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You have all my sympathy ! Been there, done that. nm

Posted By: NYMT on 2009-06-20
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    No sympathy here.
    I was taken advantage of by a family member when I was very young. I blocked it out for years -- almost lost my marriage because of it. When the flashbacks came I thought I was losing my mind. I feel no sympathy for anyone who does this to a child. Speaking from the otherside of it -- you may move on, but it stays with you forever. It is a club I would rather not be a part of.
    No sympathy--sm
    I have read the message from the poster below reminding us that the abusers are someones child, as well. That someone loves them too. Well, love them, yes. Condone what they did. NO.

    It is just my opinion that these types of people CANNOT be *rehabilitated*. It is as much within them as homosexuality is within a homeosexual person. It is not something that is *learned*. It is bred within them and cannot be *cured*.

    I was, and I will use the term that was inflicted on me, RAPED...40 years ago. It is still within me. Yes. I have *moved on* and do not think about it or dwell on it...but the after effects just never go away. It has affected every male/female relationship and some friendships that I have ever been involved in. I have given up on trying to have a relationship with anyone, as my psyche will just end up ruining it. I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than to ever hurt anyone else again. The person who inflicted himself on me has nothing to bear within his soul. He will never know the kind of pain he has inflicted upon others. He just gets his *satisfaction* and moves onto the next one..until he is caught. But even then, his *sentence* can never come anywhere close to what he has done to his victim. Ever.

    so. no sympathy here. That one *event* changed my life forever, but not his.
    Don’t need sympathy from you or anyone here
    I said rudeness, saying a person not smart enough to ask something- this is, like I said, a forum. People can and do ask a lot of different things here- not that you have to fricking use the advice! Not that you take the advice always! But, people sometimes have similar things happen in their lives. That is what I am saying. No sense in people being suck jerks!
    no sympathy, as long as they are
    rightly convicted. I myself have been molested as a child, not severely, not even long-term, but it has had a PROFOUND effect upon my mental/emotional/sexual being. It took flashbacks after almost 30 years to piece it all together and understand the impact upon my life. and NO, i don't think they 'rehabilitate'. I think life in prison is the minimal most of these offenders should do. Death would be better for the more persistent and violent offenders.
    Now I will give you my sympathy as you did for me
    the other day as my baby Kitty-Kat was dying. I really feel your sorry.
    not a sympathy card...
    Just a congrats on your new baby and friendship, etc... No, sympathy on behalf of the baby would be totally out of order. The baby is fine except for a common foot deformity. It is correctable. No she needs a pick me up card. Something to brighten her day.
    Thanks for the advice and sympathy.
    It's not just the pain, but have you also had such trouble procrastinating, or when you get started, cannot keep concentration? Combine all three, and heavens it is hard to get through a day. I am a bit better today compared with yesterday, thank God.

    I will be sure to try the flax oil and taurine supplement you suggested, "MT also in NC." Thanks so much.
    Not looking for sympathy, in fact
    I figure to get the opposite! Doesn't matter! I'm a smoker ... yeah that's right, a dirty low life scum of the earth polluting your air smoker! One of the few little pleasure I have in life. When the price of cigarettes went sky high, we started "rolling our own". It was a lot cheaper, for a while. The price of the tobacco went up, but still much cheaper than cigarettes. Well today, DH was informed at or local tobacco store, that because of a new tax hike, it will go from $9.14 a can to over $20.00 by April 1st? Ok. I'm done, let the stoning begin...
    Do you have sympathy for child molesters?

    Can they be rehabilitated, or should they serve life sentences?


     


    Many people seem to have such mixed feelings about child molesters, like “Well he’s always been such a nice guy,” (duh, how do you think they convince the kids to trust them?), or “They really can’t help it.”


     


    I personally do not have mixed feelings.  I believe they should serve life sentences for the torturing of these children.  I believe that 99% (if not all) cannot be rehabilitated, they are child rapists for life.  In many states molesters are only charged with a misdemeanor if they fail to register as a child molester.  This is unacceptable.


     


    Please write your senators and governor and urge them to fund the ADAM WALSH ACT, which will make failure to register a FELONY and help make consistent and uniform laws for ALL STATES.  Most of these rapists are not dumb and take advantage of the vast differences in state laws, hopping from state to state trying to find the most lenient laws.


     


    The link below will take you to oprah.com to download a prewritten letter that can be sent to your representatives and links to their addresses.  It took me less than 2 minutes to print all the information out, and it could help change our country.


     


    http://www2.oprah.com/tows/slide/200702/20070221/slide_20070221_284_118.jhtml



    It is estimated that 1 out of every 4 girls and 1 out of every 10 boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are 18.  Over 260,000 children are abducted each year in America.  PLEASE DO YOUR PART TO HELP.


    I just wanted to send my sympathy your way...
    May you find comfort in the Lord. 
    Sympathy cards are so inadequate sm

    Maybe the people who did not give you cards had a difficult time finding something and just didn't get one at all because of that. I spent a great deal of time at the store yesterday looking through cards to give a friend who just lost her 7-year-old son. They all say basically the same thing and none of them say the right thing because there is no card in the world that will bring a loved one back. In the end, I did pick one out to give the family but still feel it is woefully inadequate to express how my heart aches for them and their loss.


    Need help on what to write on sympathy card for baby SM

    My friends just lost a baby to SIDS.  The funeral is tomorrow.  Unfortunately I can't make it, but I'm sending a sympathy plant/flowers.  I'm at a total loss for words.  What should I write on the card?  Appreciate any input.


    I was just saying I think it would be out of line also to send her a sympathy card...
    I AM leaving her alone. I am just asking for other insight since I don't understand this. Like have other people done this. I am not pushy. If I were pushy I would keep calling and asking to speak with her or go over. I am respecting her wishes. I haven't been over because she said she doesn't want anyone over. How am I pushy?
    How important is it to you to receive a sympathy card

    How important is it for you to receive a sympathy card?  I know this has been quite a long time now (3 years), but still bothers me.  My mom died 3 years ago and I received only 3 cards.  One from my DH's aunt & uncle and my best friend sent me 2 cards.  Nobody else sent me a card.  My MIL, BIL (3 of them - all married), SIL, co-workers (8 of them), people in my quilting guild that I've been quilting with for years and years.  None of them.  I went back for the funeral and listed to my sister and aunt tell each other about how many cards they got and how much they were loved by their friends (they made it into a joke as to who was more loved by who got more cards :-)  My sister got about 18 or 20 cards and my aunt got about 30.  They said they were sure when I got back I'd have many cards waiting for me (I flew back 2 days after hearing of my moms death).  My sister even offered me some of her cards.  I came home and had just the 3 cards.  My best friend also send me some "cheering up gifts".  But still nothing from anyone.  I never said anything to DH but it bothered and still does bother me that people thought so little of me than to send me a card letting me know they were thinking about me.  The worst thing was that I always sent them birthday, anniversary, and sympathy cards to them.  I even would send them sympathy cards when their pets died.


    Well I'm over it, but every once in awhile I think about it and it just saddens me.  So now I don't send any of them any cards for anything.  Just wondered if it bothers other people like it did me.


    Dating sympathy (from married person)
    I would hate to go back to dating. I've been married 18 years but I do remember what single life and dating were like.

    The majority of them were creeps for one reason or another (especially the one going to law school - I got my first clue when I saw a sticker inside his car - his last name is also an occupation and the sticker said _________ know all the right strokes). (eye roll)

    I mentioned in another post that I had moved into an apt. with my boyfriend of about a year, and 3 weeks later, he left me for his ex-wife.

    At that point, I swore off of men. I figured I'd just live in the same apartment and go to work at the hospital 5 days a week for the rest of my life. That's when my husband walked into my life.

    I had first met him in 1985 when, after graduating high school, I went to work at McDonald's. He was a swing manager, 2 years older and so darned handsome. We dated for quite awhile but it wasn't exclusive. He then joined the navy and got married. Three years later, his ex told him she needed to get a life and filed for divorce.

    About 3 months prior to this, I swore off men for good. Then, one day, I was working a Saturday at the hospital (I think it was to make up for the day I missed when I had a diagnostic laparoscopy - yeah, it was stupid going back to work the day after you have surgery). I got a phone call from my mom, asking me if I remembered such and such. My husband's sister had called my parents' house but my mom didn't want to give out info, so she called and gave the info to me. I called his sister and we gabbed. I told her I remembered her and definitely remembered him. She asked me to meet her and her boyfriend at a bar along with my (future) husband. Well, I said "what the heck". I agreed to go.

    Now, this is 3 days status post a laparoscopy and they weren't as good about getting the CO2 out back in 1990 as they are today and that day, I had gas so bad, I probably could have filled up my gas tank 3 times over. I spent almost the entire date squeezing my cheeks together (thankfully we weren't dancing or doing other physical things - LOL). I still had a really good time but was relieved when I left his house. I lived about 10 minutes away and I swear, I must have passed gas the entire ride home.

    He knows all about it now. Heck, I can't remember the last time I even closed the door to the bathroom. We have no kids and if I do close the door, all 3 pugs sit outside and scratch the door, whine and cry. I gave up. I'm sometimes even "lucky" enough to have one of them on my lap while I'm going.

    Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is love/good relationships seem to come when you least expect them. When I pursued dating or had someone fix me up, or met a guy in a bar or whatever, it never ended well. Nowadays, how do you know if you're supposed to pay half for the date?

    Like I said, I feel for you guys. If my husband dropped dead tomorrow, I think I'd remain single the rest of my life.

    Good luck to all of you and God bless!



    I just got back from buying a sympathy card for my brother's MIL, glad I did now. nm
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    IMO a card would not be out of order at all. Except a sympathy card, of course.
    I totally agree a sympathy card wouldn't quite be the thing, but it sounded to me that the original poster of that idea didn't mean a sympathy card like one for death. I think sympathy in the sense of "hey, you had a rough time of it with this birth, and maybe things haven't been the way you imagined, but know that I'm thinking of you and I'm here if and when you need me."

    I got PPD when my breastfeeding relationship didn't go right, following a birth plan that went seriously awry, and the reality of a fussy, picky baby instead of the happy, sleeping one that I had imagined.

    I *did* spend a lot of time on the phone, but then everybody's different. I would have loved to get a cheerful card from a friend, however. Does anybody NOT like a card?