It was a dream/fantasy. sm
Posted By: busymt on 2007-10-05
In Reply to: UGLY BETTY QUESTION - just curious
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed. I guess it was her way of getting some closure. I hope that clears it up for you. 
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Recurring bathroom dream & ex dream
I have a recurring dream about having to go in a public bathroom and not only can everybody see me, but I am barefoot, wearing bell-bottoms and the floor is always wet. Yuck!
I also have recurring dreams about being back with my abusive ex and trying to get me and the kids away from him. We have been divorced 22 years, but I have these dreams frequently!
Fantasy World
Sadgirl - take a look at your own name for clue #1.
Your problem is not being able to continue this "relationship", but rather that you have focused, fixated and obsessed on the unattainable. It's "safe" because in your head you know you can never be with him but in your heart you can romanticize about something that is not even reality. You need to start figuring out why you are doing that.
You say he treats you wonderfully. Yeah, in YOUR head he does. Here's a married man carrying on conversations with you that he now wants to keep out of his wife's view with your help. He knows it's wrong, why don't you? He's prominent in the community? What would you do if your written e-mail exchanges were ever to be made public? E-mails are forever and you have already jeopardized your reputation as well as your child's reputation. His wife knows about your "innocent" e-mail exchanges - what's to stop her from printing them out? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and you have a big bull's eye on your butt.
He's saying you will be OK after he retires, yet he keeps stringing you along with no regard for your emotional well-being. He keeps you at a safe distance. You don't see something so very wrong with that? You need to step back and look at this from the outside. He is exhibiting no moral or ethical character by communicating with you knowing how you feel about him. He's getting a big ego trip off you, the younger woman, and the attention you give him. Ever wonder if there are others he "chats" with that are like you? You think this is the man of your dreams? When you make the mental list out of qualities and characteristics you want in a guy, this Bozo fits the bill?
Is this something you will proudly be telling your child about some day?
You need to ask yourself some pretty hard questions regarding why you think this is OK. Is sounds like your self-esteem has hit rock bottom and you need to find out why.
I truly hope you can find the strength within you to stop all communication with this man. What a slippery slope you are on. You know it is the right thing to do to stop all this, or you wouldn't have written your post here in a public forum. Absolutely nothing good can or will come out of this "relationship" with Mr. Ego/Married Man.
Fantasy is always better than real life -
He is a stranger after all these years and nothing more. Stop lying to your husband and yourself. Be happy with what you already have and stop longing for what might be. Trust me on this. Went a similar route myself that nearly destroyed me and everyone in my path 8 years ago. I was very luck my husband forgave my temporary insanity!
Kids have rich fantasy lives - sm
There is something of an art in preserving the kids' fantasies and pretend worlds and at the same time teach them about the real world. The poster mtmomof2 put it especially eloquently when she said she grew to understand the impossibility of Santa and it thus came as no shock to her. That was the way it was with me. As on of four kids, each of us kept up the pretense for the younger ones.
My own kids had even more proof - an accidental double exposure of our Christmas decorated living room with our son and a Santa on a float in a parade, which made it look like he was standing right behind our son. They are now 19 and 17, and plan on using that picture for their kids.
I never lied. I never said "Santa is real." There are lots of ways of perpetuating the fantasy without lying. My favorite was answering a question with a question - What do YOU think?, etc. My kids were quite sheltered and actually believed a long time - about age 10 or so, but never said they felt lied to or deceived. I think it's actually harmful to deprive kids of that kind of magic that only kids can feel while they're innocent and everything is possible. The realities of life will some soon enough!
Do you LOVE your husband? Want to spend your golden years with him?? Drop this fantasy at
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I have had the same dream
about teeth falling out. It is said that underlyling stress/anxiety can cause this, and also fears about personal appearance (think I remember something about money too). It's interesting to read about possible meanings of dreams.
Of course, "they" say too that sometimes it just means it's probably time for a visit to the dentist, so who knows (in my case I needed to go to the dentist, but I definitely had underlying stess issues as well. 
Your living your dream like never before?
?? That doesn't make sense.
My dream house ....
would have more than 1 bathroom and more than 2 closets. We live in the old farmhouse my DH grew up in. It has 4 bedrooms, which is great, but only 2 closets and 1 bathroom for 5 people. So my dream house would have at least 2 bathrooms and I would love a huge walk-in closet like I had when I was a kid. It would also have a library with lots of shelves for my books and a big stone fireplace with great furniture to curl up in and read. And if this wonderful house could be situated by the beach, I would be in heaven.
Dream Home
We just recently built a new home, not total custom build but we got to choose from about 15 different designs, and we chose the flooring, paint colors, fixtures (standard or upgrade), exterior color, brick, etc. The only thing I would change is the two smaller bedrooms (besides the master) could be a little bit larger.
BUT...the landscaping would be what made my dream home complete. I would love to have a nice-sized deck with one of those retractable awnings, with a nice big grill and comfortable seating. I would also love to have about an acre of land with some fairly mature trees where I could design wandering paths that would be highlighted by flowering shrubs, fountains, birdhouses, statues....
dream trip
Been trying to get my mom to go with me to Ireland....she lost her DH last year....I'll keep trying!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQDPenBUC68
Never dream of being w/o the kids just - sm
the DH.......he is out of town this week, very nice and quiet here, no drama with the kids at night (usually there is something a few times a week, or him picking a fight with me). Though I would not say no to an evening or weekend all by myself, I probably would not know what to do (unless I had work, which I usually do). As for being bored and lonely, no I doubt it. I lived by myself for about 6 months while I was at school, loved every minute of it. I have plenty of interests so I'd find lots to do!
a girl can dream.. ;)
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I once had a dream that my dog got killed - sm
and a week later to the day, she did. And it happened exactly like in my dream.
67 Firebird is my dream car sm
Very similar to the Camaro. My dad had a 67 Firebird when I was younger and sold it when I was about 13 so my brother and I wouldn't be able to fight over it when we could drive. It got wrecked about 2 years later 
dream interpretation
but does anybody study dreams? I had a very vivid dream last night. I was riding in a car, a passenger in the back, and all of a sudden my oldest's father appeared beside me. He handed me a colorful bill with our current president's picture on the front with a $2 demonination on the front but he made sure I turned it over to see that it was worth $100. We stopped on a loney stretch of road and I asked him if he would like to come with me and he said no, i can't but we hugged and i told him i loved him and goodbye.
What's so weird is that I haven't seen him in 10 years. Our son is a product of a fling with no love involved and he has never met his child, though he has paid court orded child support whenever he feels like it. We didn't part on the best of terms, just more or less a straightforward admission that he didn't want anything to do with the child. I have honestly given him little thought in the 10 years since i left, much less dreamed about him. It's just strange how things pop up in your dreams.
I just wondered if anybody could lend any insight into this, I can't get it out of my head!
No, but if it is legit, it always sounded like my dream job!
 Paid to shop? I'm there!
I'm from the good ole' south. Would never dream of doing that! sm
But, on the other hand, I'm not against a woman's choice to do so either..Although my in-laws would definitely have a tad bit to say bout that one!
We're also going to see Dream Girls...sm
I got the Publix 1/2 off deal for the Wednesday night show so we could afford the orchestra level seats.
We go to local playhouses, i.e. Theatre on the Square in Marietta, Kudzu Theatre (Roswell) Alliance Theatre, Theatre on Main (Acworth) and used to like Big Top Theatre but they've just shut down and the head guy moved to Florida after the events that shut down the new Cobb Performing Arts Center in Kennesaw. I still can't believe that happened after they spent $35 million to build it and it was only open a few months but that zoning stuff got them into trouble.
Anyway, we watch for shows and get tickets for the ones we know we'll enjoy. Our teenager babysits the youngest child for the shows that aren't acceptable for a 7-year-old to see.
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
Dream Home Ideas....
Think of your dream home, and tell me something about it. Something that makes it different or special. Like how one room is made entirely out of fish tanks, or the whole 5th floor is a skating rink. Things like that.. be creative!
Dream Home Ideas
An indoor basketball court!! We have the room to create one on the outside because we have three acres (perhaps next spring), but indoors would take care of being able to do this year-round. We live in the country with a good-sized home, but double "his and hers" vanity sinks, instead of one, would also be nice.
LOL - I used to dream of Kramer when I was pregnant LOL (nm)
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I dream he and George are chasing me. Being them,
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no but I always dream about a snake biting
different situations but the snake ALWAYS at least breaks the skin, no matter how much I try to protect him. :(
Well, I guess I'm 75% of a young man's dream! n/m
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I was a teacher's and parent's dream
I was the sort of kid who'd ruin the curve for everyone else. I studied all the time, had straight A's, was the Editor of the school paper and the yearbook, worked in the school office, and graduated at the top of my class. About the most outlandish thing I did was get a part-time job at Burger King. eek!
Mazel tov! Hoping it really is a dream come true for you! :)
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Grilled - I Dream of Jeanie or Bewitched. nm
Hi!
A mother's dream! My children are young so (sm)
right now they say sweet things, well at least my 8 year old does...lol. I only dream that when they are your daughter's age they will think that highly of me :-) Congratulations!
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