I hear ya! I need something to look forward to.
Posted By: Mary on 2009-06-01
In Reply to: Either go with me or I'll go by myself - Wanting a vacation, now!
I like to take day trips, Shipshewana, Metamorra, community events where people sell things on the street. Not my husband, that's the last place he wants to be. I've done these things with my sister and my kids in the past. After not going to any of those types of places the last five years, no one wants to go with me next week. So, I'm going by myself.
Just Saturday, I told my husband I was going next week. He asked if the girls were going (they are 16 and 14) and I said nope, I'm going by myself. Kind of scary, but by golly I'm going to do it. I now have something to look forward to!
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I would call the nephew and tell them that I had not extended the invitation to he nor his friends, that I am hosting others this year. I would suggest to him that he learn to be a more pleasant guest and tell him (politely and calmly) why.
If he showed up, I would not answer the door.
I would also follow up with my invited guests as an "RSVP" inquiry to make sure you are set for those individuals plus your own immediately family only. I would make it clear you are only expecting those individuals. If they call and ask about the nephew coming, I would state that he had been invited last year and maybe next year you can accommodate he and his buddies but not this year - and he has been made aware of this when he tried to invite himself.
I would not be the slightly bit cool or hateful in my tone but just be very nice and simply state the facts.
Before anyone jumps down my throat, I've raised my boys - I know how a couple of their friends behaved at my home. I did the same with those 2 boys and 1 of them settled down and actually became a great guest. The other, well let's just say he was not interested in being someone we would want around here.
As the host, I believe you have the right to have those you invite, are prepared for, and to have your guests respect the host. It sounds like the nephew and buddies need to learn a little lesson and I would initiate the lesson as above. Whether it is absorbed or finished is up to them.
Good luck!
Oh please, is there a way I can forward this? nm
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Believe it or not, looking forward to being 66!
Ladies, this age comes before you know it. Seems like yesterday I was in high school and now time to draw my retirement- not stopping work- just drawing the money I have put in. I am such a happy girl- I have really worked over the years- the first year showing was when I was a senior in high school. I have worked many, many jobs, at least 2 at 1 time and it now is paying off. Lacking $76.00, I will get home with $2,000 a month - aint that grand! My daughter is returning to college for 2 more courses she needs to take for her job and I can fund that and would love to take my husband on an Alaskian cruise but he is a stay-at-home and would rather spend his vacations around the house. I will think of some place he should love, perhaps tell him about the good food in Italy and get him there! Time just flies when you're having fun....
Thanks for those words, yes, I am looking forward - sm
to some road trips next Spring and Summer; and maybe this Fall as well. This one sounds just like what you had; same set up inside, beds pull out, bed over the table, whole thing cranks up with a turn handle on the outside. It does have a stove, sink/water; with the hook up outside. Very basic but what else do you really need. Probably cook outside most of the time anyways (have a portable coleman grill too) and I have camp training from Brownies too as a co-leader so open fire cooking is not a problem. We have laptops for movies if necessary to have the kids chill with while we chill outside maybe; and for comfort will put in AC/heat eventually, but we would never use it it the heat of the summer probably, more Spring and Fall so we can do w/o the AC. My DH is so excited about this, as I said he has been really wanting to do this for years. He never got to do anything with his parents (they never went on any summer vacations) so he is like a kid all over when he gets to do things he never did before. I am hoping now that we did get this maybe to do a road trip next summer for at least a week, maybe the Smoky mountains down in TN(after we have AC), or head to NY or maybe Maine, go places we have never been and do whatever. It is getting poured on right now so I will find out tomorrow when I pick it up if it has any leaks at least!
Pay it Forward - let's revive it!
With the economy as it is, I was thinking it would be really great to revive the "Pay It Forward Idea" or the "Random Acts of Kindness" idea. If we could all commit to do something nice for someone we wouldn't have done otherwise with in the next week, and ask them to "Pay It Forward" think of how many people would be affected? It doesn't have to be anything involving money, it can be anything that helps the person in some way or brightens their day. Please say yes!?
thanks to both of you! i look forward to getting to know him more and will try to posts occasionall
just had to earn more income this week as it is last paycheck before christmas and i have done absolutely NO shopping. guess i'll be the fool in the crowd on christmas eve. just had to share a funny though as i was explaining diff between acute care/clinics i mentioned macros in the breezing. i am now in the process of helping his office MT girls and docs set up some macros for the docs, LOL. they are inhouse, 2 MTs for 6 FM MDs. i'll make sure to invite everyone on MTstars to the wedding!!!! haha, have a hard work day!!
anybody looking forward to todays Dr. Phil???
cant wait, mine comes on in 1 hour...central time..
Several have come forward to plaster their face on TV
and apparently he inappropriately touched some of them so yes he is on the wanted list. You would think by the time women get to be, oh say 17 or 18, that they would have the sense to know when something really wrong as in this case. One lady shown long enough in the tooth to know much better!!
Do you still love him??!!! Looking forward to life w/o him
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Thank goodness for fast forward on DVR! - sm
One word - LAME!!
Agreed! Hear, hear...amen, sister!
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POLL:What show are you looking forward to this fall?
I just Netflixed the first season of Friday Night Lights and I am HOOKED! What a wonderful show. I can't wait for that to start.
Also, looking forward to Gray's Anatomy, but hoping for a much lighter season this fall. Last year was such a drag after the first two.
Wow, apparently you have not heard of paying it forward. nm
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Thanks for the happy thoughts, but I'm really looking forward to Jan. 2nd and back to normalcy. n
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Flash forward: If the bullied child goes postal some day,
Getting the stick sounds pretty straight forward to me
You could talk to someone at the school, tell them what you know, what you plan on doing, and see what kind of support becuase they may suspect problems but don't have facts.
I admit sometimes it seems easier just to look the other way, but what if there was someone that could have helped Caylee Anthony and "looked the other way". Follow your instincts.
If your suspicious prove unfounded you are out nothing but a "friend". He doesn't seem like someone I would want to be friends with and if his child acts the way you say, I wouldn't encourage a friendship between the boys.
C'mon, It's a mail forward, I didn't write it myself.
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I never forward things based on threats or promises of luck. (sm)
I forward things that I like the message on sometimes but not because I am told to forward it.
Do You Hear What I Hear and Little Drummer Boy
I love the holiday!
Hear, hear! I'm with you too, same boat. -nm
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Did not hear about the porn but did hear
there might be a conflict about her babies going home with her when they were able to be dismissed. You can hardly blame anyone for questioning how she will take care of them. From what I have seen, she hardly seems stable enough to do that.
I hear ya........
nm
Look - I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but
I speak from experience - and many advice experts will say the same thing - if a man is interested in you, he will ask YOU out. Just like if you go out with a man and at the end of the night you ask him to come into your home, and he doesn't - then he's not that into it. It doesn't matter what he has going on in his life, men make time for women they are interested in! They are never that busy that they cannot call you - that's just a lie. They make the time to talk for one minute because THEY ARE INTO YOU!! If you have to ask a man out, think about it - what was wrong with him?? WHy couldn't he approach you? He knows how to open his mouth and say "hey, I don't know if you're single or seeing someone, but I was wondering if you .... "
Don't ask him out. Let him pursue you. It's old fashioned, but hey, it still holds true.
I am so sorry to hear that. It does cause
actual physical pain to lose a special pet. I have wished I could cut my heart out to end it, or be PTS alongside my poor dog. What a shock to lose such a young cat. I am sorry.
sorry to hear that, don't know what to say...sm
Sorry to hear this happened to you, don't know what to say, but this has never happened to me, and both my CPA and the other person, a corporate estate tax person, say that I'm legal and nobody has come after me or notified me that I am in the wrong....
I hear what you are saying
Personally, the wrinkles start showing in my face if I am too thin. I need a little weight on my to look good...unfortunately, it is all on my hips and glutes...LOL
You are what you eat, so I hear
and if a person wants to be a supersized so be it. Got off Cokes on my own after marrying my hubby, used to drink loads of those and I never feel like I am not living by the way I eat because I also love sweets and if I want I have them. I just don't care for any of my foods supersized, be it a drink or a hamburger, just too much to consume for me and the amount of calories you get plus the fact of it just not being that healthy for you. I would put my delicious food up against any fast (fat) food place any ole day. I just like taste with my food.
So sorry to hear that....
Our cat is getting older now, and I hope she lives forever, but.... I'm so sorry for your loss! It is truly a loss to lose a much-loved pet! Take care... my thoughts are with you today....
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.
But with her compression fractures, and probably the COPD also, there was no way the MDs could have coded her. Her bones (and probably lungs) wouldn't take it. At least that's what they told my grandfather about my grandmother when she had leukemia. He found out the doctors made her DNR without talking to him, and he found out after she passed away.
Now hear this.....
Just called the courts and on my way there now to swear out warrant for arrest of the person writing the bad check. Talk with you later.
I hear ya
This situation sounds a little iffy to me, too. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck....
Sorry to hear this
about your new tile floors honey bear. That is too bad. It is very frustrating!
I want to hear...
.. the end of this story.. The AUDACITY is appalling...
I hear ya
I feel the same way - I'm not really close to anybody outside of my husband/children/parents (which is my choice) and this was kind of a big step for me to hang out with an old friend which is why it is so disappointing. I have huge trust issues with friends and this is just another instance where I kinda feel like I'm getting shafted.
I also don't feel comfortable taking my children around a new boyfriend (they have known each other a couple of weeks) who I don't know anything about.
Thank you for replying and I'm very sure you are not repulsive! Like you said, a lot of people are just so selfish nowadays and those of us who actually consider others feelings before doing things are the ones who get hurt.
Sorry to hear that
hope you are able to work things out.
I am curious to know the name of the restaurant that you wanted to visit.
I hear you!
I seem to have more and more of those days as I grow older lately. Good thing the caffeine doesn't affect my sleep, though.
If I hear same one over and over, that will do
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I'm sorry to hear about your FIL.
Maybe this article will be helpful.
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/534592
Sorry to hear about Arf . . .
I've visited your web site before (very cool site, BTW!) and all of your animals look so happy there. Arf is a beautiful cat, and it's good to know he's got a mom like you to love him, especially right now. Hope this transition is smooth and painless for both of you. 
Sorry to hear about your cat
You are right about them wanting to go away and die, though. My cat, who was mostly and indoor cat, would go outside for years and never step foot near the road. Always stayed in the yard and "hunted". Once she got sick, she started acting strange and one day, meowed at the door to go out and went straight into the road and got hit by a car. It was almost like she wanted it to end quickly...
It's hard to lose a pet - hugs to you!
I hear you
I, too, have an evidence picture! Mine is concrete steps, 5, tiny porch, my son sitting on the absolute very edge of the porch! This was my older son, the favorite. She never did like my younger son (he was a boy, you know, not the girl she wanted). To this day, he refers to her as the Evil __itch - she has been dead for 13 years. Needless to say, evil people are not missed.
I hear ya!
I wonder how I functioned without my medication...I would not remember anything that I had typed. Now if I have a dictator who redictates a note and it is basically the same...I am able to recognize it whereas before I would have just typed it and not known the difference. The med wears off by late afternoon and I am pretty well ready for bed but have ruminating thoughts swirling about and I take a medication to help me sleep.
sorry to hear that he won't
compromise.. I am glad to hear he at least respects your daughter's wishes and not smoke around the grandkids... It is awesome that she stands her ground and won't bring them if he does...I wish he could see that you cannot tolerate it and that is enough motivation for me at least not to harm my spouse...Dunno...Good luck with the air purifier...Maybe get one for every room...RUN THEM ON HIGH!
The more I hear about those, the more I want one.
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Hi, I am sorry to hear you are going through this!
as soon as I finish typing this. I have a 4 and a 5 year old. I have gotten to the place where if they start screaming and crying, I tell them that they can do that all they want in their room, but I don't want to hear it. So, they get sent to their room, and as soon as they are ready to stop, they can come out. Don't give in. Consistency is the biggest factor. I can't believe you said you spanked him, you are going to get mega flamed now. So, let's not broach that subject. :) Do not reward him for bad behavior. Do not lose your patience. I have found when I am nice and respond positively, they in return respond better too. I don't feel like going the extra mile sometimes and I usually don't, but I am continually amazed every time I do, why don't I do it this way all the time? Don't threaten him with things that aren't going to happen. (im taking all your christmas presents back!) That is childish and you don't need that on top of what you have already. It is frustrating and difficult, I know. I certainly don't have all the answers, but I can empathize. Talk to him like a big boy. I thought you were going to be a really good big boy today....I was hoping we could go out for lunch to McDonalds, but I can't take you there if you are going to act like this! Delayed rewards, works wonders! Good luck!
so sorry to hear about this
I am not that far away from Marshall, in Kentucky. . I had not heard this story yet. . Will be praying for a good outcome.
Okay.. I hear what your saying...
We definitely do it in a loving, teasing, and funny manner..Rarely, when we joke around like that and grope does it lead to anything or intended that way..When we're really serious about that..the groping is definitely more affectionate and meaningful. What your describing borders on rude and disrepectful and I'm so sorry. It's nice being crazy in love (like we are)..and then there is just plain crazy.. WOW..Again, I apologize if I sounded like I made light of your situation. I do realize there are extremes. We have a healthy balance of playfulness and know when to be serious. EVEN I would be turned off by that behavior and it takes a A LOT to turn me off PERIOD.. but that would do it.
I'm sorry to hear - s/m
My parents separated several years. Although the details aren't quite the same, the end result was. My dad hit my mom. It wasn't the first time, but that isn't my point here.
My point is this: My mom has been miserable ever since she took him back. She constantly brings up the circumstances surrounding it and never lets him forget that she took him back. She has now let the anger take over her and consume her to the point that I can't remember the last time she was just content. She's not the mom I used to know and I'm not sure how to handle it anymore, but my advice to you is if you can't forgive, get out. Get out before you spend the rest of your life trying to make his life miserable as a punishment for what he did. It will eat you up inside and you'll end up alienating the people around you. Life's too short to spend it in misery. I feel for you.
I'm so sorry to hear about that
Ours is an only cat. Our other cat passed away a year ago this past March. I'm not sure what his problem is, but I may take him to the vets to be sure he doesn't have a UTI.
You should hear . . .
  You should hear how my one doctor says Protonix. Took me awhile to figure him out -- Gosh you would think a doctor would know how to correctly dictate a drug!
I'm so sad to hear this......sm
I absolutely LOVE that show. I can still hear her saying "Picture it...Sicily...1932....." and Dorothy rolling her eyes.
Ms. Getty was a tremendous talent and will be missed, but she will live on as long as the Golden Girls is aired.
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