Contact your local battered women's shelter
Posted By: Dreamweaver on 2007-06-02
In Reply to: need advice - Tina
Go out of the house to do it, call from a pay phone, not your cell phone or anywhere that it would leave a trace. They will be able to help you get out of there safely. It is dangerous to try to do this on your own, especially if your husband will come looking for you. You need the help of people who are experienced with this kind of situation and can offer you a safe haven while you are figuring out your next move.
Call them TODAY. Don't wait any longer. Just tell your husband you need to go to the grocery store (and be sure you come home with some groceries). Call them from a pay phone. If you don't know the name of your local battered women's shelter, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and they can guide you. There is a link below to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Good luck. Please keep us updated on your situation.
LINK/URL: National Domestic Violence Hotline
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One time I went to my local animal shelter
and was thinking about getting a second dog. I already have a German Shepherd, and thought that she may like a playmate. My husband and I saw the cutest golden retriever/yellow lab mix puppy, and they wouldn't even let us in the kennel to see the dog without filling out a bunch of paperwork. We told them that we probably weren't even going to adopt that day, but we still would have had to fill out all of the paperwork just to go in and meet the dog. I think it's great that they care so much about making sure these animals go to good homes, but sometimes they make the process almost impossible, making less people want to go through the process and actually adopt. I think that personal references and even meeting with you in your home are great, but a home inspection? That's a bit extreme. It's not like you adopting a human child here.
Also try local no-kill animal shelter
My sister's first dog was an AKC standard American Eskimo she got from a no-kill shelter. He was supposed to be a show dog, but wasn't *perfect*, so his original owner considered him a worthless mouth to feed and left him at the shelter. For my sister's family, he was a beautiful and loving pet for many years. You will pay for the necessary shots and probably to have your pet *fixed* as well as perhaps a bit of a mark-up to support the shelter, but you will have a healthy pet, and you will get the one you see.
My sister's current dog is an AKC Pomeranian she got from a Pomeranian rescue organization. Again, she got a beautiful and loving dog. His original owner had decided that he was just too much trouble. If I remember correctly, the rescue service had pictures of available pets on their Internet website. Again, there was a good-sized fee to cover having him checked out by a vet and *fixed* with again probably a bit of a mark-up to support the organization. She had to drive a ways downstate to get him - they would not just ship him.
My sister considered the fees reasonable. As she says, it's a reminder that this is a living creature whose life has value, not a toy to be played with for awhile and then discarded. I hope you will be as fortunate as my sister has been in whatever way you find your pet.
Your tax dollars already go to the local shelter/animal control...sm
Police Dept., or whoever handles animals in your community. I hate to break it to you, but you're *already* paying for it. So why not have your tax dollars spent on spay/neuter, education, and training programs thru the shelter *instead* of having to be spent (as they currently are) on housing, feeding, and ultimately euthanizing so many animals? Because a TON of $$$ is spent on that now. Look it up for your community. You'll probably be shocked at the costs.
Honestly, looking at it strictly from the financial aspect of it, it would cost *less* to do more spay/neuter and education. We have it completely backwards. Makes no sense.
That being said, many communities do have organizations that offer low cost spay/neuter for seniors and low income families. And many shelters are starting to get things going in a more postive direction. More power to them. Now if we could only get the pet stores/puppy mills and backyard breeders under control... *sigh*
Contact your local ACO....
Call your local animal control officer, or if you don't know the contact info for them, the police should. It's their job to calmly address the situation. It's not fair to you to listen to this poor animal all day long. I would also mention that you fear for not only the animals safety, but also your own. I'm sure it is on record anyway from the prior incident but wouldn't hurt to bring it up again. I would definitely not approach the people one-on-one, especially given their past behavior.
I'm sorry you're going through this. 
No outside contact & children and women taught
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Contact a local realtor who buys homes. There are people in your area who will buy sm
buy your house if you are in foreclosure so that this doesn't happen to you. Look into it ASAP!
Referriing to the women being "robotic," our local
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Try the shelter because they usually know
about low rates for getting them fixed. Some do very low cost according to your income. Pretty kitty....
There is one shelter here
that will not allow the pits to be adopted, others might be similar but 1 only lets rescues get them so the shelter not responsible. I just wish I had 24/7 to work exclusively for the animals. They are just my heart. The group I am with has taken cats/kitties, paid for spaying or neutering, vetting and then no charge just to get them forever homes. This is the real joy in my life. I wish we could do runs and take animals to other parts of the country where there is a lack of them. So many, so little time.
Shelter cats
I totally understand that you are making the best decision for yourself, but I have to say I don't understand a Shelter saying your home is not good for a cat, how about a 8-10 year old cat, that's not very old, and to save a life they can learn to live harmonously with yappy dogs. JMO. I hope in the future you might feel comfortable to get one, they are a joy when you have one that wants to be with you.
shelter mutt,
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Aww! That is great that you got shelter..sm
dogs. They need homes too. I guess we should all do that too. :)
yes, they are a no-kill shelter - at least they said so! nm
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She got her at the Animal Shelter in Lancaster, PA SM
She is the most darling cat and so very beautiful! She looks sooo much like the picture! Nina is very elegant. She is adored and lives in a lovely condo in Lancaster with my niece and her very number one fan, Nicole, my niece's 10-year-old daughter! They have since gone back to the shelter about a year ago and adopted a male cat, Reuben. He is a pretty beige/rust color, has outgrown Nina by a mile and is just an absolute love!! He refuses to drink out of his bowl, and when his aunt (me) babysat them this summer I spoiled them just a tad. Now my niece has to turn on the water in the kitchen sick for the kids to drink!! LOL 
Oh I am so glad to hear there is a shelter...sm
that does give pits a chance. I love em. I love all dogs.
There are probably waiting lists for little dogs at the shelter and/or
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this is a great post; I have shelter pets.
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Call womans shelter/police and ask them where to
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Shelter said home situation not proper for older cat.
We really wanted to give an older one a home too, because our little local shelter here is PACKED with cats and the poor things only have a 'shelf life' of 7 days before they are euthanized. We have 3 small yappy dogs and they just didn't have any older cats that they would be comfortable placing with us, and I can COMPLETELY understand that. It's just so sad to see these cats in cages looking so sad and deserve so much better than whatever life's circumstances caused them to be brought there. The volunteers told us more and more people are surrending their cats because they have to choose between cat food and fuel. I'm sorry, but you can feed a cat (healthy ones anyway) the cheapest of cheap dry food, I mean, if that's what it takes to get by. I couldn't imagine just dumping my cat off at a shelter, where you know they will be put to death...I would walk the streets and collect cans first.
Sorry for the rant. Just so sad to think that people just throw their pets away like this...or worse and leave them outside to fend for themselves.
So no, no cats in the near future for me I'm afraid.
Definitely call Animal Shelter or Humane Society
Ours runs a once a month clinic where they will give rabies shots and spay or neuter for only $20.00. Tell them she's a stray, hopefully they can help you. LOL, she has chosen you and your family. She brought her babies in the house cause she feels they'll be safe there. Congratulations on being adopted!
see website inside, click purple tab daily to support shelter pets
http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=3
Contact
the attorney general in your area. You should not be responsible for these charges. You are a victim - not the bad guy. Find a new phone company if this one will not work with you to resolve this. Good luck!
I would contact them...
and talk it over. Banks and finance companies will say that the worst thing to do (in most cases) is file bankrupcy right away without talking it over with them first because they do want thier money. The majority of places will try to work with you. Been in those shoes. I consolidated mine, took me a little longer to pay it off but it was easier to pay 1 amount than all 3 and not cringe each time the phone rang. Had one card that said. Okay pay this amount for 3 months with no late fees (virtually nothing)and then pick up from there. I will live to regret that I'm sure but it helped me out at the time. Sometimes you can call and ask to skip a payment. They tack it on the end and charge you but if it helps it helps. You will sometimes find that if you ask a loan company for a "consolidation loan" they will say they don't do those. Instead give the amount for payoff of total bills or darn near it and try to go from there. I think the best thing is to explain your situation to them and ask for options or ideas or at least try to.
Maybe you should contact your vet
and ask if anything unusual happened (not that they would tell you a horror story if it did), but maybe something small happened to trigger it that they would recall.
Aside from that they might have come across this type of thing and know of some ways to sooth the puppy.
Your son doesn't have anything on him that a dog might smell and freak out about, does he?
This will sound corny, but maybe your son could think of something really sad and lie on the floor crying. Maybe the puppy would see his vulnerablility and empathize with him and lose fear.
Probably not but maybe they'd contact them to be on the show! ; )
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I would say either try a contact person where the
contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state. Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare. I would look in the phonebook under government agencies. I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction. I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover. I am not sure if this is state-by-state though. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance.
Maybe you should contact the company...
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I would contact you doctor.
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Definitely contact your doctor sm
You didn't mention where on your back the mole was, but particularly if it was on your upper back near your neck, I would be concerned about the swollen and tender lymph nodes.
Regardless, you need to talk to your doctor. The lymph nodes could even be a completely separate issue, but it is definitely a sign that there is a problem.
Good luck!
it's better for us not to have contact with people like that
stay away from her, don't comment much to family members about it, eventually they'll get used to the way things are now.
I would contact a hospice...
My grandmother just passed away, and for her last week she was at a local hospice. They were so wonderful and caring there and really helped us all deal with her dying. Even if your mom doesn't go to hospice care (which I highly recommend when she is very close), I would call a hospice and ask them for recommendations for grief counseling. I can't say enough about how wonderful they were, and they really helped my mother deal with the loss of her mother. They also provided morphine so we could rest assured she was not in pain once she wasn't able to communicate any longer. I am sorry that you are losing your mother. I am sure it is difficult at any age.
I would contact everyone on the IEP team (sm)
and let them know you are not being informed as you should be. Also, if they cannot handle it at your school, then he could be transferred to another school (at his current school's expense; they would also have to provide transporation). You do have a lot of rights here, and this is federally mandated, not state. Good luck.
Maybe try limiting contact to
just phone calls. That will let her know that you are cooling off the visitation with her but not make you look ungrateful. If she brings up never seeing the children, I would let her know politely that you thought she didn't care to have them visit since they always seem to "act up" at her house. If DH wants to see her DH, then let him visit him alone. Is there a close neighbor or friend that could keep your girls while you visit your aunt once in a while? I take it she lives nearby if your boss has contact with her. If she asks why you didn't bring the children, again - say that you thought it would be better for her if you didn't bring them anymore since their behavior doesn't meet her standards. She should get the hint pretty quickly.
I definitely agree with you that she should not be pushing her discipline methods on you. You are the parent and only you and DH should have any say in how you choose to discipline your children and whether or not they even need it. I will say from experience that the previous generation seems to think we don't know how to handle our kids. I think a lot of that has to do with the state this country is in, but I don't believe it falls directly on our shoulders. Afterall, our kids weren't even born when things started to go downhill. Maybe it's all the hairbrushes and flyswatters that are causing some of these problems.
It is already from a safe contact
I can open all mail, but where pics should be (and were before hotmail changed the look) are just boxes. It isn't just from one contact, but from all my contacts that I used to receive pics from. Now what? I sent an email to the contact site, but they have not answered me yet.
Contact Ebay again.
It may just be delayed shipping with all the holiday rush. I haven't shipped anything this year but in the past the post office has told me they don't guarantee the same as normal.
sort of still keep in contact, but
They didn't go to HS with me. One I've known since probably 1978 when I was 8 and she was 6 and we were visiting here on vacation, then my family moved here and she and I have been BF since 1985...only keep in touch by email and occasional phone calls.
My other one I've known since 1995 and we're in touch by email too.
Our lives are just too complicated and too far apart by distance to really see eachother, but we can catch up instantly with eachother even if it has been a while
If you live in HOA, can you not contact
the president of the association. You do not have to give your name, just tell them the address or name of the offenders and the association should take care of this for you. I also am in association and the rules here are no animals are suppose to run loose in the neighborhood. If I see an animal loose, I figure probably is lost.
Can you contact someone for advice?...sm
It's a potato uprising, I tell you. Seriously, sorry you got hurt. Can you talk to a pharmacist? How about a nurse help line, maybe through a hospital or insurance company? I hope you heal soon.
You need to contact the supreme Court
Florida tried to make sacrificing animals illegal but were overturned by the Supreme Court in 1993 for interfering with religious practices.
Use of emergency contact info
You know how when you go to the dentist office, enroll your child in day care, fill out a job application, everyone wants contact information "in case of emergency." Maybe I'm different from everyone else, but I consider an emergency as defined by my falling to the floor clutching my chest while my lips turn blue and I can't talk, or falling down 5 flights of steps, or being hit by a car...you get the idea.
I no longer have a good relationship with my mother (75) because she is getting senile. I can't trust that anything she knows about me won't make the gossip curcuit as the truth or something totally different, plus she wants to die on her own property without anyone else another and be found days later by some unknown stranger who notices her body out in the yard...so I don't visit, either. Last time I visited, her whole face was black and blue because she had passed out and fallen face down on a concrete pad where she stayed until the next day when she was finally able to stand up and go inside, then hide from the world for almost a month...I happened to visit her within a week of it happening. I don't want to be the one who finds her dead on another visit.
The reason this is important is because of a legal situation that I am in totally unrelated to her and I have a gag order on me...and she can't talk to me without taking "no" for an answer when she quizzes me about it, which she will do every single time we talk. So, I've just had to say, have a nice life, love you, let instructions to my sister to call me if anyone needs me.
Now it comes back to those old applications I filled out. My phone number changed and my dentist used my mother's "emergency" contact information to try to reach me, going into great detail the nature of why they were calling. It was just my 6 months cleaning, but I didn't even schedule it because I was moving and changing jobs and couldn't predict if I could keep an appointment 6 months in the future. So my mother calls my ex-husband, my ex-mother-in-law, trying to reach me for this "emergency". My ex-hubby called me.
This is so embarrasing to me. If someone dies, let my sister call me. I don't know what to do or how else to get across to her that she doesn't have the right to interfere in my affairs. The dentist office made the first wrong, and her trying to "save" me was the next one. I'm almost 50 years old and I think I can take care of myself, thank you very much. I let the dentist office have it with both barrels. That was abuse of a reason to call my mother as an "emergency" and they have taken her info out of their system. I have even had to change physicians because my mother and I had the same primary care, and all my visits were relayed to her by the staff..."oh, your daughter looked so good when she was here last week!", which prompts a phone call to my ex-hubby. ARRRGH!! Violation of HIPAA!
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I'm almost at the point of having a lawyer draft a letter to her. I'm past the point of feeling bad about hurting her feelings as she shows no consideration for mine.
If you are serious contact the seller/bank- sm
and make an offer. How low they will go depends on how long they have been trying to sell, what they have invested in it. IF the previous owners owed a lot on it, the bank will probably still want fair market value. Years ago I thought about buy the house next door to my parents (about 3500 sq ft with a huge 2 car garage and an old pool that either needed to be filled in or total destroyed and redone), I went through it with the relator. The house was about 30 years old then, the previous owners and their 6 kids had basically destroyed it, burned/scratched up hardwood floors, broken doors, windows, etc. the kitchen was original from 1964 as were the bathrooms, etc. It needed lots of work, a new roof, you name it, it needed it. The bank would not take less than $200K-- I was not willing to spend that kind of money on a house that needed at least $100K worth of work on it. They eventually got some sucker to pay it though; and boy did they spend some cash on it. Looks great now and work about $400K at least, but they probably spent that much to fix it and buy it. --- one note of caution when you buy a forecloser though, I believe previous owner has a year to reclaim the property-- if they show up with back payments in hand, etc. they can take the house back from you, improvements and all and you do not get a penny back. So be subtle in your home improvements or wait a year to do anything major.
contact Anderson Cooper at CNN...nm
Have had no contact with sister for 5 years
5 years free of hysterical calls at all hours that go on for hours, crazy accusations, death threats, trying to turn other relatives against me, her demanding praise for the tiniest things and putting me down every chance she gets, cops at my door if she gets a scratch on her car because "I must have done it because I'm stalking her".
Nope, don't miss her at all.
You contact first the seller on ebay
and then ebay directly if it is not resolved.
Do you wear contact lenses? sm
I had giant cell papilloma on the inside of my lid once from my lens. Not painful, occasionally itchy, but really not bothersome. Doc told me to stop wearing the lenses a few weeks, maybe gave me drops (happened a long time ago), and the condition resolved.
Hope you heal soon, whatever it is.
You should contact animal control
Leaving a dog tied up like that and barking incessantly is abuse for one thing. Surely there is some kind of animal control or even the police you could report to?
Did you have contact with your friend after her diagnosis?
I ask because if she was your friend and you knew she had pancreatic cancer, why wouldn't you know her husband left her? I would imagine if a friend of mine was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I would visit her and call her up until she passed. I would probably know if her husband left her.
Just curious.
I still think you should contact your police dept...
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The Asian people I come in contact with are quite friendly with SM
good senses of humor.
I'm trying to be tactful, but you may be the one sending the wrong vibe.
one way to find out, don't contact him, see how long it takes
maybe he does not want to hurt your feelings by saying helikes to hear from you; however, he is not contacting you, so stop contacting him and you'll get your answer.
I am basing this on personal experience. They did not contact me
unless I was doing something wrong when I started, both as an MT and QA. I only recieved feedback when i was in error.
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