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I am a recovering alcoholic. Went

Posted By: pc on 2007-12-17
In Reply to: Alcoholism doesn't always "look" like the norm - by

to treatment in 1982.  Believe me when I say no one admits to alcoholism unless they have a problem.  It is a disease of denial, and some deny it all the way to the grave.  The first step in recovery is admitting we are powerless over alcohol.  Not only is the alcoholic sick, but the whole family because a lot of the time, the family enables the alcoholic to keep on drinking by denying it themselves.  Al-Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous can help a lot.  In AA, the alcoholic learns how to live sober and learns what to do to change his life, habits, friends, etc.  Al-Anon teaches the family how to change what they have been doing.  I hope you don't think I am preaching, but I know how it is because I have been there.  I do know that if I ever drink again, I won't live because the disease progresses whether we are drinking or not..


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He has to hit bottom, and only then will he start coming up, if he gets help from AA or something similar....and HE HAS TO WANT TO DO IT.


Alanon can give you some good ideas, and I think the longer you and the children stay and put up with him, you will be coenablers, without even intending to be. When they get backed to the wall they become frightened, swear to never take another drink, but nine times out of 10 they do. They need support, not from you, but from the experts. Your support will come later if he stays clean and sober. Please, the children and you need to leave now, it may be for good, or he might come around and stay dry. Yes, get a lawyer and start proceedings. I wish you all the luck in this world. You're a good mom, don't forget that.


 


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How can I tell him that I want a divorce without feeling responsible for affecting his rehabilitation?  How would you handle it?