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I agree - sister may be afraid of her husband

Posted By: Okie MT on 2007-09-10
In Reply to: I feel for you sm - MOradMT

He sounds like a bully with violent tendencies.


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I'm not pregnant - but my sister is and only her husband ....sm
knows besides me. She's only about a month along. This is their 2rd child. Her son is fine and he'll be excited to find out that he'll get a brother or sister in the future when they tell him, grandparents, etc.
Well, my sister's husband steals
her fancy shmancy soap from L'Occitane, and he is a little funny that way. He is a little metrosexual. My husband, on the other hand, is as rugged as the Marlboro Man. He wouldn't be caught dead wearing anything from Bath and Body. He tells me, "That stuff stinks!"...He really doesn't even moisturize!! I think what you are concerned about is the sudden change in your husband, and if it were MY husband, I know something strange was up. I would just flat out ask the guy what was up...Or buy him some undies and if he squeals like a schoolgirl, there's yer answer.
My sister's (now ex)husband kicked her - sm
pregnant golden retriever in the stomach repeatedly because he'd had an argument with my sister. Then he went off to work, as usual.

My sister didn't waste a single minute. As soon as he left, she called in sick to work, drove to the city, hired an attorney, and filed for divorce. She also put a lien on a bunch of building materials he was about to receive, because she knew how much $ all that was worth. Then she went to the hardware store.

By the time he came home that evening, the dog was safely inside a house whose locks had all been changed, his other truck in the driveway had been towed away to an undisclosed location, and all of his personal belongings were sitting out at the curb.

Oh. And since he had also hit HER, she had filed a restraining order against him.

She got half the house, which the judge forced him to sell, even though he built it with his own hands, and was on a PRIME piece of property. She made sure EVERYBODY IN TOWN knew what had happened, and people stopped hiring him to do construction work. He finally had to move out of state.

Just goes to show, you shouldn't kick your wife's dog.
I totally agree....sociopaths, for one, are not afraid of or intimidated by the police.
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My sister and her husband are both teachers in Atlanta and -
The word is that many teachers will pass kids out of their current grade just to get rid of them. They tell me the biggest fear of the teachers is to have to teach the same problem child twice! They also say that some parents INSIST that their child be passed no matter what. So sad because it is the children who suffer!
My husband would agree with you
He grew up in California and has one of those beach towels (bought long ago) that shows a map of the United States with California in the foreground and everything beyond that is "back East".  LOL
I agree. I have a husband yes indeed.
He is always lending a hand.  But, I am still the mother and housewife as well as a great transcriptionist!  It can be done.  Our kids are fine and well adjusted.  I've be typing from home for a long time! 
I agree with your husband.
Women don't do that to each other. The ones that do aren't worth knowing.
I agree with your new husband (sm)
When she lied to you in the beginning, that said it all. Especially to go so far as to not be able to believe you would accuse her of something like that. I would have to cut my losses and count myself as having one less friend. She stopped being your friend the day she chose to secretly see your husband.
I agree that your husband should stand up for you

If he refuses to do so, quite honestly, if it were me, I would divorce him and take the kids to the other side of the country and live near YOUR parents. Let them come all the way over there to visit the kids.


Your children too young to have been affected too much by the situation, but as they grow older, they will find themselves in the middle of this family feud. That is a very unhealthy atmosphere for them to be living in.


I have caused problems for myself more than once in the past for demanding to be treated with respect, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. If your husband won't do it, then you will have to.


Agree! The caveman reminds me of ex-husband. LOL nm
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The tool I use to 'convince' my husband to agree.

Okay, my sister and I are doing Thanksgiving this year and since my sister can't cook, that means

I'm doing the cooking.  My sister gets equal billing cause we're doing it at her house.  :)  Soooo, I'm looking for some vegetable ideas.  I am about sick of green bean casserole!  Does anyone have any really tasty recipes for vegetables side?  Any kind of vegetables.  I'm looking for something different and fabulous.


I had a corn casserole at one potluck I went to, but never got the recipe.  Anybody got a good corn recipe?


Thanks Ladies!


That is what I was afraid of
Dh and I have had our 401k for years and this is the first year we each dipped out of it to make ends meet.  I was working from home and got pulled in-house.  I am spending $100 a week on gas plus another 120/week on daycare. I don’t know if I should count daycare our not because I would have my kids in daycare anyway.  I am not talented enough to do MT and watch kids at the same time.  Also, I am have been buying new clothes, buy lunch, vendors in the hallways selling anything from jewelry to clothes to stuffed toys to benefit the Children’s Miracle Network, United way, Hospital Auxiliary, or just goes into a fund for fellow employees who maybe suffering from hard times.  Then there is always the in-departmental fund raises for birthdays, “so and so is going on a cruise lets pitch in a dollar” or some ones kid is doing a fundraiser for their school, sport or whatever and then coworkers selling Avon, Mary Kay or whatever and I just feel the pressure.  Never in my life had I felt the pressure to spend, spend spend as this year that I worked in-house.  What’s worse our name tags function kind of like a debit card, just swipe that sucker and they payroll deduct.   Sorry to vent but I want to be back home! 
Were you afraid he would (sm)
try to take your children in spite? Were you afraid he would be worse during and after the divorce process??
I'm afraid to.
He was just a sobbing suicidal mess before the Concerta (54mg qd) and fluoxetine (40mg qd). I'm afraid to take him off that stuff! I don't know that he could handle being that down again. He's doing so well in school on that too. He has As and Bs, with one C compared to being years behind his peers last year. We go to the doctor again Tuesday morning. I know he's trying his hardest to help my son...plus I'm a sobbing pile of snot every time we visit about my son. The Respirdal (1mg qhs) seems to be helping him as far as the rapid cycling mood swings and the insomnia. We tried to talk a little bit about his maybe hearing things that weren't actually being said....thanks for letting me vent here. None of my friends understand. They all have been blessed with children who seem to function well and aren't high maintenance if that makes any sense.
What are you afraid of?
I pose that question to you because it was one that I had to deal with after wanting a real relationship but for some reason could not fully commit to anyone.  That is not to say that I dated more than one guy at a time, it is just that I would not completely let him in my life.  My fear was having something bad to happen to my girls by this man that I brought into their lives.  So, now that they are grown, in and enjoying their lives/family, I want someone in my life for me....but that fear keep me from committing.  Does that make sense to you?  And it will always be there for me...
LOL! That's what I was afraid of...nm

I actually am more afraid of who is in
the kitchen than I am of the meat, especially our local restaurant because I see him shopping at the same store I go to and they are a family owned business here for a number of years. But I certainly see your point.
What I'm Afraid Of...& Not

I'm scared to death of flying.  Have never been on a plane and never plan to be on one either, unless it is a dire emergency and I have no choice.  Hurricanes scare the bejezzums out of me. After going through Andrew, Katrina, Rita, and Gustav, I think I will go as far north as possible next time...if I can afford to.  I never want to go through that again...even being 90 miles inland, it is still terrifying when they hit here (the wind is what we have to worry about).  I'm afraid of losing my home, my family, and dying alone as well.  I'm also afraid of dust and pollen...I'm highly allergic to both and stay indoors when pollen season hits (which is three times a year here...for dust, I just try to keep the house as clean as possible).


I'm not afraid of spiders (unless they are black widows, which we have here), non-venomous snakes, raccoons, tigers, dogs (used to be), or being on or in the water.


I'm afraid

I'm a little scared to try this.  I'm 45, but I'm really scared it'll tell me my brain is 72!!!


 


 


Are You Afraid Of Getting
Are you afraid of getting old? I'm talking about getting up in age & not being able to do for yourself, having to depend on others for your care.
No, I am not afraid
I honestly do not think that far ahead, and prefer not to worry what may or may not happen.

I'm very afraid of getting old and I'm not too far from it.

I have no daughters, just sons, but not one of them seems to want the responsibility of taking care of us in our later years. We do not want to go to a nursing home. We want to die at home.


I know I could not live alone on our property without a helping hand if something would happen to my DH and have been thinking about what to do since his surgery 2 years ago.Where would I go? What would I do? I surely don't want to leave this property after living here over 40 years, but don't know of any way to do it if something would happen to him.....and so, I think about it all the time. Even now, I have trouble taking out the ashes and definately (sp) could now carry the coal in now, yet living in the "country" for over 40 years, I don't think I could live in a town again to save my life.  


No. Too afraid..sm

Too afraid I would transcribe everything absolutely strict verbatim, including background/cell phone conversations and the like.   


I'm afraid I don't know cats...sm

Nearly as well as I know dogs, so I can't answer your question about whether it's normal or not (the hardened nipples) but it doesn't sound normal.  It can't hurt to call the vet and ask. 


I would also suggest that you make an appt. (if you haven't already) to get her spayed ASAP, because she can and very likely will go into heat again right away since it's that time of year (some people call the warmer months 'kitten season.') 


I happened to find this website yesterday, while looking for something else:    http://marvistavet.com/html/body_giving_birth_to_kittens.html


Here is a quote from it:


>> Nursing the litter generally suppresses the return to cycling but the average female cat is back in heat about a month after delivery of the litter. If she has access to a male cat, she will likely become pregnant before she is finished weaning the current litter. >> 


Wow, before she's even finished weaning the current litter?  Amazing (and a little shocking?!) 


If you go to your regular vet, you can probably get her in to be spayed pretty quickly, but it will cost more than a low-cost spay/neuter clinic.  (Might want to get her teeth cleaned too if she needs it, since she'll be under anesthetic anyway, and the anesthesia is usually the biggest part of the cost.) 


If you go to a low-cost spay/neuter clinic it will cost less, but you might not be able to get an appt for 2-3 weeks or more.  If she's in heat again by then, they will either not do the surgery, or (more likely) they will charge a little bit more for it because it makes the surgery a little more complicated (increased risk of bleeding when they're in heat). 


I hope she's okay as far as her nipples.  Can you let us know/give an update? 


 


How many parents here are afraid to

let their kids play outside because of the numerous kidnappers and pedophiles wandering around your neighborhoods.


*Jou are afraid of my Guatamalaness!*
And how about the Guatamalan peasant soup he made up? I laughed until I cried first time I saw it!
Why are you afraid people would think you
Vagisil isn't just for yeast infections, just itching or irritation, so it wouldn't hurt for him to try it. You did say he used talc, but has he tried corn starch or baby's corn starch powder before going to work? Zinc oxide (Desitin?). Have you tried changing your detergent? Since he does use his arms all day, there would be constant friction in those areas, so a corn starch product might help cut down on friction, which seems to be what is causing his problem.
Ummm...a lot I am afraid
When we added our son about 4 years ago (he's 20 now with his own insurance, thank goodness) ours tripled! We're about to add our daughter too...but not til she gets a J-O-B...good luck!
Of course you're afraid
If you weren't afraid, that would be worrisome. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been in a marriage in 3 years. Separating is just making it official. Maybe he realizes this too. Divorce is never a one sided thing. It might be more one person that the other, but it's never totally one partner's fault.

The trial would be a good thing. It might clear both your heads.

You are so right. Often afraid to reply
becuase don't want to offend anyone. I really didn't think you were being mean, just want to make sure. BTW, my kids and my furkids are genuises! LOL!
Sounds like you are afraid of something!
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I am afraid it would just infuriate him (sm)
I am so sorry about your friend :(

Over the years I have learned ways to calm him down some, by making him feel more in control of everything that goes on. If I get a restraining order right now, to him that is going to be the first shot fired and who knows what he would do after that. But I know there would be repercussions for me for doing that, for sure.
Afraid is not really the word....
I'm not sure what is but I am in such a midst of unknown and my age is CONSTANTLY on my mind, but only because I feel like I should have done so much more by now. I am not old by any means, (turn 28 next month) but I am heartbroken about it. Only because I just started doing the single thing, going out, having fun... I moved across the country last month... My mom always wants me to come back and settle down, get a "real" job because MT is not going to be around forever...

I just feel like I wish I did all this stuff when i was in my early 20s, not my late 20s.

When I was younger (just a few years ago) I really wanted a family and a house and a husband... now I dont care for those things. I still want them some day, but I don't feel the need like I once did. I just feel like my time is running out in the next few years but there is no end in sight to how i feel now (so much freedom!)

What I am truly afraid of is this: My biological clock not ticking ever again...
Nope, afraid not. nm
nm
Afraid of the vaccine
I'm just afraid of the vaccine, especially if they rush it! I'm pretty sure the 1972 flu was the Hong Kong one. I had that.


Huh?!!? I'm afraid "macho-man" here
Can't think what's macho about this joke - if anything it's quite the opposite.
They were probably afraid of the crazy woman!
LOL
My cat is afraid of aluminum foil --
but doesn't mind vacuum cleaners, hair dryers, or leaf-blowers!

>^..^<



You are right - not indicative of all but he is afraid to tell his parents (sm)
So that tells me it is not a safe or good situation.
Should add, these neighbors are not nice at all! I am afraid of what sm
they will do to me and my family if I tell them what I did. I'm just being completely honest with you.
I'm afraid you're being played...
Please put a stop to this now and don't let him take advantage of your kindness any longer. I agree with the other posters, seen this many, many times on those judge shows...good luck to you.
I am not upset that you are afraid of pits...sm
I could understand that. Totally understandable based on media hype these dogs get. But to make the comment that they should be illegal is uncalled for. My dog is not vicious and you have no right to make a comment about a breed of dog chances are you know nothing about except what you hear. You might have well have said my child should be illegal. I love my dogs very much.
People who are so rabidly against it ARE afraid of it -
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That's what I was afraid of. I haven't heard of anything either. sm
Unfortunately, I decided not to call the parent as I kept thinking about our earlier conversation when I called her about her child slapping my son. She had every excuse in the book why she could not come get her child. I was insistent this child was going home because of her behavior and ended up giving in and saying she could stay based on all the excuses her mom gave me. If I was called and told my child had slapped someone at a vistor's house or anywhere for that matter, it wouldn't take me more than 5 minutes to get there and get my child. I'll just have to chalk this up to like mother, like child.
Too afraid of meat in restaurants now sm
Their meat may be old (sorry). If we do go, will only go to very busy place as even some bought at market are questionable. We have gift certificates which we appreciate as they are from busy places. Sometimes we have a "UFO" party. Unidentified freezer objects - if they're too old we throw them out. Buying light these days.Takes common sense, hopefully things will turn around in ཅ but for now I am being extremely careful and not loading up on meat either unless we intend to eat it soon. Perhaps I'm too cautious but things are rough right now for everyone, even the markets, restaurants, etc. I sure hope the turkeys are okay, even in good times we've gotten "bad ones" - have to open them up and be sure. Martha likes to brine hers in salt water - not a bad idea these days to check them out before it's too late the day of or the day before. Fresh is best - wish we had our own farm as some do.
Same boat, just too afraid to post it.
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I used to be afraid of spiders, but not anymore.

When you fight for space in a home, you get over the fear. If they aren't too "fast", I catch them and put them outside. Not afraid of anything else except heights. Can't even get on a step stool.


I was a tomboy growing up and played with all kinds of insects and bugs except spiders. Even brought home a garter snake, bat, and mouse as a house pets. Can't imagine why my mom was so upset.


I am afraid knowing too much makes you old
Couples don't make things safe. A lot of times the pervert gets the wife to find the girl to lure her into a sense of false security. If you absolutely are going to do this, base it on the one with the penis, not the "nice" lady!
Funny--everyone is afraid of my boxer...
and he wouldn't hurt a fly, but the old lady (13 years old) would not allow anyone in the house and will bite! She knocked over the meter reader once (when he came in the yard alone, after I told his company to schedule, so I could put her away--he thought he could give her a milk bone and she would be okay. Really, she just ate the milk bone and then attacked him) He said he laid in the yard for three hours because she wouldn't let him get up until I got home. She did not bite him, though, which is lucky because that was in California and I am sure they would have put her down.