Thanks for the validation

Posted By: It's them not youMT on 2008-01-07
In Reply to: Great answer! and what a shame (sm) - Just me

It is difficult being the pastor's wife. And now I am working Sunday mornings, so of course they say I am not supporting my husband as pastor. Alternatively, I say I am because we have 3 kids to raise and when they pay him enough etc. I could quit my job and be a lady of leisure... Oh, you should hear what I get. So, I decided that although a Pastor's wife, I have feelings and my counseling of staying away from controlling people stand. I do not agree with them that how I spend eternity will depend on my attending or not...
My poor husband is in the middle, but he supports me. He even said he'd give up his ministry and work as a mailman full time but I tell him, no, it is my decision, the church ladies have to deal with it and he needs to stick with what he loves to do. Unfortunately, a lot of these places are a magnet for hypocrites and I think they thrive on gossip. My theory is in the end the truly kind people will leave and then who will they pick on? LOL.
Sorry for getting off topic, but more than one doc has said that I am the mentally healthy one for keeping away from control freaks and I will stick with that professional opinion. :)

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How does everyone deal with difficult, and I mean extremely difficult, people. sm - Confused
- less is best....fewer words. If you need to say Hi, do not follow it with how are you, if she asks - nothing more. Again, less is best with these types
- If you really want to get them talking - Anon
- I have known someone like that too - she was my supervisor also - LOL (sm) - Just me
  - LOL - I think we must've had the same supervisor! - Need More Dollahs! - nm
- I worked with one of those people for a few years..sm - R
  - This IS the absolute best way to deal with difficult people. - sm
    - Right on the nose - GF
  - Perfect - Its them not you MT
    - Great answer! and what a shame (sm) - Just me
      - Thanks for the validation - It's them not youMT
        Now this song is in my head: 'Pick-a-little, talk-a-little - (from some old musical)
  - Very true. - Z
    - Go along to get along (sometimes) - Seasoned Survivor

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Thanks for the validation. I thought so too.
that he was still married to his ex in his heart. Sorry, but I don't submit, I don't even know what that is. Man pulling woman by hair into cave to have his way? Could you ever imagine a woman say, He was so wonderful. He submitted to me. Yuck.