if you ask a church for help they ask if you are a member
Posted By: funny how they always have enough to build on on 2009-03-04
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but limit funds to help the needy
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As a member of a large church I am always around others. We have different sm
groups and we do dinner once a month, shopping once a week (if you can make if of course), movies once a month, etc. Then I attend a Bible study on Wednesdays with another large group of women and we will get together a lot and talk on the phone during the week, etc. This, along with my family, sister, in laws, etc., and I am far from being an introvert working at home doing MT. Been at it for 8 years.
To be honest, and don't take this the wrong way, but as an MT or anyone who works from home, you decide if you want friends, a social life, etc. We work 8 hour days or some of us work 4 hours. That leaves you lunch hour to get together with a friend or 2, after work for dinner, shopping, and a movie, and then weekends for a couple of hours. We all need balance. It is not healthy to be at home all day with no interaction whatsoever. You will begin to suffer if you continue living that way. Trust me, as a former depressed person who suffered from post-partum depression for 4 years (yes, you read that right!), I had to make a decision that I would not exclude myself from my friends and family, would make NEW friends while I was at it, and it has turned me into a very positive and fun person to be with.
I can't tell you how many parties I've hosted since coming out of my depression. My friends call me Rachel Ray with a mix of Paula Deen (I'm leaning more towards Paula), since I LOVE to decorate and entertain and be a blessing to others, ministering to them if I can, lend an ear or a hand if I can and have an "open" home where people can drop by if they need to talk about something. My life has been fantastic since overcoming depression.
I'm not saying all extroverts are depressed, but that was the reason for me.
Good luck.
I would join a church or church group. SM
I'm sure you will find someone like yourself, who likes to do the things you do, whether friend is male or female.
I'm laughing, because I am not religious fanatic. I do go to place of worship, but believe me, not fanatical.
church, church, courthouse. Married the same man
all 3 times. 
Well my church is a SB church in South Georgia
So maybe you're going to the wrong SB church!
Yep, I'm currently a member of WW
I joined Weight Watchers back in early September and am down a bit over 13 pounds right now. It's not a "quick fix" program by any means, but it's something I know I can live with for the rest of my life since it's not a "diet". Best of luck to you, and I just know the scale will start moving for you! :)
a family member will help us....
for the initial part and maybe refinance the house in a year or two and transfer it to our name.
New family member
DH and I had been waiting to get another dog. Sasha is hanging in there, which is great, but I've been eyeing a dog at a nearby shelter and DH went to meet him today. He loved him instantly and put down a deposit. He said he is very calm and sweet, so hopefully he will be gentle with Sasha right off the bat. I know he needs to get out of the shelter - it was noisy pandemonium in there, and Bear was completely silent.
A fellow member . . .
of the loss of a child. I understand and sympathize with you. I too lost a son 16 years ago in a tragic accident. He was 23 at the time. Yes, it does change your life forever. We all grieve differently, and somehow find our way back to a life. For me, it was our other only child, a son, that made me, forced me to make my house a home again back then. I thought about how my deceased son would want us to go on, and how it was hurting him to see us in so much pain. I thought about death a lot, and that we are all walking toward that end one day. I thought about how I need to help make my other son happy again. That helped me to gain some semblence of a life again. Now, I see death as part of life and try to focus on what I make of my life, and how I can make it happy for my loved ones. Yes, my husband and son, and I think of our lost one, but we try to think of him with a smile and how some day we will be reunited again. My sympathy to you and your family. It is not easy. You are so fortunate to have other children. God bless you all and give you happiness.
i had a family member
that was such. Yes, they can sure turn it around. the predominant characteristic is that they tell a lie even when the truth would be easier/when there is no need to lie. but when they are trying to cover something, wow, there's no limit to the drama.
Anyone a member of Curves?
I am thinking about joining with a co-worker and would love some feedback from current members. Do they have treadmills, etc or is it only the 30 minute circuit training?
I am a member of a rescue
Wow. What it sounds like is your "friend" is a lazy good for nothing.
I belong to Ohio Pug Rescue. It is a volunteer organization but we do have fundraisers, yearly dues, take donations, etc. and four times a year, the money we take in and the money that goes out (and what it went for) is published for all members to see. (One year, I couldn't think of a thing I wanted for my birthday when the girls at work asked, so I asked them to buy dog food, dog toys, dog shampoo, *anything* dog. I ended up with a great donation for our rescue). We ask no questions when someone wants to give up a pug and nobody makes any money. We constantly have pugs coming in and they are automatically spayed or neutered, have any health concerns taken care of and have a teeth cleaning with possible extractions. They are sent to foster homes until they are found a forever home (and believe me, we're strict about who can take one in). Yes, there is a fee for the rescue pug - around $200-400 depending on how much vet work had to be done, etc. But again, we all do it for free. Any money left over, if there is any, is kept in the account because there are always new pugs coming in that need something.
Our volunteers volunteer in different capacities - some travel to pick up the pugs, some foster, some do the fund raising or whatever. My name and phone number are with all the local animal shelters and with the local dog warden should they have an unclaimed pug they're going to put down.
Is there a way you can get completely out of this thing you started with her? To me it sounds like she started making money on it and just squeezed you right out.
You may just have to cut your losses and maybe consider starting another rescue. Or, do a Google search. Perhaps you can join an existing local rescue. Bless your heart for caring. I walk our dogs in a field and around a plaza and there are about a dozen cats (I'm not saying this to be funny) that live behind the Chinese restaurant part of the plaza. Someone feeds them, has provided shelter and water. My neighbor took one of the cats in several years ago (it wandered up onto our street). Last year, we took one in that followed me home from a walk. We took it to the vet, got tons of mites cleaned from his ears, got him all his shots and had him neutered. I made him stay inside for a week (he loved to follow us on our walks, staying just a yard behind). The firt time I let him out after his surgery, he was run over by a car. How does that go? Que sera sera? I won't take anymore in. $300 in vet bills and a dead cat. He grew up an outdoor cat, there just wasn't any way I was going to be able to keep him indoors.
So, pugs it is and pugs it always will be for us. :-)
And, btw, I am one of the working poor, a member of
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Anyone have family member on Coumadin? sm
Have someone coming home on Coumadin after IV heparin and states they are not dietary restricted. Just sounds frightening to me. They have a filter in place. I am just worried but also my input is not welcome. Just sounds not right to me, too many risks, I think some diet caution here but then again, I hear too much, don't I? I am my own worst enemy. For now, I am shutting up but not sleeping too well over it. Perhaps just venting will help, maybe I'm wrong.
...and another member of the Forum Taliban is
You people are nothing but terrorists seeking to impose your private notions of correctness on the rest of the forum population. We will be grateful if you retire to your cave somewhere in Afghanistan.
Anyone that is a member of AAA ever sign up for the cellular plan using
Consumer Cellular with them that can tell me how they like it.
Family member with small cell lung CA
Anyone have direct experience with this disease? I have done MT for longer than I want admit, so I know a lot about the clinical aspect of it, poor prognosis, neurological side effects of the chemo, possible brain irradiation down the line, etc.
My niece, who is 49 years old, was diagnosed today and is starting chemo tomorrow. She has 2 masses, one outside the lung and one inside. One mass is near the lymph system and at this time they are not sure if there is mets or not - will do a PET scan and an MRI in a week or so to better assess this.
If you pray, offer her and her family up, otherwise, please think positive thoughts for them. Thanks.
Family member has one that opens up like an umbrella! Cool. A
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Just be supportive and a loving friend/family member - sm
My son jokingly tells me that I have Super Gay-Dar because I have had a few friends out to me first.
When my friend Chris came out to me a few years after high school, he was a complete wreck.
He called me up one night after I had not heard from him for awhile and the conversation went something like this.
Him: I really have to tell you something (I could tell he was shaking terribly and just sounded so upset and scared.)
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm gay. There I said it.
Me: And?
Him: What do you mean AND?
Me: Are you serious? You think I DIDN'T know? How many times were we BOTH checking out guys "back pockets" in the mall? How many times did YOU help me pick out dresses for formal dances? How many times did my parents let you come over for slumber parties all the way through high school? Do you think they let ANY of my other guy friends do that? Did you notice there were no other GUYS at those sleepovers?
Him: He has such a funny loud, barking laugh and he just started laughing and then crying.
Me: You wouldn't be you if you tried to be a straight guy. You're more fun this way.
Him: I just love ya girlie, You're my bestest bestest girlfriend.
Me: You're my bestest bestest girlfriend too.
And that was that. We still laugh about it. He can always make me laugh.
A guest book attendant is not a bridal party member and should
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Obviously you've never had a family member killed by a drunk driver.
Long ago? Time has nothing to do with it. The man has an alcohol problem and left the scene of a homicide. Sounds like you're ok with that. I'm not. It speaks volumes about his character.
Not mentioned, but a family member loves the Myrtle Beach area, very metroplitan, but they live
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In a church
with a full catholic mass and I guess what you'd call a traditional receptionist.
In a church...sm
The same church where I was baptized and confirmed and where my kids were baptized and confirmed.
church school
Well, I didn't say the ONLY place to find teachers who care is at a church school, and I certainly don't believe that. I do think your chances of finding them in a church school are a whole lot higher, however. I didn't intend to create a religious argument either. I was genuinely interested in why you would not want your children in a church school.
UPDATE. Mom is at the church
I guess she heard me. LOL.
Get ready for the next battle over the baby. I would love to raise that baby myself. She is adorable.
You could always go through the motions and go to church
to please him. I do that with my family. I respect my family's religion, but I just don't believe in organized religion. If it is only important for him to have you in church and you don't mind, you can always try that. If his issue is that you have faith enough to be a Catholic, that will be a tough road.
Are you looking to hook up with your church guy?
If you REALLY want to leave, do it while he's at work. Call the police and have them assist you.
Yes, definitely!! Call him Church. (nm)
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lol - you are 2 much, church lady!
LMAO
We grew up going to the same church
until we were about 11 or so. He moved and I didn't see him again until my senior year of school when he moved back into our home town. He looked me up and we started dating. We got married when I graduated high school and we will have been married for 36 years in June of this year. I was 19 and he was 21.
I live near this church
and heard on local news the pastor himself is having difficulty with it, whatever that means!
church is a coverup for sm
many of these guys. It still doesn't change the fact that he can and will hurt you! You haven't read about "church people" and pastors beating their wives or murdering their wives? What are you waiting for? My opinion? You do not want out. you say you wnat help but then don't listen. That is why you are in the situation you are in. What do you care what people at church say or if they are for him or you? IT DOES NOT MATTER! GET OUT AND WORRY ABOUT IT LATER!
At the church I used to attend --
they instituted a "reform program," whereby the associate pastor and elder members of the church agreed to take in single men who were recently paroled. They dressed up and brought them to church every week. They were introduced when they first came, but nothing was mentioned about their "crime life", etc.
My point is, to the newer church goers, these men seemed like perfectly respectable church-going men, all the while they weren't. Please keep this in mind.
I met my husband at church when sm
I was 16 years old and married at 18. I am now 54 and will be married 36 years in July!
Since the Catholic Church
is still firmly entrenched in the Dark Ages, it is no surprise. That poor child, but BRAVO to her parents.
Mine was about 2 yrs. ago in church
We were having communion, the grape juice was being past, as I went to pass it the tray hit the back of a seat in the row ahead of us . Cups , juice & the tray went flying . I sat there numb & couldn't move, I felt everyone staring at me . It all ended up on the carpet & a few upholstered seats ! One of them men serving got splattered, he was wearing a tan suit , I help so bad, felt like leaving . A young man cleaned up the mess & we went on with the service . The church has new carpeting & new seats now & I 'm really careful not to have this happen again .
Westboro Baptist Church. sm
Ladies there is a bunch called Westboro Baptist church that does this sickening protesting and they call themseves christian. They were the group that was going to show up up the Omish school house funerals. This is a "christian" organization. Hannity and Colmes let them come on FAUX and they agreed not to show up at Omish funerals.
no, she's not gonna hook up with church guy
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This guy has to get a clue. He isn't a pastor. He has no church. If he did sm
he'd have members. This guy thinks he's leading, but he's only taking a walk.
I kind of feel sorry for him, though. I am in the ministry. If the people don't support you, you have no ministry. This guy has no support. If he did he wouldn't have had to do what he did. He probably didn't bother telling anyone because these people aren't committed to attending his "church" anyway.
If it were me, I'd cut my losses, pray for him and move on. Don't call the police, just move on.
One of the biggest problems facing the church today is bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness between believers.
I know you probably don't want to hear this - but join a church! sm
I would be homeless and helpless without my church friends/family. They are better to me than my own family.
i received numerous cards and most were from church folks. There are people who care! I wish I had your name and address because I'd send you something special. I'm serious.
It's just so sad. I think sometimes people give their church (sm)
too much power instead of reading their Bible and seeing what they think God actually thinks. Different churches have different opinions and I don't see how a person can just allow the church to make a life decision like that for them.
Our church has WMU/Brotherhood meetings
and every couple of months we switch it up and the guys cook instead of the girls. It's always interesting, and yeah, some do bring buckets, but its fun to see what they make. Last time our pastor made pecan brownies and they were actually really good! (He actually read the directions on the box!)
P.S. WMU -Womans Mission Union
Brotherhood - Men of the church who do missions projects
baked potatoes to church
Wash and cut in half each potato. Wrap in aluminum foil and bake. Leave the foil on. They will stay hot about 2-3 hours out of the oven. I have used this recipe for 100 people. Put the toppings on ice! It is always a hit!
Amen to that sista! Don't ask a SB church for help nm
My children have all gone to the private school through our church
anti christian or something, but I really don't know. I believe, perhaps, what the poster meant is that teachers who work in private church operated school settings do so because it is their ministry or calling by God. For me, knowing that my child is in a setting where the teacher loves God, children, and teaching is comforting to me.
If she really loved him, she would bring church to him. She wouldn't go if sm
he didn't want her to go and would respect him. That is just my opinion.
So, it's not so much the church as it is the unannounced knock on the door.
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Darfur.. Many church organiziation has mission
money that goes toward the people of Darfur. They are not overlooked by all.
Spiritual in other ways aside from God. Don't attend church.
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Do you have friends close by? Joining a church can be very
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Our church is having a "Girl's Night Out" potluck
The men are to bring the main courses & the ladies will bring the deserts . DH says he will go by KFC & pick up a bucket of chicken or bring bread but he isn't cooking ! Has your church or organization done this ? How was it ? Were there some unique dishes brought ? I told him I have some easy to make dishes but he said "I'm not cooking".
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