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Our son owes us an apology?

Posted By: Backwards typist on 2009-02-11
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He blames us for him quitting school and him working at a job for 6 years that he hated. He is 36-years-old. He refused to go to school and the fines we received for him not going to school cost hundreds of dollars. We made him pay those fines. But the whole point was he hated school, wanted to quit, but we thought if he worked a summer, he would go back. He made the choice not to go back to school even though we begged him to because with education, he would get better jobs, but to no avail. Now he is blaming us for ruining his life. "After all, I spent 6 years at a job I hated and I wasted my life."


He is now in a good job, but it really hurts that he thinks we are the ones that caused his problems. Now he's telling my husband, because there is no work for his occupation, that that's no excuse not to go and get a job somewhere else.


What is wrong with this picture?  I am furious with him. I think he owes my husband an apology. What do you think? 


I'm venting here because if I say anything to him right now, it will go in one ear and out the other. He is totally right all the time in his mind.




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Yes, I do believe he owes you and your husband and apology.. sm
You don't say how old he was when he refused to go to school, but I'm guessing he was high-school aged. I have a son who is now almost 18 and getting him to go to school up until this last fall was a struggle. He is learning disabled and absolutely hated school, couldn't care less if the schoolhouse burned to the ground. Thankfully, I was able to get him into a work program this past fall which will satisfy his graduation requirements and he is very happy with it now. I wish you had had access to some kind of program when your son was in school. However, his choices were his own and he has to accept responsibility for them.
Legally, he probably owes you more
If you really wanted to be technical, legally it needs to be served doesn't it?
This woman owes no one anything regarding the name
I went to my brother's child funeral (my niece) the other day. Brother killed in an accident when this child was 6, she died at 39, raised by stepfather for most of those 30+ years. My maternal aunt and I at funeral and yet the stepfather got up and referred to the deceased as his daughter- my aunt did not like that as basically erased her father from her life but things like this happen- this person can and should name her child whatever she wants. If the relationship is that tedious with only a name, then she does not need those kind of people in her life. Simple.
Ethics, she owes big time,
otherwise why the secret from her husband? Saving her own tail.
Must be he owes back taxes or is
wanted for some other crime that worse than $200,00 is good!
How about sister-in-law who owes big time
My brother had custody of his two children since they were babies. They are not nearly 30 years old but his ex was court ordered to pay child support and she is now in arrears to the tune of over 30K+.....just report their SS# to the IRS yourself so they won't get tax refunds EVER!!
I don't have a clue how much my brother owes
for his children, but at this point he will never catch up. My parents (who are defintely able to do this) payed my ex-SIL instead. My brother just says they are just giving them his inheritance. My parents bypassed him in their wills long ago and set up trust funds for his children. This is while he was still married. As soon as he finally got a job his ex let it be known and money is witheld from every paycheck. At least he is trying a little now and things are starting to look up, but.... I really hate it for all of those who don't have anyone else to step in and help and I really admire the ones that do it all on their own.
Dave is my Baby Daddy who owes $27K,


that's probably me calling....sorry. 


Apology
Opie, I would like to personally apologize for my fellow brother in Christ and I would like to say to Christians: I call on all of you to reread your life manual (Bible) and really pay close attention to the Gospel (Good News) Jesus preached and lived.  Our role, as was his, is not to condemn the world (people).  If you think your role is to condemn or critize the world I suggest you pray first and find out WWJD.  If He wants you to confront someone He will let you know how and when but 9 times out of 10 he will point you to Matt 7: 1 thru 5 or 1 Sam 16:7.  Let us live and preach true Christianity which is that of reconciliation with the Creator and not condemnation.
apology
I don't see an apology as a punishment; I see it as an aknowledgement to wrong doing and making her accountable. It works for my kids, and by now they know I expect it. I understand the little gal was tired, but I simply do not see an apology as a punishment.
You don't owe them an apology (sm)
They owe you one. You remind me of myself up until recent years. Don't always be sorry. You are not always wrong. :-) I know you are just trying to make peace and drop it - but you really have nothing to be sorry for.
an apology

I just realized that I sounded really mean and I apologize.  As a thin person, maybe you don't realize that those of us who need to lose weight, and struggle with it, maybe took your post as boasting about how tiny you are.  If you want to offer support, I'm glad for that.  I'll take it, as I need to lose about 50 pounds.  Again, I'm sorry for being nasty.  It's hard bein' chubby. 


I agree. I think an apology is very appropriate.

Having to admit one did wrong and apologize for it is sometimes the "best" way to not forget the action and not do it again.


Cat, not for you to call for apology
I think the original poster can take care of herself. While most of us do not know the terminology in birthing cattle, horses, etc. Hayseed will do ok just on her own.
ha ha---we ALL owe our parents an apology:-)
Unfortunately we never realize that until our OWN kids put us through stuff.
then why point it out at all if it needs an apology? sm
sounds like you were more offended than any Navy SEAL would be. geez.
Your apology is accepted, Ella...sm
I've never had a person apologize on here to me. :)
The apology was referencing the title, not the author (nm)
Okay, you opened this. It is (nm) in the subject line...

So I will elaborate...

An Iowan is correct

I also had An Walking On Eggshells Mother is not correct...

Get it yet?

Good...

:)