How old is your husband and is he retired
Posted By: Have question on 2008-02-13
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You saying on AARP- is this to supplement Medicare or just regular insurance? A family member has this coverage with her Medicare but I had no idea they had such strong regulations.
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DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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Now I know why they retired you...that'
bezoar)
(n.) A calculous concretion found in the intestines of certain ruminant animals (as the wild goat, the gazelle, and the Peruvian llama) formerly regarded as an unfailing antidote for poison, and a certain remedy for eruptive, pestilential, or putrid diseases. Hence: Any antidote or panacea.
Now I know why they retired you...that'
bezoar)
(n.) A calculous concretion found in the intestines of certain ruminant animals (as the wild goat, the gazelle, and the Peruvian llama) formerly regarded as an unfailing antidote for poison, and a certain remedy for eruptive, pestilential, or putrid diseases. Hence: Any antidote or panacea.
Now I know why they retired you...that's
disgusting.
You really should NOT participate in a forum:
bezoar (word used by Ella (retired!):
(n.) A calculous concretion found in the intestines of certain ruminant animals (as the wild goat, the gazelle, and the Peruvian llama) formerly regarded as an unfailing antidote for poison, and a certain remedy for eruptive, pestilential, or putrid diseases. Hence: Any antidote or panacea.
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eewww!!
My parents are retired and
do very well on their savings. It's called preparation. People make their own choices. If you don't PREPARE and do not take RESPONSIBILITY, you will eventually be in such a sad situation. It's not anyone's fault but their own for making poor decisions or failing to make better ones.
Morally, yes - I think other aid should become available to the "mom and pop" situation you are talking about but not reporting and paying taxes on income? No. That is wrong, period.
My boys were taught to pay taxes on their incomes from various jobs. They paid taxes and they paid tithes on it, no matter what it was.
It's called DOING THE RIGHT THING...which seems to be a forgotten concept among the older ones and a brand-spanking new concept among the young ones.
Tax evasion, dear, is ANYONE who fails to report appropriately. They may spend the bulk of money going after big bucks tax evaders but the crime is still the same. It is dishonest and it cheats every loyal, law-abiding citizen.
It doesn't matter if the job is easy or or not (i.e., your reference to house cleaning not being easy). THat has nothing to do with whether a person deserves to report/pay taxes on their income or not.
My mom is a retired teacher, so that was something
we never said at home. But as much as I have tried to correct my youngest, he still uses it. And he and my husband say, That DON'T matter. Yikes. doesn't doesn't doesn't. It DOESN'T matter!
You know, when you type doesn't that many times, it no longer looks like a real word. I double checked the spelling and I'm still not sure it's right.
I had someone tell me they wanted to do this when they retired sm
I said, then start your training NOW you don't have a minute to waste. She said she was retiring in 2 yrs. I said, good you almost have to get trained. She asked me about what she might make money wise. I said about $4 an hour for the first 6 months to a year. Screw that, she said, I thought you just sat and typed...
I love the tape in the purse idea! That IS priceless. My kids can tell you...mom works at home, all we see is the back of her head and all she says all day is "BE QUIET." Their friends used to say, yeah but your mom is home. They would say that her body might be here, but her mind isn't. All the lights are on, but there ain't nobody home! Exactly.
Right, retired in 2006...sm
Due to medical problems, and I am certainly not up on the latest technology or who is getting what type of work. When I retired, V/R was just becoming widespread and I never was involved in it. I just loved the ESLs, but maybe they have gotten worse/more careless/truly don't GAS. My sister had one that I could hardly understand either.
Retired Devoted Transcriptionists
Good for that lady, it is possible to work that long and work well. She is in Heaven with the saints. I am retired but not "dead." I would love to transcribe part-time but when they see the dates in my work history, for some reason they treat me like I am already dead. I have so much to offer. I was self-employed for a long time and did very well in my business from tapes. If someone would give me a break and let me practice doing it over the "Net", I would do it for free until I got it down pat if I had to. I can't think of a better way to spend my retirement years than to keep on working part-time. Now in my retirement, I would love to work from home part-time over the Internet. I am HIPAA aware and abide by all the rules. I love transcription, have the speed and knowledge to do many accounts, even acute care, etc. However, when I apply, I cannot describe to you in adequate terms how I am treated when I show interest in a part-time job in my profession. I have so very much experience, strength and love for my profession that it is like a fire in my belly. However, no one seems to want to accommodate someone who only wants to work part-time and they look at me as though I'm nuts to want to work at my age (60's). Their loss. Is there anyone else out there who feels the same way? Are we all just from the days of yore and useless? I am a a perfectionist at everything I do. I had to give up my self-employment for personal reasons and have been on a few interviews in which I was treated badly. I sure do feel like I've been "dumped" by the very profession I threw my heart and soul into, maintaining my CMT, etc., until several years ago, only to be trash heaped. Sorry, just venting. I would just like to know if there are other people of retirement age in the same boat. I have a young mind, a great attitude, and a youthful outlook. I won't lie about my age and I won't lie about how I feel. Abandoned.
Mine is a Retired Old Fart
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my dad retired at age 66, but I do not remember the year.--sm
he passed on when he was 72, which was six years ago. He definately had restrictions.
No, she got tired of working and retired before
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Ella, you have retired, so this is for the working MTs
I fully understand the theme here. If you want to hobnob with Indians or other ethnic groups, fine. To sit here and be swamped with people who cannot speak English and we have to be letter perfect on everything, no wonder we have these feelings. Go back to knitting now, ok?
At one time, I was an MTSO, but sold & retired from
MT last year. I do, however, still own, operate, and offer MTStars to American MTs.
Dont know when he retired but there is absolutely without a doubt no
restrictions put on after full retirement age. Perhaps you thought he had full and did not have- have spoken to 2 people from social security about this- learned most recently as of 1/2008. How old was your father when he retired and what year, if you know, was that?
Retired fire captain. His pension is doing it's thing for us, thank God! nm
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Retired or retarded? Anyone can retire if they set their life standards low enough
BUt if you think sitting on the couch pointing fingers at how bad the government is constitutes a wonderful successful life, good for you!
I'm not the one complaining about how bad things are, YOU are!
By the way, precious. I don't have to work, I want to, and am no longer an MT because I've gotten an education and moved on to a productive life with goals that stretch beyond the living room and the computer room.
Get over yourself. No one is impressed because your life certainly does not sound impressive in the least.
I once watched a retired FBI profiler who studied the case SM
and found evidence of a break-in from the basement window. He took pictures, explained his theory, showed how somewhat could have broken in, hid under a bed. He theorized that the intent was not to kill her, but to rape her. Probably someone who was the house that night. I forgot the profiler's name, but it was an interesting show. Very sad, sad case.
A contact of mine worked for them for 6 years w/o probs, FT. She retired from them, too. nm
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Stop trying to stir up trouble. Goldbird is a moderator and retired MT. She and
Busy MTing are two different people.
my dad just retired at full retirement age, and there is a limit on income for the first 2 years tha
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
One time I typed "Tp and his wife are retired and travel in their rectovaginal." Caught it tho
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LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM
He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc. He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer. He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc. I feel so stressed out too. It is a regular argument in our home as well. I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m. I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??"). Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school. He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh. Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours. Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.
Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house). Sigh...Men! Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;) Waaaaahhhh!! I need a wife!
LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone! Hugs to you,
Chickadee 
Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.
Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm
Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.
Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs! That's a crock. A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.
And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago. *lol* but not really laughing. Any man who will not let (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man. Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!!
feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)
Take my husband, Please !
 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket? Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal? While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink? This is not helpful. 
Yes, please tell us how your husband
Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race. How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet. Did his classmates tell him what their race was?
I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement. Did you think that only white people visited this site?
this is my first husband.
My son was born out of a very short immature teenage relationship, which I ended 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant. He proved his immaturity very quickly in his actions and I decided one baby would be enough to handle, I didn't need two. That choice, I feel, was very responsible and smart. I DO NOT regret keeping my son as he is a wonderful, smart, loving child who has a lot to give to this world.
I am done defending myself to those who choose to bring me down rather than offer some of the pros/cons of staying married or going single again.
What husband???
:)
No husband. nm
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My husband had this done
He regrets it sometimes. He still has problems on and off with reflux but had it much worse before the procedure. He lost a lot of weight after the procedure, probably 20 pounds or so because you are limited on the portion and what food you can eat. You are on a liquid diet the first 2-3 days then soft diet for about a week then gradually can start eating solid food again. He also has a lot of problems with gas, he constantly take gas pills but everyone I am sure is different.
my husband was there and...
He had me send Coolaid, nonperishable foods, candy, snacks, toiletries, and stuff like that. When my husband was over there, it was the beginning of the war over there and they didn't have all of that stuff. It may be different now though. You may want to go look at the forums at www.military.com. I am not sure, but you may find something there.
I said to my husband
at the beginning of the show "I hope Uncle June doesn't have a firearm in that house". He was talking about Pussy and some other guy that was also whacked. Tony made the mistake of saying one of their names when he was calling to him for supper. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I said, "he shouldn't have said THAT", no sooner were the words out of my mouth and BANG! I hate when I'm right about things like that. He's going to survive, just waiting to see how it plays out. I LOVE THE SOPRANOS! I LOVE JAMES GANDOLFINI! Good night!
My husband was like you regarding me and
sleep. At night, it was difficult for me to fall asleep but in the morning, I was out and it took dynamite to get me up if I hadn't gotten my 8 hours of sleep. I didn't continue to sleep because I didn't want to start the day with him, I did it because I was so drowsy.
When I did get up, I could feel his resentment, made me feel like I was lazy. It was very very bad to start the day off with bad vibes. This happened on vacations as well. He was an early riser but would take naps in the afternoon. I preferred to stay in bed until 9.
Let your kids witness you and your husband in a healthy happy relationship and they will go on to create one just like yours. That is all kids want really. Your actions toward are being watched very closely by these kids.
And yes, your husband sounds like a good man. After my marriage ended (I left), my husband was more than willing to give me the little that I asked for but the negativity snuffed out the positive in the relationship.
My husband used it
He said the withdrawals really weren't that bad. It comes with an aroma inhaler and that helped him a lot! He's been a nonsmoker now for 3 years! Good luck! It's one of the best things you can do for yourself!
Ugh, I am so sorry for your husband.
I've learned that when they speak their native language as much or more as English, the accent never goes away. It's a crying shame.
My husband used it...sm
He used it when he was a teenager at about 16 for 3-4 months and then again as an adult at age 26 for three months.
He had no side effects at all except maybe dry skin. For him it was a life saver because he is a salesman and appearance means a lot.
You just have to make an informed decision. I would do it if my child had acne. I'm a 33-year-old adult and have the occassional pimple because of my birth control and hate it. I try to cover it up with makeup, but boys don't have that option. I, myself, wouldn't hesitate to use it if I had severe acne.
Anyway, my husband says he was told that there may be times again in the future when he has to use it. It is not for long-term use all at one time, but he used it for a few months twice in 10 years.
Hope this helps.
My husband
did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!! AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200. UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.
Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.
My husband is the same way sm
Sometimes when I need a change I cook tortellini alfredo and crumble bacon over the top of it. He loves it. We usually add some garlic toast or a salad.
This is what husband and I have done...
for each big decision on job change, moving to a different state, or a situation similar to what you are facing now, one where we find it hard to decide but think we would be happy with either one. Scarey spot to be in, I know!
Make a list of two columns, one column for each choice (Admin Asst and MT).
Then list each pro/con for both options (each choice has to have the same pros and cons). Gas money, time spent with kids, social contact, type of work, etc., etc. - list whatever options are important to you.
Then assign a percentage or number to each option (my husband is an engineer so we have had to use this elaborate percentage work sheet thing he makes up!!! I just give him my number on a scale of 1 to 5 how I would rate each option and he does his mathematical calculations).
Then sit down with whoever you want to have input and start assigning numbers to each option in order of importance. If you use 1 as low importance and 5 as high importance - then, say, "Gas Money" option - working at home would be a 5 and the office would be a 1 (no gas money for home, lots of gas money for office). In other words, if gas money were the only consideration, home would win with a number 5 and office would lose with a number 1. Then go down your list assigning numbers.
When you are done, add up your numbers and see which option has the most points and that should tell you which you would prefer.
This may sound convoluted and I guess it is (unless you are an engineer or a math major) but, like I said, we have used this each time we have had a big decision to make, have gone ahead with the "most desirable" in terms of percentage outcome, and have been very content with our choice.
I might add that we have lived in 5 different states in 10 years - so we have really put this to the test!!!
The hardest part for me, I think, was getting to the point where I felt each option was equal in desirability. But you seem to be at that point already, having two choices and facing the anxiety of picking one over the other. So you are probably ready for THE BIG TEST.
Good luck to you no matter which you pick and whether or not you use my method!!
i see now that my husband is not only one
who can't seem to quit. I absolutely hate the effects (on health, house, etc), the stink, the cost, to the point i've thought of living separately. and he has been extremely self-diciplined in other areas of life too, but cannot seem to give this up.
My husband has this
My husband, 30 years old, had an ear infection. It got so bad that it caused him to develop Bell's palsy. They told him that it takes anywhere from three weeks to six months to return to normal, but he may have some permanent residual palsy. It has been about seven months and he still has some problems. He can only shut his eye about 75%, his smile is not all there and he has some noticeable paralysis to his cheek. Stress, common cold or hot days can bring on a recurrence or worsen residual symptoms. Our outlook is that there are worse things to have. Hope you do well with yours.
No different than my husband
downloading Express Scribe for me so I could test for an online position. That's why I love him sooooo!! My own personal techie, the love of my life!
Get a new husband
Just kidding. Sort of. But how long has it been since you've had a REAL vacation? The kind where you sit on the beach and drink Bahama Mamas? Or go camping, or hiking, or whatever it is you like to do on vacation?
If the answer is "more than two years ago" or "I don't remember", then you need a break.
If a vacation doesn't help, then you need a new job.
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