I have read everything Fannie Flagg has written
Posted By: trose on 2008-01-31
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Thank you for a well-written response
Of course, there are parts of what you say I agree with and parts I don't. :)
In my case, I had to step in or the state would have taken the child. The dad was a bum...but when I look at how he was raised and the he** he went through, I understand how scared he is of even trying to be a father. I don't excuse it, but I understand it. I understand it all the way to family court where I will be getting a child support order against him next month <G>. Got one on my own daughter, already. My daughter was born with a mental illness and was a teenage mother. It was a time bomb that finally exploded in a world of drug abuse. But to treat the addiction without the mental illness will never result in a productive member of society. So...that being said, holding these 2 parents accountable is futile...other than financially (okay, even I laugh at ever seeing any of that money). They are infrequent visitors in my GC's life. That is simply the way it is.
I look at European countries and see multigenerations living together even still, where the older family members help raise the young children so the parents can support the entire household. That was what I meant about a community raising children. We as Americans don't function in that way overall as a society. We splinter and break apart and when young adults need help, often it means the children go somewhere else (usually aunts, uncles, grands). Sometimes in divorce, one party has more _power/control_ (usually due to finances) and has a greater say in how, who and where the children are raised. I suspect there is some of this dynamic occuring in the OP's life that she felt she couldn't share. (My story is out there...but some are not as open). Some divorced people use children as pawns, and this, too, is as sad as parents who cannot take responsibility for their offspring.
But I do fully support any parent, who for the sake of the children, can try to enrich their young lives and teach them tolerance, patience, forgiveness, acceptance, and learn how to deal appropriately with situations so that they can grow into strong, proud adults. I suppose my point in all this was in my original response. Bad things can be found everywhere...but if we can teach our children how to deal with them in a positive way, we have given them the gift of maturity.
Thank you for your response. I did appreciate reading it and respect what you had to say.
I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.
you can only have one will, the latest one written...
You can have one will from one departed person per beneficiary...
If Anna had 7 wills for Daniel from herself, they have to go by the latest dated one.........
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You will be blasted probably for what you have written
but I take another stance on this because I have been through similar with elderly people (parent was 90 when they died). After their spouse died, they asked me to come and live with them and I absolutely refused. I told them first of all I have bills they would not pay for (could have but wouldn’t have and not their place anyway) but my life would be hel*. So overbearing and almost impossible to be around to visit, just bit my tongue in order to visit. Mine was not senile at all, just so darn irritating, put me down, watched me like a hawk in their home like I was going to steal their bed or something. Does your mother have anyone there to see about her or provide any outside assistance? I tried getting this for my parent (they were so bull-headed, turned everything down) but with the senility of course you know she needs someone if not already. I just tried to provide any and all assistance available for the elderly - Meals on Wheels and other associations to assist with my parent because I would not be there to do it..... although I was only a phone call away and always could be at their home say in a couple of hours if I were needed for a real emergency like you said. By the way, the dentist office completely out of line calling about an appointment? If another place asked and you did not want to give 1, just play like you are having a senior moment, ok? If you have not done so already, check out senior assistance programs. You probable have thought about this anyway, just what I tried to do. Oh, I had the courts set up to take over my parents daily living, etc. because of a person that was taking them for a lot of money- the court case supposed to be the next week and the parent killed in an accident on a lawnmower that weekend before the hearing.
Tired--I could have written that! (sm)
I used to have to go down for a nap during my lunch break and if I wasn't careful, I'd oversleep by at least a good hour. I even tried working a split shift, which only made my fatigue worse because I'd take the 4-hour break in between just to sleep.
My husband is on the verge of needing insulin shots due to his very poorly controlled diabetes. His latest health report scared him enough to make him a willing participant in a strict diet. I am also on this diet to help make things easier. It totally bites the big one but I'll tell ya, WHAT A DIFFERENCE in my energy level--his too! We figure it just had to be the sugars and carbohydrates that were dragging us down.
No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved. We do munch all day though but on teeny portions of good stuff--mostly raw things like fruits, veggies, or bits of egg & lean meats. No more cream or sugar in our coffee, and that's just limited to 1 cup of black a day. No more butter either--my personal favoritest fat.
Been on it almost a month now and I can honestly truly feel a difference. I almost have enough energy to start exercising, which I didn't have before.
I'm 5' 10" and topped off at 230 but am now down to 220 just by this diet alone with no exercise. I'd be happy at 185 but once winter hits...man, I just don't know about that! I haven't been to a doctor in about 2 years either, but I'd recommend you visit one if you can, just to rule out stuff, ya know?
Hope you feel better soon!
I have written 6 screenplays.
I also have many in various stages of completion. I have never even told anyone that I write. My husband doesn't even know. I took a transcription course because he would complain about me being on the computer so much that I thought if I had a good reason to be on the computer, he would leave me alone. I wait until he and the kids go to bed at night and then I type away. He has almost caught me a couple of times by sneaking up on me to see what I am typing. It has caused a few arguments because he thinks I must be chatting with a guy online or something. I would rather have him think that than tell him what I really do. The reason I don't tell him is because I am not ready for him to read my screenplays. I just do it for myself because once I get an idea for a story, I can't think of anything else until I get it written down.
SIS if written in caps
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yes and yes! It is the tone in which it is written.
Condescending, ridiculing, belittling, ironic, sarcastic and implying that a 56-year-old woman (only the woman, not the man !)is 'over the hill' and has to expect to be cheated on with a 22-year-old.
I am not so sure that he is so 'unaware' of the slur. I think this is his general attituce toward women, but he is sugarcoating it to appear oh, so 'cute and likable.' A very biased statement.
""Love Must Be Tough" -- written by (sm)
Dr. James Dobson -- excellent for couples with significant marriage problems -- please read.
Sounds like your husband is seriously involved with "someone else." And, if so, you could never be organized enough or tall/thin enough. His insulting remarks are possibly his outlet to relieve himself of "guilt." Don't give up -- be tough!!
Just another opinion!! May God bless you in your decision-making.
If you have stamps with "Forever" written on them
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Men don't keep everything written in their daytimers the way women do
Men don't keep everything written in their daytimers the way women do. Maybe he is planning a surprise for you this evening, however he could have at least said Happy Anniversary and given you a kiss.
No thanks, the Holy Bible is THE written authority to me!
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I could have written your post. I've wondered too.
 
My last fortune cookie was written in English...sm
on one side and Spanish on the other!
Hello..You could have written my post. The jelaousy bug..Gets the good ones all the time!!! nm
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Written by Francis Church in 1897 in response to 8 yo Virginia's question if Santa was real. You
VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except [what] they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measure by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.
Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! How dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.
Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.
You tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest man that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding. No Santa Claus! Thank GOD! He lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.
If I don't read before I go to sleep I can't fall asleep. I will read sm
until I begin to fall asleep. They say reading relaxes you fully and it works wonders for me.
I used to suffer from insomnia, but not since I've been doing this - about 5 years now.
Plus, I've grown so much and have gained wisdom by doing so. I enjoy Christian books and reading the Bible.
Has anyone read
I read it last week and just wondering if anyone else has. I thought it jumped around a bit but it was interesting to get to know more about her and I enjoyed hearing about Dr. Phil. They seem genuine.
I just read, it's $360................
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read again
You were so quick to respond and try to tell me my daughter WILL have bad behavior that will make her in danger for STDs that you didn't even read, I said he told me the NEXT day. Just because some people have no control doesn't mean we all don't. There are still virgins on their wedding day out there....even though that may be a SHOCK.
I have read and re-read --sm
my posts and I seriously wonder how you ever got that I thought surgery was the only way to go when all I said was that some of these reports were *created* by insurance companies who do not want to pay for ANY care concerning carpal tunnel if it was an over use issue. But whatever...that is not what I meant. All I meant was than insurance companies tend to manipulate reports to THEIR benefit, not the patient's. Surgery or no surgery...that is the individual's choice and not my concern. Sorry you did not UNDERSTAND what I was saying.
you believe everything you read????
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I have read all of them...sm
and there was one person who said many times that they believe he did this because he was taught anti-americanisms while he was in school in korea (kindergarten, first, and second grades) or had been taught it by his korean parents. Hate has no nationality. That's all I am trying to say.
Sorry, should read
do that....
I read this in SOD, but (sm)
I thought they only tape about a week ahead, so I thought since it's been a week, he might show up today. Oh, well, I can wait.
Did not read below but if you have an outside - sm
box on your house, anyone can creep into your yard and plug in a computer and go to town. You can put a lock on it, ours looks like a small gray box attached to the house about 8 x 8 inches or so, open it up and you will see phone jacks, it is how the repairmen check the lines, etc. w/o coming inside. Anyone could just run a long line and sit in a car nearby and do it too, but depending on where you live I think this would be noticed. If it happens consistently still check it out, see if some kid/night owl is hacking in this way by getting up in the hours it happens and see if someone is doing this, if so problem solved (call the police obviously if you see this happening); if this is not the case, then maybe take your phone off the hook at night, I would think then they would not be able to hack into it w/o a dial tone. I hope you get this resolved quickly.
Also read...
that Maine has the highest consumption of Allen's in the 48 contiguous states.
Never heard about Allen's and milk, but I'm from away, too. I learn new things all the time up heyah.
Lobstah, blueberries, pahtatahs and Maine's champagne: Allen's. Gives new meaning to "The Way Life Should Be"!
Can you read
any words like Budweiser or beer? There is certainly nothing wrong with the draft horses working with a cart, and your kids really aren't going to think "beer" when the look at it. If people are going to be over and might think about it, or if it bothers your husband, maybe there is a wood filling product that could fill in any words that refer to beer or pictures of beer bottles, etc. Maybe you could then use stain or a rosemaling (painting technique) design over it, or whatever would complement the style. It sounds really cute to me.
EVERYONE PLEASE READ - SM
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Goldbird
Is it something you would read again?
I was just thinking that I could just go to the library, but sometimes I like to read books over again - after waiting a sufficient amount of time so that I forget all the details! Is the series something you would go back and read again?
Yes, I will probably read them again
Loved the books better than the movies, but the movies were okay.
OK, read it again and again, still don't get it...
Must be me...oh well!
I read that to mean
there should be no drinking age like in Europe. Not that there should be no drinking. My two high school kids went on a school trip to Italy and Greece in April. They said the only teenagers getting obnoxiously drunk were the Americans and the Canadians teens were drinking but not to excess. Also all the Canadian kids smoked cigarettes too.
I just read about that!
All sorts of elements when combined or heated will cause noxious fumes and those symptoms. Even some welders have to wear respirators and breath canned oxygen when working with some metals. Can't wait to hear more about it though!
Er, um, that should have read....
"Having your own teeth SHOULDN'T have to be considered a luxury." I'm sure you knew what I meant though. Frosts my tuckas it does.
from what I have read this is an
"emotional affair". You are better off letting it go and finding a friend that can talk to you without it being a secret.
Would you read....
your spouses/SO diary? Or do you consider that an invasion of privacy?
What if you suspected your spouse/SO was involved in something (drugs, cheating, theft). Would it make it ok then?
Read into it what you want
To your email- I was not suggesting anything- was telling like I said. End of story.
I have them too - read something
cannot remember now - big help, I know. Look on the internet.
Before looking at a used car read this...sm
Look at Consumer Reports April issue - it should be available at your local library for free. They have information on cars as to their reliability and value for the past several years, as well as recommended vehicles for various price ranges. Be sure to have an independent mechanic check out the vehicle thoroughly before making a purchase. Pay $10 for the CarFax report to make sure the vehicle hasn't been previously totaled.
Good luck!
Please read this
You need assistance and support.
He is young and does not understand why you are right there but not able to spend time with him. Quality time.
Put him in a mother's day out or a daycare program so you can concentrate on the homeschooling for your others.
Then, when you pick that 3-year-old up, make the next 30 min to an hour quality time for the 2 of you together.
You're pulling a lot of weight here with homeschooling then working at night at home. He probably feels neglected.
If I were you, I would reconsider the homeschooling, put those boys in public or private school, put the 3-year-old in a daycare, work during the day and have a normal, peaceful, quality night with my family.
The kids will grow up but work will always be there.
Do not continue spanking him -- I'm not an anti-spanking person -- but he does not understand and you are hurting him with no outcome other than simple pain and humiliation.
Yes - please do read that! (nm)
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Please read
Last week a little girl in my community was having a snowball fight with her friend. Her mom was clearing the snow from the driveway. The little girl slipped and fell and her jacket got caught in the auger of the snowblower. She was without oxygen for at least 11 minutes (that was response time for emergency workers to make it to her house). We don't know how long she was trapped before someone called 911, mom was hysterical (obviously) and kept screeming she was dead, she did not at that time try to get the jacket off of her. The little girl has so far made it but she is still on life support.
I am asking for you all to do 2 things:
1. Keep this little girl and her family in your thoughts and if you are spiritual then please keep her in your prayers and let's hope for a miracle.
2. I am asking that you please don't allow your children to be anywhere near you or anyone when you are snowblowing. Things just happen too quickly.
I know my kids are always playing outside when we clear the driveway and we "shoot" snow at them from the snowblower but that will not happen again. This poor mother has to live with what happened for the rest of her life and I can't even imagine the guilt and pain she must feel but she has to keep going because she has 3 other children at home.
I'm sorry to be a downer on Christmas Eve but if a miracle is going to happen it will be today.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays to all.
Before you do anything - please read
A few years ago, my husband went absolutely crazy with credit cards. I have always been very frugal and careful with money so it was pretty devastating to me. Especially since he kept it a secret until it was way out of control.
You can try the same thing I did to get us out of this mess he created.
Hopefully you have made some effort at payments or at least have kept in touch with your creditors. If not, it might be a little tougher but you can try.
Call the card companies and ask to speak to an account supervisor. Don't speak to someone answer the phones. Trust me. You need to speak with someone who isn't going to waste your time. Explain the situation and how you are trying to fix it now that you have steady employment.
Call the one with the highest balance first. Ask if it is possible for them to lower your APR and consider giving you a much lower FIXED rate for at least up to 1 year if not for the life of the balance if you also include a balance transfer from another account to this one. If they say no. Big Deal. That's all they can do and, you can call back in a week or so and do it again, maybe not get the same person.
Make sure when you call that you write down the date, time, who you speak to, and make notes of every conversation. Keep these separate for each card.
If you are granted the request of extended credit for balance transfer and lowered fixed interest, make sure you request a letter stating these changes. Write that down too and make sure you get that letter. If you don't get it.. call them back and go back to your notes from the original call so you have all the details and GET THAT LETTER!
Remember, you do not want to max out any of the cards. If you can do the above with at least two cards and get everything down to 2 cards or less, you will be doing okay and you will see the debt going away a lot faster.
If you can swing it, make DOUBLE payments on at least one of the cards every month. I know it sounds painful but, believe me, I did it even when things have been extremely lean around here and I am so glad that I did. When you get one of those cards paid off, you aren't done yet. Put the entire payment you were applying to that card to the next card. Every time you pay something off, you move that payment plus the minimum to the next one and the next one until you are all paid off.
When you get one card paid off, make sure you call the company after the first statement you get that says ZERO balance and cancel that card immediately.
Remember I said my husband's credit card debt was around $28,000.00 - That was just a little over two years ago. I have one card left and the balance on it is $7000.00. The minimum payment on this card is $143.00 per month and I have taken all of the previous payments from the cards I have already paid off and am now applying those to this card too, totalling about $600.00 per month so I will have this one paid off in about a year too.
You can do it. Don't take no for an answer. Just be patient, wait a week or so, and call again until you get what you want. They WANT our money and they want our business. They WILL give in eventually.
I also found that a little hard bargaining sometimes worked. If someone told me they could not grant my request for a lowered fixed interest. I would tell them that I am prepared to do a balance transfer today and close this account unless they could give me a better deal. That usually worked the first call.
Good luck.
Just now getting to read this
I actucally did make the spinach dip LOL!. About 4 minutes before the game was over my mom decided we should clean up the kitchen. I am a giants fan and didn't get to see any of the excitement. Oh well, at least my team won and my DH chile won.
I also read that (sm)
I also read that they are tunnelers, diggers. I think I'm just telling my sis to give to other girl - by all accounts, she would be a responsible pet owner. I'd like a mid-size dog for the backyard - what kind of dog would be hearty enough to withstand that environment. I just cannot have an inside dog, period. I have a garage that the dog will go into if it is too hot, too cold, rainy, etc., but majority of time would have to be outside in backyard. Thanks in advance.
That's a lie, too. Do you believe everything you read?
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Sometimes they want you to read it!
I don't think you did anything wrong. We need to use all means at our disposal to know what's going on in their lives.
During my oldest daughter's senior year, she was having a hard time, but I was not aware of the half of it. She was an honor student, on the debate team, always very responsible. She started getting very irritable and would fly off the handle at everything, but I chalked it up to typical teenage behavior. One weekend she went away for the night and I went into her room to get something and saw her diary right smack in the middle of her desk in plain sight. I read it. I found out she was using alcohol and was depressed to the point of being suicidal. I confronted her about this when she got home and she admitted it was true and willingly accepted getting help with a counselor. She never asked me how I knew. I'm convinced to this day she left the diary there for me to read. She wanted me to know and didn't know how to tell me. We got her some help and now she's off at college, doing much better. Parents, sometimes they WANT you to read it!
read
The Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Sun are the best I have ever ever read. You have to stick with them though. Terrific read.
Have you read....sm
the book about Lord John Gray? I never thought he was that interesting a character to warrant his own book.
So #7 might not be the last? That would be wonderful! I remember I started reading one by the fountain outside the bookstore before I even got it home and another one in the car on the way home from the mall and DH said, Well, guess I won't be seeing you for awhile.
Yes, I read it, but
I found it very odd and not believable. It sort of disturbed me that
(SPOILER WARNING)
see below only if prepared for a spoiler
the image of Father God was depicted as a woman (after the shack was reached near the end). It seemed too "mother earth," which is a pagan god, for me. I just couldn't shake that idea.
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