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I was a teacher's and parent's dream

Posted By: straight A's on 2009-06-25
In Reply to: So What Did You do in H.S.? - ??

I was the sort of kid who'd ruin the curve for everyone else. I studied all the time, had straight A's, was the Editor of the school paper and the yearbook, worked in the school office, and graduated at the top of my class. About the most outlandish thing I did was get a part-time job at Burger King. eek!


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With you it's ok, you are a parent, a friend, whatever, but a teacher?...nm
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Recurring bathroom dream & ex dream

I have a recurring dream about having to go in a public bathroom and not only can everybody see me, but I am barefoot, wearing bell-bottoms and the floor is always wet. Yuck!


I also have recurring dreams about being back with my abusive ex and trying to get me and the kids away from him. We have been divorced 22 years, but I have these dreams frequently!


I have had the same dream

about teeth falling out.  It is said that underlyling stress/anxiety can cause this, and also fears about personal appearance (think I remember something about money too).  It's interesting to read about possible meanings of dreams.


Of course, "they" say too that sometimes it just means it's probably time for a visit to the dentist, so who knows (in my case I needed to go to the dentist, but I definitely had underlying stess issues as well. 


Your living your dream like never before?
?? That doesn't make sense.
My dream house ....
would have more than 1 bathroom and more than 2 closets.  We live in the old farmhouse my DH grew up in.  It has 4 bedrooms, which is great, but only 2 closets and 1 bathroom for 5 people.  So my dream house would have at least 2 bathrooms and I would love a huge walk-in closet like I had when I was a kid.  It would also have a library with lots of shelves for my books and a big stone fireplace with great furniture to curl up in and read.  And if this wonderful house could be situated by the beach, I would be in heaven.
Dream Home

We just recently built a new home, not total custom build but we got to choose from about 15 different designs, and we chose the flooring, paint colors, fixtures (standard or upgrade), exterior color, brick, etc. The only thing I would change is the two smaller bedrooms (besides the master) could be a little bit larger.


BUT...the landscaping would be what made my dream home complete. I would love to have a nice-sized deck with one of those retractable awnings, with a nice big grill and comfortable seating. I would also love to have about an acre of land with some fairly mature trees where I could design wandering paths that would be highlighted by flowering shrubs, fountains, birdhouses, statues....


It was a dream/fantasy. sm
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed.  I guess it was her way of getting some closure.  I hope that clears it up for you. 
dream trip

Been trying to get my mom to go with me to Ireland....she lost her DH last year....I'll keep trying!  


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQDPenBUC68


Never dream of being w/o the kids just - sm
the DH.......he is out of town this week, very nice and quiet here, no drama with the kids at night (usually there is something a few times a week, or him picking a fight with me). Though I would not say no to an evening or weekend all by myself, I probably would not know what to do (unless I had work, which I usually do). As for being bored and lonely, no I doubt it. I lived by myself for about 6 months while I was at school, loved every minute of it. I have plenty of interests so I'd find lots to do!
a girl can dream.. ;)
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I once had a dream that my dog got killed - sm
and a week later to the day, she did. And it happened exactly like in my dream.
67 Firebird is my dream car sm
Very similar to the Camaro. My dad had a 67 Firebird when I was younger and sold it when I was about 13 so my brother and I wouldn't be able to fight over it when we could drive. It got wrecked about 2 years later
dream interpretation

but does anybody study dreams?  I had a very vivid dream last night.  I was riding in a car, a passenger in the back, and all of a sudden my oldest's father appeared beside me.  He handed me a colorful bill with our current president's picture on the front with a $2 demonination on the front but he made sure I turned it over to see that it was worth $100.  We stopped on a loney stretch of road and I asked him if he would like to come with me and he said no, i can't but we hugged and i told him i loved him and goodbye. 


What's so weird is that I haven't seen him in 10 years.  Our son is a product of a fling with no love involved and he has never met his child, though he has paid court orded child support whenever he feels like it.  We didn't part on the best of terms, just more or less a straightforward admission that he didn't want anything to do with the child. I have honestly given him little thought in the 10 years since i left, much less dreamed about him.  It's just strange how things pop up in your dreams.


I just wondered if anybody could lend any insight into this, I can't get it out of my head!


No, but if it is legit, it always sounded like my dream job!
 Paid to shop? I'm there!
I'm from the good ole' south. Would never dream of doing that! sm
But, on the other hand, I'm not against a woman's choice to do so either..Although my in-laws would definitely have a tad bit to say bout that one!
We're also going to see Dream Girls...sm
I got the Publix 1/2 off deal for the Wednesday night show so we could afford the orchestra level seats.

We go to local playhouses, i.e. Theatre on the Square in Marietta, Kudzu Theatre (Roswell) Alliance Theatre, Theatre on Main (Acworth) and used to like Big Top Theatre but they've just shut down and the head guy moved to Florida after the events that shut down the new Cobb Performing Arts Center in Kennesaw. I still can't believe that happened after they spent $35 million to build it and it was only open a few months but that zoning stuff got them into trouble.

Anyway, we watch for shows and get tickets for the ones we know we'll enjoy. Our teenager babysits the youngest child for the shows that aren't acceptable for a 7-year-old to see.
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
Dream Home Ideas....
Think of your dream home, and tell me something about it. Something that makes it different or special. Like how one room is made entirely out of fish tanks, or the whole 5th floor is a skating rink. Things like that.. be creative!

Dream Home Ideas
An indoor basketball court!! We have the room to create one on the outside because we have three acres (perhaps next spring), but indoors would take care of being able to do this year-round. We live in the country with a good-sized home, but double "his and hers" vanity sinks, instead of one, would also be nice.
LOL - I used to dream of Kramer when I was pregnant LOL (nm)
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I dream he and George are chasing me. Being them,
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no but I always dream about a snake biting
different situations but the snake ALWAYS at least breaks the skin, no matter how much I try to protect him. :(
Well, I guess I'm 75% of a young man's dream! n/m
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Mazel tov! Hoping it really is a dream come true for you! :)
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Grilled - I Dream of Jeanie or Bewitched. nm
Hi!
A mother's dream! My children are young so (sm)
right now they say sweet things, well at least my 8 year old does...lol. I only dream that when they are your daughter's age they will think that highly of me :-) Congratulations!
No! Not if you are not their parent! (sm)
I think that it is better for the parents to tell the children from the very beginning that they were "chosen" and tell them how much they were wanted and how much they are loved. Since they didn't do that, it certainly is no one else's place to do so! If someone slips and the kids go and ask the parents, that's one thing, but for someone else to sit them down and tell them behind the parents' back would be really, really traumatic for them and very wrong!! Please don't do it!!
i am not even a parent, but
i have been blown away by the violent video games, trashy clothes and rude behavior of children and the parents who allow this.  kudos to you!  what you are doing is wonderful.  keep it up. 
I am a parent and it seems to me...
that if there are no consequences for her actions, she will more likely do whatever she wants in the future, not think about it and do the right thing. In the real world, she will have to do what superiors tell her to do, or there will be consequences. I think that it is a parent's responsibility to prepare children for that. Of course, I assume that this is an active parent who already speaks to her child and knows what is going on. I believe in obtrusive parenting.
And it should be...why should one parent
bear the brunt of all expenses. It is not too much to ask for the other parent to chip in.
Did you ever think maybe NEITHER parent

Nobody is guaranteed that their parent HAS to pay for their college.  It is an option, not a requirement by law.  However, if the child got a job and is putting themselves through school, and NEITHER parent is contributing, in Indiana, even if the child is away at school but uses the custodial parent's address as the place they go when school is on break, non-custodial is still forced to pay child support to custodial.


IMO custodial parent should lose that title AND child support when child reaches legal adult age of 18.  Then if child support MUST be continued by law merely because child is a student, it should be paid directly to the 18+ year old adult!!!!


Your doctor says this, but you are the parent
and you are going on the theory that she will not become sexually active nor show up with sexually transmitted diseases up to the age of 17. That is your responsibility, not the physicians to choose or not. There are a lot of girls sexually active way before 17 What makes you think your daughter is different?
I think depends a lot on the parent.
My mom does nothing but preach about how horrible girls are and how she wishes that she had only boys. (I am her only daughter, so imagine how that makes me feel.) Let's compare my teen years with my brother's. Me: Straight A student, preferred books to running with friends, worked from age 14, saved my money, bought my own clothes, received scholarships and paid my way through college. Brother: Drugs, parties, bad grades, skipped school, finally quit and joined army and cursed mom out as he left home. Beyond the teen years, I've been married 23 years to a wonderful man, have three great kids (boys). Brother has three ex-wives and who knows how many children. Oh! And the cherry on this sundae... when I was 16, my brother tried to kill me. Beat me nearly half to death, choked me and police came to take him away. Still, in mom's eyes, he can do no wrong and girls are all evil.
OK. Just a little vent. We all need one now and then.
Noncustodial Parent
Children pay dearly when adults act like this. They need their mom, dad, grandparents, and family members in their lives on a REGULAR basis. Withholding visitation for any reason will come back to haunt the custodial parent one day ... and their children will pay the price.
As a parent of an adopted
child, I would definitely say the answer is 'no" and it is for this very reason that my husband and I have from the beginning talked to our son about the fact that he is  special because he is adopted - we wanted to be the ones to tell him the truth rather than him hear it from someone else.  This is definitely something that the parents should do and should do so when they feel comfortable talking about it with their children...My son is 6 and he knows he is adopted.  He understands that he came from someone elses belly (he's my heart baby as we have told him.  We answer his questions when he asks them and tell him just want he asked for - divulging nothing else to confuse him - take for instance at 4 is when he noticed my SIL's pregnant belly and knew the baby was there - he at that point put 2-n-2 together and realized something was up - which prompted us to talk about him being from someone else's belly.  Then a few months ago he asked about this other person - why she didn't keep him, what was her name....(yes we were very surprised as our social worker said little boys are usually much older before they really inquire!)...but we answered his questions reinforcing the positives of being adopted because he had brought us so much happiness and that this other woman did love him enough to know she couldn't raise him and loved him enough to give him to us -making us a family! Sorry for rambling....adoption issues usually get me on a soap box sometimes!! Either way the answer to your question is definitely not your place to tell - leave it up to the parents.
Need some advice whether you are a parent or not

Sorry that this is a bit long....One of the doctors I work for is also my step-uncle.  He is my step-mother's (been married to my dad for 29 years) brother.  He is an ENT doctor and goes to Africa a couple of times a year to do cleft lip and palate surgeries.  Each trip is 2 weeks long and has been put together by my uncle and a couple of other christian doctors to also bring the message of christ to the patients and their families.  Well, my uncle just called me to tell me they are working on the trip for July of next year and would like to add my son to the team.  He will be 17 by then and getting ready to start his senior year in high school.  I have often talked about my son on this board and always said he was very responsible for his age.  My son, my DH and my uncle have discussed this in the past and my son really wants to do this.  He is defintely planning on going into medicine and is a strong christian.  I know this is a chance of a lifetime but I can't help but worry if letting him go is the right thing to do.  Normally if anyone under 18 goes they have to have a parent with them but my uncle will be his legal guardian for the trip since they can only take a limited number of people. 


Here is one of the reasons I am having such a hard time with the decision.  My son was at VA Tech on a high school field trip the day of the shootings and this is where he plans on attending college.  Since then I have kept a bit of a tighter grip on him.  I know he would be devestated if we said no (actucally my DH is all for the trip).  Has anyone had any experience similar to this or any opinions on my situation?  Thanks.


Another Husky parent!
Wow!  A lot of you guys have this breed of dog!  They sure are gorgeous!  Who is the brown "dude" in the lower left corner trying to sneak in on the shot?  Too cute!  :)
I have right to my opinion, same as you. Parent job
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Do think being parent alone protects someone from
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any parent who ever let their kid idolize her should be.....
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were you a single parent
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Please tell me I am not the only parent to feel this way

I am a mother of 3 children a boy 18, a girl 11, and a boy 5.  In my home, driving is not a right of passage, it is a privilege.  You must obey house rules, keep your grades up, and you have to purchase your own vehicle.  You must also have a job to pay for insurance and gas, as we are not a bank or an ATM machine at your disposal.  If you cannot follow the above, umm sorry 'bout your luck! 


Am I the only parent out there with children that sees no point in cell phones for kids, especially for the younger ones. I swear most of the kids my daughter's age DO have one and she is 11.  Am I one of the few who monitors what their children watch on TV?  Am I the only parent that makes their children earn time for video games and then has a set time limit for it when they do get to play?  Am I the only mother in the world who thinks its horrible to let your daughter run around in clothing with words across the behind?? Seriously who do you think is looking at this and why do you want to draw attention to your child's rear end?  Ooohhh ya and all the parents who sign their kids up for little league things and dump and run.  These practices and events are not free babysitting!!! I honestly know of a few mothers that take their daughters to gymnastics and leave them there and go down to the bar and grill and have a few drinks while they wait for their kids!


Okay, so I know it sounds like I am whining, but I have had enough! I am tired of being told by other parents that I am a prude, I need to catch up to the times, and the one I hate most of all is "our kids need us to be their friends"!  I have a responsibility to my children to RAISE them. 


My children and I all have good relationships.  We talk about everything under the sun.  They come to me with most of their troubles or questions and know they have nothing to fear, I will hear anything and answer them openly and honestly. 


That can be done without letting the "tail wag the dog" so to speak. Are ppl to busy or so self-absorbed anymore to take the time to raise their children? 


 


Not a grandmother but parent myself
Well maybe you were a little defensive then and not resentful but reading your post it sounded like the things you do with/for your kids were more like chores instead of things you chose to do.  I am not a grandparent but still a parent as both my sons still live at home as they go to college.  I see too many people who just leave their kids to fend for themselves, 2-3 nights every week and every weekend during hockey season and other sports seasons...sorry if I offended you but that's the way you came off.
I see nothing wrong with asking your parent
This was my father and I was his next of kin. You try to make it sound dramatic as if he were dying. He was in excellent health with no medical issues at all. He had no other family members except for grandchildren, nieces and nephews. No wife, no siblings. I asked if I outlived him could I have the property. He lived out of state. When I asked him he did a quick deed, I paid for all insurance on the property as well as property taxes for about 4 years prior to his getting killed in an accidental death. I only wish I had asked my mother prior to her death (being as I was her only living child) if I could have had her personal belongings. I did not get those and should have. I learned when she died not to hold back if you want something. Now really, how would you feel if you were an only child and was bypassed with things that rightfully should be yours in the first place. Even in a court of law, a child comes first before others in who gets what when it comes to things like this. Don’t get on your soap box.
No one except a parent can understand, eh??!! sm
Ridiculous, with just a hint of "gotta-belong-to-my-club" elitism tossed in. Any sentient and compassionate human being can understand the issues, perhaps even better than someone whose judgment is emotionally clouded, and including the travesty that false hope and half-truths cause every day in the medical industry. (Hint: Go stand at the Mexican border where you can collect the sad stories.)

Please re-read my post. I did not suggest that ESC research should not go forward. I was merely giving the rest of the facts about the dismal history and science of ESC research so far that Obama so conveniently omitted, and saying that we need to do this with protections for embryos in place.

I was just giving you the rest of the story, as Paul Harvey used to say. I'm sorry if it's an "inconvenient truth", and despite my reservations, I do wish the very best for your child just as I do for the unborn embryos now at increased risk.
You don’t seem to be a strong parent
With teenage drinking, driving and the like, why even take the chance of having a diaster in the making waiting around the corner. I just do not see my ever wimping out to my child's father or anyone else for that matter. I guess you don’t want to look like the bad guy but here I think you really do.
single-parent dating (sm)
I'm not sure that the length of time you have been dating is really relevant as other posters mentioned. If you feel you need to have the relationship defined, it should be and when it is, you need to decide what to do next.

It is SO hard to date when you have a child, especially a daughter that you want to raise with good morals and self esteem. In order to build a good relationship and be sure the guy likes your kid, you have to invest time and expose the child(ren) to him. If he's not *the one* then you have to repeat the process, thereby exposing you kids to men, attachments, and as far as I'm concerned, confusion on the part of the kids.

I came to this conclusion shortly after my ex and I split when my daughter was 5. I dated one guy, we broke up, and didn't date again until she was out of high school.

I also identified with a line in Jerry MacGuire; words to the effect that spending time with my kid was more fun and fulfilling than any frog or potential prince.

It's my opinion and only my opinion that we had our lives, made our decisions, had our fun, made our mistakes, brought kids into the world and they should be our focus. It's hard to focus and give full attention to a child when there is guy anxiety.

I know many have done it and have been extremely successful with merging families and doing the step-dad/mom thing. I just didn't think it was fair to gamble with my child's future... things don't always happen in real life like they do in movies...

All of this was probably of no help, but I sincerely think you do need to stop and think what is going to give you peace of mind, not necessarily happiness or instant gratification, and know that whatever does give you peace of mind will benefit your child.

Good luck, sweetie! :-)
Glad you recognize it's the PARENT here
and not this CHILD who is probably miserable being the way he is!

You MAY have tried everything possible not to ostracize him (without jeopardizing your kids' safety) but consider if there is a way to HELP him - he is probably desparate for the RIGHT kind of attention.

Think about it. and consider what type of ADULT he might turn out to be if no NORMAL adults try to help him.

Just the weight issue alone is a sign this family is in trouble.

GOOD luck.
Isn't that sad? And touch & parent's voices are
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In his case 1 parent dishonored himself
The guy's mother was fine with his name change. The father had 11 children and get this, had a whole separate family on outside. His little scheme came to an end when the mother found out and divorce ended that. So a name change "dishonors" a "dishonest" father. Your post does not fly in this situation. Sometimes parents cannot be honored- I know my own father molested my granddaughter- should I still honor him because of his being my father?? Think not.
Step up and be the parent! If he decides he wants
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