Just love them and include them. Don't make them feel SM
Posted By: not in my family's case on 2007-09-21
In Reply to: Wow - you hit the nail on the head - for me (sm) - OP
like they are a part of a bad movie not really understanding the plot and worried about what is going to happen to them. I have an adjustment disorder and panic situation all my life as a result. When you feel the floor falling out from under you it is a frightening situation. Just make them feel as secure as possible. That is the main thing. Tell them over and over it has nothing to do with them. Kids tend to blame themselves. I don't know the ages of your children, but young ones particularly take it on themselves. I told my dad the night it really fell apart that if I had been a better daughter this would not have happened. Obviously, that was not an accurate statement. I was sitting in a chair unable to walk listening to a terrible fight and my mom telling him she hated him. No one should have memories like that. My parents were good people. They felt overwhelmed and that is what happened. We needed family counseling. Good luck to you, dear.
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It'd make me feel better, which is better than nothing..--
Besides, I have a feeling that somehow, someday, something is going to happen to cause the government to crack down on this unscrupulous industry, and put them on a VERY short leash.
If the industry cheats and underpays too many of us, allows too many of us to sit around with no work, or fires us in favor of offshoring, there are going to be a LOT of people with very high writing and communications skills with nothing to do but start pushing -- HARD -- to turn that whole worldwide scam upside down.
Wow - evidently it sure DID make you feel better....
 You are creepy.....yuch.......
You make me feel like a slacker...
I'm reading "Stop Dressing Your 6-year-old Like a Skank" by Celia Riverbark. Very light and very funny. Perfect beach book, if I were at the beach, which I'm not unfortunately.
It did not make me feel bad, but it made
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responses like this make me not feel so bad :)
Good for you for making the most of it and being happy!!
I have moved on and was just trying to make SoBlue feel better.
I have moved on and gotten on with my life. My ex now lives 2 minutes from me and I could care less. The kid who robbed me is now 19 and in jail for robbing a bank and I don't have to worry about him either. These things were in my past and I have learned and become a stronger person from them.
I dont' say I was single to make people feel sorry for me.
I, rather, feel sorry for you because you obviously don't care about people who are truly in need, single, divorced, widowed or otherwise.
'scuse...keep calls short as I feel I must do these things in order to make money. No babies
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Oh, I love the Eagles!! One day, maybe, they will make it!!!
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I LOVE your sleigh!! Did you make that??
it's beautiful!
So very sorry. Made me cry. But feel assured that your little one knows how much you love her.
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...You do for one another out of love and respect, not because you feel you "should"
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Ewwwwwww!!! Motherly love for sure! :) ...Feel bad for the
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Would love to make extra money BUT
I have gone through the initial call with this company, some VERY nice people but the thing I do not like is you have to buy products each month and then get other people involved, is it any different now? The products seem like they would be pretty good, natural etc. Thanks!
I love meatloaf but every time I make
it just tastes like hamburger meat. Gosh, wish I could make a decent one. Do you have room for 1 more at your table??
Gosh, these posts make me realize how much I love
He does none of what has been talked about here. I am blessed beyond measure...
Does that include
saline spray? My mom swears by it. Have you tried stuff like Rhinocort, the steroid spray stuff? My MD recommends those. You can try getting off milk and other dairy products and drink water instead of soft drinks. You could try cutting sugar out.
I do occasionally read that sinus infections can be caused by a fungal infection. In fact I also read there is a theory that that's why so many people have asthma these days. They think the high-powered antibiotics are causing fungus, and the fungus is causing asthma. I read that on the Pharma-Lexicon website.
I certainly would include them both, why not
just give a "general gift card" to a local mall. It does not have to be for much, $25 or $50 and be done with it.
*To each his own* does not include setting an
There's a HUGE difference between *not being an animal lover* and being a PSYCHO.
I love the ambrosia my Grandmother used to make/beautiful pearls one year from DH. nm
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Grazie! I love the 3 Tenors! We've decided to make 2 batches
of Limoncello just in case the ginger falls flat. Thanks so much for the YouTube vid.
Happy New Year!
If you're asking and the love is long gone, it's time. Make copies of all important papers,
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Didn't mean to include duplicate sentences at end! (nm)
Wouldn't the exercise of free will also include
his right to determine what is and what is not a "sin" for HIM? Is he also not free to determine that the relationship is irreversibly doomed because it got off on the wrong foot? Do you think a therapist can or should talk him out of that? Is that a better way to launch into part 2 of the affair?
It is possible, since he clearly stated it was "the hadest thing he ever did," that he is not and will not get past the pain it caused for both of them. Why does wanting a fresh start make him into a Mr. Milquetoast who needs therapy?
Bottom line here. If it's not right for HIM, then it's not right for THEM.
Businesses refusing to include Christmas in advertising.
What? No Christmas? I just don't get it. For years, businesses have advertised Christmas, but now, ewww, don't even THINK of saying the word, ***CHRISTMAS***, for you might get THAT LOOK from someone who is ewwwww offended. Offended? Give me a break! I am supposed to accept every other religious nuance with open arms, but if I say MERRY CHRISTMAS these days, I get a very negative knee jerk response. I'm sick of it. So, I'm doing something about it, just like I did last year. So, here goes...
TARGET - you're IN. I'll shop at your store because you are including Christmas in your advertising.
WALMART - you're OUT. Not only are you not advertising Christmas, your snarky response to my email simply questioning your intentions really turned me off . I also won't be shopping at your other company SAM'S CLUB either!
UPDATE - WALMART HAS ANNOUNCED 11/9 THAT THEY WILL BE INCLUDING CHRISTMAS IN THEIR ADVERTISING AND ADMIT THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE. SEE LINK HERE AND BELOW! http://tinyurl.com/yd9gx9
KOHL'S - You're IN. The letter you sent was very respectful and I appreciate that you will be including Christmas in your advertising.
SEARS - You're OUT. Kwanzaa? You actually used Kwanzaa as a reason for not advertising Christmas? Diverse cultures? Afraid you're going to offend other religious beliefs? Do you have a CLUE that Christianity is the NUMBER 1 religious belief system in America?
DILLARDS - You're IN. Discover Christmas. Discover Dillards. Good job.
LOWE'S - You're IN. Glad you smartened up and changed your sign from Holiday Trees to Christmas Trees...DUH!
MACY'S - You're IN. Thank you for allowing your employees to now say Merry Christmas and for placing advertisements in your stores, television, online, and print ads.
VICTORIA'S SECRET - You're IN. Christmas trees and music in your stores? What a novel concept. Kudos.
As of this writing, other stores as of last year not advertising Christmas are Kroger, Dell, Office Max, Walgreens, Staples, and J.C. Penney. I'm doing research to find out if they've smartened up and changed their position. I will post as I find out more information.
What it all comes down to, folks, is that these businesses CAN advertise Christmas. Christmas was here FIRST, but fat cat corporations are trying to lump all religious holidays together into one even though they don't fall on December 25! Does any of this make sense? People generally don't buy Thanksgiving gifts, but Thanksgiving is advertised. Hmmm. Interesting concept, isn't it?
Some readers may not like what I have to say and to them, I say...oh well. I believe in what I believe. In my opinion, there should be no reason to be offended by Christmas. If you celebrate a holiday other than Christmas, when it rolls around, celebrate it will a full heart! I sure am!
Some of those places are terrifying and include things touching you when
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I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots
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I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
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My niece had a Yorkie, the love of her life! We all loved her so. Lots of love in store for you.
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Love movie "A Christmas Story" when dogs eat the turkey and they go out for Chinese. We love d
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She's sweet. I think she's gorgeous. Love her hair. Love her sm
smile. I wish I looked that great! I don't even come close, so who am I do judge? I admire beauty greatly in other women...I envy them!
sweet....love the heart charm, he's got love.
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God bless you on your path, all love begins with self-love, so you are really on your way.....sm
We should have less time putting needless labels on things, paying attention to dividing lines, and pratice more love, understanding, and humiility....we will all have things to answer for, no one is perfect, but I believe we are all precious and loved by the Lord, who knows all hearts, and has infinitely more compassion and mercy than ANY of us can comprehend. Be happy and take care of yourself, sexuality is such a small part of who we are in this world, but you have to be happy and at peace.
I love the animal channel, really love it and
my sweetie and I both watch but I absolutely, even if I know nature and the balance of, want to see small animals being killed and eaten and so forth. I know it happens but I either change the station or pick up the paper and read or find another way so I don’t watch. Also watch Discovery, love animals and love those shows!
I love you! hahaha I love your response! You can come over here sm
and kick my butt the next time I "allow" my husband to make me feel crap for whatever reason - which there seems to be many - he wouldn't complain if I made more money than him because his lazy behind wants to stay home and do nothing all day except to play golf. He tells me all the time, "when are you going to own your MT business so I can golf all day."
But, he is very mean, also. He hurts my feelings constantly and doesn't even care. He makes me drive around in his truck with bald tires and I don't like doing that for fear of a blow out and he'll just tell me, "well, don't go anywhere then." We have the money in the bank to get new tires, but he won't get them.
I love your comment, though!
And for all of you who will say, "well, leave the jerk!" It isn't that easy. We have 3 boys and I would be homeless. I only make 300 every 2 weeks MTing. We have a lovely home with a lot of space and besides him living here, the kids and I LOVE it and love each other so much.
Well, I LOVE a challenge too, Would love to debate this one day with you! sm
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Seriously, I was a staunch atheist for 20+ years. It's funny, though. I, too, believe that we are all electrical energies and that energy doesn't "die" and so, theoretically, where does your "electricity" go when you die, i.e., your spirit? I believe that "energy" within us is our spirit life - and that must go somewhere, right? It doesn't just go into the groun - which is what I thought for so long.
Anyways, when I learned about our "energy" and how it must go somewhere, I was really testing the waters of Christianity up to that point. After hearing about that, I was convinced that there must be an afterlife. I believe we go either of 2 places.
Anyways, I love ALL people of all religions, regardless of what I "think" or "believe." I don't think any less of you because of your beliefs! If I were to believe in a God who forgave me and loved me in my mut and mire, who am I to judge and criticize those who think differently of me?
I've always liked you no matter what your philosophy on life was....
Love people who love dogs.
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I love the dressing and I love lemon pie..sm
My mom's lemon pie that is. I also love this dessert called Texas Delight or some people call it different things but is is layers of chocolate pudding and cream cheese and whipped cream. The food is my favorite part besides the watching my son open presents on x-mas.
Young love/older love
I think it has a lot to do with your age and his. I married hubby at age 59 and he was 49. Best thing I ever did but say if you are 30 and he is 20, hmmm in that case might not be so workable. What are the ages here?
Give her love, love, love and if she...
doesn't want medicine - don't force it. Does she like to be stroked or does she like her belly rubbed? You better than anyone else know how to make her feel loved. Give her that. If her times comes before Monday, all the better for you and her. She'll die peacefully in her loving home. But, if not, be prepared to give her the last loving gesture you can - if it's time to, than let her go.
I had to put my 13 year old Lab down two months ago. It is one of the hardest things to do. But, you'll know when it's time. My dog, Shadow, told me he was done, tired, beat. He sent me the message quite clearly. But, still I waited, not for him but for me! Finally I "heard: him and did what needed to be done. I sobbed for hours and then just suddenly stopped, I realized I was crying for me - not for him! He had had a wonderful loving home with "mom and dad and brother". He was old and tired and wanted to rest. He deserved that rest! So, it's done. Yeah, I'm still sad. But I know that it was the right thing to do. And, yeah, call me nuts if you want - I know that when it's my time that Shadow will come running, knock me over, sit down on my chest and lick me silly!
Now, I'll go and give my cat lots of love and remember the fun I had with Shadow. My thoughts are with you - make the best of the time you have with your loved one's, be them human or furry! My thoughts are with you.
I would make a good Beth with wig on. Not sure DH would make a good Dog.
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We will all pray for him. Your love and God's love will keep him SM
strong until he is home! 
It is better to love and have lost than to not know love at all...
Who do you really love? This is not meant to sound rude, but to make you think...if you felt like ending your life and acted upon it because you loved someone so deep but they did not feel the same way, do you think that ending your life is really going to make them love you anymore? No...now you mentioned your mom and family, would they hurt more if something happened to you? I have entertained thses thoughts before and girl, he is not worth it. The main ingredient in Love is YOU...you have to love yourself first. My situation was different but you know, love is love. We can not make another being love us. We give them too much power. If he is gay, let that be him sinking in that ship alone. What I mean by that is to give someone yourself is one of the most precious gifts, but knowing that they are giving to Tom, Thomas and Timothy is very demeaning to you. No matter how much you want him to touch you, it is good that he isn't. DISEASES, don't discriminate, nor does death. Please my friend, listen to your inner feelings/thoughts and know that you will survive, but only if you believe.
How would you feel
Let me ask you, how would you feel if you were in an mva and when you arrived at the trauma center they said, sorry - we can't help you, we are closed for Thanksgiving or Christmas as the case may be. We make a choice when we get into healthcare - it's 365 days a year 24/7. Doctors, nurses, firefighters, police officers, military.. all professions that require working major holidays. Usually it's a skeletan crew that works and is on call for Stats. My feeling is, if a gaurantee job of no holidays is what one wants, then one should go into a field that doesn't require the coverage like banking or a private physicians office. Hospital medical transcription has never been Monday through Friday and never will. Think about it from the patient's point of view, after all - that is the main goal - THEIR care.
Been there - know how you feel sm
Honestly, I lost two angels before my firstborn. One at 16 weeks and the other at 12 weeks. It was excruciating and heart breaking. Now, I know I have two angels on each shoulder 24 hours a day watching over me and my family. It is comforting after a while to know that you have these angels.
God bless you and your family!
You should not feel bad at all, I don't
wrong with your response at all. My home is with my family also, but I do think of the small town in which I spent the first 20 years of my life and the wonderful times I had there, especially at the holiday time of year.
Thank you, too. I feel the same. As for
your European anology of family, you are SO right. I so admire that type of family dynamic, and don't understand fully what happened here in America. My parents were/are typical examples. They were 50's and 60's Beaver-Cleaver parents - my dad worked, my mom was a stay at home mom, though it turned out she hated it. They had the obligatory 3 kids, me being the last, and by a long shot. At any rate, they just did not foster a close family unit - we looked great on paper, but that was it. As soon as I was in my teens, my parents couldn't wait to sell the family home and take off for a retirement community, though they also weren't all that social, either. They barely paid attention to their grandkids - just the obligatory gifts and family dinners, where all was so strained and forced. They thought about themselves, really. Parents who put their happiness and interests first, while going thru the motions, though, of being that all-American upper middle class family. So, they sold everything that to me was cherished and headed south to a senior community, full of lonely seniors who chose that lifestyle. Know what I mean? They couldn't wait to get away from their grown kids and do their own thing, yet when the chips were down and their health was failing, they were stranded more or less, turning to visiting nurses and the like for care. It is odd about our society how things are turning like this and the close extended family just is a legend - like Big Foot. I have done lots of social political reading, and there are actually explanations - you are probably familiar, but it was some in governments plan, and they sure succeeded. Now all is backfiring, though. I know then I have stopped this family distancing with my own kids, thank God. My husband and I are very close with our kids, and vice versa. Many of our peers are the same, though most do not have relationships with their parents either. Maybe there is hope, eh? Nice meeting you! And though we differ, we are the same. 
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