I agree. When he's ready, he'll want to do it.

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Thank you everyone! It has been great reading all of your responses! Goodnight!! "See" you all tomorrow!

I don't know about this "Easter Bunny" business. I have today off and there is not much work anyway, so I decided to get ready for Sunday (I have 3 little kids). All I did so far today was go get my daughter a dress, and my boy an outfit, got all the basket stuff together and put them together. Then, I worked on me, day of beauty stuff, hair, etc. I have not worked today, yet doing these things I am exhausted! And I still have to dust, vacuum, declutter office, and bake a cake. Not to mention clean my sons' bathroom (eewwwww). I am putting all that off until tomorrow. Does anyone else find that although transcribing can lead to fatigue at times that doing chores and getting ready for holidays is more tiring?

So I've been watching him and a lot of the other HGTV design shows, etc. I want to save money, but I want everything too look expensive, ya know?

I loved what he did with the silk too, but problem is I don't sew. I don't even know how to operate a sewing machine, soooooooo anybody wanna make a buck? :)

Never have liked her. She seems fake, her voice is weak, and I hate that little pouty face she makes all the time. No clue why she is still there.

Can I substitute melted margarine for the oil? I don't have any applesauce. I do have some Miracle Whip, but wasn't sure about it. I don't want to go to the grocery store. I'm at home alone, kids are gone, I'm working and feeling pretty productive, and then BAM the PMS chocolate attack strikes and and me without a Hershey bar in sight! So I thought I would whip up a devil's food cake mix and get back to work.

but it just ain't gonna happen. Daughter of a politician (so I know how it rolls)

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	Name and (party)¹	Term	State of birth	Born	Died	Religion²	Age at inaug.	Age at death
1.	Washington (F)³	1789�1797	Va.	2/22/1732	12/14/1799	Episcopalian	57	67
2.	J. Adams (F)	1797�1801	Mass.	10/30/1735	7/4/1826	Unitarian	61	90
3.	Jefferson (DR)	1801�1809	Va.	4/13/1743	7/4/1826	Deist	57	83
4.	Madison (DR)	1809�1817	Va.	3/16/1751	6/28/1836	Episcopalian	57	85
5.	Monroe (DR)	1817�1825	Va.	4/28/1758	7/4/1831	Episcopalian	58	73
6.	J. Q. Adams (DR)	1825�1829	Mass.	7/11/1767	2/23/1848	Unitarian	57	80
7.	Jackson (D)	1829�1837	S.C.	3/15/1767	6/8/1845	Presbyterian	61	78
8.	Van Buren (D)	1837�1841	N.Y.	12/5/1782	7/24/1862	Reformed Dutch	54	79
9.	W. H. Harrison (W)⁴	1841	Va.	2/9/1773	4/4/1841	Episcopalian	68	68
10.	Tyler (W)	1841�1845	Va.	3/29/1790	1/18/1862	Episcopalian	51	71
11.	Polk (D)	1845�1849	N.C.	11/2/1795	6/15/1849	Methodist	49	53
12.	Taylor (W)⁴	1849�1850	Va.	11/24/1784	7/9/1850	Episcopalian	64	65
13.	Fillmore (W)	1850�1853	N.Y.	1/7/1800	3/8/1874	Unitarian	50	74
14.	Pierce (D)	1853�1857	N.H.	11/23/1804	10/8/1869	Episcopalian	48	64
15.	Buchanan (D)	1857�1861	Pa.	4/23/1791	6/1/1868	Presbyterian	65	77
16.	Lincoln (R)⁵	1861�1865	Ky.	2/12/1809	4/15/1865	Liberal	52	56
17.	A. Johnson (U)⁶	1865�1869	N.C.	12/29/1808	7/31/1875	(⁷)	56	66
18.	Grant (R)	1869�1877	Ohio	4/27/1822	7/23/1885	Methodist	46	63
19.	Hayes (R)	1877�1881	Ohio	10/4/1822	1/17/1893	Methodist	54	70
20.	Garfield (R)⁵	1881	Ohio	11/19/1831	9/19/1881	Disciples of Christ	49	49
21.	Arthur (R)	1881�1885	Vt.	10/5/1829	11/18/1886	Episcopalian	50	56
22.	Cleveland (D)	1885�1889	N.J.	3/18/1837	6/24/1908	Presbyterian	47	71
23.	B. Harrison (R)	1889�1893	Ohio	8/20/1833	3/13/1901	Presbyterian	55	67
24.	Cleveland (D)⁸	1893�1897	N.J.	3/18/1837	6/24/1908	Presbyterian	55	71
25.	McKinley (R)⁵	1897�1901	Ohio	1/29/1843	9/14/1901	Methodist	54	58
26.	T. Roosevelt (R)	1901�1909	N.Y.	10/27/1858	1/6/1919	Reformed Dutch	42	60
27.	Taft (R)	1909�1913	Ohio	9/15/1857	3/8/1930	Unitarian	51	72
28.	Wilson (D)	1913�1921	Va.	12/28/1856	2/3/1924	Presbyterian	56	67
29.	Harding (R)⁴	1921�1923	Ohio	11/2/1865	8/2/1923	Baptist	55	57
30.	Coolidge (R)	1923�1929	Vt.	7/4/1872	1/5/1933	Congregationalist	51	60
31.	Hoover (R)	1929�1933	Iowa	8/10/1874	10/20/1964	Quaker	54	90
32.	F. D. Roosevelt (D)⁴	1933�1945	N.Y.	1/30/1882	4/12/1945	Episcopalian	51	63
33.	Truman (D)	1945�1953	Mo.	5/8/1884	12/26/1972	Baptist	60	88
34.	Eisenhower (R)	1953�1961	Tex.	10/14/1890	3/28/1969	Presbyterian	62	78
35.	Kennedy (D)⁵	1961�1963	Mass.	5/29/1917	11/22/1963	Roman Catholic	43	46
36.	L. B. Johnson (D)	1963�1969	Tex.	8/27/1908	1/22/1973	Disciples of Christ	55	64
37.	Nixon (R)⁹	1969�1974	Calif.	1/9/1913	4/22/1994	Quaker	56	81
38.	Ford (R)	1974�1977	Neb.	7/14/1913	12/26/2006	Episcopalian	61	�
39.	Carter (D)	1977�1981	Ga.	10/1/1924	�	Southern Baptist	52	�
40.	Reagan (R)	1981�1989	Ill.	2/6/1911	6/5/2004	Disciples of Christ	69	93
41.	G.H.W. Bush (R)	1989�1993	Mass.	6/12/1924	�	Episcopalian	64	�
42.	Clinton (D)	1993�2001	Ark.	8/19/1946	�	Baptist	46	�
43.	G. W. Bush (R)	2001�	Conn.	7/6/46	�	Methodist	54	�

I moved here with 9 cats, and I've got 18 now. Long story, but two of the ladies were outdoor cats (one was a feral) and they were "in the mood for love."

Now there's Lil Rust, Baby Face, Tuxedo, BC (stands for black cat), Dusty (resumbles a cotton puff with legs and a face), Gypsy, Willow, and Gizmo. Scooter found a home.

Anyone get the impression that I love cats?

What you see is what you get. That is what they told me in ground training for my private pilot; of course, they were referring to the weather, but it holds true for a lot of other things and situations.

One thing about long-relationships that I have learned is that the only person you can "change" is yourself. So, if your significant other has any kind of habit or personality quirk that "bothers" you before entering into marriage, that same issue will be there after you've married no matter what the other person "promises" to do or don't do.

My boss once called me into his office (I thought I was in trouble again!) and asked my opinion about his marrying his girlfriend. He said he wanted to marry her, "take care of her," but that he could not "stand" the fact that she smoked. He also said that she promised to quit smoking after they got married. I told him basically the same thing, what you see is what you get. I also told him that to expect her to change, even with the promise of doing so, was unrealistic and that he would have to accept her as she is...smoking and all, even after the marriage. No matter what quirks the other person has before the marriage, they'll still have the same quirks after the marriage. She did try to give up the smoking; however, she eventually failed and resumed the smoking. Apparently, it was more than he could stand, and they ultimately divorced. Of note, he was a control-type freak whose idea of socialization was snuggling up to the TV set and eating pizza, and she was a free-spirited social being who liked to be around a lot of people. He did do some socializing, going out dancing, going out to eat, etc. to placate her, which was really totally against his nature. He knew beforehand what the issues were but chose to go ahead with the marriage, thinking that he could get her to change. She did'nt. What he saw before the marriage was what he got after the marriage.

The issue then becomes not what the other person will do to compromise but what you will accept, knowing full well what the other person's habits and quirks are and how far you are willing to go to accept that fact and be comfortable with those issues. If you are uncomfortable now and feel this is a significant issue for you, this will be the same after the marriage. Don't expect him to change. The only person you can change is yourself.

You can either accept him as he is and you, yourself, do the compromising, or you can move on to find yourself a more compatible life partner. If you choose to continue the relationship, however, do not feel guilty about "dragging" him along to any social events or worry about his socializing with the others. If he truly did not want to go, he wouldn't have gone in the first place. Maybe that would be his way of compromising for your issues.

Walking away from somebody you really think you love is tough. I've done it, and it does hurt for a while, but it is a whole lot less hurtful than divorcing. As I look back upon that decision, I know that it was the right thing to do. There will always be a "soft spot" in my heart for him, but I know that I could never really stand "to stomach" some of his quirks on a regular, life-long basis.

You need to do a lot of soul-searching about this. I wish you peace and happiness no matter what your decision is.