Coming to? I think we're beyond that.
Posted By: sm on 2008-03-12
In Reply to: Just on the news - NY governor - OHMT sm
This is mild what he did compared to what else goes on. Where've you been?
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I understand where you're coming from...
for people to be helpful in a positive way and not judgmental, after all it does and can affect anybody. But, I still think the best approach is through the school system, school nurse, other services, etc. I know at our school they were reluctant even admitting to me that there was a problem and had never sent out notes alerting parents before I talked to them because of privacy, and as I said, I don't need to know who, just an alert to the fact. In fact, the teacher probably should not have told me who, specifically, had the recurrent problem. I think it might be okay to contact a parent if you know them personally as a friend, but just to contact someone that you are not close to, no matter how good the intentions and tactfully presented, that you understand there's a problem and offer your help, they may want to know how do you know?? and who told you that? and could open door to all other kind of issues. Coming from a family with a dad as a school administrator, you wouldn't believe the trouble people can cause over things, but I do think a generic note is appropriate, and as I said, there was a school that closed its doors for I think a week or two, it was so rampant, so people could try and get control of it. I think it would be okay for the school nurse or administration to offer avenues for assistance and ask if the family would like help from others. It really can be a pesistant bugger to control if the parents don't have the ability to keep on it for whatever reason. I am an MT, but wasn't always, was a nurse aide in college and lab technologist, so have seen most everything out there. I think we're just letting off a little steam here because of the frustration, not trying to be pains or uncaring. Good luck in nursing school! From what I saw (almost switched to nursing when I was in college) it's a tough, tough job and hard, often very emotionally and physically draining work, but can be one of the most rewarding careers out there I think...I was a nurse aide in ICU/CCU on the graveyard shift in college and there were plenty of tears shed behind the scenes and also some great happy endings!
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
Are you sure no one is coming by every day (sm)
to give her food and water and at least a little attention?
I can see where you are coming from
Oh I don't know, just heard they was giving out free food! Go figure.... How did she hear that with no power?
Please, if you will tell me exactly where these are coming
from. I have read a few places but I want to know exactly what you are speaking of.
So if the end is coming
I've been hearing this crap all my life due to a religious upbringing. Oooh, we'll be persecuted and have to go live in caves during the end times. I'm over it!
The only thing one can do is get right with God the best they can. And that's between them and their deity.
If the planet shifts on its axis, the sun sends out a flair, or any other global disaster, there is no way to prepare for it, physically, mentally, etc. You'll either be in the right place/time or not. You'll either die, or not. Whatever unpredictable circumstance you're in, you'll do the best you can.
And if nothing unusual happens at all on winter soltice 2012, it will still be a matter of surviving whatever socioeconomic mess we are in at that time.
Live your life one day at a time, that's all you can be sure of. Don't worry about tomorrow because God is already there. Why go nuts like we did preparing for 2000? I refuse to stress on it, I did enough time doing that when I was a child having religious propaganda shoved down my throat. I did more stressing during the 2000 non-crisis because my boss was paranoid and put ME in charge of safeguarding all our electronic medical records from the big crash that never happened. This time, I don't give a hoot, and I'm not doing anything any different than I would any other day of the year. Tell your loved ones you love them and go the heck to bed!
its all coming to an end sm
What did you think about last night's performances , who is the winner.
I liked Kris better. Adam killed Kara's song. I also think when the judges talked to Kris after his last song it felt like they were saying goodbye to him and saying he did not have a chance to win. I hope Kris wins to prove them all wrong. I would have loved to see Allison be in first or second place.
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
My DH keeps coming in to inform me that...
he has today off, paid no less, for his birthday. One more time and I am going to hit him upside the head with the gnome! 
What is this world coming to?
The clue for your caller would have been when you said "hello"? Don't ya' think? 
Anyone get HBO? Even the coming attractions from
But I understand where they are coming from
because usually self-employed is an iffy thing and the bottom line is where you apply for credit wants to know with some certainty about will you be able to handle a mortgage. I am independent myself but since starting did not ever think about this coming up, of course do not plan on relocating or buying another home (only been in my new home for 3 years now) but being independent never crossed my mind about things like this.
Furniture coming up now
what I want to know, will your groomers put these nails on for you? Also am planning on the wood post and getting a spray bottle. Wish me luck!
I sort of know where you are coming from
with the prices of houses by me. Most people probably don't realize that 400,000 in some areas does not get you much and you probably can't find a 3 bedroom decent house for under 350,000. I think people are getting the wrong impression and thinking you want to live way beyond your means when in reality you just want a decent place to live. As I said, I'm in the same boat and it stinks. Just be careful; sounds like way too much debt to be comfortable with your current situation. Have you thought about moving somewhere cheaper? I am sure your wife can find a job as a nurse anywhere, maybe making even more money; also if she is an RN they can work just weekends and make a full time income. For you, you can always work at home doing MT full time and part time with 2 companies putting in 50 or so hrs a week for now. You'd save on any kind of childcare that way at least while the baby is an infant. But then you may have to put off school. Unfortunately this is what happens. We can't have it all as much as we'd all like to. Sounds like at least you do have a few options, though, the way I see it; so good luck whatever you choose to do.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.
I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.
Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
How are you coming along with it now Hayseed? nm
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Weekend coming. What is everyone doing?
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I do understand where you are coming from
My MIL is a very big part of our lives and is very close wtih my son and daughter. That is all well and good but for years she would ask the kids if they wanted to go somewhere with her (like a day trip to a nursery or shopping without asking me first. If I said no we already have plans then I was the mean mommy. It took me several years to finally get through to her that I would really like for her to check with me first. She did this again last Sunday asking my son to go to a nursery with her that is about an 1 1/2 hours away. He is now 16 and I know we didn't have plans for that afternoon so I overlooked it. Be glad that she lives 80 miles away. Mine lives 8 miles. We used to live in the house right behind the family business that she had my DH run. She called one day saying she was going to town and did I need anything. Yes, a gallon of milk. Oh, I'm not going to the grocery store, just the post office and bank. I guess if I had needed stamps or a roll of pennies she could have helped me out. LOL. Just take a deep breath, smile through gritted teeth, and be thankful she wants to be a part of her grandchilden's lives.
My sympathies for what is coming...sm
I know the look you are talking about. It breaks your heart. I lost my dog a few years back. He was the first present my husband ever gave me and I had him for 15 1/2 years. We have other pets, but nothing takes the place of him. My best to you and your kitty friend. Take Care.
coming up soon, next week I think...
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Can't you see it all coming to pass? sm
Everything we learned would happen is happening right now.
Are they coming through your screens?
If so, a friend of mine told me to spray my screens with bug spray. Of course, I misunderstood her the first time and sprayed mine with hairspray -- big no-no! I had bugs galore trying to beat down my screen to get in. But anyway, if you have screens, trying spraying them with bug spray.
My boy is FINALLY coming around . . .
The last year or so he has been quite obnoxious and I was thinking what happened to my compassionate young man? Now he is 12-1/2 years old and the smart-alec is disappearing, or at least he doesn't rear his ugly head much these days. It's just so different with boys that I am not sure how to handle it. I could help my daughter, because I knew what she went through, but my boy . . . that's a different story!!! He has been kinder, his voice has dropped, he is breaking out, oh yea, hormones are kicking in. I think boys don't get emotional like girls though, they get mouthy and aggressive. There's your difference. IMO
do you know where the fish is coming
from? Kind of scary after watching some consumer reports. The state of Alabama is one of the few to have a fish inspector and he will not order fish in a restaurant in his own state! You don't even want to see where they catch fish in China or what they are fishing in. That is being sent over here. Good luck.
I think I understand where you are coming from
but please know that I am not some sort of angry person that "bans" MIL from seeing our child. These issues have gone on for about 7 years and we have tried to be logical and kind to her but she just doesn't get the message. I don't think its her place to talk about s*x with or around my child, nor do I think it is her place to talk about Santa in front of him, as he still believes. It is a shame that some feel they have to protect a child from a grandparent but hey, you can't always trust your family. It's sad. You do, however, have to protect your child and their innocence - that's your job as a parent. My child still has contact with his granparents, it is just limited and in a long distance situation, many kids do not see their grandparents but once a year so I don't see this being detrimental to the relationship to prove a point that otherwise goes unnoticed. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, as you said, IMHO, and I don't want anyone to get the idea that I was endorsing cutting all ties.
About the coming change to all...
If there's anyone left on the planet (well, maybe it's just this country) who doesn't know this, and isn't sick and tired of hearing about it, seeing TV spots about it, etc. It's been going on for what, almost a year? It started before Feb 2008 because some got the idea THAT was when it was going to change, but it was 2009- over a year away.
I haven't paid much attention to it, after hearing that if you have cable or satellite you don't have to do anything, that takes care of it, but was noticing recently, one of our TV channels has (at times) a marquee running along the top of the picture, telling about it. At first I thought it was some breaking news like WW3 or the troops coming home from Iraq, but no, it was the same stuff about the change to digital and SOME TVs won't work (but some channels will still be in no digital, maybe the PBS ones can be?)
Thinking it was some big news story, I read it, and I don't know if it's been saying this all along but, along with saying you won't get (or might NOT get) good or any TV when it changes, unless you get a converter box, it also says YOU CAN USE A VCR OR DVD (as a convertor)!
Not a lot of people don't have a VCR or DVD player and if not, you can get a cheap one for $39.99 or so.
So, you can hook up your antenna to the VCR or DVD player and that "converts" it to the digital the TV needs, and you also get the VCR and DVD player (if you don't already have one)? So, why haven't they said this before? Or, if they have it wasn't stressed.
People can get coupons to buy a converter box, more wires and things to hook up, when they can use their VCR or DVD player (or buy a cheap one and watch tapes or DVDs or record, etc. on them, too)?
Maybe I have this wrong, but I know it said you either MIGHT need a convertor box, OR a VCR or DVD player to get the digital signal (just not with your TV and anntenna)
Just thought I'd pass this on, in case anyone who uses an antenna still hasn't gotten a converter box but might have a VCR or DVD player (or would rather buy one, instead)
The handle are coming off ...
and DH has welded a few back on. This set is about 10 years old, but it shouldn't be doing this.
I did, but got more money coming
in April, in fact more than twice what I am making now so intend to throw quite a chunk each month towards the card and whatever else my little heart wishes.
Family coming over
We make marinated chicken wings, 7-layer dip, meatball and Italian sausage sandwiches, potato salad, and of course BEER - lots of that ;-)
GO STEELERS!!
Not at all surprising, saw it coming
surprised she stayed as long as she did. When he was arrested for his drunk driving and his verbal outbursts the couple separated then. He has been seen in bars with other girls and the latest was romping in the ocean with a young thing, not his wife. These things have played out in the National Enquirer and other rags for some time.
In response to the above poster. I know where you are coming from.
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Can't you feel a little toothache coming on?
:-)
Tax refund slow in coming. sm
I e-filed a couple weeks ago with TurboTax and the "where's my refund" tool on the website says there is a delay in processing my refund. I have no idea what the delay could be, but I am running out of funds quickly since my son's father has decided to start stiffing us on child support. Is anyone else experiencing this delay? Has never happened to me before. Quite frustrating and very depressing since it's class ring time and the list goes on and on. TIA.
coming in late on this topic
I'm the grandma who has custody of grandchild. My custody papers allow 2 visits a months with the parents and more "as agreed to by both parties," but all are supervised and no overnight visits. I will not allow either parent into my home, so we were meeting at a fast food place with an indoor playground.
Because of suspected (and now admitted) drug use, I suspended visits until a clean drug test could be produced. In a few weeks, it will be a year. I talked to my lawyer about this before I suspended visits. I could not withhold visits due to failure to pay CS. I could be held in contempt of court and go to jail. However, since no judge is going to say it's okay for a parent on drugs to visit with the child, that is a different matter. In only 6 months, the parents are behind by $6k...I'll never see any of it.
My attorney told me the only way to withhold visits is if there is a situation that would place the child at risk - child abuse, parental drug abuse, sexual abuse, etc., otherwise you have to follow the court order or go back to court and ask the judge to revise the order with documentation of the reason for the request.
The noncustodial party can always go to court and ask for a revision of vistation as well to get more liberal visits.
I apologize for coming off rude
That was not my intention.
You just said you are just starting out - wait until you both are more established before jumping into something so final. When you both are making more money, then $2700 a month might be doable with all of the other expenses that everyone has.
Seriously, sit down with a piece of paper and a calculator and add it all up including whatever you spend on gas, groceries, car payments, credit cards. Then think about how much your utilities will be at this new house. Unless you have a TON of money saved up or you are getting help from an outside source such as family, there is no way that you can pay $2700 a month just for your house payment with the income you have right now.
You have plenty of time to get into the "perfect" house but do not ruin your finances/credit to do it too early.
You could always move to Georgia - you could afford an awesome house for half of that price here!!!!! And gas and everything else is cheaper! :-) Good luck with everything - just be smart about it, please!!!! Use your head not your heart when making these kind of decisions.
No, I do not do this all the time. I have a relative coming from out sm
of town to visit. That's all.
JERICHO! It's coming back!
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Worry about your inlaws coming in..
sounds like you invite 1 and all.
Thanks for coming back and also clearing up, at least for me,
about the defiance and breaking rules crap. I hope all goes well for you daugther. I think that all situations are different and warrent some investigation before things get out of hand. You IMO handled it well at the school as well as on this board. As we know, some of rules and laws that are meant to protect us end up hurting us sometimes.
Ours actually seem to be slow in coming this year, except
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We are up to 5 inches of snow since this AM with more coming...sm
along with some ice by time my husband needs to drive home. I have no idea why we stay in Ohio! I cant wait for summer to come!!!!
I plan on going there this coming weekend!
I LOVE Yankee candle! I have candles from there all over my house! I haven't had a chance to check out the newer scents yet, but my all time favorite summer scents are Storm Watch, Cottage Breeze, Sand and Sun, and Midnight Cove. I'm sure there are a lot more that I love, but I just can't remember all of the names right now! I have Chocolate Chip Cookie burning in my office right now and Macintosh Apple in my living room.
Maybe the small town gal coming out in me,
but I'd help as much as I could. My mom's that bad with a computer, and after I got it straightened out for her when it was really bad..most of the time it's something really simple. She'll say something like that where her email won't come up and it's just that she's hitting the wrong button or has her number lock key on or something. I guess maybe you could ask yourself if you or your hubby were away and something happened, would they help you? If the answer is no, then by all means let them fend for themselves. Like I said, might be the small town gal in me, but we help our neighbors any time they need it and we're able to.
Kids friends are always coming here too
One of their friends said she loves my house because it is "so homey". I think it was a polite way of saying my house is always a mess and very comfortable!
This is simple.. The election is coming up. sm
They are trying to make things look better than what they are to the average consumer. I will be more than shocked if the gas prices don't immediately start to increase once the election is over. My 2 cents only! :)
It should be coming your way. I like the snow too, but just a little too early for me.
The roads are getting covered now. I guess I better get the shovels out. It is like a blizzard with the wind, but I am cozy too.
All these people are coming for thanksgiving...
My house is a cluttered mess. I just don't know where to start. I mean, I guess I do...I've been to Flylady.net...but it seems so overwhelming. What I thought would be fun is giving me heart palpitations. Any advice?
I really wouldn't worry about her not coming
to the shower. She really could have something planned that she is not goign to be around during the time of the shower that has been in the works way in advance of your shower invitation.
Any idea where the hostility is coming from?
Did you have a spat earlier? May I humbly suggest you take off the injured wife hat and put on the cap of friendship for a moment or two?
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