mastectomy pledge
Posted By: donna on 2007-05-03
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I try not to post on this site very much but this is something that is very important to me and should be to most of you out there.
www.lifetimetv.com/health/breast_mastectomy_pledge.html
Thank you for signing the pledge. 
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The pledge in and of itself is nothing. There has to be more.
My husband and I were virgins on our wedding night. It can be done! But the culture makes it seem impossible. Neither one of us made a public pledge. We were raised to wait, didn't date anyone until we were in college, and by then we were mature enough to consider the consequences of our actions. We were also young, ages 23 and 25, when we married; not teenagers, but still fairly young. (We're about to celebrate our 24th anniversary.)
I'm not very fond of trotting out young girls at father-daughter pledge parties, etc. I think the kids are pressured to do that. And that sort of pressure is not a good thing, whether it's to have sex or not to have sex. I would also prefer not to have government money sunk into chastity programs. But, I'm equally opposed to the DARE program, which also has a bad long-term track record.
It comes down to the culture of the family and the maturity of the individual, and yes, also in parental supervision. My friends and neighbors think it's cute and sweet that their 11 and 12 year olds date. ACK. I hate hoochy-mamma clothing for little girls. I hate listening to boys talk about girls with complete disrespect. As a society we can do better. We don't have to be repressed. Sex is a great thing! I like it a lot! But I also think of it as wonderful gift that should be treated with respect. That respect has to be developed gradually, nurtured and strengthened. A public pledge made when one's friends are all jumping on a bandwagon isn't going to amount to much in and of itself.
good for you! Your only pledge of
not betraying was in your wedding vows. What a relief it must be for him to step up. I am so glad you told him and wish all of you well. The glove was thrown down and she may run, so be it. Chances are she would have eventually anyway. Was she going to run with your vehicle? We used to have a saying, so rotten salt won't save you". Men usually have good instincts about getting tough with the kids when it is needed and I think you are doing the right thing. Deal with whatever as it comes up. Good luck.
I need suggestions for someone having a mastectomy...sm
a friend is scheduled to have a mastectomy on Thursday as she has breast cancer. People in her church and neighbors have already signed up to take meals to her and her family for 2 weeks. I'd like to put some sort of gift basket together for my friend. What kind of suggestions would you have of things to put in this that would be special and would be meaningful as she recuperates?
I remember when Nancy Reagan had a double mastectomy
and if I remember correctly, she was only diagnosed with it in 1 side. Not that you have cancer but I remember thinking and talking about her at that time I thought have a bilateral mastectomy was the way I would do in case of this ever happening, plus as aggressive chemo and whatever. Up to now, no further problem with her and I thought she made the right decision, just to be rid of the concern about the other breast eventually having to go back again. By the way, had hysterectomy, not for tumor but unending bleeding and probably best thing I ever did, vaginal route, really no down time, no pain (unlike before). Good luck with your decision.
A local mastectomy center might fit you for bras, too. Or a high-end lingerie store. nm
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I am status post bilateral mastectomy with TRAM flap 12/21/2006
my first post did not post...
-During the immediate postoperative period I found that button front pajama tops with drawstring pants were the most comfortable. About 1 week later if I had to dress, it was in some sort of button front shirt (warm b/c it was winter) and yoga pants or sweatpants. Eventually, I added in a camisole for some bit of support for the new "breasts" created in the reconstruction.
-If your friend will have postoperative drains you'll need some heavy duty safety pins to help keep the drains/tubing from pulling when toileting.
-Large ice packs were great for helping prevent/reduce swelling and also the need for narcotic pain medications. -For me the constipation/cramping cycle set up by the use of narcotics was worse than the immediate postoperative pain and I stopped using them during the day on postoperative day 10. (I would need these later on...see additional post)
-Since I had the suprapubic-tummy tuck type scar I found that my old underwear rubbed exactly on it. I did find some at Walmart..don't know the name but they are boy pants with lace V-front, and are about $3/pair. They were perfect and hit just below the scar.
-Tell your friend to start eating prunes or fiber now and be sure to get some Colace and take it preoperatively. I did so and still had terrible problems with constipation.
also: I recommend 2 books that really helped me out:
Not just One in Eight by Barbara Stevens
and
Beating Cancer with Nutrition by Patrick Quillin (formerly of Cancer Treatment Centers of America)
I hope this helps you and your friend. God Bless
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