sending positive thoughts
Posted By: jlynn on 2008-04-23
In Reply to: I could use some collective psychic support - sm - NYMT
Hope everything works out for you. . My brother and his daughter have barely spoken to each other for over 12 years. . He now has 2 grandchildren. . I hope he will make that same first step you are making to mend fences. . Life is short - it's time for you to enjoy your grandchildren!
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Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. SM
I hope your son realizes we all make mistakes (including him) and that he finds it in his heart to forgive. Your grandchildren need to know you and vice versa. I truly hope it all works out for you. My dad and I were estranged even after I repeatedly attempted to reconcile and he died without ever meeting my children. So sad.
Sending healing thoughts to you - see msg
I'm so sorry for your losses. Elder care is so difficult; I believe their bodies are so fragile that a single event can take them so quickly. Hindsight is nearly always 20/20 but I honestly believe most doctors and facilities do the best they can. We nearly lost my 80-yo MIL a year ago to similar circumstances, and it made us all aware, including her, that she cannot take anything for granted and that every day is a gift.
Regarding your concerns on her salvation, please don't take that burden onto yourself or play the "what if" game, it will only torture you. Lean on Him and trust in that. (((hugs)))
Been there...sending you good thoughts and hugs!....
Hope the day gets better.
positive thoughts for a friend
Let me start by saying I can't believe how low some people will stoop. Just when I think I have heard just about everything, something else comes up.
My neighbor is the sweetest lady you could ever meet. The whole family is very nice and very giving. I have known them since I was very little and she used to babysit me and my sibs.
Three years ago, her daughter was a junior in high school and ended up pregnant by one of the "jocks." They dated for over a year but as soon as she ended up pregnant, he would have nothing to do with her (typical huh?.) I might also add that while his family is fairly well off, her family is not as fortunate but they are comfortable. The daughter decided to keep the baby and raise him with the help of her family since she was not getting help from the father of her little boy. I have kept him on occasion too and I just love this little guy.
Stacy finished high school and struggled to get her nursing degree, making a nice living for herself and Michael.
Last April, Stacy's dad passed away suddenly and now that everything is settled, she and her mother have come into some insurance money. Not a gigantic sum of money but nothing to sneeze at. Let's say its a couple hundred thousand.
After almost 4 years of nothing from Michael's father or his family, he's come back around again. Of course, he has heard there is some money now! Apparently daddy has cut him off for some recent bad behavior and I won't say what that was. Not only that, his mommy now calls Stacy all the time wanting to see her "grand baby." Oh BARF! Give me a break! Michael will be FOUR very very soon and NOW they want to see him?
Something really stinks.
Please send Stacy positive thoughts. I don't think she will give him (dad) the time of day, nor grandma either since she encouraged him leaving her behind but, you never know.
He really broke her heart when he just started pretending he never even knew her. He doesn't deserve her or Michael.
LOL. Sending this to MY mom...nm
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Sending You Prayers
I'm so sorry that you have to though this again if you did miscarry. My thoughts are prayers are with and your husband.
Sending you hugs - sm
I am so sorry for your loss. They are like our babies and it is so hard when we lose them. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to greive. Think about maybe a shadow box with your kittie's things in it as a memory.
In the jail they're sending her to,
inmates only get 3 pairs of underwear per week!
Which is apparently 3 pairs more than she normally has.
Question for sending to troops in Iraq (sm)
I want to send my cousin a care package for Christmas but want to know if there is a list of things I cannot send. Can anyone help me out?
TIA!
that's why i stopped sending Christmas cards
I never got any in return. That's not why I was sending them out, but why waste all that time and energy if nobody cares about it?
there is a reason and why would you consider sending an 8-year-old to a home?
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Person sending email to me has no clue
I got an email saying I never loved my brother and I should share what my father gave me with my SIL. I do not owe her 1 red cent. When my brother died in the early 70s she got a settlement then of between $350,000 and $400,000. Do you realize how much money that was then? My mother tried really hard to have the courts set up some kind of guardenship for their 2 minor children (her son's children) so they would have something to live on in later years. Being as my mother was only the grandmother, the courts would not allow this. The money gotten in the settlement was literally squandered. Just for the record, the 3 g'children she spoke of the other day included 2 of her's and 1 being mine. The really bottom line on this was the g'children would have never been able to keep the property because between the 3 of them they basically did not have 1 nickel to rub amongst them. I was paying and had paid prior to my father's death the insurance on the property and the property taxes also. The 3 g'children could not have done it. It takes a lot to keep a property up. My aunt told me is that is water under the bridge, a done deal. Before emailing you should have your facts straight.
"I told hubby would not mind picking up & sending to her"
rtq
Our Brownie troop is sending a care package (sm)
Glad I found someone to ask about this!
We wanted to have them make something...just baked cookies and made ornaments. After reading below will also add jolly ranchers and beef jerky...will the cookies ship ok? Do you have suggestions? I have to ship them today. They are in ziplocks and cushioned with tissue paper - any other suggestions? Thanks!!
Definitaly sending prayers for your daughter and family. nm
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I remember Mexico sending aide when Katrina hit
It really surprised me, and I was very touched by it. I remember thinking at that time, all these countries we've helped and the only place that sends help our way is poor ol' Mexico.
Don't feel like sending Christmas cards this year
Christmas is next week. Got pix of the family to put in the cards, and tons of Christmas cards from last year's Christmas sales. Every day, I say, I will do these cards. At least to grandma and grandpa on both sides. Every day, I put it off. DH got a roll of stamps and he has the cards sitting on his nightstand with pix, he has not done any either.
Thus far we got several newsletters from people, saying they did this, they did that, they celebrated this birthday, their kid did this and that. We don't plan to do a newsletter this year, b/c it seems to me these newsletters sound so self-centered! They are not even from family members, they are from DH coworkers and such.
My friends send me e-cards pretty much or we chat over the I-net. We send holiday greetings and catch up that way. My son will be getting grandma and grandpa's on both sides presents the end of the week, and I think I will just put the pictures in the packages when I send and forget about the cards.
This is really sad. Years ago, Dec 1 we'd get a bunch of cards and have ours sent out. Different colors of ink on the envelopes, red and green, holiday stamps, it would be so fun. All the cards we'd get my dad or I would put on a board in shape of a tree and we'd put it on the wall.
Now, it seems with snail mail, and so many other worries about cutting budget, finding enough work, I am not in the mood to write cards. Maybe it will become a thing of the past, and the boxes of cards will accumulate dust in the top of the closet.
Anybody else in this predicament? Thanks in advance for sharing your card stories.
he didn't bring back Nelli cuz he knew he was wrong for just sending those 2 in the meeting.
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Are you positive...
you don't have deer?? I have to keep a cage around my roses because the deer think the buds are a delicacy. I just had all of mine lopped off last night by a hungry deer. What makes me the maddest is that they sometimes leave a mess and don't even eat them all, just cut them off. We bought this stuff at Home Depot called Liquid fence. It smells terrible, but the animals won't eat what is sprayed. Your roses won't stink though if you like to cut them for the house.
Try to be more positive sm
I am trying very hard to see my cup as half full, not half empty. I hope I can carry this throughout the year. In the meantime, I have only a few days left to "work on it" so I shall start practicing. Hope I can keep it up. My husband says I could be president of Worriers Anonymous! I think I can, I think I can - I shall! Happy New Year! Good subject.
We have to think positive.
and hope that it dissipates. Big hope, I know. I don't want to go through that again, either, only this time I will stay and hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
No, we are absolutely positive about where and when -sm
it was left, I will be checking the schools L&F though just in case the guilty party returns it to there to escape detection.
Thanks for the positive feedback
I was just sharing a story.
Thanks you all for the positive posts.
I didn't think anyone would tell me not to let him go and that is exactly what I needed. I guess all along I knew I would not be able to keep him here, my heart would hurt too much to see his heart hurt if I did say no. I know I am supposed to just turn it all over to the Lord, but sometimes that is really hard to do. I will continue praying about it and I know that will help give me some peace. Thanks again to all.
I am 50! You are younger than me. How is that for positive??? nm
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Well...have taken 3 different self-assessments & all 3 are positive! (sm)
score is about 7 out of 10 on all of them. I don't know whether to be upset or happy. I guess I should be happy because maybe I can get some help with it.
thanks for all of the positive responses!
I did not think i was being negative at all, but here are two responses I got:
So you say the "only" things they do is fight for our country and rights and help out in times of need. What do you think that consists of? How many lives have been given since 1776 to secure and protect those rights? Have you ever looked at the freedoms we have and the wealth we enjoy? What more do you expect the military to do? Wash your clothes. We are the only truly free nation in the world and it is because men and women have chosen to join our military and fight to give you those freedoms that you don't seem to understand.
and
Ma'am, thanks for giving me a subject for my Memorial Day speech in our community. The subject will be:
Americans who have no idea what military heroes have done and are doing for us, thereby humiliating our sacrifices.
anything positive come out of this letter?
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Gee thanks for the positive feedback
I beg your pardon but I am certainly NOT spoiled. I have been in a marriage with someone who likes to point out all my flaws and correct me constantly, someone who told me I am just average looking and someone who has not touched me in over a year. I am staying for my children and have been staying for the last 6 years I've been miserable. Don't you dare judge me. Have you ever had your self-esteem taken away, your self-worth. A husband should tell his wife and think that she is beautiful, not average my dear.....I feel worthless and hopeless and ugly and hurt so please refrain from calling me selfish and putting me down - have enough of that already. Words of encouragement are needed.
Your Positive Event of the Day
Your Positive Event Of The Day
What is something good that has happened to you today?
Even something as small as having a candy bar you enjoyed.
positive things
1. The sun is shining (even though it's 0 degrees out).
2. I am warm and able to work in the comfort of my home.
3. I have work! Yeah!
I turned 40 today! Please tell me something positive about it!
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Thanks for all your positive help, case closed sm
I am going to close this query now. I have had many wonderful e-mails and help on the board which I can print (well, most) and make a little portfolio for him to get some ideas. His wife has been working double shifts nursing to make ends meet and he has been caring for the kids and doing all to make the holiday reasonably good for them. He's been doing all nighters on researching and the company is very impressed with all the research he's done on his new job and product and are going to travel here to meet him and work with him to get him started, Everyone is positive and anxious to make this new innovative product introduction a success. There are no coincidences and paying it forward has been our family's way of life and we are grateful to all who e-mailed and posted positive little hints to ease the transition, we are from a small rural area and am not familiar with that area. Thank God for good people in the Christmas Spirit. I've helped many on the boards throughout the years under another name and feel fully rewarded. I will continue to pay it forward myself and God bless you great people. We had a death in his wife's family over the holidays which we were unprepared for and travel arrangements, funeral plans, babysitting, eulogy, etc.had to be prepared, and you made our life so much easier and renewed our faith. I will close the subject now, it has been a lesson in life, that's for sure.! The end - Merry Christmas to those who passed on their holiday helping spirit. You helped us through a difficult time. Thanks so much to the helpers (and I made some new wonderful friends.). God Bless!
Great and positive post. - nm
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Positive sayings from your childhood
What sayings do you remember your parents telling you?
Do unto others as you would have them do onto you.
that doesn't sound very positive!!
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I think I remember it because it was a very positive experience...sm
you guys don't know how much you actually helped ole MTME4vr (that's me) thru some very dark days.
It did get kind of strange and intense with all the crazy anecdotes and side stories during the guessing games. Call me weird, I miss it terribly!! HAA! HAA!
Then everybody ended up either sick or injured, that was a rough spell!
Hey do you remember the story about one of the gang, think it might have been MTSara, went to the door and her neighbors were out in the yard arguing in their underwear?? ZOIKS!!
What's the penalty for testing positive?
How long before they can straighten up and test negative? Does this mean for the rest of their lives, they will never receive any welfare benefits becase they smoked a joint?
Would I the taxpayer have to pay for the drug testing that is performed this one time or multiple times? Would I have to pay more taxes when people are homeless? Would we need more homeless shelters? What would this cost the taxpayers in the long haul? Is every applicant tested? Where is this information for the results of the drug testing stored, in a police database? What type of rehab if the test is positive would be offered, if any? Would the person serve time for being under the influence? Would this cause me to have to serve jury duty more often? Would they also be screened for alcohol? What type of future ramifications are in order if and when they do get a job? Would the prospective employer be notified that welfare was not granted due to drug use/intoxication?
Not an easy task is it?
I am glad yours had a positive outcome..sm
my father died of cancer, liver, lung, brain cancer. An alternative treatment put him into remission for a year. He then took the *traditional* medical route and died within three months. I guess I have no faith in doctors any longer and certainly not in traditional medicine, as I view 99% of it as $$ driven and not true patient care or concern, dictated to us, the patients, the human beings,by the pharmaceuticals, insurance companies, and traditional physicians who have been cubicaled into *standard operating procedures* which are shoved down our throats, and now court ordered, as the only means of survival, all the while depleting our bank accounts and sentencing some to an untimely death, wherein they throw up their hands in disgust, saying *well, that one didn't make it, guess we'll try it on the next one and hope for a better result.* We are only guinea pigs to them any more, vessels to be tested on, and pushed aside when their precious *treatments* do not work. There is no compassion any more, for the human body. Doctors see themselves as gods, thinking they, and only they, hold a persons life or death in their hands. Their egos have gotten in the way and $$ and greed have taken over proper patient care. Personally, I have no faith whatsoever in traditional medicine any more. The *miracle* happens when one's own mind decides that it does not want to be ill any longer. We heal ourselves, if we allow ourselves to. I have seen it work miracles where miracles should not be expected. I have also seen it take a life when a life does not want to go on any longer. State of mind is everything. Doctors and pills, and vicious chemicals that ravage a body and destroy the soul, are not. But that is just how I have come to feel from the experience of *modern medicine*. No bashing intended towards you or anyone else. Just offering another perspective on things. Like you said earlier, agree to disagree, and on this subject, we totally disagree. That does not mean that either or us is right or wrong. We just had different life experiences. I am glad yours was a positive experience...mine and *Joel's mom*, not so much. So, I will stick that fork in myself now, as well, as I am just as done.
Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now!
nm
Results came back positive...I have breast CA.
Will correspond with you via e-mail.
I think it started in the movie Clueless - not positive, but I think
nm
Proof positive that time-outs are nothing but
positive press & Amazing story
http://www.wdsu.com/video/18244963/index.html
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2008/12/10/dnt.dog.saves.family.kwtv
Good ideas, positive thinking sm
We need more kindness around here. I try to stop and let someone through a line of traffic when everyone else ignores them. Most times I get a wave and a thank you, sometimes just a dirty look, but hey, I tried! Don't have to spend money or do anything spectacular, sometimes just a smile or a "go ahead" in line at the supermarket when they only have a few things and you have a carriage full helps someone out a little. What the heck, does make you feel better as well. Karma. Are you the type who gives people a break (or do you give them the finger)????
Not Positive, But State Employees' Salaries
RE: Has anyone every had positive prenatal testing for Down and then found out everything was fine?
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Daughter was 4 y/o with headaches. Turned out to be positive for Lyme. Never
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When she does something good, PRAISE HER. Reinforce positive behavior with rewards.
Lighten up, Mom. This is your child, whom you unconditionally love. Maybe you need Nanny 911 or Super Nanny who seem to be able to see under currents of passive agressive behaviors in parents when it comes to their challenging children. This may be your fight as much as your daughters. I say this because you are so dependent on getting others to be on your side.
Anyone getting an IRS return can you tell me how long it took after sending in your return. nm
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My thoughts
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but have you thought about having him tested for drugs? I work in a psychiatric facility and have seen first hand what methamphetamine is doing to this country. As a parent, I would certainly want to know if my child was doing drugs (hope this is not your case) but it's better to be safe than sorry. I would check with your local hospital, police department, prison or even psychiatric ward to see if there are any types of programs that would give him a first hand look at what drugs can do to you.
I advise you to take the upper hand. DO NOT let him threaten you in any way. In my opinion, the children of today could use a few good smacks. As parents, we should be allowed to discipline our children as we see fit (within reason). This is how it all begins, believe me I've seen it at my job. Parents literally have to put restraining orders on their children for fear of harm. Again, I hope this is not your case. I wish all the best.
Take care 
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