same feeling here
Posted By: jlynn on 2008-04-21
In Reply to: My kids are grown, and I do NOT miss it! - LOL
I only had one child and I too think that it was really hard work - not just physically but emotionally - trying to give them all the right tools/knowledge, etc. to become responsible, productive adults. . We must have done something right because my 23 year old is quite an amazing young lady. I do miss the times when she was little and loved almost every minute of it, but I wouldn't want to go back and do it over.
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I know the feeling.......
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For all of us feeling sorry for ourselves
ok - i'm not feeling sorry for myself because this is the story of my life - but I do feel very bad for my sister who is not even 60 yet.
First off - about 6 weeks ago my son hurt his knee playing softball - he had surgery and is on the mend - he has OI (osteogenesis imperfecta - so he knew he shouldn't be playing to begin with).
Then a month ago - got a call and my sister had fallen at work and broke her hip. Had surgery - OT/PT rehab, and was in the hospital until last wednesday - having home PT and doing much better. Then, on Saturday, she fell while getting back into bed and fractured her facial bones - she got dizzy and fell to the floor - falling onto the hip that was broken and onto her knees and then face. So, back to the ER - more CTs and now facial fractures. She wants me to take her to the pharmacy to get her diabetic supplies, since they found her to be diabetic while in the hospital (although I think it is probably really from the trauma since they didn't bother to do a hemoglobin A1C and just took blood sugars 4 times a day - and put her on insulin (someone's screw up) and I really don't want to take her out of the house - does anyone blame me.
I'm just asking here for prayers and good thoughts for her. She has had a hard life - 3 marriages (she's now married to the physical therapist who was our dad's PT when he broke his hip back in 1999) and just generally hard times. We are thankful that she has her current husband - and I would much rather him take her to the store when he gets home than me - but I'm gonna go ahead and call her - pray that she is too tired to go - and let that be that -
this is such a great place -
No, not feeling better- had a dog
dognapped before, not good. My neighbors cat caught a squirrel outside and I ran to rescue the squirrel and the cat ran and needless to say I was no help at all. Did you have one of those exotic cats by any chance, wonder why so wild? I have 3 cats and I entertain them by opening the shades and letting them view the birds but I could never let them be outside, seen too many animals killed that way and anyway our community has rules regarding no animals running around loose.
I know exactly what you were feeling. sm
My daughter is only 14 but she is such a "Daddy's girl" I can only imagine what her wedding day will be like. I will be a happy mess but my hubby will probably totally fall apart.
Thanks so much everyone - Fox is feeling a bit better sm
this evening. He was very lethargic this morning and I was concerned that the fentanyl patch wasn't controlling his pain, and I refuse to let him live in pain.
I gave him some Metacam (vet said it was okay) and gradually during the day he has perked up. We still have to lift him up because he has a hard time getting up but once he's up he's walking pretty well.
And he's still got a bit of a sparkle in his eyes...I think that's how I'll know. If the sparkle leaves and doesn't come back, it's time. But please God, not for a while yet....
Have been there and I know the feeling but
I got over the just burning, ticked off feelings I had, for no reason at all that I could explain. This was probably when I was in my 40s. I just did not want to talk to anyone, did not seem to want to be around anyone but get this, now in the 60s and golden years, what a difference! No more anger, loving life, sweet beyond imagination, no financial difficulties, basically nothing to worry about except when do the cats need feeding again! Yours probably will pass also. I cannot tell you or anyone else what was causing mine but I have so gotten over it, just took awhile. I do not think for 1 minute mentally related. Hormones? Who knows but as I age life just keeps getting better and better.
Been there and know how you are feeling
I lost my Tasha (chow/lab) this last May after 16 1/2 years but I did not make the decision she did and passed away on her own. It was hard, have two cats but it is not the same as a dog. Still tear up when I think about her but she is out of her pain and running like a puppy again I am sure. I swore no more dogs but low and behold finally in November went to Humane Society and pick up Molly (another chow mix but a lot smaller) and did ot realize how much I missed a dog. Back to walking and socializing. Am getting a digital camera later this week and once I learn how to use it, will get her picture on here so I can brag. These little furry things bring so much into our lives and ask for so little. Love my cats too and they love the new dog. Decided on the dog in my life instead of trying to find another man. Take care, treasure your memories and love your remaining brood. Thoughts and prayers, Patti
I know the feeling
Last week I went to have a tooth extracted, was not impacted, I just broke it - when I went in the receptionist told me that it would be a surgical extraction rather than simple - they had not even looked at my mouth, when I questioned it, she said she would see what the dentist said and did - when he finished pulling the tooth, he proceeded to put in a suture - I asked the assistant why and she said he does it to prevent a dry socket - okay, I have never had one before - the receptionist then told me that since he sutured it, it was a surgical extraction and costed me 3 times as much as a simple extraction would have, simply because he sutured it closed to prevent the dry socket. Kind of a rip off in my opinion.
I know the feeling of getting nothing
done. I have 3 boys, ages 10, 7 and 5. I work 2 part-time jobs and I specifically scheduled myself off 1 of them on Monday, knowing they would be home. Fortunately, it was nice enough out that they could play outside in the afternoon while I worked and then had baseball practice in the evening (all 3 of them woo-hoo) so I could get to the track and the store.
I actually got to sleep in yesterday and got some cleaning done before I went to work (I do work at home). Overall, it was a pretty nice day off, but I learned a long time ago not to try to work an 8-hour day with 3 kids home. It just doesn't work.
I have a feeling.....
they Mike and Susan will get back together eventually.............
Sorry you are feeling so down (sm)
First of all, relax. You need to go to a doctor and get on an antidepressant? No insurance? If you can get the money to go to the doc for one visit, you can get them to prescribe an antidepressant that is on Walmart's $4 list and get it for $4 a month. Call United Way and see if they can direct you where to get help with your rent. Don't worry about whether or not you have cable, you'll be okay without that unless you need it for your job? Don't worry about not being able to give Christmas gifts...just explain that you don't have the money. People will understand and your grandson can have it explained to him. I have the same isolation issues that you do because of the job. Can you go to a temp agency and see about getting a job outside of your house so you can be around people more? There is a website called Exercisefriends.com where you can meet people in your area who want exercise buddies, maybe just someone who is starting out trying to walk every day or something like that (not sure what your fitness level is). Or advertise on Craigslist for a walking buddy (but be careful of course when first meeting the person). I met one of my best friends this way and have known her for 4 years now. If you want an email buddy feel free to email me. I think everyone is struggling right now and it is hard. I would be happy to have you vent to me via email all you want. :-)
I know the feeling though
I wish i could exchange my cat!!
I know the feeling...
my son tests me every day even though the answer in the end will be no...normal behavior...I also wanted to say I think you are brave for getting out of bad marriage, so good for you for being a good Mom and taking care of your kids!!!
It is sad when that feeling dies
and it usually seems to after a couple of years. I miss the kissing, the hand holding. All that goes by the wayside when the man starts taking you for granted. Then it just becomes sex without a feeling of love. Men are exasperting creatures !
Same exact feeling here.
The extreme Christians also changed my feelings a long time ago. I then started researching the facts and theories, scientific versus religion. And did you know that many people with above-average intelligence are not religious based on this knowledge? Interesting stuff. :)
I don't blame you for feeling that way at all...but (sm)
I really think if you say anything it is just going to put a wedge between you and your dad and your new *relative*. It stinks though, I agree with you!
How is your son feeling today?
My 3yo had a fever last Friday. Don't you just feel so terrible when they're sick?
I'm glad both she and you are feeling
xx
Thanks so much for that. I was sitting here feeling SM
terrible, even after all these years and telling people who do not even know me is humiliating.
Don't want to take the focus off of the initial poster who is having this decision to make now, but please just let me say that I was emotionally drained and just coming out of a short but very abusive marriage. I met this man and we were friends, nothing more. That grew and grew and soon I was looking forward to going into work. . . THAT should have told me something right there!  Then in a weak moment I went out with him and that was the beginning of the end. I was so in love with this man who made me finally feel good about myself and told me I deserved to be loved and treated right. I waited and waited for him to leave, even though he had little boys and that was killing me. I just could not see going on without him. After I wasted the time and suffered the heartache he was gone. Probably the only truthful thing he said to me on the phone was . . Don't cry over me. I'm not worth it. I come from a good decent family and this can happen to good people when you need to be loved. That is why I want to caution this woman again, please, please, do what is right. It's not the easy thing to do, but it is the right thing. If this man really values her, why is he still conversing and carrying on this friendship when he knows how she feels, and he knows he is not in a position to do anything about it?
Thanks gor hearing me out. I feel like I had my second shower of the day. You have a good heart to acknowledge me like you did. 
Thank you so much! I am so tired of feeling like (sm)
I am running around in circles, wasting my time! I really hope the doc will approve it and that the meds will help.
How about the feeling of panic as you
are about to turn left across traffic and get on an on ramp? I always suddenly panic and wonder if I'm about to meet traffic coming off because I'm trying to go up an off ramp.
I start feeling bad when #s go into the 60-70s. Had
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You're not the only one feeling this way -
at first it was enjoyable but it is hard to find the "hidden" threads now. I think it's great but perhaps they should have a new section just for this. I hardly go on the gab board any longer because like I said, it's too time consuming to find threads of interest.
feeling the pain as well..
I decided yesterday that this Thursday is my last day with MQ. Ive had enough and have only been working here since February 2008. I called a company I worked for back between 2000-2006 and asked if they had any spot available and they have 5 open as an IC but that's cool with me. Im so unmotivated to work the past few weeks and cannot get my lines higher because of ESL docs all day long and accounts I have never worked on before, blah blah blah...
Ive been an MT for 14 years and have never been this unmotivated in my career.
So, we are there with ya...
my own gut feeling is to cancel sm
there's just so much identity theft out there that it's scary to have too much info out there. i think that is really good advice to save and buy with cash. i do think it's good to have a credit card for an emergency like the other poster said.
thanks for your input 
Feeling neglected
I'm guessing these children are feeling neglected and frustrated. The older one has more power to act out (and maybe more the personality for it), but something needs to be done to make them both feel more secure.
It would be nice if they both get involved in a learning/exercise activity (such as martial arts) to build their self-esteem.
Since you are a grandmother, you need to have a serious talk with your child about their parenting and the needs and safety of those children.
I have a feeling there are lots of us out here - sm
I have to say I think I may have it better than most. I've been working home almost twenty years and now both kids, 17 and 19, are on the brink of leaving, probably next year. My husband started his own business working at home four years ago, and we're literally (almost) joined at the hip. We share a 10 x 10 office. Yet, we almost never talk. When we do it's business or kid related. Right now I'm making more money than he is, and his business hasn't grown as fast as he had hoped, and now with the economy . .
We started bickering about everything and about once a month have a big blow-up. I went to see a marriage counselor starting a year ago - he absolutely, positively will not go! So I'm going, mostly to find a way to survive another year or two until the kids are gone. I believe it will go one way or the other after that. I hope we stay together. We've both been divorced before and I wouldn't wish that on anybody. And I know the man I married is still in there somewhere. I'm going to do all I can to find him again so we can share the good stuff that we've worked so hard for - not to mention grandchildren when the time comes!
Good luck to you. I've got no advice for you, but you are definitely NOT alone!
Know the feeling, have a cat and 2 dogs - sm
luckily no health problems for the most part, though one dog had a bad sore on his foot, think he was bitten by Copperhead as we had one hanging about (dead now), cost $150 or so for the visit and antibiotics and bitter spray so he wouldn't mess with it. Got the cat off her yearly leukemia shot, asked about that thought it nuts that she had to have it every year.....she is 5, they agreed and said once every 3 is fine....wish they'd told me that 4 years ago. I also get Lyme disease shot which was not recommended around here until this year....apparently lots of it is showing up now, so with Lyme, distemper, parvo and rabies it gets a bit pricey for the 2 dogs and 1 cat. Our vet is very reasonable though, but her costs have gone up with her new addition onto her office and a new partner in the practice too.....we are rural though so that helps keep the costs down quite a bit....only one other vet here (2 miles from her), the next closest vet is 20+ miles away.
I'm sure some of your relatives are feeling sm
the same horrible crunch. Feel them out gently. Together you can approach the insensitive members of your family.
Instead of saying you "won't be buying any gifts," say you "can't" instead. It's the sign of the times, and not a reflection on you.
You can have a very merry and wonderful Christmas without gifts. It's love that makes Christmas Christmas!
Merry Christmas to you and all the other posters and readers!
Just feeling a little overwhelmed...
This is really just a ramble so feel free to chime in if you want lol
I'm in my fourth week of being back to school. I take two classes per 8 weeks, work a part time MT job during the week (I say part time but I'm at it all day), and work as a cover MT for the hospital on the weekend. I'm trying to finish my psychology degree since I'm only 22 and really want to get a PhD one day. Unfortunately all of this, along with trying to sell our house is really catching up to me. I can't really cut back on any work right now because of bills and my husband is a carpenter so if anyone's seen the housing market right now you know he's not making a lot. I'm just not sure what to do. I was so excited to start back to school, and I am LOVING my classes, but there is a lot of reading/writing/researching involved, and it takes time. It's 11 pm and I just finished my English 102 test (I did get a 96 so that's cool) and finished my hospital files (why do people always go to the hospital on Sunday for something that can wait until Monday? i.e. had a rash for a week, starting to go away, but decided to come in and have it looked at.) and now I'm sitting here waiting for my program to upload and finish some files for my job during the week.
I have only been an MT for a year, and I'm really starting to go berserk with this profession. It seems like we really do a lot of work for nothing. No other "profession" has you working around the clock for maybe $400 a week!
Okay, I feel better. I'm going to go finish these files and try to get some shut eye so I can start all over tomorrow! javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
If you are feeling smothered now --sm
and he is not even living with you, what will it be like when he moves in? After living alone for 16 years, I would be crazy with someone around me 24/7. Also, if you are only 'thinking' you will not be supporting him, there must be a reason for you feeling this way.
Why were you dumped 30 years ago? After only 3 months, I would think this is too soon to make such a life changing decision. Why the rush? Can he not move back to his home state without your help/support?
feeling sorry for my husband
I feel sorry for my husband too, his sister died of brain cancer, lung metastasis to the brain at age 52....he quit smoking on her birthday.
And my dear, the feeling is the same here
I was responding to the person who said by living here I felt safe and sound and wondered what la-la land she lived in where anyone feels safe without the doors locked. I am SO glad I don’t have neighbors dropping in on me, love not having salesmen coming to my door -unwelcome in the neighborhood without license to sell and I like my neighbors, in their own homes of course.
Were you feeling snarky this am when
you woke up and posted this just so you could find someone to fight with? That's what it looks like to me. The second poster asked a clarifying question, but you seem to have gone off the rails.
Curious.
me too, i get this warm fuzzy feeling,
and just lay my head down on my desk for a few...do some streches..its like...the longest days of my life.
bless you.....mine was only 231, so I am feeling
pretty lucky to have caught it early. My Dad has high cholesterol that he has to take meds for and I am trying to avoid that, but like you said, you can't choose genetics. I am walking and eating better. Good recommendation on the fish oil pills and garlic. I can handle that, just cannot handle the taste of fish unless it is shrimp or lobster and can't afford the lobster all the time, so there ya go. Good luck getting yours back down!!
Anyone have reactions to acetaminophen? I am feeling...sm
ill and I need to take something. Whenever I take anything with acetaminophen, I get really bad mouth sores. I tried to do a search on the web but I can't see what medications I can take that don't have acetaminophen. It seems like it's in everything. Can anyone help me? Thanks.
I am so feeling ya' - snoring hubby
The blanket sharing is not his fault, I guess, because they just shift his way through the night, but the SNORING drives me utterly MAD! LOL
If I do not get to sleep before him, then I might as well take the couch because he snores so loud.  Not all night, but initially, and then mostly in the early morning. I usually wake up cold (no blankets), and then the snoring keeps me awake.
Both of our hubbies probably need a sleep study. I think mine coud ENT surgery because there is no way he'd wear a CPAP machine; he's only 33.
Good luck with your snoring hubby and know you have a friend!! 
I'm a secret fan, too, but I got pulled away from the end. I have a feeling what's
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Wow, I'm feeling so sappy right now. I just tried talking to sm
hubby about this and he's completely blowing me off! so, I come on here and see this response. Thank you, KSMT. Really. I appreciate it so much. I just needed something from someone. You're right. I'm trying to work and cannot concentrate! I want to just take a bath and then go to bed before reading a great book by Joyce Meyer called, "The Power of Simple Prayer." I got it before I went on the trip and forgot to take it with me!
Thanks again!!!!
Is it a feeling inside the skull or under the
skin? I have heard of parasites/worms in the brain but that usually causes seizures and is fatal. There are also subcutaneous creatures, but you usually have to visit a rain forest to get them.
Hope you're feeling better
about the holidays. People here have some great suggestions!! Have been a little down in the dumps myself for a variety of reasons, really, really dislike all the ads everywhere in your face, all the hype, and spend, spend, spend message that it all seems to put off starting in October for Pete's sake! Been kind of ba humbug myself this year so reading the responses to your post has really helped me, too, and I hope any others who are out there struggling.... Wishing you and your family the bestest holiday season!
I was feeling sad recently, when I took my 2 babies
to have them bathed (cats). One I had bathed before and he is the most outgoing. His brother (they are 2) is a very shy guy and runs and hides from most except me. The person at the shop picked him from the way his mother would carry him and he went without a whimper. They were there getting bathed from 8 until after 5. I am thinking of bathing them myself next time- I mostly took them because they have dry skin but still came home with dander. I can do it myself- those boys love the water and try to jump in the bathtub so I will run some in there for them. I always heard cats did not like water?
Feeling kinda blue . . .
I want to rent some funny movies to have a good laugh and try to cheer myself up - any recommendations greatly appreciated. TIA.
Ohhh. Feeling a little dumb now...
I have a preteen....so my definition of gamer was, well...playing those darn games every chance they get.
I'm feeling guilty and ashamed
I have a confession to make. Yesterday on an impulse I read my daughter's diary. She's sixteen, and she and I have always had a good relationship. I can't justify what I did by saying I suspected something. I was just curious, and knowing that she's in the beginnings of her first romance I was looking to see if there was anything - - romantic? Shame on me!
As it is, I'm happy to know that with a few exceptions that were rather minor (details of conversations, etc) she pretty much has already told me just about everything she wrote about. In a way, that makes me feel guiltier. What the heck was I thinking, betraying her privacy like that? It confirmed how much she cares about this boy - I knew that - said how much she hates her father and wants to get out of our house - knew that too, but not quite how much!
Now I'm going to have to monitor what I say to her so I don't let on I know these details. I want to talk to her about her relationship with her dad without letting on I know how bad she feels. At the same time, I'm really, really happy to find out that she's as good a kid as I have always felt she is, and so open and honest with me.
I guess I'll just have to chalk this up to experience and be glad I didn't come across anything I would have to act on like drugs or sexual activity or something.
Feedback, anybody?
I have a feeling you are neither married nor have any children..
your advice is horrible...
Pugmom...How are you feeling today??.....
Did you get into the ED or your doc? What did they say? Hope you are feeling better today. Still keeping you in my thoughts.
Pugmom....How are you feeling today?
We have not heard from you. How are you doing? Did you get to the ED? Did you get any meds? Hope you are feeling better and that no news is good news.
Ok. I am feeling so horrible as a parent right now. My 2 year old son has a sm
wicked case of the chicken pox. Apparently, I missed his 18 month appointment which I completely forgot about - I mean, they make it 6 months in advance and then don't call to remind you about it (I'm not trying to escape responsibility)...So now he is running a very high fever of 104.0, is itching like crazy, and I feel so bad. The doc told me today that he shouldn't have gotten the illness (saying it sarcastically because he knew I missed the appointment)! Talk about adding to my misery.....
has anyone done anything like this before? I feel like total crap...You haven't a clue how bad I feel....And let's top it off with this - my husband came to the appointment and all the while I'm getting "drilled" by this doctor - my husband looks at me and says, "Don't look at me like that. It's not MY fault he didn't get the vaccine. You're home all day with them. You missed the appointment, not me!" Talk about support...I have none! 
Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now!
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