She can request emergency leave.
Posted By: MTinTX on 2008-08-05
In Reply to: Just had an eye-opener -- - sm
My husband is active duty Air Force, so I know a little bit about the military. As far as I know, she can request emergency leave because of the situation with her infant. Also, I do not think they just give military mom's a year off because they had a baby. I know several women that are active duty military that have had children, and they are given the same amount of maternity leave as a civilian.
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Leave some open boxes of baking soda inside and maybe search for carbon filters to leave in there,
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There WAS an emergency for me one Christmas Day..
I was cooking Christmas dinner for our family and my kitchen sink got completely clogged up. Apparently, garbage disposals can only handle so many peeled potato skins, which I did not know then. Husband tried plunging, son tried plunging. The only thing left to try was DrainO, which I did not have. Had my daughter go see if the grocery store was open (hoping, hoping, hoping that it was) and see if they had DrainO or similar brand, and to make sure it was safe for kitchens and garbage disposals.
As she left for the grocery, I was plotting Plan B - which would have been to finish making a delicious turkey dinner with all the trimmings by using a bathtub or the laundry tub. Of course, I could not put any garbage down those tubs.
The grocery WAS open. The Liquid Plumber DID work. My family and I did NOT have to eat a turkey that was washed and cleaned in a bathtub!
So, for me....Thank God for the grocery who is open on Christmas!!!
Emergency sick day!
HARRY POTTER AND THE DEATHLY HALLOWS just arrived by UPS!
How am I going to work now???
(kidding of course)
Go to the emergency room. That's what I ended
up doing for the same reason. I talked to my insurance company and he made me promise that I would go to the ER and tell them that I was in a mentally critical condition. They did give me anti-depressants although it does take a while for the full affect. At least you'll have something on board in the meantime. You should also be able to go to your PCP and get the same results. Whatever you do, go see a doctor. Either your PCP or go to the ER. They do understand and will help.
You will continue to be in my prayers.
I use only for emergency and quick calls. Pay $100 for yr.
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I also use Tracfone as an emergency cell. sm
I use about 120 minutes every 3 months, average $10 a month. Occasionally out of my area I have to use double minutes, but I find it to be a great and uncomplicated service for my use. Have had it for a year. My DH also has one. He uses 400 minutes a month ($100), but he talks to everyone constantly. His choice.
Teen fashion emergency! :) SM
OK, please help if you can. My son and I are clueless when it comes to "cool" fashions. His friends sorta teased him today and said he is really uncool (uncool haircut, clothes, shoes). They jokingly said they were going to do an extreme makeover on him. I laughed at first, but then thought, "Hey! That's not half bad!" He is starting high school in the fall, and I would like to help him with a makeover this summer. He is a nice looking kid, just got his braces off (so has a really nice smile), a little bit on the husky side, but his clothes and shoes are Walmart specials. He is just a basic "boy" hair cut.
What is "cool" for boys? Where should we shop? What kind of haircut is cool for a 15-year-old boy? I'm so clueless!
Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated!
 Chickadee
Use of emergency contact info
You know how when you go to the dentist office, enroll your child in day care, fill out a job application, everyone wants contact information "in case of emergency." Maybe I'm different from everyone else, but I consider an emergency as defined by my falling to the floor clutching my chest while my lips turn blue and I can't talk, or falling down 5 flights of steps, or being hit by a car...you get the idea.
I no longer have a good relationship with my mother (75) because she is getting senile. I can't trust that anything she knows about me won't make the gossip curcuit as the truth or something totally different, plus she wants to die on her own property without anyone else another and be found days later by some unknown stranger who notices her body out in the yard...so I don't visit, either. Last time I visited, her whole face was black and blue because she had passed out and fallen face down on a concrete pad where she stayed until the next day when she was finally able to stand up and go inside, then hide from the world for almost a month...I happened to visit her within a week of it happening. I don't want to be the one who finds her dead on another visit.
The reason this is important is because of a legal situation that I am in totally unrelated to her and I have a gag order on me...and she can't talk to me without taking "no" for an answer when she quizzes me about it, which she will do every single time we talk. So, I've just had to say, have a nice life, love you, let instructions to my sister to call me if anyone needs me.
Now it comes back to those old applications I filled out. My phone number changed and my dentist used my mother's "emergency" contact information to try to reach me, going into great detail the nature of why they were calling. It was just my 6 months cleaning, but I didn't even schedule it because I was moving and changing jobs and couldn't predict if I could keep an appointment 6 months in the future. So my mother calls my ex-husband, my ex-mother-in-law, trying to reach me for this "emergency". My ex-hubby called me.
This is so embarrasing to me. If someone dies, let my sister call me. I don't know what to do or how else to get across to her that she doesn't have the right to interfere in my affairs. The dentist office made the first wrong, and her trying to "save" me was the next one. I'm almost 50 years old and I think I can take care of myself, thank you very much. I let the dentist office have it with both barrels. That was abuse of a reason to call my mother as an "emergency" and they have taken her info out of their system. I have even had to change physicians because my mother and I had the same primary care, and all my visits were relayed to her by the staff..."oh, your daughter looked so good when she was here last week!", which prompts a phone call to my ex-hubby. ARRRGH!! Violation of HIPAA!
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I'm almost at the point of having a lawyer draft a letter to her. I'm past the point of feeling bad about hurting her feelings as she shows no consideration for mine. 
Emergency Communications Dispatcher
cab driver must have been crazy!! :)
Being a 911 dispatcher was both my most exciting, stressful, fun, and worst job ive ever had so it definitely wins. Although I have really only had two jobs in my life, that and MT, so I mean... LOL.
In my town we worked both the fire and police radios, answered business calls as well as 911 calls. I liked working the fire side more because people were nicer. the 911 calls for fire/ambulance were much more likely to say "thank you" at the end rather than a hang up on you for the police side.
I have many stories about the calls we'd get and working police chases, on foot and car...
I've thought about going back to it now that Transcriptionist isn't what it used to be... and they can't outsource that job!
Give it a few days. They may be away, have an emergency, blizzard, etc. nm
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Call the Humane Society or Emergency Vet
Tell them what happened, that the owners are not home, and you are afraid the dog is critically injured. They will then send someone to check on the dog and do what needs to be done.
As far as your neighbors being mad at you for hitting their dog, it is their responsibility to make sure their animals are safely confined. NOT taking a nap in the road.
Don't let the poor beastie suffer for their ignorance. Please call to see if the dog can be helped.
Mine has an emergency phone number to
call when things happen out of the office hours. THe recording at the office should say something about emergencies and what to do about them.
I have an odd request.
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Request it, you just never know...sm
I have been Freecycling for about a year. It can be fun. Just be prepared to work kind of fast if you have something someone wants (and you want to get rid of). Someone requested a mini trampoline, which I offered to her, and she said she had 8 offers within an hour. Believe me, you will have no trouble getting rid of your unwanteds. As for those 10 Magic Fingers...
Request for Advice
Hi,
First time here. I was reading through your posts and thought I could get some none biased advice on my current situation.
I am married for almost three years now, we dated for 4 years prior to our marriage, 27 years old and no children.
Here is my little excerpt on my situation:
During the end of our first year of marriage my husband’s drinking began to be an issue in our marriage, and has progressively gotten worse. At the worst point he would get drunk and pass out at his friends house, received a DUI, he would lie about his drinking, spent two nights in jail, passed out on the floor of the house and in the bathroom, we would fight constantly and of course his addiction cost a small fortune (not including the DUI fees). We went to counseling for about six months straight and all the while he was resistant. I left for a week in October, and came back under the impression that he was going to stop drinking (at least work on it). Things, supposedly, were getting better. He has gotten “drunk” twice, started going to AA meetings, reading the AA book and is thinking about getting a mentor to help him through this process. Well tonight he told me that since I came back (in October as stated above) he has been stopping at the liquor store every day after work and any chance he could on the weekend.
My first reaction (as I have had in the past) is I have to leave, and for much longer then a week.
My dilemma is that he will be alone and depressed, and I will be the same. I just started at a great firm with many people who have their lives “together”, and may not understand if this results in a divorce. I am 27 and could be divorced by the age of 28, and who would be interested. I am religious, and the terms of divorce is pretty much accepted for adultery. He mentioned that the reason that he told me that he has been lying to me is because he is taking the first step which is being honest, but he had just drank so he was loaded.
Sorry for the length and I am sorry if anything I have written above is offensive to anyone, that was not my intension I just thought I would express my feeling on the matter, and I am also a little confused right now.
Thank you and any advice would be appreciated.
What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
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You could just request a diamond solitaire
That's how my husband and I did it. We picked out a nice diamond together, but if your man wants to surprise you you could just tell him what kind of cut you want etc., and he could pick it up himself.
Is that what the prayer request board is for?
nm
It was a prayer request; put it on PR board, please. NM
Goldbird
We have a Prayer Request board - it belonged there. NM
Cher/Moderator
they always request more to cover what others don't send - plus what their budget won't buy -
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A child's prayer request from our kid's choir last night....sm
Matthew, age 6, during our children's choir prayer time last night asked for us to pray for his dad, who was just arrested. When I told him that hopefully his dad would get out of jail soon as I'm sure he missed him, his response was "I don't think so. My dad goes to jail a lot." He wasn't sad when he said this - just said it matter-of-factly. All I could do was tell him that he's not the only child who has a parent in jail and that we'd pray for both of them and his mom.
that doesn't sound normal to me at all. i would request transfer to another facility that has be
i got CT scans in the ER. why the need to wait? assuming they had to wait on orders. does he have a PCP? i'd call the PCP if so and explain the situation and what has transpired and see what he recommends, i.e. jump someones tail or transfer. their should be neurologist on call for this reason. they should make rounds daily whether it is the weekend or not. i'd definitely be there waiting on that neurology consult and fill his ear full and find out what his future plans are if you don't transfer to another facility.
call back and request an appt sooner. Since you are paying for it, they should have no problem
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BTW make absolutely certain that correct contact info is on the request for IEP meeting....nm
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But I am posting this at the request of the parents to get Leigh's story out in hopes that anothe
Jen, I felt strange too but the parents requested it. Thank you for reading the post. Hopefully we can help them in some small way by passing the word.
Mary
A prayer chain has begun on the Prayer Request board. Feel free to
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READ: Prayer requests go on Prayer Request board only. NM
Goldbird
I specifically request the same info as you did, but I rarely (and I mean rarely) SM
get a response as to when the item will be shipped. I've probably done about 100 transactions and only once did I not receive the item and had to dispute it.
I'd just keep trying and be very persistent. Maybe you will get a response
Since it was a prayer request it probably should have been on prayer board. nm
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Leave Them In
My mom uses hers a lot and she leaves them in. I use hers more than I use mine and I leave mine in, too. I just got it out yesterday after a year of not using it and it still worked.
What about when they just leave their
carts in line, taking their packages and leaving for you to move out of the way. I say Excuse me, is this your cart? How rude.
get him help or leave him
nm
No, but I tell her where I'm going and bye-bye when I leave
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I do want to leave, but (sm)
him being so agreeable scares me. I want to believe that he has been thinking the same thing and that me being the one to say it makes it easier for him not to be the "bad guy" but I am just scared that he is going to somehow try to cause me problems, I guess I just don't trust him.
Why leave is everything is okay? nm
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Take this from me. Leave her alone. Seriously. She will come to you sm
when she is good and ready. I was living in a snowed in town, my baby son was born in the middle of winter, my mom was 3,000 miles away, had my MIL with me, husband went back to work a week after son was born. I DIDN'T WANT ANY COMPANY. I didn't realize it at the time but I was suffering from severe PPD. And anything anyone said or did (sister in laws all acted like you did- confused, hurt, did not understand), all because they've never walked an inch in my shoes. I've been where you're friend now walks. Leave her alone. Let her mom know you are still there for her. Don't you dare give up on her, either, due to being offended. I lost a few so called friends because they couldn't handle the way I acted after my first son was born. My reaction: Good riddance. You were never my true friends anyway.
I could write a book on PPD. This is clearly what she is suffering from. And please don't tell me, "oh, just call me! I can help you! I just want to sit in the room with you!" Please. No. You don't understand. It is a severe mental condition. At this point you need meds, rest, and understanding.
Let me make a long story short. I had this one friend from college who INSISTED on seeing me. She came to the house 5 days after I got home. I LOCKED myself and the baby in the room, sat in the rocker and NEVER once left the room. I didn't want to see her. I, the social butterfly, couldn't understand it at the time, but I will tell you that I resented her "bugging" me like that. Of course, 6 months later, we were friends again. But that day was torture for me.
You don't know what she is going through, like I said. Just be there for her. Pray for her. She will come around. 8 days is too soon to bother with her if she is not ready. Having a baby is a truly precious and personal thing and all women have to deal with this event in their own way.
Women must understand this. Even friends.
Leave
Your last paragraph reveals a lot. You don't respect him and he doesn't respect you. You are not shallow. The two of you have grown apart and he is not the kind of man you want to spend your life with. Cut your losses and get out.
I leave it on
but no one eats it. It's kinda hard so I always thought it had a bone in it and probably would be difficult to take off. From now on I will probably remove it.
Leave now
It will be hard, but you can make it. I left after a nightmare of 10 years. I had 2 kids and not much money, but I got help from the state and survived by sheer will. The happiness of being free and the pride in becoming independent are well worth it. Good luck to you. Go get happy!
leave
You said you stayed with family out of state once before - can you take the kids and do that again? That might be the safest thing - then file for divorce, etc. You know him better than we do - so just trust your instincts and keep yourself and your kids safe - but you do need to get out of that marriage. . Take care and let us know how things are going.
She needs to leave well enough alone. He
might seem like her knight in shining army, but she has built a life with someone else. Obviously, she is not too unhappy to have stayed in her marriage for 25 years. Every once in a while I see my ex-fiance and my heart still gives a little extra thump. Then I stop and look at what I have. I have a wonderful husband of 30 years, 2 beautiful children, 1 adorable grandson. What more could I want. Yeah, the first guy was what some would call the love of my life. That doesn't lessen the love that I feel for my husband. The other man is now into his second marriage and, from all accounts, cheated his way through the first and they divorced after 20 years of marriage. As for my marriage, it's had its ups and downs just like any marriage, but, all in all, it has been very, very good and I wouldn't trade what I have for all the "thumps" in my heart. I could have married him and ended up being the one cheated on and divorced after 20 years. Thank God (quite literally) that I was spared that. 
You wish they would all leave?
because you have to transcribe ESLs and it is irritating, now you wish they would all leave? I didn't realize being an MT was so stressful for some. Glad I'm able to handle it. I must be a stronger person. Oh I love coming here! Makes me feel so much better about myself.
Why is it okay to leave this post up, but
delete all the other ones?
Well don't leave us hanging - let's have it!!! nm
Even a big man is not home 24/7. Leave while he is gone
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If she wanted to leave she would have done so
It sounds like it's drama she is posting.
She is a grown woman and could have easily left him during church, while he was sleeping, at work, ect if she *really* wanted to leave.
Please tell me she didn't leave the dog...sm
with him! I'd be afraid for the dog's safety, as well as the dog being used to manipulate your daughter...
i did leave, but came back
I read your post, and just wanted to add to my post below that I did leave and just came back within the last 3 weeks. Things were pretty good at first, but now, even last night, he comes home from work at 2 am. The kids and I have been in bed for hours, and he starts a rant at 3 am about the milk being all gone that he bought the day before, and about my daughter using his shaving cream up in the bathtub. I just don't know where to go at this point. School is getting ready to start and my kids love this area. The only place I could go at this point is my mother's, that is where I went before. I don't know, I'm just venting and praying while I work. Thanks.
I did leave him once for about nine days...sm
After only 7 months of marriage I left and sort of went into hiding from him. He didn't have any idea where I was. When I finally contacted him he was totally distraught. He begged me to come back and made all kinds of promises to get counseling and go to anger management classes. Of course, the same week that I returned the "old" husband came right back.
One reason I really can't leave now is b/c we have total custody of my step-daughter and I am the only mother she has ever truly had. I don't feel like I can leave and desert her. There is no way I could ever get custody of her in our state. Thus, I keep on dragging along taking whatever is dished out my way.
I leave the radio on for them
We go away about once a month for a few days to visit my husband's mother who lives out of state, about a 4 hour drive away, and I always leave the radio on for our 3 cats just to sort of keep them company.
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