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The handle are coming off ...

Posted By: Zara on 2009-01-05
In Reply to: If it is stainless .... - ?

and DH has welded a few back on. This set is about 10 years old, but it shouldn't be doing this.


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How would you handle it!

My mother has this friend who she knew in highschool “Mary”.  My mother moved away very young, but after we moved back (40 yrs later) they started talking again.  Mary used to call my mother and they would go and eat dinner and such.  My mom is 70 and this lady is around same age.  


 


Just for a visual.  Nothing against the weight…My mother is 6’2 and average build and very modest and clean.  Mary is about 5’5 and about 300+.   She has food issues and will just pile food up.  I’m sorry but she is disgusting.  She just wants to sit around and eat and sleep.  


 


Mary had started calling to go out and eat or for coffee and then not pay, expecting my mother to pay for everything.  My mother has taken food to this lady’s house when she cooked a big meal or pot of soup etc. and this lady never returned bowls.  Well one day my mother went and got her and they went to dinner.  When she dropped Mary back off at her house…as my mother says…”She passed gas 4 times, and did not bother to say excuse me!”   My mother is a very well mannered, modest lady and that thoroughly disgusted her.  She refused to take any more of her calls.  She would speak to her in passing or if she saw her at a restaurant but tried to avoid her.


 


Mary just gets bigger and bigger and wears the same clothes days in a row with food spilled down them and will not bathe!   It is disgusting.  My mother and friends have talked with her daughters about getting her some psychiatric help but she has all of her faculties.  She just says she can’t get in the tub and out.  Well, sit on a chair and bathe.  Now she only takes a bath once a week, yes once!  This is when and if her cousin will come and bathe her.  This has become just sorriness.  I have seen these super obese people who can bathe themselves.   She can manage to get up and down and walk and drive and go to restaurants.  If she manage that much she can change her darn clothes!  She is not disabled or so morbid that she cannot manage this, she just does not care.


 


I went to see my mother Sunday.  She said Mary had called the day before and asked to meet for coffee.  First time in over a year.  My mother agreed.  She never, ever talks during this time.  During coffee she asked if mother wanted to go and eat at a particular restaurant, being cordial my mother agreed, 6:00.  Mary called at 5:00 she was ready, then wanted to go get coffee again.  Getting up to go and pay Mary proceeds to gas my mother out again!  Too which my mother again is thoroughly disgusted.


 


Well I had spent the night Sunday night, cleaning for company to arrive.  Mary calls.  My mother who is sick was in other room and I did not recognize number.  Mary asks how she is and I say sick.  My mother had already told her she was sick and would be busy getting ready for company.   I told her she had gone to the store.  Within 5 minutes this lady was banging on the front door!   We were trying to ignore her, assuming it was her.  I was trying to look out window.  Mother usually keeps the door locked for this reason but I was in and out mowing lawn and cleaning.  This heifer (no pun intended) just walked right in, “Hey, how are you” and sat down.  Mother and I mad as fire!!!!  My mother would try not to hurt anyone’s feelings unless they push her.  I was floored.  It was her house and I did not want to say anything.  Well she has on the same clothes from the day before and she is reeking with BO!  Had to Febreeze that end of the couch!   Well she sat on that couch, did not say a word, then proceeded to sleep in my mother’s nice air conditioning for 3 hours!  Snoring like a freight train.  She then woke up and helped herself to an entire box of Cheese-It snacks.  Finally after waking up good at 7:30 p.m. she asked if my mother wants to go eat.  My mother laughs and says sure why not!  Just to get her out of the house.  My mother expressed fears that this lady would come over every day while my family was in town. 



Company arrived yesterday morning.  I called today my sister says “well we had unexpected company POP IN today!”   I told her to tell her not to do it again.  She said same thing, peeping out window and this lady walked right in.  Sat there sleeping.  She waits for someone to cook for her!  My sister said whoo she smells and this is supposed to be “bath day”.  That lady had the same clothes on since Saturday with the same food spilled down the front!


 


Not quite sure how to handle this one, other than my mother ignoring her and not answering the phones again.  She is just too good hearted.


I'm with you. I don't think I could handle that
either.  I think even though you choose to forgive and go on, would you ever be able to really feel the same after that?  I think once trust is broken it is difficult.  I admire couples who work through this.  Maybe in some cases it makes the marriage stronger. 
how to handle
Hi,

Wow. I'm not really sure what to say, but you sound like you really need some support. Have you tried AL-anon or some other support agency for families of alcoholics? Maybe they can advise you, or maybe a lawyer. I think if you call a lawyer, at least the initial consultation is free, but check when you call. I wish you luck and hope things improve for you. Hang in there.
How would you all handle this? sm

My SIL and BIL moved to town in November.  So far I have arranged every get together during the holidays, Super Bowl, picnics, birthday lunches and dinners, and call her on a regular basis.  She has called once.  Yet every time we get together we have a ball and talk for hours on the phone and she says yes she will call, but never does.  I mean, her phone dials to my house, right?  Not even sure what to think here and would hate to lose her friendship, but do I always have to make all the effort?  Is there something I could say that would not sound rude but let her know it would be nice if she made plans once in awhile or picked up the phone? 


what's PH? Posting Handle?????

posting handle!!! lol

You asked how others handle it. They sm
handle it by being the grandmother who stays out of it.  You sent me a nasty email saying you weren't interfering, and did not wish to be judged, but you ASKED, how do others handle it.  Others handle it by letting the parents, not the grandparents, handle it.  Nuff said.  Please do not email me again.
the mammas handle
I have a dad exactly like this. We are estranged 10 years now also. Truly, truly your mom needs to step up to the plate and handle daddy. Her hiding out is cowardly, forcing you and your husband to even discuss daddy on the lawn is unbelievably rude. Your life is not a Jerry Springer show! You're the kid in this. The girlfried can handle him or your mom. I think if you put it to him this way, his pride will get the better of him and he will get off the porch!

I feel your pain! Hang in there!
Here's how I handle finances ...
I am doing well when I see others are not but it takes some priorities and discipline.

I have a budget set. I follow it religiously. It took time to develop it. It includes expenses for maintaining the car and home, clothes, gifts, haircuts, emergency saving, long-term saving. If I have a fluctuation in income where I have excess left over - it goes to savings, not in my spending fist.

I have everything I can set up on electronic banking. It helps keep you on track if you cringe at the thought of being overdrawn and messed up on an electronic withdrawal problem!

Income is direct deposited into 3 accounts: Household checking, personal checking and savings. Household checking is where all expenses are paid out of. Savings, self explanatory. Personal checking is the allowance I have for myself from each paycheck. It is my personal spending.

Once the bills are paid, each payperiod I have a set amount I withdraw in cash from household checking. This is for gas/groceries. That is it. When we run out of cash for gas/groceries, we run out.

Don't carry credit/debit cards or checks with you.

Single most important staep you can take: Live below your means. Whatever your income is, subtract 10% for your savings and then live on the rest. No exceptions. No matter what changes you have to make, if you do not do take this one most important step, you will never have any savings and never get ahead.


If your mother does not handle this
You will all be on the news. This is your mother's problem that she is refusing to handle. She is lucky to have such a responsible daughter as yourself. But not dealing effectively with your father is just sticking her head in the sand. I hope he can't get a gun, because it sounds like he is slowly getting up his courage...
How to handle mama cat.

A few months ago a stray calico started coming to my door.  I found her to be very friendly and so I let her in when I am working.  I started feeding her.  She keeps me company.  I haven't really taken her to the vet yet as I was still wondering if she might be a neighbors cat but none will claim her so I guess she is officially mine.   H agreed to keep the cat outside.  He doesn't want house animals of any kind so I feed her outside but I will let her in during the day time and H has agreed when the weather is cold she can stay closed up in the Utility room at night.  Anyway, she had 4 kittens in the neighbors wishing well a week ago.   I am taking her to the vet to get her fixed as soon as she quits nursing.  I don't know how long that will be though.  The neighbors said that she and her babies can stay as long as they need to.  Anyway, as I was typing along I heard a mew mew.  I looked behind me and see mama carrying one of her kittens into my girls bedroom.  I have my door open and she can get through a hole in the screen.   My girls would love that but I know H wouldn't.   What should I do? 


Had my feelings hurt, how to handle?

About a week ago my elderly aunt called and told me she was having problem with her scalp, asked what did I think she should do, dermatologist she asked. Told her I would be happy to check on an ole timey medicine to apply to scalp, used for daughter before and worked. Distributor no longer made but phamacist suggested something else. I took to her and did not want money for it and told her so. Today I get the cost of the medicine back and then she goes on to say what a terrible smell, stung when she first put it on (says so on the directions which I am sure she read), awful smell, could not go out anywhere, had to wash her hair, just terrible putrid smell. Now, except for a doctors visit every one in awhile, she does not go out and that is not every week. I did this out of kindness and now I feel hurt, not only about her returning the money but most of all how she went on and on and on about how she could not use. She is not senile, has plenty of sense, although elderly still drives and no kind of problems except I think she was kinda rude to me. Any ideas? Should I say something, let it go, not involve myself any more??


The cleverest way to handle the situation is to
I know exactly what you are going through. I think that the great majority of us who work at home and who have children have gone through this. You'd think that this mom would be more understanding if her husband works at home, but apparently not. I also know that parents who work outside the home have all sorts of scheduling/transportation issues to deal with, as do we work-at-homes. But, I think that over time, they ask so often for these little favors that they become completely oblivious as to how rude they are. Maybe they get this way out of desperation, but once they get a "yes" from someone, they return again and again asking for favors.
I have three teenagers, but I've gone through this with neighbors and "friends" when the kids were little. The only way you can get it to stop is to firmly say no. Simple answer: "No. I'm sorry that I can't help you, but my work schedule does not allow me the time to do that." Then quickly finish the conversation. If you are there in person, say that you have to leave and turn away. If you are on the phone, say that you have to go now. Good-bye. Hang up. Don't give her the opportunity to ask why or to say something like, "But it's only a few minutes out of the way, etc." Just end the conversation.
She'll get the message very quickly, and even if she's very dense, she won't ask more than a few times.
I know you feel reluctant to do this. No one likes a confrontation, and you don't want to be rude. But by being short and to the point, and then politely ending the conversation, you should solve the problem. AND the beauty part is... after you've done this once or twice, you will feel empowered and will be able to do this again if someone else wants to impose upon you.
People don't understand that work-at-home does not mean "totally available". They should understand, but most of them don't. You have to stand up for yourself and educate this demanding woman.
Not so much jealous, as they just can't get a handle on why things
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Exactly, like when people say God will not give you more than you can handle?
How about asking the parents of a 4 year old with terminal cancer how they feel about that?

People amaze me sometimes.

I think it's called brainwash?
They are adults and can handle it. After all, this is the tradition
with your husband's family. If they don't want to go, then let them stay home. Surely they were aware this is what your husband's family does on Christmas Eve before inviting themselves to spend the night. Don't ruin family time with your family and your husband's family.
How do you handle being jealous of stepkids?

Big problem, girls!  I have a stepdaughter that I am so jealous of I cannot see straight most of the time when she is here.  The child is 9 years old and has her daddy so wrapped up that when she is here I am just pushed aside completely.  He does not see it, thinks I am just overreacting and is even to the point of starting to take her and spend his visitation time somewhere else and not bring her around me.


I do not begrudge her getting her daddy's attention... I just feel that I should be involved more.  If they are watching a movie, he loves on her and holds her while I am pushed over to the recliner by myself, when its time to go to bed, I go to bed alone while he sleeps with her and if I want him in the bed with me, I have to wait until she goes to sleep and then go wake him up and ask him to come to bed with me.  We cannot close our door when she is here because she will get upset and start banging on it and crying and he will run right out to her (even if we are in the middle of a conversation), we cannot sit together on the bed and watch TV even if she is in her room by herself because as soon as she knows he is in the room with me she starts hollering for him and he runs to her and then proceeds to crawl up in her bed and watch TV with her.  If they are going somewhere it is usually just the two of them and I am not invited because they need to spend some time together.


Granted, he does not get her on a regular basis (his fault, not mine) and he wants her to know that he loves her, but why can't he see that I should be included too?  He wants me to love her and spend time with her and do things with her (especially when there is a football game on he wants to watch, or somewhere he wants to run with the guys for a little while), but then he makes it where I don't want to because once he is ready for her back, I am just pushed aside. 


She calls me "She", not my name; she does not acknowledge me when she comes in the door until he forces her to speak to me; after our living together since she was 4 years old she gets very upset and says that I am not her daddy's girlfriend and that I am just a "friend" and she tells everybody that.  I feel like he enforces that idea when he pushes me aside and he says I am just being ridiculous and selfish by wanting him to spend more time with me when she is here.  I don't even ask him to forego time with her, I just want him to make some time for me (maybe give her a bedtime and have grownup time with me after she is asleep even?).


Am I just ridiculous as he says, or am I right in feeling the way I do?  Help, please...


how to handle a pet you do not care for anymore

In October we got a 7-week old cat from a local vet.  We loved her, she was a sweet ball of fluff.  She is mainly an indoor cat but does like to go out a few times a day.  A few weeks back she started eliminating (both) on my down comfortor, which is a PITA to wash!!!  I thought it was just the comfortor so I would just put it away every day after i woke up.  I thought maybe it was the litter so I have changed the type of litter I used and that seemed to help.  But last night she peed on the bed itself, not the comfortor.  The mattress is only about 6 months old, i'm very upset about this!!


Consequently to me disciplining her for this, the cat does not like me anymore.  She does not allow me to pet her, she will no longer sit in my lap.  The only time she is friendly with me is when I am making food in the kitchen and she comes and rubs on my legs because she wants food.  The only thing I did was take her and put her outside when she eliminated on the bed.  I use a spray bottle to keep her off of the table and now to completely keep her out of my room.  She does not eliminate anywhere else in the house but my bed and the litter pan.


Besides this she plays rough.  She is always biting and scratching.  Maybe it has just been too long since I had a kitten and forgot but do they normally do that? she is not very loving.  This makes me sad as I wanted a lazy Garfield type cat LOL.  I know it's not fair for me to expect her to act a certain way but I can't help being dissapointed.  She is ruining my bed.  I have started putting her outside more but my youngest gets sad when I do as he thinks she won't come back and that is a battle.


Anybody had problems like this?  I know there is a spray you can buy so they will not eliminate on certain places but won't she just find somewhere else to do it?


 


 


What's your opinion on the Monster handle?
I've been researching steam mops, and this one has lots of good reviews. The only negative that I'm finding is that some people find the handle to be flimsy, and a few have noted that they've snapped the handle when they've pushed too hard. I'm on the verge of buying one of these, but I'd like to know about the handle. Thanks!
If you can handle the rent payment,
then let him move on and do not give him any money. Let him figure it out for himself.
he did not handle money at his last job with a bank.
Just because a person has bad credit, does not mean he's dishonest. He did not bounce checks. He did not live beyond his means. He got caught in a layoff. It's a huge stretch from being jobless to embezzlement for crying out loud. There are many jobs at a bank that do not have anything to do with money.

The way things are going with this economy, some of you might be in this situation. I'll be sure to thumb my nose at you when you start wondering what happened.
Can you get him to the PCP? They can handle this type of depression most times -nm
:-)
I am ashamed of doing this, but now how do I handle the information I found?
Yes flame away about how I acquired the info. I know it is WRONG but my instinct told me he was not being truthful.

You see, the man I love has an addiction problem. Through our years together, we have gone through alcohol, drugs, porn, and gambling. Each time my trust is instilled back in him because he proves these are OVER with. I STUPIDLY obviously forgive each time as I love him dearly and the guilt I feel after trying to leave him is tremendous, and he is SHATTERED if I ever go...

Well we have been doing real well lately but we are long distance right now. We got in an argument and I know this is always his breakdown. So I checked his email. I KNOW I KNOW... awful. no it's not the first time because how else do you think i knew before... (and knew that he stopped)... and there it was, the transaction approved for his online gambling request.

I was hoping instead of being flamed, someone would give me some real advice. People say you should NEVER snoop and I agree to an extent, but how else would i know if he is LYING to me when i straight ask him about it? He says NO HE HAS NOT BEEN GAMBLING and then i KNOW not only is he gambling, he is LYING about it. If it is a form of entertainment it is one thing, but I am afraid this will skyrocket into how he used to be (he became very much in debt due to gambling, but that was while he was drinking as well, and i know for a FACT he isn't drinking)

Anyways I know what I did was wrong, I accept the fact people will be mad at me about it... but I do not know how to end it with this man knowing that he can't kick this addiction, without telling him what i have done, or without feeling the MASSIVE guilt for finally leaving after so many years.

NO man is perfect, and I am reminded this by my family. This man is a very good man (i know some will say not if he is doing these things) but i have truly felt that he is the only one that will love me forEVER even through stretch marks, babies, and whatever else i throw his way as he has done a lot for me.

I dont know what to do.
How would you handle a manipulative person who threatens

suicide every time you say you're leaving?  I have been married, for a VERY long time, to a man who has refused to hold down any kind of job, who is an alcoholic, and who is also bipolar. 


He refuses to help himself, take his meds, quit drinking, go to AA, etc.  Over this past year, I have decided enough is enough and I want out.  I have to think of the kids.  I have tried to help him to no avail.  Every time we have the conversation about us separating, he gets drunk and then threatens to kill himself.  The first time he took some pills, claiming he took a whole bottle, when the truth was he took like four.  He freaked out and rushed him to the ER.  This scenario replayed again with him shoving a handful of mystery pills into his mouth the next time when I refused to take him seriously.  Again, he was taken to the ER by the police that time and then was allowed to leave the ER AMA.  Next, time he cut his wrists superficially and that incident landed him in a psychiatric facility for four days and then they let him out.  Which brings us to today when I noticed he had been drinking again and still hasn't looked for a job and so I have bought him a one-way plane ticket to go be with his father.  He is now drunk, asleep in his truck, and took a bottle of pills with him threatening suicide.  I have checked on him and he is breathing and I don't think he's taken any of the pills.


And quite frankly I almost don't care if he has.  I'm so tired of this game and it really angers me that he continually tries to manipulate me with this crap!  I want him gone.  I don't want my kids to see this anymore.  I want peace.  I want quiet.  I want to sit down at my computer and just work without having to deal with all this drama! 


So, now I'm wondering do I let him just lay out there in his truck or do I call the police to go check on him and perhaps take him to the hospital?  One thing I know for sure, I am done going to the ER and filling out papers and watching him act like a complete lunatic to the nurses and doctors and watching them having to put on the soft restraints because he's a drunken fool!  If I call the police, I want to be left out of the loop.  I want them to take care of getting him to where he needs to go.  Is that realistic or do the police have to talk to me because he's legally my husband and I made the call?


And what do you do with a crazy person who refuses to leave your home?  He's not threatening me or the kids.  He hasn't hit me or done anything like that.  He's just a complete crazy man claiming he's going to hurt himself!


I feel like I'm on the verge of exploding!  I want to scream!  I want to just punch him in the face!  God I'm miserable!


I just wanted to vent for a little bit.  It sort of helps me to just pour it all out.  Defuses my temper a bit.  Thanks


Totally agast, unwelcomed guest, how to handle
Last Christmas my husband's nephew was invited for Christmas breakfast and his friend came along. They were from out of town. They about ate us out of house and home and the friend after breakfast helped himself to the remote, changed channels and then spread across the couch and decided to go to sleep. These guys have no manners (older group here and they are hip-hop type guys). They later went to another family's home where they again were unmannerly. Get this, now the nephew calls (we had invited some other people) and he told husband he said he would be glad to give these people a ride!  I know he probably is planning to have another dinner here (now not only his friend is in town but also wife and 4 kids). I would be so mortified to have all those folks show up, I probably would be very, very rude and it would be Christmas. My husband is not confrontational and did not say anything when his nephew said he offered to bring others and from another state. Ok, what would you do in this situation? Thanks!
Hmmm - I dunno.... the way the banks ALREADY handle money,
;)
I have been asked to handle the bridal shower for my niece's wedding and I need ideas!

My niece is 18 and getting married very young, but not getting married because she "has" to, if you know what I mean.  However, the maid of honor is my other niece who is 17 and not in a position to plan and pay for a bridal shower and so I've been asked to plan and then co-host the shower with my neice, the maid of honor for my niece, the bride.  Confused yet?


And the wedding is in August!  So I need to decide on a theme, location, and get invitations out by July.  I want to do something unique and fun, but right now I can't seem to work up a unique idea to save my life!  Help!


Are you sure no one is coming by every day (sm)
to give her food and water and at least a little attention?
I can see where you are coming from
Oh I don't know, just heard they was giving out free food!  Go figure....  How did she hear that with no power?
Please, if you will tell me exactly where these are coming
from. I have read a few places but I want to know exactly what you are speaking of.
So if the end is coming

I've been hearing this crap all my life due to a religious upbringing.  Oooh, we'll be persecuted and have to go live in caves during the end times.  I'm over it!


The only thing one can do is get right with God the best they can.  And that's between them and their deity.


If the planet shifts on its axis, the sun sends out a flair, or any other global disaster, there is no way to prepare for it, physically, mentally, etc.  You'll either be in the right place/time or not.  You'll either die, or not.  Whatever unpredictable circumstance you're in, you'll do the best you can.


And if nothing unusual happens at all on winter soltice 2012, it will still be a matter of surviving whatever socioeconomic mess we are in at that time.


Live your life one day at a time, that's all you can be sure of.  Don't worry about tomorrow because God is already there.  Why go nuts like we did preparing for 2000?  I refuse to stress on it, I did enough time doing that when I was a child having religious propaganda shoved down my throat.  I did more stressing during the 2000 non-crisis because my boss was paranoid and put ME in charge of safeguarding all our electronic medical records from the big crash that never happened.  This time, I don't give a hoot, and I'm not doing anything any different than I would any other day of the year.  Tell your loved ones you love them and go the heck to bed!


its all coming to an end sm

What did you think about last night's performances , who is the winner.


I liked Kris better.   Adam killed Kara's song.   I also think when the judges talked to Kris after his last song it felt like they were saying goodbye to him and saying he did not have a chance to win.  I hope Kris wins to prove them all wrong.  I would have loved to see Allison be in first or second place. 


My DH keeps coming in to inform me that...
he has today off, paid no less, for his birthday.  One more time and I am going to hit him upside the head with the gnome! 
What is this world coming to?

The clue for your caller would have been when you said "hello"?  Don't ya' think? 


Anyone get HBO? Even the coming attractions from

But I understand where they are coming from
because usually self-employed is an iffy thing and the bottom line is where you apply for credit wants to know with some certainty about will you be able to handle a mortgage. I am independent myself but since starting did not ever think about this coming up, of course do not plan on relocating or buying another home (only been in my new home for 3 years now) but being independent never crossed my mind about things like this.
Furniture coming up now
what I want to know, will your groomers put these nails on for you? Also am planning on the wood post and getting a spray bottle. Wish me luck!
I sort of know where you are coming from
with the prices of houses by me. Most people probably don't realize that 400,000 in some areas does not get you much and you probably can't find a 3 bedroom decent house for under 350,000. I think people are getting the wrong impression and thinking you want to live way beyond your means when in reality you just want a decent place to live. As I said, I'm in the same boat and it stinks. Just be careful; sounds like way too much debt to be comfortable with your current situation. Have you thought about moving somewhere cheaper? I am sure your wife can find a job as a nurse anywhere, maybe making even more money; also if she is an RN they can work just weekends and make a full time income. For you, you can always work at home doing MT full time and part time with 2 companies putting in 50 or so hrs a week for now. You'd save on any kind of childcare that way at least while the baby is an infant. But then you may have to put off school. Unfortunately this is what happens. We can't have it all as much as we'd all like to. Sounds like at least you do have a few options, though, the way I see it; so good luck whatever you choose to do.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.

I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.

Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
How are you coming along with it now Hayseed? nm
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Weekend coming. What is everyone doing?
xx
I do understand where you are coming from
My MIL is a very big part of our lives and is very close wtih my son and daughter. That is all well and good but for years she would ask the kids if they wanted to go somewhere with her (like a day trip to a nursery or shopping without asking me first. If I said no we already have plans then I was the mean mommy. It took me several years to finally get through to her that I would really like for her to check with me first. She did this again last Sunday asking my son to go to a nursery with her that is about an 1 1/2 hours away. He is now 16 and I know we didn't have plans for that afternoon so I overlooked it. Be glad that she lives 80 miles away. Mine lives 8 miles. We used to live in the house right behind the family business that she had my DH run. She called one day saying she was going to town and did I need anything. Yes, a gallon of milk. Oh, I'm not going to the grocery store, just the post office and bank. I guess if I had needed stamps or a roll of pennies she could have helped me out. LOL. Just take a deep breath, smile through gritted teeth, and be thankful she wants to be a part of her grandchilden's lives.
My sympathies for what is coming...sm
I know the look you are talking about. It breaks your heart. I lost my dog a few years back. He was the first present my husband ever gave me and I had him for 15 1/2 years. We have other pets, but nothing takes the place of him. My best to you and your kitty friend. Take Care.
coming up soon, next week I think...
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Coming to? I think we're beyond that.
This is mild what he did compared to what else goes on. Where've you been?
Can't you see it all coming to pass? sm
Everything we learned would happen is happening right now.
Are they coming through your screens?
If so, a friend of mine told me to spray my screens with bug spray.  Of course, I misunderstood her the first time and sprayed mine with hairspray -- big no-no!  I had bugs galore trying to beat down my screen to get in.  But anyway, if you have screens, trying spraying them with bug spray.
My boy is FINALLY coming around . . .
The last year or so he has been quite obnoxious and I was thinking what happened to my compassionate young man? Now he is 12-1/2 years old and the smart-alec is disappearing, or at least he doesn't rear his ugly head much these days. It's just so different with boys that I am not sure how to handle it. I could help my daughter, because I knew what she went through, but my boy . . . that's a different story!!! He has been kinder, his voice has dropped, he is breaking out, oh yea, hormones are kicking in. I think boys don't get emotional like girls though, they get mouthy and aggressive. There's your difference. IMO
do you know where the fish is coming
from? Kind of scary after watching some consumer reports. The state of Alabama is one of the few to have a fish inspector and he will not order fish in a restaurant in his own state! You don't even want to see where they catch fish in China or what they are fishing in. That is being sent over here. Good luck.
I think I understand where you are coming from
but please know that I am not some sort of angry person that "bans" MIL from seeing our child. These issues have gone on for about 7 years and we have tried to be logical and kind to her but she just doesn't get the message. I don't think its her place to talk about s*x with or around my child, nor do I think it is her place to talk about Santa in front of him, as he still believes. It is a shame that some feel they have to protect a child from a grandparent but hey, you can't always trust your family. It's sad. You do, however, have to protect your child and their innocence - that's your job as a parent. My child still has contact with his granparents, it is just limited and in a long distance situation, many kids do not see their grandparents but once a year so I don't see this being detrimental to the relationship to prove a point that otherwise goes unnoticed. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, as you said, IMHO, and I don't want anyone to get the idea that I was endorsing cutting all ties.
About the coming change to all...

If there's anyone left on the planet (well, maybe it's just this country) who doesn't know this, and isn't sick and tired of hearing about it, seeing TV spots about it, etc. It's been going on for what, almost a year? It started before Feb 2008 because some got the idea THAT was when it was going to change, but it was 2009- over a year away.


I haven't paid much attention to it, after hearing that if you have cable or satellite you don't have to do anything, that takes care of it, but was noticing recently, one of our TV channels has (at times) a marquee running along the top of the picture, telling about it. At first I thought it was some breaking news like WW3 or the troops coming home from Iraq, but no, it was the same stuff about the change to digital and SOME TVs won't work (but some channels will still be in no digital, maybe the PBS ones can be?) 


Thinking it was some big news story, I read it, and I don't know if it's been saying this all along but, along with saying you won't get (or might NOT get) good or any TV when it changes, unless you get a converter box, it also says YOU CAN USE A VCR OR DVD (as a convertor)!


Not a lot of people don't have a VCR or DVD player and if not, you can get a cheap one for $39.99 or so.


So, you can hook up your antenna to the VCR or DVD player and that "converts" it to the digital the TV needs, and you also get the VCR and DVD player (if you don't already have one)? So, why haven't they said this before? Or, if they have it wasn't stressed.


People can get coupons to buy a converter box, more wires and things to hook up, when they can use their VCR or DVD player (or buy a cheap one and watch tapes or DVDs or record, etc. on them, too)?


Maybe I have this wrong, but I know it said you either MIGHT need a convertor box, OR a VCR or DVD player to get the digital signal (just not with your TV and anntenna)


Just thought I'd pass this on, in case anyone who uses an antenna still hasn't gotten a converter box but might have a VCR or DVD player (or would rather buy one, instead)