Been there..

Posted By: as a young wife on 2006-07-20
In Reply to: poll: Would you forgive your husband if he cheated? - MT58

Had blinders on and refused to face it even though many very obvious clues. Housewife, 2 young children, scared to death to go it alone, and I thought I loved him. Finally grew to be totally indifferent towards him and decided I didn't care if we ate beans! Got a job and got out. In second marriage now and very happy, and yes, I would leave in a heartbeat if I found out he cheated. Much older and totally self supporting now. I would miss him terribly, but I woudn't tolerate it now.

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poll: Would you forgive your husband if he cheated? - MT58
- Depends... - D
- cheating/infidelity - JPF
- Absolutely not. It's the one thing that is unforgiveable. - sm
- No I would not. That is the 1 thing I can not forgive. - ExpMT24
- Forgive--SM - none
  - do you mind if I ask is he still with the other person? - MT58
    - I don't mind your asking--sm - none
  - That's a very mature way of looking at it, I think. - sm
    - exactly! thanks. - none
- yes, married 25 yr now - sm
- I did. It happened 25 years ago and - Wannie
- They always seem remorseful. - Sue
  - The once a cheater-thing just is not - true...sm
    - That's why I asked if it was a one-time thing or a pattern - Sue
- I guess it depends on if it was a long-term affair or a one-nighter sm - allit
- No, I tend to hold grudges though I have become - nm - XXX
- Go to counseling and get guidance and structure. - nance
  - Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids! - rainbow
- Been there.. - as a young wife
- It would be the end of it for me. Not something I would want as an example for the kids, either. - No
  - kids have no business even knowing about this!! - klp
- Yes, if he was rich and good-looking. - MoneyTalks
- Absolutely not. nm - me
- shoe on other foot - Patti
  - I agree w/you Patti... - sm
  - Where are those pictures or you house and area? - I, for one, still want to see
    - I want to see them too....nm - casey
  - I think I could forgive..but not forget. - OP4me
- Married almost 20 years - FT MT
- Absolutely NOT! nm - Married for 18 years
- No...if it looks like a - Carly d
- Probably would depend on a lot of variables. - Not sure...

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