obeying

Posted By: Michele on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: Obeying your husband.. - I screwed up my past relationships by being tooo s

How do you live by not being yourself? That is what marriage is about. You are married now. This is not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. If you are home I see cooking and doing household work but he should be helping as well. Are you able to ask him for help or are you afraid that you would lose him if you do? Man and woman are treated equal and if you believe any different you are not being fair to yourself. Yes, my husband brings home more money than I but we support each other and help each other out. I have 4 children plus do housework, and work P-T for two companies with his help!

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Obeying your husband.. - I screwed up my past relationships by being tooo s
- If yhour past bf's didn't like Valentine or birthday cards SM - CM
- Well, any healthy relationship should be close to equal - sm
- obeying - Michele
- Don't become a "doormat," and obey should NEVER be in your vocabulary! nm - Uh-uh
- Wake up! Obey? What is she a dog? - nm
- Don't let the "goodness" be one-sided, give yourself some personal space, AND try to have - at least 1 activity to do together. nm
  - And there needs to be "respect" on both sides. Neither should be "serving" the other! Yo - you do out of love. nm
    - ...You do for one another out of love and respect, not because you feel you "should" - be doing something. nm Communicate!
- I have a great marriage, and i will tell you what we do - mg
  - Marriage - Regina Hare
  - y huby and have pretty much the same kind of relationship as you mg - trose

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Obeying your husband..
Where do I draw the line between being a good wife and being taken advantage of. I'm all for women's rights but I lelieve the man is the head of the household and he should be treated as such.

I don't do everything for my husband but I do believe I should cook for him and serve him

He does the manly things like mow the lawn and take the trash out...but should I do sweet things for him? We've only been married 18 months and I don't want to ruin it by being too nice.

I screwed up my past relationships by being tooo sweet. I don't even like buying valentines and birthday gifts because it seemed to turn my past bf's off. They really seem to like bitchy, cold women.

What should (and shouldn't) I do for my man?