bs. you didn't read her post very closely.
Posted By: nm on 2009-04-01
In Reply to: making friends with other parents - where did we go wrong?
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You obviously didn't read my post completely..
I said I USED to be overweight! I have not always been a size 6, I was much larger just a couple of years ago. I was technically considered obese and decided to do something about it. It was completely my fault and because of the food choices I was making and not exercising. I do have compassion for those people that have a problem and do something about it, but not for those that just sit around blaming others for THEIR problem! You really need to go see a dietician or someone who can help you eat correctly and start exercising every day. If you're really only hungry once a day, then you're probably snacking way too much and so your body only wants one meal. There are plenty of different programs out there that could really help you with your weight loss, but you have to be open to change and realize that you are the only one that has the power to change your life. You're also going to have to be completely honest about what your eating and it would really help if you wrote everything down. For me, I have to eat every 3 hours (3 small meals and 2 healthy snacks), stop eating 3 hours before bedtime and exercise at least 5 days a week to keep my weight down. When I started out losing the weight, I kept a food journal and it really helped me to see what I was putting in my body and make sure that I wasn't eating too many/too few calories. By the way, I not the same person as "anon" and I don't believe that I have said anything harsh to you.
Sorry - guess I didn't read the whole post (sm)
I have driven to Florida by myself many times (about a 9 hour drive for me). I do have family there though. But I stayed in a hotel by myself while I was there and did the drive alone. I listen to my favorite music, talk on my cell phone (when I have service), etc. The drive is not bad at all. As far as the hotel room - I kind of adjust my brain and tell myself this time is all mine! I can eat whatever I want, go wherever I want, watch whatever I want. As long as you adjust your mind accordingly, it will be great! It really is a treat to be able to just make all the decisions yourself once in a while and not have to ask anyone else what they want.
I didn't read anything in the original post
about expecting gushing or groveling. One of the things she did say was that she usually got gifts that the receiver picked out and then was just discarded or sold. I agree with the other posts, give gift cards.
I think if you look closely she is correcting her own post, not criticizing the OP. nm
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Obviously some people didn't read *or get* the whole post about the followup phone call ;)
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Sorry, I didn't read this one
before I replied to the other one. I see that you have had one. Did it not bother you? I do agree, however, if it is God's will, there is a reason. Nowadays, I look at it like if I had have had my twins, we would not have gotten the beautiful children that we have now and where would they be. In the situation they were in, that is a very scary thought!
From what I read, he didn't say it was okay
for him to go. He signed the form as required by the other school, but told him that if he went there would be consequences.
Didn't you read the part about
Old thighs, old hips, old knees, old ankles...oh, my, I can see the flab a-floppin' and hear the bones a-crackin'.
Me, too. I didn't even know about it 'til I read it here.
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Hey, I didn't read all the posts below but sm for suggestion
Can't help ya with the subway system. I think newbies are all in the same scary boat, but internet could help.
My suggestion is one of those suitcase things on wheels that he can pull. Maybe one of those and then some sort of satchel/mailbag/backpack also.
Seems kind of cruel for this company to throw him to the wolves like that. They should be able to offer a little guidance??
Anyhow, I can't even imagine how you feel. I live in a college town with both kids in their 20s and every time they leave the house, I'm afraid they're going to get lost LOL. So I can only imagine your anxiety.
Try to help him look at it as a challenge rather than something he's going to dread. Once he gets to know the ropes, all should be fine.
Hang in there :-)
Again, about the English part, listen closely
The mother of the groom is saying the grandmother is calling and giving threatening messages. I would not give a rats behind I would not want to even invite her if she cannot control her anger. It is THEIR wedding, not the grandmothers, not the mothers, but THEIRS. People send out messages by what they say- the mother says the grandmother is threatening. Why don’t you invite the grandmother somewhere??? Oh really sounds like someone I would like to come to my wedding, NOT!
Sorry I didn't see your post (nm)
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didn't get that from post
I just watched her latest So Annoying video and was still laughing about it to myself. I recognized the "fat jerk" post and it made me think of it.
Didn't see the post either...
so congratulations. Keep in mind that people saying nothing is often not something to be taken personally.
Didn't see the post either...
so congratulations. Keep in mind that people saying nothing is often not something to be taken personally. If they say something nasty, then...
Sorry, the link didn't come through the first post
http://www.accessdata.fda.gov/scripts/petfoodrecall/
Thought the same, just didn’t post it
NM
Too funny - I didn't even see your post
until I posted above! Sorry for stealin your moniker! Won't happen again - :)
Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very
"scatterbrained" to the maximum, I find it very, very difficult to believe that there is absolutely nothing she can do about this because there is and she chooses not to. You seem to be taking the "Oh, she can't help it approach," and this is where we strongly disagree.
End of story. No more from me.
Why not read the post before going off on someone! SM
There is some great information inside. Give this woman a break!
As I read your post
I looked over at my cat napping. I am so sorry. I truely hope you can maybe go to a shelter and save another kitten and maybe it will also bring some joy into your life. Please don't think I am saying you kitten is just replaceable, but when my family dog died, the best thing for all of us was to get another dog that we knew needed a loving home that we could provide.
If you will read my post....
I am not defending abstinence only programs. I said if parents taught their kids about sex and condoms and STDs there would not be a need for a program PERIOD. In my opinion, as I said, that needs to be taught by parents, NOT by schools. And as far as standards, I don't know how much lower you can get than adultery in the White House, covering it up, committing felony perjury while in office, and the coup DE grace of those hail Mary pardons and stealing stuff on the way OUT of the White House. Oh yeah...there's a REAL standard to ascribe to. One of these days we will know the WHOLE Sandy Burglar story too. If he lives long enough and does not go the way of Vince Foster.
You did not read my post right
The law is completely behind me. They go with me, have the police there as I load up a truck, have appeared in court, spoken with the person who tells me how this works. Good gosh, would never take it upon myself just to pull up and start loading.
Read the post again
I did not ask what should I do- I asked what would others do.
When I read the post below
It looks like only 2 people voiced an objection. Ignore them. Who cares if they object. Some people do nothing but complain and attack on all of these boards. I can only hope some of these people do not behave like this in person but are embolden by their anonymity of the internet.
Read my post again and you will see
I said asked if I MIGHT have costochondritis because of the ribs that are still hurting so bad you cannot touch- this after my seeing him 2 weeks ago and it started before then. That is different from going in and stating I have that diagnosis and for some reason I have found as the years have gone on she is getting much more angry, it seems, in response to anything I say medical wise. Now I would never say anything medical but SHE brings up all the time because she is having this pain or that, going to various doctors, taking this and that and it is her talk more than mine. I said very innocently 1 day I was eating yogart because it was good for you. Talk about starting WWIII!. She asked who told you that and then started on how she had ate such and such all her life and she was ok. She had a much loved sister who was a nurse and I would be more than willing to say she would never say such barbed things to her. If I had just found out about fibro and just now seeking an answer or assistance it would be different but we are talking YEARS and I hurt severely. I told her I would rather know it was costochondritis than say other things it could be such as melanoma or bone cancer which are 2 other things I also read about and researched in trying to find anything I could do to help my own self as not getting it from the physicians I have gone to since, ah, say 2004. Maybe the best thing to do next time she starts about how do I feel, her having this ache or pain, taking such and such medicine, just say really off limits for me to talk about and just let it go at that?
Maybe you should read your own post because
you said murder- that was not mentioned before. You must be a very angry person with all that screaming going on.
If you will read my post above sm
You will see that I said exactly that - talk with the teacher and get the facts straight. I am perfectly aware of how emotional 13yo girls can be and how they can blow things out of proportion.
I still think this is a very inappropriate way for the teacher to have handled the situation. Regardless of how "worldly" kids are these days, the teacher could have discussed the situation on a one-to-one basis or with the female students only.
You should read your post
I'm sorry, but Christians don't tell people to go to "you know where." Christians don't say, not looking for advice - in other words, you don't want anyone to contradict you or criticize you - believe that is called pride.
How likely is it that all 3 sisters hate you for no reason? Have you thought about actually talkng to his sister, the one who hates you so much, about how you can make peace with each other? Doesn't mean you have to love her, but 2 adults should be able to be civil to each other.
As a Christian mother, you should set an example of love and peace for your boys - do you think you are doing that when you are ready to leave your husband over his family's feelings towards you?
If they hate you, that is on them, but if you hate them back, they have drawn you into their circle of negativity. Do not let that happen. If peace making efforts don't work out, then accept the fact that you do not get on with his family, let your sons and your husband maintain a relationship with them, and enjoy your time alone when they are with the family.
Love your children more than you hate your in-laws and do not draw your children into an eternal family squabble. You are pitting your ego against the ego of the sister and the mother - and putting your husband in an impossible situation.
did you not read my post?
"Please don't write and say a boy shouldn't be allowed to have his ears pierced"
and you are right i was asking about an AGE.
But you are 53, so that says it all, you were from a different generation and thusly I understand why you would be against it.
Read OP's post...........
That marriage is beyond repair:
1. She does not love him.
2. She wants out of the marriage.
3. She is unhappy.
4. Her children are not fond of their father.
Tell me what the pleasures are of going to bed and waking up to a person you feel nothing for.
What are the incentives because these are not hard times - this is THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.
No offense, but you need to put your bible away too.
I read the OPs post and nowhere
does she say it is irreparable. She says she does not love him. Well, at times, I don't "love" my husband either, sometimes I just want him to go fishing for a few days to leave me alone. Sometimes I am unhappy, so what? Happiness comes from within, not without. No one on God's green earth, (oh yeah, you don't like religious talk, too bad), is here to make YOU or anyone else HAPPY!! That doesn't mean this marriage cannot or will not be saved. I've been on this earth long enough to know that seasons change, feelings change, everything changes, but if this OP is looking for an excuse because she thinks there is someone out there who is going to fulfill all her needs, there IS NOT, no one can! If she is telling her children things so that they dislike their father, that is emotional abuse. All this OP has said is she is not happy, she doesn't love him. Applies to most of the population at times, and not enough reason to get divorced and hurt the kids.
Sorry, just read post above. I did not
watch until the 3rd season, so did not know they had done wildcards in the past.
Obviously didn't cover many details in a post.
I am not emotionally selfish. Heavens. And I am a Believer, while they are not. I am an animal lover, not above humans. But when I have gotten together with my family in the past, they have chosen those visits to ridicule my family and our love of animals - family get-togethers were nothing more than lets bash the youngest over her love for her animals. Its a bigger picture than I am comfortable to explain here - basically even covers the hunting versus anti-hunting personalities, etc. I have never ever pushed my philosophy on them - its always been vice versa. As an animal lover, I can sense disdain when I am around others who are not as close as family, but who believe animals are worthless - the old dog belongs outside in a dog house philosophy, or the only good cat is a dead one. We can discern these types and I would certainly rather not spend my time in their presence. While you are feeling the need to explain that you don't disapprove of your mother and her choices, your whole theme has honestly been one of disapproval of her and her choices. You don't need to speak those words to her. She can discern your real feelings, but perhaps you are not discerning your mother's. Just a thought from one Biblical Christian to another. 
You post didn't make a bit of sense to me. nm
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Stupid link didn't post, sorry.
http://money.cnn.com/2007/07/16/pf/economic_anxiety_middle_class/index.htm
The video I tryed to post didn't come...sm
through but here is the link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCSh8f8V66g
excuse me, didn't you post yesterday that you
are going early in the morning on vaction to a hotel that told you they will put the key under the doormat?
Or are you posting from the hotel?
Or are you another ''anon?'
How many 'anons' are there on this board?
I got chills when I read your post...
I have had a few similar events to yours, but nothing to that great extent. Next time it happens, just say hi.
Try to read the post correctly, it says
the school was sent out a notice. Do you think only 1 child involved? Why would this be an across the board notice? Oh my, 1 kid and the whole school sent off for punishment. I have no sympathy for people who aren't able to read between the lines and think 1 poor kid is being picked on.
Did you read the content of my post?
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Read the post correctly, it says
alcohol, whatever- that means which ever category one fits into, be it alcoholic, drugs, having children you cannot afford and wanting others to take care of, just not up for that. I had 2 children, never had assistance and worked hard to make sure I did have the money it took to raise them. I have said before and say again, I am most interested in helping people or animals out that are in some misfortune, get this now- that is NOT due to their own doings. You can not take drugs, you can not drink alcohol, you can not have a child by taking birth control. All of these are folks own doings and I do not want to pay for other peoples mess-ups. Understand??
Puhleez re-read my post and see....
that I said Denver is mid-west TO ME - in terrain, being like Nebraska which MOST DEFINITELY IS mid-west in terrain and in culture.
I said Denver is NOT geographically the mid-west. I know US geography and I know Denver is considered west. I am not geographically challenged.
Nuff said.
Just read your post and you and I in same situation
my husband also younger than me. I never ever knew something like this existed, the part about not knowing at retirement age which I get there 10 years before him as to what mine would be. Right now my income if both retired right now would be more; however he has an extremely good job now making twice what I do in my job at the present time so who knows? Next year I start drawing over $500 per month from a retirement fund but the way I look at it right now, that will pay my independete contractor (with maybe some more added) for the month so you cannot win for losing.
I did not read the post yesterday and sorry
because I had puppies who got sick with mucus, bloody discharge from the anus, weight loss and I lost them. This is very lethal and had I read her post would have immediately told her to not wait for appointment to see veterinarian because this onset does not let someone take that long before young puppies can die. I had in my back yard and never could let young puppies be there ever. I hope hers is ok and she was able to get some assistance with the pup.
I had to smile when I read your post. sm
Every time she complains of the itching I ask her about her breathing or if her tongue feels swollen. All mothers tend to think alike, well most of the time, maybe not Lindsay L. mom.
please read my post below to mtmomof3...n/m
 
Just read your post and my aunt the other day
was saying exactly what you were saying, was there not a good place that I could go to for a diagnosis on what my problems are. I do not know of a place like this at all. I can self-refer myself to a physician and usually do as I know about as much as the people I run into in the offices. After all my years of typing on all kinds of diseases, treatments and such, I do not need a person say 30 or more years younger than me to explain a diagnosis to me. I am sure I could tell them more than they could tell me. Just went to an urgent care place today for 1 of my problems and refused to weigh- the person taking history said I would have to because they would have to know my weight in order to give medication. I told them most medicines I know come in say 10, 15, 20 mg and I never weigh at any office and I see nephrologist, general, endocrinologist, etc. I refused to weigh, still got to see the physician and guess what, nothing prescribed! I probably have been in the medical field longer than this person on earth. on well, enough venting for the night.
I just read your post- wondering if
you thought this was me posting above (was not) because I wrote about bellpeppers below and just being silly inserted the burp thing. I know nothing about horses, names for males versus females, mothers versus fathers.
I am laughing as I read your post
you are saying Tina with her ole self is better than the younger Beyonce. Oh, now I am splitting my sides, he, he, he, he, he.....Tina used to break it down but she has got too much age on her now- she should have stayed retired and the way we remembered her.
Then dont read my post below yet!
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