I'm just like that.

Posted By: Um on 2007-02-02
In Reply to: I understand what you are saying, BUT if you knew you would forget sm - Irritated Friend

I know it annoys people. I'm the youngest child of 4 kids, and the older two are nothing like this. I have this brain fog thing I can't explain, and don't know how to just snap out of. I feel like people want to throw hundreds of details at me on the phone regarding future events, most of which have nothing to do with me, and I don't know which I will get quizzed on later. My family has learned to send e-mails about important stuff.

I honestly can't figure out why birthdays are an important event. I see birthdays as something important to kids in elementary school, not adults.
After that it just seems silly, pointless. Everybody was born one day or another; what's the big deal?

One of my siblings has such a complicated life that to hear his spouse fill me in makes me feel exhausted. I try to keep mine simple. I'm married, but didn't every try taking on the challenge of kids.

I actually avoid making frienda with women that I can tell are just the opposite of me, that is, organized and detail oriented and caring about the remembering of birthdays. Now I have one friend that is busy, but not at all needy, and a year can go by, and then one of us will call the other and we'll try to get together. We enjoy this guilt-free friendship.

I think you should try to make friends with people who are more like you instead of attempting to change somebody that doesn't have the personality you need in a friend.

You're right; you should stop calling this woman who annoys you. Stop inviting her to things. I doubt she'll even notice for quite a while, and that's no reflection on you.

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How can some people be so absent-minded in their young age???!!sm - Irritated Friend
- Expectations ALWAYS become premeditated resentments. With that said, (sm) - Dillybug
  - I think you're right. I'm that way, though I try to remember. Still, (sm) - Sieve-Brain
- See message, there is something wrong with her brain that we don't understand - Patti
- some people are just chronically disorganized--sm - nobody
  - Because I'm hurt. She never comes to my "parties" sm - Irritated Friend
    - is this *selective remembering* or is she CHEAP? - or maybe SHE has a little ADD/ADHD...nm
    - well, you know she is like this so --sm - nobody
- Not young but people sometimes do not understand regarding this. - Janet
  - I understand what you are saying, BUT if you knew you would forget sm - Irritated Friend
    - I'm just like that. - Um
      - I love your answer regarding the fact that - Janet
    - You said if you really WANT to, well heard the - Janet
      - Now I think this subject is taking a totally different turn. Where is your sense of - Irritated Friend
        And you assume you are the only woman this has ever happened to?? - Janet
        Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very - Irritated Friend
        You just said it all. - clhmt
        Reread and don't see anything I did not see the first time. Try being a better friend. - Janet
        I have been her friend for over 8 years. I truly think there comes a - Irritated Friend
        Maybe it is time to cut your losses and move on? - bitsy
        I think you have reached your boiling point and - Janet

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