Are there any church groups or other groups you can join? SM

• Is there a cure for shyness. - Bashful
  • Are there any church groups or other groups you can join? SM - Lyrica
  • I was exactly the same way - Bashful2
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It was a therapy/support group that I attended with my son/daughter.  I was the only parent there.  My child was never molested or had any such issues you think are common to "gay" people you are acquainted with.  None of the TG people I have spoken with expressed concern about any past abuse.  The main issue that everyone had in common and kept discussing was the crushing rejection they received from society and their family.  Many were shocked and envious that I as a parent was at the meeting, because their own parents would no longer even speak to them.

If a child is born with gender issues, we make it very clear to them the minute the issue arises that we don't want to hear it. We accuse them of making a choice and judge their choice is wrong, so we punish them, we try to silence them and make them stop the nonsense. So they learn to hide it and handle it alone. IF they make it through puberty without suicide, as adults they tell us it still exists and they must face it. What do we do then? Accuse them of duplicity because they faked being "normal" for so long (after WE forced them to), punish, ignore and hate them, cut them out of the family, weep and moan from the shame of it all and what people will think of them and us. We even tell them we'd prefer they were dead! Because we'd rather deny and eliminate our own child than deal with THIS problem. How very sad for us all. We need to focus on what is wrong with US that we would react this way to a loved one with a very tough problem. Only then can we work on how society sees it.

So for every transgendered person you hear of - know this - they are dealing with a horrible backlash from the people they love AS WELL as the gender issue. Most of them contemplate suicide daily (statistically 50% do commit suicide - the other half that die untimely deaths are murdered). Despise them if you wish, your opinion won't make it go away. The next transgendered person born could be your child or grandchild, your neice or nephew, your best friend's new baby. I pray they will each have someone in their lives that will love them anyway, who doesn't choose gender as more important than the human being.

My neice has participated in 4H going on her 5th year since she was 8.  jShes' now 12 and she shows her horse, plus she does enters cooking projects, art, scrapbooking, and crafts.  There are so many different interests and programs for any kid.  Besides horses, there are rabbits and guinea pigs, plus all the assorted farm animals.  There's archery and competetive shooting.  Public speaking, woodworking, art projects, cooking, sewing, dog training, just about anything you can think of.  Your son doesn't not have to have a horse to participate.  Join a club that has a horse group.  A lot of times the leaders have horses they'll loan a kid for the year or know someone who will.  Don't let that stop you.  If you're in a position to do it, you can lease a horse.  That's what we did at first, we leased her horse for 6 months and then ended up buying him.  4H helps keep them out of trouble.  Teaches them responsibility and gives them self-esteem.  It's a family organization, so you and your husband can partiicipate if you like, they're always looking for adult volunteers.  Check with the county extension office where you live or in another county, if you like.  You should be able to find info online.  There's no residency requirement.  Tell them what you're looking for and they'll try to find a club that's a good fit for your son. 

1)  I love to smell gas, damp cellars, wet grass (the mowing kind!)

2) I love green olives but most of all I love to drink the juice also.

3)  Got angry with my father, moved, changed my phone number and did not give him the new address or number for months.

4)  I could never be Angelina Jolie because I would rather adopt animals rather than children.

5)  Oh, no one knows this, got angry in the 2^nd grade at another girl jumping me in the line before going to lunch and stuck my pencil into the top of her head in a hissy-fit. I still remember her name.

6)  Had my first sexual encounter at age 15 at my mother’s home and hid the sheets, of all places, under my next door neighbor’s house. Over the many years since he and I have occasionally called each other. I still dream though don’t touch.

7)  I have some different eating habits. I used to eat white rice, milk and sugar as a breakfast food (the rice bothers me now so don’t eat as much) and I also tear up white bread and put in regular milk- I know it is soggy and my family gags but have done this all my life.

8)  Happily married now for 9 years but OMG can never forget about that delicious sex I had with my ex-husband. I mean, Delicious with a capital D.

Truthfully, though, no one can quit until it's their time.  I just had to finally get really disgusted with myself.  I owe this to my child.  My best friend just died at age 54 two weeks ago from lung cancer.  My father died at age 58 of the same.  My sister is currently in the hospital with pulmonary emboli (even though she has never smoked).  And lastly, rumor has it the price is going up to $8 a pack in my state.  By just not smoking for the last five days, I already have an extra $50 in my wallet.  Wow.  I am the smartest woman and I know, and yet how can I continue to be so stupid?  That's where I'm at mentally.  I really want to succeed this time.  Now, where are those carrot sticks?

Work is slow right now (and has been for a while).  I am getting up earlier to get a few lines, going to sleep later hoping to get a few lines, and taking a nap in between to make up for lack of sleep.  My 8 hour job has turned into 18, and my weight is trying desperately to keep pace.  I eat when I am bored.  I do not want to leave and go shopping just in case work should happen to appear.  My house is clean.  The dogs well fed.  Everything is fine except for my scale.  I really wish I could get a scale that lied, that way it would fit in with my job.  EMPLOYER: You would only be expected to work an 8 hour day.  EMPLOYEE (4 weeks later): Yeah right.  Eight hour days give or take 10 hours.  ME GETTING ON MY SCALE: You weigh only XX amount of pounds.  SCALE’S RESPONSE: Darling, you are too beautiful, and you weigh 10 pounds less then yesterday. 

Well, I didn't say the ONLY place to find teachers who care is at a church school, and I certainly don't believe that.  I do think your chances of finding them in a church school are a whole lot higher, however.  I didn't intend to create a religious argument either.  I was genuinely interested in why you would not want your children in a church school. 

they instituted a "reform program," whereby the associate pastor and elder members of the church agreed to take in single men who were recently paroled.  They dressed up and brought them to church every week.  They were introduced when they first came, but nothing was mentioned about their "crime life", etc. 

My point is, to the newer church goers, these men seemed like perfectly respectable church-going men, all the while they weren't.  Please keep this in mind.