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Talk to niece not your sister

Posted By: Been there on 2007-07-11
In Reply to: need advice... - Concerned Aunt

Make this an oppotunity to bond with your niece.  Don't tell her who told you, just talk to her alone and in a nonconfronting manner.  Her sexuality is none of anyones business, teens have sex its been happening for 100s of years.  She needs to know you are concerned about her health (pregnancy happens and lives change and things usually work out okay, but STDs can kill and infect more than just her.  Offer to take her to a clinic to get tested and encourage that if she is going to be active then she needs to be on birth control plus a barrier method for her safety and her partners' safety.  I would also talk to her about the drinking any other substance use that , may be going on.  Offer her your ear to listen to her need to fit in, which is probably what is going on.  She will hate you if you go to her mom,try talking to your niece first.  See if she wants to go out for some girl time, shopping at the mall and out to lunch or something.  Car rides are a great opportunity to talk and bond with nieces, daughters, etc..., and she can't storm out of the car if she gets upset.


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