You must be totally frustrated
Posted By: ermt on 2008-04-04
In Reply to: As an MT seeing a doctor - FLMTFL
I'm not from your area, so sorry I don't have any recommendations (although I did go to Daytona Beach when I was 18 years old for a vacation - loved the beach). If I ever have to go to the doc I don't think I would ever tell them I'm an MT (mainly because of what you just said above). I would go without telling him what I do, listen to what he says and then if you don't agree I'd tell him I want to get a second opinion. Or if I was bold enough I might ask him who he sees when he is sick (or what he takes so he doesn't get sick because the attitudes of the docs suck). Kind of reminds me of the movie about the doc who got sick and found out what it was like to be a regular patient with nobody paying attention to you or giving you the answers you want.
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Maybe the hostility from MTs is really resentment for your arrogance. You seem pretty condescending in these posts. Just because you have a QA position does not mean you are an expert in the English language or in Medical Terminology. I've gotten plenty of feedback from QA people that was wrong. The road runs both ways.
Frustrated with IE7 SM
Someone mentioned making sure IE6 was uninstalled. Well, I couldn't find any IE6 to uninstall. It is not there, yet that was what I was operating on. I installed IE7 again to give it another try. I started having the same problems and decided to uninstall it again. Well, my computer freaked out! I couldn't get on the internet at all. I finally was able to get through windows update back to reinstall IE7 again. It worked great again, other than the problems I was having. I went over and downloaded Firefox. It's great and I am loving it. Plus, it is more secure than any IE program. Anyone having problems, I would suggest this to you.
just frustrated
Because they said the only thing they could do was charge off as a bad debt. It was crazy. The reason I was working three jobs is have you ever fallen behind? Have you ever made a late payment? Well, guess what, the charges are amazing when you miss a payment or make a late payment. It all added up. I actually have them paid off, or finishing paying them off, they just show up bad and bring your score down . . . it's crazy. They stay on your report for like 7 or 8 years. So, just venting, I guess . . thought maybe I could find someone in the same position and share . . .
Frustrated? Where did that come from?
I was wondering why, seems in the last day or so, the ongoing preaching regarding every post. I am sure same person because the posts start with re:, same picture inside and closing with scripture. Not frustrated, just sounds like a broken record to me, over and over and over and you get the picture. I am not offended either, lived too many years for that.
Dear Frustrated:
First let me say I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. I hope he comes to his senses and makes the right decision. I hope my post doesn't seem harsh, because it is not meant to be and I hope it doesn't come across that way.
Wow, I guess I have to consider myself lucky. I'll tell you my story, but I guess my advice would be to suggest the Army if he wants to switch schools. If he thinks he is miserable where he is at now, he could try being a soldier, going through boot camp, being away from family and friends, eating MREs, working 16-hours days with no time off, not being able to shower, sleeping in a ditch, etc. Once he puts 4 years in he could go to college on the GI bill.
When my son graduated from boot camp we went to his graduation at Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri. One of the speakers made a statement and I find this is so true. His statement was, "We've managed to do in 9 weeks what you've been trying to do for 18 years."
My son was always a good kid too, never into any trouble, but now he was a man. I could see the difference already. We took him out to dinner and he was calling the waitress Ma'am.
My son left a week after high school graduation for the Army (his choice, certainly not mine, I didn't want him to go). He spent four years in the Army, 3 of which were spent in Germany. When he joined he received a $5000 sign-on bonus. He managed to travel to 25 different countries while in Europe. At the end of his 4 years, he had saved over $20,000 for college. He is in his 3rd year of college now and has taken the maximum number of credits that is allowed and he will graduate in May with 2 degrees, having completed that in 3 years, not 4. His first summer between years 1 and 2 he worked as an intern at a law office, contemplating becoming a lawyer. The second summer between years 2 and 3 he worked for a gas company changing gas meters in the sweltering heat. Soon he'll be done and off to grad school. He's been on the dean's list each semester. The only contribution my husband and I have given him towards his education is a new car to drive and we pay the car insurance. No cash, never paid for any books, never paid a phone bill, nothing, well, except for maybe some treat boxes with food, but that's it.
If you are contributing a significant amount to his education or upkeep then you have more power to dictate to him what he can/can't do regarding the phone bill, what you expect of him as far as grades, etc. I agree with you that if he decides to switch, he is on his own.
We as mothers tend to have the soft spots whereas fathers are more hardened. I can't tell you how many tears I've cried when my son missed his first Christmas home and missed celebrating his 21st birthday at home, had to go to Kuwait, etc.
We do have to let them fall sometimes and see if they can get up on their own, just like when they were toddlers learning to walk.
You should not feel like you are to blame for anything that may happen because of the way you raised him. We have no control over the influences of others on our children. We can only hope their upbringing is still deep rooted in there somewhere and they will make the right decisions. They might make mistakes, but they will learn. We cannot make all of the decisions for them or keep them from making mistakes or they will not learn from them.
I hope everything turns out okay for all of you.
Thank you, but I'm so frustrated tonight
as my daughter just came in crying (it's way past her bedtime) afraid that she's going to miss her advanced-math class that she's in because they do group work and there's really no way to make it up once she misses it. This kid even goes to school SICK because she doesn't want to miss school! She's a type A personality, minus the chit-chat.
I never thought I'd have a kid beg me to sign a paper that tells the school to paddle her, but that's exactly what she wants. How do I argue with her when she doesn't want her grade to be affected?
I went through their school handbook tonight with a fine toothed comb and see that indeed corporal punishment versus ISS is the choice in frequent tardies. I've heard rumors that the principal of her school is not very friendly, so I'm really not excited about having to discuss this with him (I'm having a few mini-crises myself right now, and with the holidays, this really is stressing me out).
I want to take the simple way and just sign her paper, but then I don't know, is that really the right thing to do? Probably not.
Calgon, take me away!
I Have Never Been So Frustrated In My Life
I asked my sweet hubby for a sewing machine as I wanted to learn the basics of sewing. I cannot for the life of me get this machine to work. I was able to somehow get it right once to use it to mess with but I cannot seem to get it right. These machines are so finicky. I took it to a repair shop the other day because my friend who can use a machine couldnt figure it out either. They fixed the tension etc on the machine and told me a couple tips about the bobbin. Worked perfectly fine when they did it. I get it home and cannot get the &*(* thing to work to save my life. I have threaded and rethreaded, got my book out and tried again. Have taken the bobbin out and tried to put it back in a hundred times and it is a mess. I am ready to throw the *(^% thing out the window!!!! I cant learn to do even a basic thing cause I can't seem to get the machine going to start with. AARRGGHHHH
Frustrated with eye doctor!
I'm so.... grrrrrr.... don't have a word for it. I have been waiting for an appointment with my eye doctor for weeks. The office was booked solid, but I thought I had a lucky break yesterday when they called saying they had a cancellation, and I could come in today. Great! My glasses and contacts are way too old, and I really need new prescriptions. I was so happy to speed up the process... I thought.
I went to the office and arrived 5 minutes early. Completed all the paperwork, etc., sat down and waited and waited and waited. The waiting room was packed. One woman sitting next to me made a phone call on her cell, and I overheard her saying that she was going to find another eye care provider because of these waits. This was only my second time at this office, so I really don't know if this is the usual situation. But I thought I'll just see how it all plays out. One full hour after my scheduled appointment, I still hadn't been called in. I went to the desk and asked if I'd be seen soon. I was given no explanation, but was told that the doctor would be calling me "soon". I know a brush off when I hear one! I waited another 20 minutes, and this time I went to the receptionist and explained as calmy as I could that I had waited 1 hour and 20 minutes, and I should be back at work by now, yet I still haven't gotten in to see the doctor. I told her I was about to walk out, and you know it... she told me that they bill $50 for canceled appointments. My jaw dropped, and I said "WHAT! ARE YOU CRAZY?? I WAS HERE ON TIME." Several other people in the waiting room made sounds of assent, I heard one or two people say, "Me, too!"
Just then, the doctor came out and called my name. I follow him back, and I was definitely voicing my displeasure. He apologized and then explained he was the intern and would be doing the preliminary examination. SIGH. We go through all the history taking, basic exam, measurements, etc. Then he left and said the doc will be coming soon. Ten minutes go by. I'm fuming again. The intern came back and said he was sorry, but the doctor is "behind schedule", and moved me to yet another waiting area just outside the doctor's exam room.
I waited another 15 minutes to see the eye doctor, and guess what. He repeated all of the exam that the intern had just done. Now, I'm glad that the doctor was being thorough and rechecked all the intern's notes. However, I can't help but feel that I basically waited so long because the intern had gotten behind in the schedule, and I ended up being there for him to practice on.
Don't worry! I said all of this to the doctor. At the end of the appointment, he walked with me to the receptionist and told her to waive the co-pay, and he also made sure that I was scheduled for the first appointment of the day for my followup when my new contacts are in.
It pays to be a squeaky wheel, I suppose. But, since I had blurred vision for a while after having my pupils dilated, I couldn't work for quite some time after I got home. I'll be up late tonight working to catch up on lines.
Grrrr, grrrrr, and double grrrrrr.
I am so dang frustrated!!!!
Whatever happened to the customer is right and we will do whatever it takes to make you happy?
I have now been on the phone with Vonage for 30 minutes and this is my 3rd phone call in as many days. I changed my billing information this weekend and when I did they put 2 test charge holds on my account of $15 each. Now my bank says they cannot release these holds, that it has to come from Vonage.
The first call, they told me within 2 hours they would have it released, to check back my account. The second call, the same scenario. Let them check with that department, please hold..... yes, they will release your money immediately. Now, third call and I have this very irritating woman with an American name (which of course is not her name since I have to listen very carefully to understand a word out of her ESL mouth) who keeps informing me there is nothing to be done and she is sorry but a supervisor is not available and she is so sorry, but no supervisor is available and if they were available they would still tell me that there is nothing they can do for me... put me on hold, play elevator music, answer again and say, I am so sorry, miss, there is noone available to take your complaint other than myself and if there were,,, blah...blah... blah
Even if.... even if.... I am sorry... as much as I want to....
Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm
my husband doesn't understand and my other friends homeschool (as do I), so I have no one to talk to about this. My 3-1/2 year old has been crying all day. What is wrong with him? Not crying, but unplugging stuff for my computer, unfolding laundry, taking DVDs and throwing them all over the floor. So, I spanked him, yet again, and nothing is working. I sincerely cannot take this. I cannot, I cannot, I cannot. I have to put him in a program somewhere.
I am crying so hard right now because my husband and I are both advocates for homeschooling and having the children at home. I am suffering having to spend the majority of my day spaking and disciplining an unruly child which gives me no time to homeschool his brothers. They (the other brothers) hate to see their little bro get into trouble, but what is one supposed to do? There are 3 of them and 1 of me. I just lost it a few minutes ago as he just started tearing things up again. Here are the options: Get rid of every single electronic thing in my household (including my work computer), tv's, Playstation 2(which is 10 year old brother loves), and everything else and go back to the days of old where it was just mom, kids, and dad at work. I'm seriously thinking he is just too distracted and can't help it. OR solution #2, put him in daycare somewhere (this makes me cringe, cry, sob- because he will be just a number there (I know - I worked for one for a long time - I don't care what anyone says), or in a pre-K program somewhere, but around here they only last for 2 hours (GA). I know, because I've checked.
Anyone else with similar situation? I'm thinking of putting them all in school so I can work since I have to work. Our expenses outweigh husband's income. I must work. I only work at night,though, so that isn't an issue during the day. I am at my wits end. I know if I work, though, a lot if it will go towards daycare. But inside my head and heart, I can't take this. I don't know why, I just can't do this anymore. 
Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
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I cannot believe the nastiness of certain frustrated, workless people...
Before responding to a comment, GO BACK AND READ THE WHOLE THREAD, THEN M A Y B E YOU WILL UNDERSTAND B E T T E R !
Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
Totally against the war
said it right from the start, told my husband the war was of no use, more and more that is being proven true, hate that young guys are being killed there day after day, the middle east never had as many bombings as they do on a day to day basis now, blood being shed all over the place, the house not wanting to give more money for a no win war, I lived through Viet Nam, no difference here, just different land. Mark my word, different president, the war will be a thing of the past and yet all these fine lives lost.
I am totally
terrified of the draft. I posted earlier about my son wanting to go to Africa next summer and me not really wanting to let him go. I guess you know what my answer would be to the above question so I guess I shouldn't say anything at all.
I was totally going to say
me too!
Oh, but what I've gained ...
(I'll think of something).
Totally think it is really none of your
business that they are working. You don't have any authority and your supervisor is the one to tell them NOT to work. If they have been told not to work and they are, that is between them and the employer.
totally.
My imagination is way too fertile. When someone tells me they are "trying to get pregnant" or they remember the moment their kids were conceived, it's exactly like showing me photos of the deed. Photos I'd way rather not see. ick.
I totally get what you are saying sm
and feel 100% the same way. If I had the means financially, I would help whomever and whenever, my hubby feels the same. However, to not respond to someone who is reaching out to you, I feel, is unforgivable. I would also like to say, give it some more time - you don't know what the situation is and I feel someone who has as big a heart as you obviously have, should hold it open just a little longer.
Totally agree. nm
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Totally agree with you!
Santa Claus was a wonderful time for me and my children. I did not suffer any ill effects from knowing the truth. This is a magical time for children. They believe in goblins, ghosts, the Easter Bunny, play friends that only they can see and talk with, fairies among lots of others. Why in the world would anyone want to deny a child the pleasure of thinking they are that important that this man in the red suit is coming especially to give them presents. It really made me feel special but I guess other parents want to cut some of the fun time from the child's life.How sad....
I totally agree with you, well said.
I find that others think since I work at home, they can interrupt me any time they want, I am expected to cover things while they are at work, etc. I want to be left alone during my work hours to do my work. I have worked in offices where you were not allowed to have personal calls during work hours, which is fairly common. I think I am going to disconnect my phone during my work hours. Sometimes I feel by working at home I don't get the same respect for my job than others in my home that work outside the home.
Totally inappropriate.
He sounds like he's good at his job and also at flirting. He is interested in getting to know you better? Why doesn't he just come out and say - hey baby, how about a roll in the hay? Keep us posted if you pursue this. I'd like to know how things go. Believe me, he knows he's good looking. Good Luck and be careful.
Oh, I totally agree with you there...sm
these are the kids my daughter deals with every day, but she understands at their age, they didn't ask for their circumstances. No child at age 8 or 9 should know anything about sex, using the B word, MF word, and other stuff. They can't write a sentence but they can tell her how to get more food stamps, how their older sister had another baby so she could get more money in her check....the stories go on and on. But the point we started out with was GI upset...they can't help being made take meds that make them physically sick.
I am totally out of debt -
house, cars, motorcyles, credit cards. Everything!
It feels great!
I totally agree with you...
Just a curious question. We are only as young (or old) as we feel, right! I am 37 and feel (most days) much, much younger...like I said before, it is a relative question...thanks for your reply! 
Totally agree. nm
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lol, totally NO CLUE..
I'm sure all the neighbors talk about that nut job around the corner who breastfed her very large baby at the ball park! C'mon now...can't even give the kid a juice box or something at baseball time? Something wrong with this picture. I seriously hope she's joking.
I totally agree with you. nm
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I totally agree (sm),
in fact, I should have eloped since I had recently moved and hadn't accumulated many new friends yet. The reception was really lame with the weird mix of people, some of whom I couldn't stand, but mom assured me they wouldn't come, and we were just doing the right thing.
Put on a syrupy sweet voice and tell your mother it is tempting to make this a social event for us, but this is really THEIR event. Let's do it their way since it only happens once. Let's not ruin their big day by arguing about it.
He would be totally crazy ...
If I kept him in for 2 to 3 months!! We have a large deck and in the one corner of it is a dog house and he has totally torn off the lattice in one whole section (to the dismay of my husband, to put it mildly) because he wants to be with my neighbors dogs.
If I cut this off, it will basically be the entire section of pad right in the middle of the paw which I think would take the brunt of his walking. It is on his back foot.
I totally agree and nothing to look at either
I can't believe all these people think he's so great. Yuck.
I totally agree-
it does make the award seem insignificant. They say they don't want any kids to feel 'left out.' Isn't that one of the main motivators to work harder? What about the child who truly earned the award? How does that child feel when the same award is given out indiscriminately so as not to hurt anyone's self esteem?
IMO self esteem comes from doing your best and feeling pride in yourself because of it- and if you are doing your best and improving you will not need some phony award to feel good about yourself, because you already will.
When these kids grow up they are going to be in the real world where they will be expected to perform to certain standards because that is what is expected from everyone. It seems like it is getting harder to find people who find satisfaction in doing a good job just for the sake of doing it. I wonder if there is any correlation here.
Totally agree-
I don't know why the parents would not have told their kids by now, but it is for them to do. It would be even more traumatic for the kids to hear it from someone else.
I was adopted and thank God I always knew I was. When I was too young to really understand they simply told me that I was special because they chose me. For years I pictured this baby store and my parents walking up and down the aisles shopping, LOL.
I totally agree with you!
I have grown sons, 26 and 18. I would never snoop in their e-mail. We have a great relationship and I do trust them. I am not saying that I have not or would not read their e-mail, but if I did, it was because I was looking at something on their computer which they would be aware of (or at least not care) and if an e-mail looked interesting I would read it and tell them. I think they would do the same with me and I also would not care. I think if you have a good relationship with your kids, that you know them pretty well and would know if you should worry or not. I truly believe that most parents, if they would just open their eyes, already know when there are problems. I get angry when I hear of someone who says "I had no clue" because I think that they do and just do not want to believe it. I think you are doing the right thing by trusting your kids. Keep it up!
Totally understand that one!
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Totally agree
I first noticed him on "Roseanne" and thought he was strange-looking and not at all attractive. My opinion hasn't changed over the years.
Don't like Brad Pitt, either. I don't go for the "pretty boys." Give me some depth of character. Looks are definitely secondary.
* Badonkadonk! * Totally LOL!!!!1 nm
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TOTALLY normal! (sm)
My kids are younger than yours, but I am the youngest of three. I have an older sister and older brother. My brother is the oldest and he is three years older than me. I can remember growing up and being picked on by my brother (and sister) and there were times when I felt like I truly hated him. I'm sure he felt the same about me at times. Now I love him dearly and I think he is one of the greatest men in my life. I'm sure it sounded horrible to you, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal.
Totally agree
This week in fact I was feeling down in the dumps, did some praying and went out to do something nice for someone else, it made a big difference!! Thanks for the post.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.
I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.
Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
I totally agree!
There are way too many gray areas on this. I absolutely detest child molesters and would never want one knowingly around my children. But the 18yo with a 15yo is completely different and should not be lumped into the same group and treated the same way.
I once worked in the children's services field and talked extensively with a professional who worked with sex offenders, and he told me that pedophiles can never be rehabilitated, and that they will always repeat the offense. There's a good case for locking them up for good, don't you think?
I totally agree with you ...
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Absolutely, totally, 100% against. There should be NO
legal age for drinking.
Totally agree
Yeah, that comment was not the smartest thing to say. Now she will probably fear the police for no good reason. Not a good move.
totally agree
Boy I couldn't have said it better myself. Good job. This is exactly what you need to do mom. It's hard to hear but this is the way to do it and then get counseling for yourself to help you deal with your feelings. Christian counseling if possible. Take care and God bless!
Totally uncalled for!
Just what exactly does "do you ever work, OR are you a transcriptionist" mean? Are you trying to imply that transcription is not real work just because most of us work from home??? If so, then think again! Most of us slave for hours every day in front of our computers typing report after report with very few breaks, trying to figure out what a doc is saying mid-yawn or with a mouth full of food. We all come on here to talk about things in our lives OTHER than that, and to bash someone for doing so is totally inappropriate, so go on the other board!
Totally accepted
I was totally accepted. My MIL is one of my best friends, even after the divorce. Still talk with the brothers and wifes although not as much as before but I still feel accepted but now because I am me and not his wife. So there are nice in-laws out there. Can also say that my family has always accepted spouses into the family, may not be our best friends but have always been accepted and treated well. My brother sure put this to the test with his six wives but we liked all of them and probably more than him. Still in contact with several as he had children and my mother when she was alive never lost contact with any of the grandchildren or even step-grandchildren when it came to birthdays, Christmas or whatever when there was a divorce. Anyway, there are good in-laws or ex in-laws out there. Patti
Totally accepted
My FIL was a better father to me than my own dad. My MIL said she learned more about her son's life from me than she ever did from him (that's true).
And after my MIL passed away, my FIL remarried a few years later, and I was fortunate enough to get another SUPER MIL who has been not only my friend but the best grandmother I could ever ask for to my son.
Am I lucky, or what? I feel very, very blessed.
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