wow your own self
Posted By: things I know- SM on 2007-04-25
In Reply to: huh? - AnnieM!AnnieM!
She is "not" senile enough that she can file her own complicated income tax returns, and that of friends; live by herself and take care of acres of property including digging up 300 feet of field lines, emptying the septic tank and replacing a part in the bottom of it...but there are times when she IS senile...or pretends to be senile. She watches too much TV and politics and has developed the habit of saying "I don't remember that" when confronted on some meddling or false information she participates in.
If she wants to die by herself as she has stated that she does, fine, let her, but I'm not going to take my children and grandchildren over to her house and find her dead. She admits that she only tells the truth about 50% of the time to my sister, but my sister is after the estate mom will leave. Let her have it.
She told my son he wasn't worth the space he takes up on this earth because he is a private person and doesn't divulge details of what he does when he isn't around her...so because she doesn't know how he spends his time, she tells people outrageous lies about him..like he is gay! Then says "I don't remember saying that."
Other times, she really IS senile. She will go onto her computer and change settings, won't remember what she did and end up having to pay a computer shop to undue the damage she did. She destroys at least 3 pans a week when she leaves something to cook and forgets about it. She leaves the burners on with kitchen towels inches away.
And my sister "respects" her right to live this way (because, again, she doesn't know the truth by my mother's own admission), and she doesn't want me to have anything to do with her life as she sees my concern for her welfare as intrusive.
That door can swing both ways. She is 75 and should know I don't need her to call all over the place to let me know about my dental appointment when she knows if she shows up in the ER with a busted face, social services would investigate and get in her business.
If she can't be held responsible, then the letter should go to my ill-informed sister.
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