a stray issue in that city!
Humping the same bear toy he suckles on? Hmmm!
nm
Hmmm, actually don't think she needs Idol, after seeing those pics, Playboy will be calling her,
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Did you hear Greta say she was twitching and shaking? -hmmm.
nm
Hmmm - I dunno.... the way the banks ALREADY handle money,
;)
hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested
Hmmm, I did note the barking and the lady should have gotten her pet under control, true, BUT
made some rude comments to the lady, which was unnecessary and why I said the OP needed a lesson in manners. I don't see that I need a lesson in manners at all. MY dog doesn't bark at people when I take her shopping with me, but if someone got in my face and made rude remarks to me such as the OP did, that person would have a serious problem with me not because of my dog but because of her rude comments. If I were to be told by a clerk or management to take my pet out of the store, I would gladly do so. It's no big deal to me. I'm not dumb enough to take my dog INSIDE a restaurant or to the grocery store. Times are different, culture is different, what was once not allowed in the past is allowed in the present. The fact is you aren't willing to conform over something so small and that is your prerogative, but it's also mine to take my pet into stores that allow them.
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