On a personal note -
Posted By: ginny on 2007-06-07
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 Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas? I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future. Anycomments or anything about it? I sure would appreciate it!
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Having a pet is a personal choice and it should be kept on personal property
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Sent you a personal msg. nm
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A little personal but
when my hubby and I want some "alone time" the dog can't stand to be in the room. If we don't realize the dog is in the room and we close the door, he lays at the door and cries to be let out.
I have nothing personal....
against pit bulls in particular. I think all dogs can be dangerous given different circumstances. I don't think it is right to single out a particular breed and just take away an animal from its home without just cause.
However, my elderly mother, who suffers from MS, has been plagued by horrible neighbors with many dogs. They do not keep their dogs in their own yard. Not only do they tear out my mother's trash, but they use her back yard as their own personal bathroom. Their one dog bit their own daughter and nothing was done. They are always barking at us when we are in my mother's yard. I had one come at me and I picked up a shovel that was thankfully near me to protect myself if the dog continued it advance. Their little dog frequently gets under my mother's feet and her balance is not good due to her age and medical issues. We have called the Humane Society and they will do nothing.
I personally think that people should have a right to shoot any dog on their property that shouldn't be there. If it weren't for getting in trouble for animal cruelty, I would have shot any or all of the neighbor's dogs in my mom's yard. A 60-some, widowed woman with health problems has no rights to keep destructive, mean dogs off of her property but hey....don't shoot a dog or you will get fined and maybe even jail time. Sad when a mut as more rights than my mom.
Any irresponsible owner shouldn't have a dog no matter what breed. I will get off of my soap box now. LOL.
This may be to personal for some of you but...
How is the economy crisis effecting you?
Your budget, your retirement, your family, your FRIENDS families.
How is it effecting the circle you run with? Do you discuss this with family or friends?
It is effecting my family. The gas thing alone is cutting our budget! My youngest started college and is driving back and forth. I've called my aunt who lives close to the school and asked if he could stay with her a few nights a week to save gas money. The drive for him one way is 1 hour. It has already saved us $$$. The fact that he can't find a job isn't helping either. There are no jobs for young people. Even in fast food!
Food prices have effected what we eat! Have you priced CHEESE lately? A 2 cup packages of shredded cheese cost more than a gallon of milk! Food has gotten outrageous.
We have our primary home and we have a small cabin that we go to on weekends. Our primary home is paid for and has been but we do have a mortgage on our cabin. LUCKILY and by the grace of God, we are in a fixed rate situation but it's still difficult. Did we spread ourselves to thin? Sometimes it is tough but we budget and try to be careful with what we spend. Our payment is nowhere near the $1500 per month mortgages people are talking about - and at that price point with an adjustable RATE - I don't know how people are living.
Also lucky that we do not have credit card debt. I've read where the CC companys are raising limits to increase spending while increasing the payment interest as well? I see more and more credit cards being used at the grocery store.
It's all just very scarey for me.
We have some friends who are building their dream home. They have worked and saved for 15 years. The economy is blessing them in some ways since there are a lot of people looking for work but hurt them in others as the price of materials skyrockets!
Really personal
I think it takes us all. :) Those with children and without. I have four kids to help make up for those who chose not to have any. :) I was in my early 30's before i decided to have kids. I adopted my 2 oldest, and then got pregnant with my younger 2!
Another note, you said there must be more to it because
I simply responded because someone else posted that they wouldn't shop at WalMart.
You would not believe what was on my op note....
I had a doctor who falsified my op note. I had several procedures (plastic) including a face lift. He forgot the face lift! Yes, that is right. When I went and checked the medical record, the op note not dictated yet and when I approached him at his office he gave me an "IOU" on his office stationary with him signing his name. Yeh, right. I only asked for the up front payment I made for the face lift that I did not get and 8 months later he dictated the op note, except he included the face lift portion in it. I have an unusual last name so that would not be the problem. I went thru mediation and he even called my home twice in a threatening type voice. I worked there at the hospital where he is the head over that department and I just finally let it go- I believe in Karma... so
Should be " a more serious note"-
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Just another note
I'm so glad I wasn't "blasted" for my thoughts and its nice that people respect other people. You did have some good opinions too. One thing I should have mentioned though is that I don't have kids and I think that plays such a bigger role for people who do, and it is easier for me to make my decisions about moving on with my life than it would be for someone else.
Growing up it was the other way around. My mom cheated on my dad. My dad was a truckdriver, and yes he may have had women on the road but we never heard about it. My mom on the other hand we knew was having affairs (there's nothing more disgusting than being 15 and 16 years old and your mom's boyfriend is singing to her the song "I want to make love to you"). My mom also became pregnat by a sailor at the navy base when I was 3 years old and we ended up moving 2 states away where she had the baby and gave him up for adoption, unfortunately 3 months after she gave the baby up for adoption my little sister who was 16 months old died from meningitis. My dad ended up staying with my mom until my sister and I were old enough to understand why they were divorcing (which was 12 years later). We loved both my mom and dad equally. Mom's now in heaven with baby sister and grandparents etc.
Anyway...what I'm trying to say is in my case I would have an easier time dealing with this type of situation (because of no kids).
As for the hollyweird people I don't think any of them (or at least the majority of them) ever think when they get married it's going to be for life. They are just a different breed of people. Oh sure, they get on TV and say this is for life, but then 3 months later they turn around divorce and a week later marry someone else. I do think Brad & Jennifer were quite different than the usual crowd. I did feel bad for her when all that happened.
In my case I am committed while I am in the marriage, but if anything did happen I wouldn't be devistated because I'm basically doing everything myself anyways, but having an affair is just not something my husband would ever do (just not in his nature), but I also just look at life a little differently and figure if anything ever happens I will be committed to making myself happy.
End note!...sm
Perhaps I shoulda put in my first post that you seem to be rather mean-spirited. I heard it in your first post indicating that you're above it all. The second post was absolutely atrocious....(I am the grandaughter of...yada, yada, yada). Piffle and snot!
Hayseed is very tender-hearted, has extraordinary wit and humor, thinks before she speaks/posts, and works very hard.
Please don't mess with my friend. End note.  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
Please note sm
This is not the original poster.
Of further note...
My husband and I started going to counseling for us to have someone to talk to about the ex and get ideas on how to handle difficult situations with the child. We then slowly introduced the child after the counselor found out information and suggested it.
Just a note to all
I was reading all your posts and this thought came to mind. We don't live in the days of when I was growing up in the 50s. Things were very safe and we never locked our doors. But times are different. There are so many horrible crimes and in placed nobody ever dreamed would happen. Like one of the posters below said, I too have seen news where a crime happened and the people would say, we just never thought it would happen here. To all who think its safe or no big deal, it is a big deal and for all your safety I would please just take the extra 5 or 10 seconds it takes to turn the lock on your door. It takes but a second or two but an act that could possibly one day save your life. For all those who think your towns are safe, there are so many people who think the same thing and you see them on the news. One incident in particular that comes to mind is a town in Pennsylvania where a bunch of Amish school girls were killed. My point is that while everyone wants their town to remain a very safe place where everyone loves their neighbor and is so safe to leave your doors unlocked, it really is not that way anymore.
So, please just take the extra step and turn the lock at night.
Did he see the note?
It sounds like you told him about the note. I think his reply is pretty standard and that if he can deny it, blame it on "one of the guys" at work, and that be the end of it, then he's going to stick with his story.
It has a note on it.
It is three months behind and they are about to repo it. So that isn't an option.
Just a note
Not MY experience, but last year my mom (60 yo, well past menopause start) experienced abnormal bleeding. Turned out to be endometrial ca. They performed TAH and she went through radiation therapy. Did very well, and her last check ups were very good. I think time between diagnosis and surgery was a few weeks. My advice, don't stress too much between now and seeing your doc.
why were you on his *personal* computer anyway? sm
It sounds like you already have a trust issue with this person. Since he is still your BF and not your DH, I feel you had no right to invade his privacy. Maybe he had viewed those things a long time ago, prior to you being his GF. Besides that, I learned a long time ago not to go looking for things, because inevitably, you will find it. You snooped, now you are hurt, and have a very different view of this person. Your relationship is probably doomed now, because you will not be able to get past this. I am sorry for both of you.
I just tell them I have a personal policy
related to telemarketing and take my number off their list. They have to do that by law once you tell them. Eventualy the calls do stop.
not personal, just in general...
So many nasty comments...the point of my post was (and this is the last post I'll make on the subject)a teacher won 10grand...woohoo!!! GREAT for him, a hardworking professional (and yes, underpaid) catches a break! I'm happy for him...end of story! Have a lovely day...
My personal experience has been that --sm
you get what you pay for. I have little trust in their products, although the prices seem good. There are other more reputable places out there.
My personal thoughts
on the matter - - get out! My husband cheated on me the first time (at least what I knew as the first time) 24 years ago. We stuck together and he said he would never do it again. Well, 5 years ago, it happened again. I wonder now how many times did this occur that I did not know about, or find out about.
Can, but might not. I know from personal experience. nm
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My personal observations as a
mom: I am in my 40s and grew up back in the old days when discipline for kids in school and at home was okay; however, methods used then are now taboo. It looks like *traditional* discipline (which I feel was not necessarily always sensible) has been replaced with an either hands-off approach (due to fear of lawsuits, retaliation, etc.) or extreme measures, as described in the above post. This brings to mind the question: How much more effective are we these days with these approaches?
I feel for kids these days as well as future generations - looks like they'll have their hands full, if society continues this way.
Not my personal situation but I think
a lot of the people you hear bragging about their refunds are those on some form of public assistance or single parents who are getting the earned income credit. Although I think you can get an advance on this, most do not.
Personally, I like to get around $2000 back for the year. I know I could be saving that on my own, but it's not always that easy. If it were in my account, I'd probably end up spending it. The small amount of interest I'd make on it for the year wouldn't be worth the stress of having to save it.
I haven't done my taxes yet this year because they're probably going to be a mess. We lost our house in a fire in October and were underinsured. Now we have to file some sort of tax deduction for that. It'll probably be more paperwork than it's worth, but we'll see.
just a personal opinion...
I think this can be a little tricky with kids. Children's imaginations are developing and they are learning so many new things, not to mention they do not always know the meaning of things or understand reasons for the way things may be done. Adults on the other hand, I think their dreams do mean something. I think it is their subconscious talking to them. Things they regress coming to the surface. I know I have had some kooky dreams before and they seem to take place when I am struggling with something. I wouldn't put too much into it with an 8 yr old, I have a child who is 10, sometimes they just have bad dreams at that age. If it is something that happens regularly or your heart tells you your child is struggling with something emotionally, it might be worth looking into therapy.
I have no personal experience....sm
with esophageal cancer, but I just wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear of this.
personal proof? does it have something to do
did ya see a ghost or just have one too many drinks??
It's a personal decision...
I researched this topic extensively and I came to the conclusion that circumcision was not right for my family. We've had no problems because of it. I can see why both sides have their opinions, but ultimately it is up to the individual to decide what's best. For us, no circ has worked. My child is very happy to be intact, as he was created.
From personal experience
I have a 16-yo son like this. I was like this in high school as well. School as we know it is dysfunctional. He probably is bored out of his wits with it all.
Being he is so close to graduation I have no real advice for you other than you have to let him do what he is going to do. If he fails and has to repeat the grade, get him into something like a homeschool program, be it either by you or through a district. Kaplan has one they do through lots of school districts around the country.
My 16-yo hates most of his teachers because they show that they are just there for a paycheck and do not care about him. The work is boring to him...most of it he could do in 8th grade. There is no help for students like this in our country's current educational system.
My youngest is 12. I have pulled him out and homeschool him for that exact reason. The difference has been amazing.
I think it should be a personal decision....
If a person has a medically documented terminal illness and does not want to suffere any more, then I think it should be their right.
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
side note--sm
and don't forget to remove the neck and giblets in the bag inside the turkey prior to baking. I learned from experience. :^)
I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm
to be helping with the kids so she could bring home money. I am sure he has no problem spending any money she makes, but he does not want to be inconvenienced in the course of her making the money. I know, I have the same problem but not as bad as she does. My older daughter did not even know she had a dad basically until she was about 19 months old, then my DH had absolutely no choice but to help as I gave birth to our second daughter. At that point he'd probably only changed 2 diapers. But with kid #2 he helped more than he did with the first one, but still under some duress. To this day he still won't brush their hair, or supervise/help with teeth brushing (he says he doesn't know how to do it, well he does it himself so where is the problem), they are 6 and 8 now. You never feel pestered by your kids, you get on the phone and instantly they want you and nag you to death until you either lock yourself in the bathroom or get off the phone, then they don't want/need you anymore. Yes, I feel pestered sometimes, doesn't mean I don't want to take care of my children, I'd die for them if necessary. The poster is frustrated, obviously being verbally abused and has a jerk for a DH. I can relate and I am sure many others can too. It is hard to be supermom, work, clean, take care of the kids/house, make DH happy, everyone but you comes first, and then when the DH has to actually help out boy you'd think you were cutting off his leg. Well, mine is not like that now, but he used to be. Now he is good about it and likes his time with the kids on his own but they are older now and easier to deal with. They still can drive you nuts though. I hope she can somehow get him to turn around, maybe stop working for 2 weeks and when he sees the money is not coming in maybe he will realize just how important it is that she have the time to work without interuptions and pitch in some to lighten her load.
On a lighter note -
its FRIDAY!!!!!! WOO HOO Thank goodness, what a long week I've had.
Got a tacky thank you note
I went shopping for the gifts and got a printed thank you note. That is just tacky-back. If I have time to shop for a gift, you can at least send a 2 sentence thank you- hey could mention my name and what I gave also. That is how you do things.
could have wrote you note but sm
I have a daughter that is a sophmore.Wamted this certain college. Could not convince to stay in state. It costs her 10,000 dollars more being out of state. She goes from wanting to b there to not wanting to be there to liking it it to hating it It depends on what day you talk to her. Joined the band dropped out, had problem with boyfriend moved across the campus, than they started dating again, then he ends it. She gets upset wants to come home. I get a phone call every night. Everytime we decide to have her transfer or come home she decides to stay. Has changed her major three times. What worries me is she is on Student loans that she will be responsible to pay when she graduates. If she leaves college she will have to start paying immediately, where she would have 10 years if the stays in college. This month she is already over 80 minutes on the cell phone and there is two weeks more to go. She spends hours talking to the ex-boyfriend and they are on the same campus. My husband and I are going to talk to a therapist about this because I want to do tough love. Hang up when she calls crying at 11 p.m. Telling her if she does not get her act together she will have no choice to leave etc. He is the softy. Nothing makes her happy.
By any chance is your son going to a college in New England.
Quick note sm
I think he is incredible, yes, but he is a bit of a perfectionist and even loveingly complains when we don't keep the house "clean enough" or "yardwork needs to be done". I have always said he will either make a wonderful husband or drive his wife crazy. LOL!!!
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Thanks for your note, here's more info...sm
She is doing well in school in some subjects and struggling in others as she has a couple of learning disabilities but has made great improvement with that so far this year. I'm hearing from her teachers and other parents that a lot of her kids her age are now "testing" them and parents like we used to do when we were older. She doesn't make friends at school easily and that's something a counselor is working with her on, because she does things to really annoy other kids and make them not like her.
We already did the drastic measure of taking everything out of her room and that really got to her for about a week, esp since she had to spend every moment she wasn't in school or in bed in her room during that time. She has only earned a few of her things back. Some days she does well and other days she's, like a brat trying to see how much she can get by with.
We don't believe in spanking but when I was growing up, if we ever talked like that we'd have been knocked across a room!
I told her tonight when she got mad at me and screamed in my face to STOP that if she kept this crap up she'd have a very miserably severely grounded life, and that my next measure would be to add to the grounding to her room no afternoon snack, which she loves, to see if that helps get her attention. She also knows that we're going to see Santa soon but we haven't told her the date for that and that if she's not behaving then we're going to make her tell Santa she hasn't been good....and she knows I'll make her do that.
Note for Siren (sm)
I saw your note below about how you are recovering from foot surgery and trying to lose weight. I lost weight about 5 years ago doing Oxycise when I had severe plantar fasciitis. I kept it off for over two years and then stopped Oxycising and gained back what i had lost and more, slowly over the last few years. I just recently started back on it and it is working like a charm. Anyway, it is 15 minutes a day of isometric and breathing exercises. The DVD is kinda nerdy looking and it doesn't look like it would do anything but it really does. It is about $30 and it really does work. Back when I lost so much with using it I was practically their spokes person telling everyone I knew but then I slacked off! Anyway best wishes to you!
I forgot to add to the above note
My children, sibling and parents do not have a key to my house and we are all very very very close, and I don't have a key to any of their houses - and we all feel loved by each other and welcome anytime as long as one of us are there or we arrange it ahead of time to let each other in the house without one of us there. Why in the world would anyone want a key to someone elses home when they don't live there is beyond comprehension for me. I know...maybe I should give them all a key to my house and they drunk on the corner down the road too. Give me a break everyone....better yet give the person who originally posted a break (and some credit for knowing right from wrong).
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I would use a check and be sure to note
Saw this on Judge Judy 1 too many times where people didn't note that on the memo line and it came back to bite them later on. Depending on the type of debt and whether you are mailing the check or dropping it off, I would ask for a receipt. If mailing it, send it certified (check with your post office) and you will get a return receipt for a dollar or 2.
Note my surprise...
I did not realize we knew each other so well. You seem to know my age, my mortgage amount, what kind of car I drive, the amount of my household income. You should really be in a different profession.
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
Having seen this whole thing go down up close and personal =
I have been divorced 13 years, had daughters 8 and 12 at the time, and his mother came first. She seemed to glory in coming between us - it became a game that I was not going to win. There's one thing that I don't think anyone else has brought up yet. Children learn what a relationship should be from watching how their parents treat each other. It became apparent to me that I did not want my daughters to chose a man who treated them the way their father treated me. It has been difficult and I have not had a life because my kids really had to come first and I had to work all the time to keep them comfortable - but I knew I had made a horrible choice and hoped that I could salvage their future relationships.
a believer in God, personal relationship with God
My spirituality comes from many places...
Mother Teresa said:
People are often unreasonable and self-centered. FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. BE KIND ANYWAY.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. BE HONEST ANYWAY.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. BE HAPPY ANYWAY.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. GIVE YOUR BEST ANYWAY.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. IT NEVER WAS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY.
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And that, my fellow MTs/MEs, is something we all should contemplate!
Have a GREAT week!!!
I am personal trainer in addition to an MT
so I am at the gym working out almost every day, and when I am not at the gym, I am on my home treadmill. I like to keep in shape and always have. I find that working out always puts me in a good mood (the endorphin release). I was always active in sports as a kid and have always been very tone and fit. I am also only 25 (26 in September), so my metabolism is pretty fast anyway!
From personal experience, do not stay
for the kids. They really do pick up on this. My oldest (she was 5 at the time) witnessed a lot of fights and other things that really upset her. Also, life is too short to be miserable in any relationship--especially if it has been going on for 3 years. If you have tried counseling and that did not work, then think at least about a separation.
My family told me, after the fact, about how down and depressed I was before I left my ex, and the 100% turn around after I left. It does no one any good to stay when you both are miserable.
sorry, this should be posted under Personal Ponderings
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