Me too. I know everything about my husband.
Posted By: MEMT on 2008-01-22
In Reply to: I find it odd that you don't know how much schooling your husband has had. - nm
Even his social security number!
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Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
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This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND
I am so mad with this man. Last night he made a comment that all I have to do on my job is sit on my A_ _ and stare at a computer screen. He thinks this job is cushy. I transcribe every foreign doctor known to man for 8-10 hours 5-6 days a week, achieve OVER my line counts and bring home more money than he does and I work from home. What in the world does he think gives him the right to talk down to me? Even though I love it, this is one of the most taxing jobs I have ever had in my life. The mental drain is incomprehensible at times. I was so mad when he came up with that, I would have thrown him out if he would have had anywhere else to go!
mad at husband
Do what I do..i put him in my chair with my own keyboard, a set of headphones and told him i would be back in 30 minutes. And I gave him one of my best enunciating docs to boot. Needless to say....no more sit on my a** comments any more. I put the son in the chair too. Good luck.
Which one, the husband or dog?
He, he!
What do you do when your husband says
He does not love you anymore after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids? He left once about 3 years ago, but came back saying he missed us and loved me and that he was just going through a tough time and he knew he was making a bad choice. I thought we were okay, not smart of me, then he started getting distant and grumpy all the time again, and he told me last night that he tried really hard these last 3 years, mostly for our kids sake and because he cares about me and does not want to leave me high and dry, but he does not love me and is not happy with me. He says we have nothing in common anymore, which we really didn't in the first place, but it was okay until recently.
I don't know what to do. All 3 kids are extremely close to their dad, and he loves them so much, but I feel I should move to where my parents are (next town 20 miles away) but it will be harder for him to see them and also rent is so much higher for housing there. I just feel like I want to be closer to my family because here, I have NO ONE. I moved here because it was his hometown and he was happy. I also have the kids in preschool here, again cheaper than in the town I want to go to. My son will be in first grade and needs speech therapy for developmental delay and I like the people who have been working with him as they know his history. Am I being selfish wanting to take them away from here? I am lost and don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 
What do you do when husband...
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.
husband
he sounds like a pig... i say move on
My husband will be right over! LOL!
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Is my husband
Because I think we are married to the same guy. Here's my rule: I don't tell him everything, but when asked, I tell the truth. Except when I buy my son an $80 pair of shoes, I shave a few bucks off. Other than that I tell the truth. I know how you feel though. When he comes home if I hear squealing tires on the driveway or the door slams just right, I think, "Uh-oh. What did I do now?"
Is there anyone who has a husband...
like mine...he is an adult and acts like one, he respects what I do for a living, thanks me for working as hard as I do, would never expect me to do everything around the house without him helping out, and is generally a fabulous guy. Sounds like a lot of women are married to self-centered whiners who think THEIR job is the important one. I truly am blessed!
My husband...
I was going to post something similar to this...reading these threads about jerk husbands makes me sooo very grateful for mine. He's handsome, sexy, funny...works doggone hard for us so I can work PT, and still helps around the house in the evenings after work. Guess that's why I've kept him for 20 years---today!!! 
Oh, did I mention he's the bestest dad ever (as our DS puts it)...I could go on and on, but I won't...I am sorry for those who are not blessed with a wonderful man, it truly is a gift!
why the MIL and not your husband?
You are going after the wrong person. Your husband should be beside you all the way 100%. It is his job to talk/deal with his family. If he doesn't or won't, you've got a bigger problem with him than with the outlaws.
Your husband should say something
You are to cleave to husband and wife. If the MIL is not going to handle the situation your husband should definately stand up for you and say if you dont show some respect to my wife stay away. I have a SIL that does not like me either because she married into the family first and thinks I stole some of her thunder, but thank goodness my husband stands up for me. The MIL probably wants to keep peace that is how mine is, so I would talk to your husband about getting the situation resolved. Some people can be so dumb to act that way. Good luck, hope things get better.
What did your husband say about it?
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ex-husband
Well, Pammy,
I think you would fit right in with me and my friends' "board." We meet once a week and "discuss things." We all share the blessing of an ex-husband except one. Maybe ex is just so blissfully happy he forgot to tell you, or maybe he is just TOO CHICKEN - you think. In any case, the "board" meets tomorrow night. I'll be thinking of you.
LOL! My husband said she was just doing her job. It was probably on sm
the paper! LOL
My husband became an RN at age 43.
He thought he was too old and not smart enough because he did poorly in school. Not true! He certainly wasn't the oldest in his classes. Go for it!
Well, it is for me because my husband
is a whiz at navigating, and he can't understand my problem AT ALL. My problem is not just at night - it's all the time. I never worried about it as a kid. I was just one of those passengers that paid no attention to how we got anywhere, but no bid deal when the city is laid out in a grid. Then we moved to the South, where there is no such thing as a logical grid, and instead of being able to see for long distances and get your bearings, you are hemmed in by trees. I love trees, but must they be so dense you can't see through them??
Oh, and if you're downtown you have to pay attention to which are one-way streets. What a nightmare for a navigationally challenged woman. I can hardly wait to have Magellan on my side. DH says this model can even adapt if you take a wrong turn. Yeah!
Husband gets mad
Send him back home to his mother and let her deal with him. I would show him the door. My husband has total respect for me and the fact that I work at home. He just told his 2 children that coming to our house for Christmas on Friday the 21st will not work and that they have to come Saturday after 3:00 p.m. because I work at home and that isn't fair to me to have a house full of children and grandchildren (all step by the way) while I'm trying to work. They live 2-1/2 hours away and will be staying overnight and we are celebrating our Christmas with his side of the family Sat/Sun before Christmas. He has never and better never, if he knows what's good for him, refer to me as a _itch. I'm always referred to as "baby" or "babe". He does a lot around the house, inside and out, to help me as do I because I am a very neat/clean person and like my entire house, cupboards and closets kept that way. He cleans up after himself and last but not least, he is not a "slob" in the bathroom. God love him.
Where's your husband?
Tell this kid to get out of your house. Don't let him back in until he learns some manners. Since he doesn't think he owes you and your husband any respect, let him get out there on his own and see how the world will treat him.
Don't ever let your 8-year-old go anywhere with him. Obviously, the stepson has no sense of responsibility.
You and your husband need to tell him together that your house is no longer his home, that he is not to plan on spending summer break at your house. If you want to continue helping him with college costs, okay, but he cannot be allowed to treat you, your son or your husband so hatefully. He's teaching your son to lie, cussing at you in front of your son - good grief, what are you waiting for?
The fact that he doesnt treat other people that way says he knows he can get by with the bad behavior - he's manipulating you and your husband. Don't let it happen anymore.
Ah okay - I bet my husband knows who she is. I don't get
a chance to watch much tv - maybe an hour or two a week but he watches it constantly while he is out of town. I will make mention of her to him. Thanks for the info!
Husband can't hug - ever - without it being...(sm)
sexual. Do any of them? I would sometimes just like for him to be affectionate and just show me that he loves me without grabbing any of my body parts - or forcing my hand onto his. He does this EVERY time. I have told him how it makes me feel but he keeps doing it. Do they all do this?
would you tell your husband this?
Tonight i told my oldest son i was proud of him, he did his chores today and took care of his little brother for me while i was working w/o complaints, evening making his dinner w/o me even knowing it! I told him he would be a good father one day. He said, "not like daddy...he's mean and yells too much."
First off, hubby is 27 and still works with his mom at a gas station out of town about 30 m away. But in his heart he is a musician. He has tried for over a decade to "make" it without a whole lot of success. this is very frustrating to him. Secondly, he has chronic pain from a back injury and now it is discovered he has TMJ and is presently suffering from that. Also, he has anxiety and does't get a whole lot of help from the medical community with any of these medical issues despite seeing doctors regularly. All of this combined has made him a frustrated, irritable and mostly miserable person. He IS playing at the Whiskey in LA on the 4th of July which i am hoping this turn things around for him at least in one direction.
My question is this: Should I tell hubby what my son said? I'm not sure if he will blow it off or take it to heart. Maybe i'm just the pushover??
My husband and I still have these
days, but we've learned to talk about them when we're not angry. It seems to be a cycle and I seriously believe men have PMS.
It may be that he's stressed from bearing the financial aspects of your relationship. I've always done the finances in our home, but a while back things were a little tight financially. I know I got really irritated when my husband would say - let's go somewhere this weekend or let's buy this . Instead of me explaining that we didn't have the money, I'd lash out at him because I was angry at myself for not having the money. We ended up arguing but not about the point. After a couple of months of this cycle, I sat him down 1 night and showed him "the books". I told him that we weren't in dire need but we did need to budget a little better and he understood a little better the stress involved with paying the bills, etc. I even let him take it over for a while (of course that didn't last long, b/c he's not great with remembering when things are due and balancing the checkbook). He seemed to understand and we worked out a better budget to allow us some fun together, which we desperately needed.
My point is, that it sounds like the problem may be that your fiance is stressed about making ends meet and may even be a little scared about providing for you once you're married. I would suggest that you sit down and talk it over with him when he's not upset. You might want to consider setting a budget you both agree on and sticking to it prior to getting married. Learning how to communicate now will be key in making your marriage work.
I've been married 13 years this summer and communication is probably the single most important factor in that. I can talk to my husband about anything - and I mean anything. We don't always agree on what we talk about, but we do talk about it. Congratulations on your wedding!!
I think my husband and I were. sm
We thought it was being an involved parent. We knew her teachers (yes, she is an only child). We were band boosters, went to all of the games and concerts. I was the cookie mom a few times for the Girl Scouts. We stayed on her to do well in school because our state had college scholarships that could give her a free college educations. She graduated with honors, started her freshman year in college. We wanted her to live at home to save money, the college is in town. She lasted 1 semester, and during Christmas break, she said she wanted to go west to visit a girlfriend. Once there, she decided to stay there, met a young man she had talked to on the phone for about a month before Christmas, got engaged, and got married within 3 weeks of meeting him face to face. She said she needed to grow up on her own, wanted to be independent. Needless to say, her dad and I are devastated, but are keeping the lines of communication open, because we love our daughter. We thought we were being good parents. However, our priest advised us, just because we had a plan for her, doesn't mean she had the same plan for herself. She plans on going back to school, but she just needed a break. I just wish she hadn't eloped. Well, that's my helicopter parent story.
Husband wants to put dog down (sm)
 My husband wants to have our dog put to sleep. Last night he was saying we should have our dog put to sleep....he has said this in the past too. The dog is not sick or in pain or anything. He is getting old...he is 14, we have had him since he was tiny. He does have a few skin issues and needs sulfur shampoo, he has a habit of picking at the carpet at times when he is mad or not feeling good. But he is fine. He still runs, literally, to the door when he needs to go out. He never goes near the road, just a good dog. So he thinks we should put him to sleep now, just because he is getting older and might start having health problems? Where is the respect in that? How can you have a dog for that long and not love him? I just don't understand. I can't stand the fact that my husband thinks this way. It makes me feel like he would do the same to me when I'm older. Or if I ever get sick.
My husband...
He was driving truck when this happened and had only been home in the morning. Midday he took a nap and dreamed his wife died. He said that day was the weirdest day. He can still tell me what the weather was like, what the air smelled like, what he ate, and particularly the dream. This was all back in 1994. She did die that evening, completely unexpectedly. She was only in her early 40s. Their son found her.
Freaky stuff.
My husband has done nothing to me
He is very loving and supportive and respectful. I would not tolerate anything less. I was in a mentally abusive relationship before when I was younger. Thankfully, my mother had enough sense to pull me out of it. That man went onto marry and abuse his next 3 wives. I would see his name in the local newspaper in the police log for domestic violence.
What this man is doing to her is considered mental abuse. I would ponder that your husband does not treat you in such a manner. Judging from your other responses on this board, I get the feeling you wouldn't put up with it. Either that or he's made you so miserable, you feel the need to make others so as well.
As I posted above to Ms. Done, I was a child in a loveless marriage and it's not fun. My parents were both excellent providers and I love them, but I wish they would have just ended it when it was over instead of dragging us through it. The sleep I lost worrying about whether they were going to kill each other was more than I could take. I went out of my way to make sure I did not end up in a loveless marriage.
Ms. Done has been put down enough. If your suggestion is to stay in the marriage, that's fine, but your other comments were abusive and rude. You know nothing about her to make such comments as "spoiled". You should think before you type. Some of the other comments you've posted on these boards are very crass as well.
My husband just did.....
He has had many root canals and crowns. We are now going tomorrow to get one of them completely removed. It was crowned but has decayed underneath to consistency of jello, so off it has to come. Other than dental implants, nothing else to do at this point. He has front teeth that I'm sure will have the same problem before long, as these have been capped for years after root canals. The pain gives him fits. I know this is tough for you.
That's why I have a husband....nm
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Yea, but do I say hey by the way, your husband
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Tell your husband.
I have a 19-year-old son who had me about nuts at that age. He is now starting to become semi-human. He is in college and is doing very well (Dean's list every semester for 2 years). He was up in my face constantly over every little thing. I know daughters are a different story, but I never let him get one inch on me. He is much bigger than me, so physical intimidation did not work, but he knew when I meant buisness. Your husband is going to be furious with you if you don't tell him. She is trying to divide and conquer. Tell your husband and then put the smack-down on her butt. Give 'em an inch and they'll take a yard. Just know that you are coming from the RIGHT place. You know you're right, so brace for a tornado when the poop hits the fan and then let it go from there. Apparently Dad has some pull with her, so he can only help. Don't let her psych you out. 
Husband
I haven't been in your shoes, more so your husbands. I feel like I should say it is very difficult to live with someone who has a weight problem when you yourself don't - especially if the other person is obviously unhappy with themselves.
My husband comments all the time about his weight and how he's "fat" and then turns around and has a huge bowl of ice cream. I try to bite my tongue but sometimes it is hard not to want to offer a suggestion or something to make him think twice. Now if your husband is mean or degrading about it, that's one thing...otherwise he probably just loves you and wants to help you (knowing that it bothers you so much) but doesn't know how. It's not his fault he has a good metabolism or whatever the case may be and he also shouldn't be punished (for lack of better word) by not being able to eat those things that you can't or having to exercise more with you to motivate you...or whatever the case may be. You need to make changes for yourself. I agree with the other posters that maybe seeing the doctor or psychologist might help give some insight.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through but I hope this can let in some perspective from your husbands side. I love my hubs "fat" or not but I want him to be happy and healthy and with me for a long time.
My husband is like this.
He takes very little sleep, as does pretty much everyone on his mother's side of the family. I take 9 hours or I cannot function. My mom, sister, entire family is the same. Not sure if this is a learned behavior...something you get used to over time...or maybe in you but I'd be inclined to say its something you are born with if I had to choose. Either way we all function very well on what we need as individuals. I have had jobs which force me to go on much less sleep and I never got used to it so I don't think it is something that you can learn but you can learn to deal with it...such as taking a nap. :)
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