been there
Posted By: anon on 2008-06-30
In Reply to: Need advice on 16 year old daughter. SM - worried
It is very scary and hard to know how to deal with these situations when they are basically really good kids - good grades, caring, thoughtful, involved in clubs, etc. . One thing I did with my daughter was told her straight out if I ever found out she had been drinking and driving, her car would be gone - not for a week or two either, at least 6 months and probably longer. . Also, if I found out she was riding with someone who had been drinking, she would be severely grounded. . There was ALWAYS the option to call for a ride home with no questions asked. .These things never happened as far as I know - I did find out, later, about a time or two when alcohol was consumed and she stayed all night at a friend's house. Of course, when she went off to college, I wasn't around and who knows what she did - but she is 23 now with a great job, new home, just got married and is going to school at night for her Master's. One thing I will say, even though your daughter says she only drinks enough to feel "happy" there is danger in that too - as her response/judgment in certain situations may be off. . It seems that you have good communication with her and you definitely want to keep that going. . It is a fine line - you want them to know what you do not approve of, yet want them to be open and honest and talk to you. . Hang in there, it will get better.
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