Contact him and be thankful you found him alive and hopefully healthy. sm
Posted By: roadrunner on 2007-05-28
In Reply to: Found my real Dad. - What should I do?
If you pass this opportunity up, you may never get another chance. I think i would call him, but you also have to think about someone else answering the phone and be prepared just in case. i believe everyone deserves a second chance and a chance for explanations. my eldest brother recently had his 23yo son contact him. lots of issues and reasons, but at least his son got to meet his father. now i am trying to get the family together as i am trying to get to know my nephew via myspace. both were sitting around waiting on the other to make a move after their initial meeting and neither were doing it. just FYI though, my brother's wife also had a major problem with my brother meeting his long lost son as well. what's up with that??? i can't comprehend that. as adults, it isn't like they are only after money you know. just want to know their family is all. contact him before you regret it!
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Maximizing the life of your hard drive
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 Here's a tip if you bought your daughter a Baby Alive doll for Christmas. Go to Wal-mart and buy the White Cloud newborn size diapers, 40 to a pack -- they fit better than the Baby Alive doll diapers and they don't leak! Much cheaper way to go if your little one feeds her new baby as much as mine dones.
I had a Baby Alive when I was little, and I am almost 40 now, LOL. I loved her! nm
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Baby Alive Doll
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yep, alive and well. Married almost 29 years now. nm
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Y&R Fans -- Nick is alive! :0)
Wonder what the story line will be now? I was hopeful that they didn't kill him off for real.
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I see Mr. Ebenezer Scrooge is alive and well...sm
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