Some one please enlighten me....

Posted By: single and love it on 2008-09-27
In Reply to: I agree with most of what you said - Old part-timer

why do people think because you are single, you are not happy or are incapable of having a "best friend" in friends? Does that ONLY come with marriage? Sorry but I have the same thing with friends - I just don't sleep with them. I love my friends, they support me, and put up with my bad days, etc., as I do for them.

For all you married people who think only certain emotions come with marriage -you are wrong. You can have the same exact relationships with friends but as I said, no sex is involved.

So what am I missing out on by not being married? I have love, respect, support, good times, bad times, everything that married people have. I feel the only thing I am missing out on is the drama, fighting, asking for "permission" to go out, etc., all that good stuff. I have been on both sides of the coin and I choose being single as you choose being married. Just please do not speculate that my life is not the same as yours because I am not married. I don't even have to miss out on sex as I can sleep with whoever I choose.

I thought this was 2008 and not the 1950's!! I'm surprised there are still closed minded people about this.

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so please enlighten us already and tell us why...sm

it's all about your own choices now, isn't it? Your descriptions of your significant or insignificant other speaks TOMES to most of us I do believe. You choose to stay married to him yet you come to public boards to *itch and moan* about him.....

I felt the same way about mine and I dumped him 16 years ago and have never regreted one minute of that decision (nor most decisions I've made in life).

Best of luck to you, you sound like you need it!!!

Please enlighten me - why do you have
no worried because he is a Christian man?

Please enlighten ME . .
why the sarcastic tone?