i refuse...
Posted By: ditto on 2008-04-20
In Reply to: Anyone who never has to raise their voice to get (sm) - their kids to listen?
to yell. granted you have 2 and i only have but we have a policy in our home not to yell, among other things. my 10 year old has come to appreciate (but used to HATE) "discussions." I used this term because it was a large word for him and could stick out as being meaningful (good or bad, i don't care). when he cries or gets mad (which on occasion still acts that way) at me for something he is simply and rationally sent to his bedroom for some quiet time and told when he has calmed down to find me so we can "discuss." Sometimes its 5 minutes, sometimes its 30, its all up to him. When he has had the opportunity to calm down we start the conversation by how he felt, how he thinks he made me feel, how I did feel, and finally why i asked him to do what i did and what "family" means...certainly not that i am "mom" so i do all the "work." i am not saying this was a quick thing and i have done this for several years now but he caught on very quickly that yelling and crying is just not something that will be done in this house.
like you, i am the primary caregiver and patience run thin at times so i understand your frustration, just not 2-fold. that has got to be tough. thought maybe this suggestion might help...but who knows. just have to find what works for your family.
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that's right, they have the right to refuse
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You can refuse the PA/NP
I had a doctor who did that for a while and finally refused to see them.
I refuse to get old
but somehow I think that, eventually, I will lose the battle.
As for worrying about our care, we have already budgeted for long-term care insurance so we will be able to have whatever help we may require. 40-ish years from now.
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http://www.kentuckyfriedcruelty.com/
They can refuse service to anyone at will.
Even Wal-Mart can throw you out for any reason they want.
I'm glad he did it. I went to Jeff Ruby's Louisville website and sent him a support e-mail!
Thank goodness business owners can still decide WHO they want to serve and do business with!!!!
It's not difficult either to refuse to consume
garbage posing as information.
Your choice.
I too refuse to go hungry or eat what I don't wnat...
Started exercising around Sept. Didn't see any measurable weight loss for about a month. I am so grossly overweight, though, that I can't exercise long. Used to be skinny. Wore a size 1 to 3 until developed thyroid condition, then packed on 50 lbs in just over a month that I never lost, but gradually added to over the years.
It does work, but it's much slower that if you diet, too. My measurable loss was 1/2 lb. I'm down about 1, but I feel much better, which is what counts.
Her insurance didn't refuse to pay
I'm not assuming anything. I asked very pointed questions, to which she either snapped at me or evaded answering. I said this before, but I think it bears repeating - an $800 hospital bill doesn't amount to much more than some antiseptic wash, a band-aid and some Tylenol. The bite wasn't that severe, probably no more than a superficial skin tear. I'm betting that's why the dog wasn't impounded. I think the OP is trying to make a mountain of a mole hill to make a few bucks. That's why she wanted the poster just to pay her the $800, not so she could turn it over to her insurance (which she should legally, or else it is fraud), but so that she could pocket that money. Now, here's where I assume something: I also think she knows she probably wouldn't get much in court, if anything, because the bite wasn't that severe.
It's easier to take the $800 bucks, than to try to fight it out in court and possibly end up with nothing. If her daughter was so traumatized by it all, why hasn't she seeked counseling for her yet? She was more concerned about setting up a college fund with the money she would win in court. The counseling was only an afterthought.
If she wants to sue, by all means sue - after all, it is the American way. But don't lie about the reason for it. It all comes down to money. Read my other posts and her replies. I just happen to believe in calling something what it is, not sugarcoating it or beating around the bush. This poster knows what she's trying to do, she just wanted some reassurance from others that it was okay. Sorry, can't do that here.
i REFUSE to let mine eat in the cafeteria
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I read it, but I simply refuse to believe it
One in seven people believe it is acceptable in some circumstances for a man to hit his wife or girlfriend if she is dressed in “sexy or revealing clothes in public”, according to the findings of a survey released today.
A similar number believed that it was all right for a man to slap his wife or girlfriend if she is “nagging or constantly moaning at him”.
The findings of the poll, conducted for the Home Office, also disclosed about a quarter of people believe that wearing sexy or revealing clothing should lead to a woman being held partly responsible for being raped or sexually assaulted.
Although a majority of 1,065 people over 18 questioned last month believe that it is never acceptable to hit or slap a woman, the poll found that those aged 25-39 were more likely to consider that there were circumstances in which it was acceptable to hit or slap a woman.
Men and women over 65 and those in the lower social class groups D and E are more likely to believe that woman should be held partly responsible for being raped or sexually assaulted, Ipsos Mori telephone poll found.
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Ms Smith said that more needed to be done to challenge attitudes that condoned violence against women and girls.
She was speaking as she launched a police lead review of whether new laws are needed to tackle serial domestic violence abuses and whether there is a link between the early sexualisation of young girls and violent abuse.
One idea being considered is to allow women to ask police if a new partner has a record of domestic violence. A pilot scheme that allows women to request information on whether a new partner has a history of child sex abuse is currently underway in four police force areas of England and Wales.
But MS Smith was confronted at a working breakfast at which she launched the campaign by a veteran domestic violence campaigner.
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She said that government action so far had been “piecemeal” and condemned plans for a database of serial domestic abusers.
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“Police can’t be expected to monitor relationships and love lives of offenders.”
She went on: ”The Government is hoping to get away with useless initiatives like this register and it is hypocritical to sound tough and do little.”
She said that the cases of Sabina Akhtar and Katie Summers showed that not enough was being done.
Ms Smith tried to interrupt the tirade but was shouted down before Vera Baird, the solicitor general, stepped in to argue the Government’s case.
This is the reason I refuse to carry a debit card....sm
Most retailers do not require you to use a PIN and there is no security on these things. I've heard of many people like your daughter getting stuck without money for a few days while waiting for the bank to credit them back. Another problem that happens sometimes, including happening to my husband when we were dating was that when we ate out the waiter made an error on the charges to the debit card - charging $440.00 instead of $44.00. The waiter immediately ran the credit and the manager apologized, but the bank still took out the $440 until they received the written confirmation from the restaurant's bank of the error. Fortunately he had the money in his account to cover this error but other people would bounce checks over it. The same thing happened to my mom - an error was made and she was without as much as she should have had for the 3 business days it took to credit her back.
Your daughter should immediately talk to the police department about the fraud and the bank. Good luck straightening it out!
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