Fibromyalgia Questions
Posted By: cracker on 2008-01-22
In Reply to: fibromyalgia/Lyrica - sienna
I had low back surgery in June of 2006. About 5 days after my surgery, I had a huge muscle ball up in my back. Then everything went to pot. I finally was sent to pain management and they diagnosed me with myofascial pain syndrome.
I know the dx of fibromyalgia is very skeptical. All I know is I feel like I have been run over by a truck. My joints are killing me in my hips, knees and ankles. They are constantly popping and cracking. My neck muscles are constantly sore to the point where I cannot hardly move my neck. I even had 1 bout where all my muscles in my neck, down to my scapula and left arm locked up. I have very little use of my left arm with lifting because of pain in my left shoulder. Sometimes I feel like my body is misaligned.
Can you tell me if this is consistent with fibromyalgia symptoms and pain?
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Fibromyalgia, meant to say
in the above post. Thanks again.
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eating bread, things like Stromboli or pizza could aggravate this. I would have put this post on the immunosuppression board but not many seem to visit there. I was doing ok, taking some Lyrica which seems to have blocked a lot of the intense pain I have had and the other day ate some Stromboli and the rest of the day was very, very achy for me. Are there persons out here who might have some information on this, maybe working with people who have this or others who might have picked up information that can pass some on to me. I really, really love Italian food but I would pass on the bread ladened parts if that is what is causing the majority of the pain I have. TIA
Fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue - I had it for 7 years (sm)
Started at about 27. If they rule everything else out, that might be what you end up being diagnosed with. I have a tendency to go on and on about this because I tried so many things over the years, so I'll try not to do that right now :-). My first question would have to be "Do you get good sleep?" If not, please Google the effects of long-term sleep deprivation - I had ALWAYS been a poor sleeper, sort of anxious person. Long term DEEP sleep deprivation causes the exact same symptoms as fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and other chronic illnesses because your body does not ever get a chance to completely repair itself. If DEEP sleep is an issue for you - that is a great place to start - get a good prescription sleep med and don't be afraid to use it! Over the period of a year of using sleep med and getting good sleep I noticed myself getting gradually better and better.
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I have breastfed and am currently breast feeding and would like to ask you
If you were on the air plan which would you prefer the mother breastfeeding her child to comfort and keep him/her quiet in this cramped uncomfortable environment or to listen to this child scream bloody murder making your trip totally unbearable????
Some thoughts:
Children that young dont know how to clear their ears when changing altitudes and it easier to either have them sleeping or sucking.
Also some young children that are breastfed refuse bottles completely.
Older babies do not like to have their faces covered while eating they want to see their mommy and surroundings.
Personally:
I am the mother of a ten month old that will be flying (on a long flight) for the first time next month. I plan on breastfeeding him if needed and if I do need to I will have my older daughter there to hold a small blanket up as a sort of shielding wall. I am more than ready to be done breastfeeding and am working very hard to get him there as well but because his schedule doesnt agree with mine I dont think that I should be barred from traveling on a plane and I think the other passengers on the plane would prefer I comfort my child to the best of my ability so that they can try and enjoy their trip as well.
The sucky part about is I will be on the mentioned airlines soooooo may be my son wont get to meet his grandparent for the first time because my child comes first always!!!! Take care everyone and enjoy your holidays I am climbing off my soap box now
you need to ask yourself 2 questions sm
1. Can the bridesmaids comfortably wear a strapless dress (not everybody can)?
2. Do the shoulders need to be covered if the wedding is in a church?
I'd choose number 2.
Two questions
Has she been anywhere that she could have come in contact with bedbugs? (stayed at a motel, slept over at a friend's house)
Is it possible she has been in contact with poison ivy?
We went through a similar problem with my husband a while ago. He has to travel sometimes for his job, and several years ago he picked up some bedbugs from a hotel.
Since then, we have moved to a new house and he got a new bed. When he started itching again we were concerned it was bedbugs, but the rash was similar to how you describe your daughter's rash, and we finally figured out he had probably gotten into some poison ivy in our back yard.
Good luck - I hope you figure out the cause (and cure) soon.
questions
1.You'll never see me watch___? reality TV
2.You'll never see me wear___? a designer dress
3.You'll never see me eat___? chocolate covered ants
4.You'll never see me buy___? any male enhancement products
5.You'll never see me clean___? at all, unless I'm getting company!
6.You'll never see me kiss___? Jack Black, ewwww
7.You'll never see me talking___? about wanting to work outside my home
questions
I think a lot depends on your specific circumstances. I got an apartment because he refused to move out. I had planned it for months. Legally though if you leave and the house is in both your names, that's not good because he'll get the house.
As far as the kids, so much depends on their ages but you'd be surprised how much they already intuitively know. Just be honest with them and make sure they know they are loved by both of you, and that none of this is their fault. Give them as much stability as possible and once they see you are happier, their lives will be too.
There are a lot of questions here,
1 being the fact that this "nanny" was supposed to be with the 16-year-old. The police said they are sticking with their story, the Travolta camp saying differently. Supposedly this child had two (2) nannies that were supposed to be with him at all times. If a cover up, it has a lot to do with it.
Some questions sm
Boy this is a tough situation. My first thoughts are to ask you if you feel he has been a good husband. In other words, if this DID happen 17 years ago, perhaps he has changed his ways and become a better partner. However, you indicate you think he's lying to you so I'm wondering if you have trust issues even today. You really need to sit down and have a long heart to heart with hubs and clear this up because it's not easy to throw away 17 years of a marriage and children together.
Well, more questions then
If this only happens once a month, or approximately every 28 days....
How long has it been going on?
Is she gaining weight?
Is there a boyfriend in her past or present?
I've had friends who got pregnant at 14. It happens. And nobody had a clue that anything was going on.
Christmas questions
1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? - Hot Chocolate
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? Mom wraps, Santa stuffs stockings.
3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? Colored inside, white outside
4. Do you hang mistletoe? No
5. When do you put your decorations up? When I have time. Usually get the tree the first weekend in December.
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? Turkey
7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: Spending Christmas with my mom's parents who lived 2 hours away and then coming home and seeing my dad's parents who lived right down the street.
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? My cousin informed me in elementary school and took great pleasure in crushing me. 
9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? I always wanted to, but wasn't allowed, so now my kids each get to open one on Christmas Eve, and my oldest is in college and still likes to do this.
10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? colored lights, all the oraments I have gotten my kids over the years plus the ones they have made in school since they were little, star on the top. Probably nothing Martha Stewart would approve of - LOL.
11. Snow: Love it or Dread it? Used to love it, now dread it, but don't know why exactly.
12. Can you ice skate? Yes.
13. Do you remember your favorite gift? Bionic Woman doll
14. What's the most important thing about the Holidays for you? Being with my family and Christmas Even services at church and singing all those great hymns.
15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? pumpkin pie
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition? Christmas eve candlelight service
17. What tops your tree? star
18. Which do you prefer giving or Receiving? Love to give and see the look on my kids' faces when they open their gifts.
19. What is your favorite Christmas Song? O Holy Night
20. Candy Canes: Yuck or Yum? Yum
Christmas questions sm
1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? Egg Nog (loaded).
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? Wrap them all.
3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? Colored.
4. Do you hang mistletoe? No.
5. When do you put your decorations up? Weekend after Thanksgiving.
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? Baked ham.
7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: Going sledding in Garmisch, Germany. The adults went skiing. Lived in Germany 10 years as a kid, and every Christmas was great there. Very festive place during the holiday season.
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? 9 years old, my younger brother found all the gifts in the closet - I was devastated.
9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? No.
10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? Leave that to my daughter and grandson.
11. Snow: Love it or Dread it? I like to look at it, but dread driving in it. We have enough here in Colorado to share with everybody.
12. Can you ice skate? I would be afraid to try it now.
13. Do you remember your favorite gift? My first Shaded Silver Chinchilla persian kitten. He lived to be 20 and I am now on my second one.
14. What's the most important thing about the Holidays for you? Giving.
15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? Irish Christmas pudding with hot Bird's custard.
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition? Baking Christmas goodies, watching Home Alone, and homemade Eggnog.
17. What tops your tree? Star.
18. Which do you prefer giving or Receiving? Giving.
19. What is your favorite Christmas Song? Jingle Bell Rock
20. Candy Canes: Yuck or Yum? Yum.
Sorry if I ask the obvious questions, but ...
Are you providing scratching posts loaded with catnip, fun toys, that kind of thing? I have had maybe a dozen cats over the years, none of them declawed, and none ever touched any of my furniture (some of it leather to boot)because I started them when they were young with taking them to the claw posts, praising them there, providing toys, etc. Give it a try before you declaw, please!!! Good luck.
thanks for all the answers to my questions--sm
I appreciate the input, even though it saddens me that this would even happen anywhere in the USA!
Common questions that men ask
Questions that I've been commonly asked in the "dating world" since I'm single.
"Why arent you married"
"Do you want kids?"
"Why hasn't someone snatched you up"
"Do you date?"
or when the guy states...
"I'm a really nice guy"
"I'm a great catch"
"I've always been too busy to meet someone special until now"
Another thing..for some reason, I find divorced men who have kids living with their mother to be a turn off.
I feel that they made their families and now they are dating while the brunt of child care is now on their ex wife.
Maybe it's ignorant of me, I don't know. I really admire men who LIVE with their children or I'd prefer to date men who didnt have children at all.
I guess the purpose of this post is mostly a rant..anyone identify with any of this?
I have the same questions except it's a second marriage? SM
A friend of mine is getting married for the second time. The first time around it was a huge, and I mean HUGE, affair with an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor and bachelorette parties, huge Catholic wedding with a huge reception with food and free booze, etc. They registered at Macy's and expected everyone to get their presents from there. There China was over $100 for a place setting!
The couple divorced and now she is getting married again and has sent out invitations to all the festivities. She's planning another huge wedding and she has registered again at Macy's! Now, personally I feel this is just wrong. I think a small tasteful wedding is in order for the second go round and I don't think it is at all necessary to register anywhere for the second wedding. How much China can one person use? I mean, she got almost everything in her divorce!
I'm sort of a down to earth, pratical kind of person so Wal-Mart dishes are fine with me, so I guess maybe I'm not the best person to understand wedding traditions and etiquette, but do I really need to go to Macy's and get another expensive wedding gift?
Lots of questions
1. How old is the first house? The one with the sewing room and the carpet coming up?
2. How many sq ft is the second house - the newer one?
3. Have the rest of the houses in your neighborhood appreciated 66% in the last five years? (from $75,000 to $125,000)
Your husband has a good idea about putting the money in savings for six months to make sure you can afford to pay a mortgage that is twice what you are paying now. And after six months, you will have $1800 more to put down on the house.
This is strictly personal experience - but last summer we moved from a 25-year-old house to a brand new one. We lived in the 25yo house for 12 years, and the money we spent remodeling and updating (+ original price) it would have bought us a brand new house of the same size. So I would say go for the newer house if it comes to a choice. Older houses can be a LOT of work.
OTOH, you say your husband likes woodworking. If you're willing to live in a house that is in a perpetual state of remodeling...go for it!
Some important questions
Are there people around who can look in on the grandparents and get back with you? If I were unable to get in touch with grandparents, aunts, siblings or the like and had always been able to, I would contact the police to get them to intervene. I would think they could check up just to ease your mind and make sure they are ok. Oh, by the way, you might text or leave message on cousins phones since you are unable to hear from them this is your plan-- It is surprising how putting this out there will get the attention you are wanting. I just recently got some wonderful results from a person not responding to my emails, realtor to be exact- told him what I planned on doing, no need for him to reply, 4th email and that afternoon a phone call and an email. Works wonders!
Never heard that before. Questions sm
Do you only use this to pretreat clothes before putting into the washer or do you actually add it to the laundry right in the washer like you would bleach? I've been looking for an alternative to bleach as well, as I can't stand my clothes, sheets, etc. smelling like bleach.
Also, if you add it into a load of laundry, how much do you use for a full load?
Thanks a lot!
FIL in hospital. What questions should I ask? (SM)
My 72yo FIL was transferred to the trauma unit in a bigger city this past Saturday because of a fall and head injury he sustained Saturday morning.
Since he has been there (more than 48 hours now), he has not eaten and is not receiving a dextrose drip or the like through his IV. They only took complete x-rays, CT, and MRI on Sunday afternoon. The first time a doctor/resident evaluated him was on Sunday evening sometime after 9 p.m. Also, he is somewhat delusional. He knows his name and where he is, but he is grabbing at things in the air, wants to take the trash out, etc. This is definetly abnormal for him. He has always been alert and oriented.
My question is this: Should it take 36 hours before he is evaluated by a doctor? Is it normal not to give him any type of nourishment (no food, no IV) for more than 48 hours? Is it normal to wait 2 days to see a neurologist (who won't be in to see him until late today) when the main reason he was transferred was for neurology consult? I understand he went in on the weekend, but should it take this long to get answers.
Thanks for any insight you can provide.
Melissa
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She's the same age as all the kids in her class. She started kindergarten at the right time (she wasn't one of the young ones). She's not into sports very much, but she does have a few extra cirricular activities. I think she's just disappointed because she never had these problems before. I wish she wouldn't be too hard on herself.
I have a couple of questions
When is your daughter's b-day? I.E. is she "young" or "old" for her grade? Also, is she involved in a lot of extra curricular activities, sports, etc? I had a child in advanced math and one was just too tough so he took it later on. Really I see no harm in waiting either.
Poll questions...
1. What ages are your kids?
13 and 8 (boy/girl).
2. Do they have their own cell phone?
13-year-old just got cell phone last September. 8-year-old does not have one. He's been responsible with the cell phone, and I like him having it in case I need him right away as he skateboards a lot outside with his friends in the neighborhood.
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these: Both of my children have TVs in their room. They watch it mostly in the evening hours when they are settling down for bed. The computer they use is centrally based and my husband mainly monitors that one with the parental controls.
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?
They do not get a regular allowance. I'm fortunate in that they really don't ask for much as they get what they want for their birthday or Christmas. However, I will on occasion get them something special if we are out and about "doing my deliveries" and they are with me. My son has to take care of the trash throughout the house twice a week. My daughter has no chores. I want them to focus on school and just being kids. I was made to do chores from the time I was 5 due to my mother's legs (she had severe arthritis), and I was not always allowed to go places for this reason. I figure in due time they'll have their own homes. They watch me and will help if asked, but have no specific chores to do.
good questions
I have a soon to be 13yo son and an 11yo daughter.
We added my son to our cell phone plan last year when he was in 6th grade. It made it nice for when he was finished with his extracurricular activities and could call me plus the kids visit with their father and thought it would be nice for him to have that with him also. Plan on doing the same for my daughter next year, as long as her grades are similar (son gets straight A's) and she continues to help around the house, etc.
They both have TVs in their bedrooms but no computers. We have been discussing the possibility of a computer for them to use but it will NOT be put in their bedrooms. I have explained to my son that there are websites he may be tempted to go to and if a computer is in his room, it may be more tempting. I want to know exactly what they are doing on it IF we do decide to get one. Have a friend who can set up parental things on there (sorry I'm computer illiterate)... and I would like to possibly have my friend discuss with both the kids the potential risks involved with being on the internet, sexual predators, etc.
No allowance here either. I have explained to them that we are a family and mom doesn't get paid to keep up the house either, it is a group effort. They do have savings accounts. They put bday money and christmas money, report card money, etc. in there by their choice. I have been considering the possibility when they get older of giving them a set amount of money each week to pay for lunch, fun stuff or whatever so they can "manage" this.
Love the questions!
1. What ages are your kids? Daughter is 8, Son is 6
2. Do they have their own cell phone? No. They have no reason for one at this age. I can see once in Middle School possibly, but not now.
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these: Each of them have a TV in their room that are only for DVD/video before bed. They are not hooked up to dish for regular TV. They do have a computer that they share in daughters room that is NOT hooked up to internet. They have computer games that they are allowed to play on their so as not to tie up my computer! They are allowed to play on the weekends on DH's laptop... daughter LOVES webkinz and son LOVES nick.com, but these are always monitored so they are not on something that they are not to be on.
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this? No allowance. They are to help out when we are cleaning. They feed dogs/cat and are to let dogs outside when they need to go out. DH was never made to do chores and never got an allowance. My sister and I always helped out at home, but never got an allowance. They get everything that they need now.
Good questions
1.You'll never see me watch___? bloody, violent, gory movies or anything by Michael Moore
2.You'll never see me wear___? spandex or mini skirts - 2 very good answers I saw others posted and definitely wouldn't wear them at the same time!
3.You'll never see me eat___?liver
4.You'll never see me buy___?canned vegetables (DH has an amazing garden every year)
5.You'll never see me clean___? fish or game - you catch it, you clean it, and please do it outside
6.You'll never see me kiss___? my in-laws
7.You'll never see me talking___? religion or politics with someone not willing to have a rational discussion - don't want any shouting matches, thanks.
Additional questions for all of us going through this...
Do you tell your spouse or do you just leave? What if you have no money for a deposit and your closest family lives 4 hours away and definitely no money for a hotel. What if the house is in his name - do you hope for compassion that he lets you stay in it especially for the kids? What's the easist way to "transition" the kids?
Yes to all your questions. I was divorced at SM
45, after a 27 year marriage from hades. Best thing I ever did. I have never been happier.
I have met the love of my life. The unhappy person now is the woman who had the affair with my ex-husband and is now married to him. Everyone and I mean everyone, believes I came out ahead. That's probably true, considering I got half his money.
Believe me, YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD. The best years are ahead of you. I can promise you that.
Questions about your card-
Have you paid on time every time and have you paid the amount due? I have credit cards and mine have not gone up- in fact if they did I would call, tell them what an excellent customer I have been and then ask for a reduction in the credit rate. Have done before and they did this for me.
Answers to your questions
If you had read the above, my brother deceased for years. That is the son (my father's) I talked about. No, I did not have the addresses of his children. No, I did not stay in contact with them. It was not my place to contact them about my father's insurance. The only time my nephew's mother (my brother's wife at the time of his death) called me was when she asked if I would go get her son out of jail in a small town in my state. I did not get anyone out of jail if in my own town. I knew nothing about bailing folks out. I saw them when they were little, 6 or so when my brother died. The next time I saw his daughter(6 at the time)was when she was 18. Not close, never was, not my job to look for others. I do not know what is strange about families not being all fuzzy and warm?
Especially when you see the same person asking questions
Now having said that, I have asked a couple of times on the word board and I am really grateful to the people who take the time to reply. One I had a problem with was a really simple diabetes medication that my tired brain just couldn't come up with that night.
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He teaches english at a technical college.
I do understand that men and probably even some times women have a curiosity and I agree 100% with your husband's comments. It's just that it is all secret and I know the minute I head off somewhere he is cruising porn sites and all that entails. The fact that he doesn't always erase the browsing history and does it on a work computer is because he is careless and lazy, to be perfectly honest. If I ever confronted him about this I believe he would probably become physically abusive so my hands are tied.
As far as checking his browsing history and the ethics of that -- the first couple of times were by chance. Just about anyone using his computer can easily stumble across the history if they simply wish to backtrack to a site they were using. Now I do purposely look every few months. For about a year I told myself that it had stopped and I just needed to have faith. Then I checked about a week ago and it was there in lurid detail once again. I firmly believe that if you suspect something or have a hunch about someone's devious or even dangerous behavior that there's a good chance you are correct. I absolutely want to know if someone is lying to me on a regular basis or putting my best interests or health in jeopardy. If it requires me to occasionally check his browsing history to see if it progresses to solicitation then I need to probably get out of the relationship pronto instead of continuing to "spy" on someone as it is distasteful. One should probably should get out of any relationship in which a person is perpetually lying and living a secret life. This has not just happened with the porn in my particular case, there also was an ex-girlfriend. I say, arm yourself with knowledge in order to make the best decision. Pretending that things are fine when you know in your heart that they aren't is dangerous. I am NOT saying it is ever a good idea to spy on your husband's life for no reason other than being nosy, only if you have real concerns about a person's honest, ethics and morals.
I don’t fire off the questions because
most physicians now just try to race through because having to make that quota. But back to him asking you to have a sleep study, first of all you can refuse to have any test done you don’t want to have done. I refuse to weigh in my doctor's office. That is not really information basically needed (unless having anesthesia or dye injected for MRI say). Has any family member stated to you about excessive snoring, that being a reason you would need to have the study done. I did have a young niece to die from sleep apnea so in that case with loud, excessive snoring that you have heard about, then I would ask for it myself. I just turned down a nerve conduction study the other day. The neurologist said he oculd not treat; therefore why have it just then.
What questions should I ask a potential new PCP's office? sm
We have an HMO, and I really need to stop procrastinating and find a primary care doctor closer to where my husband and I live now. (We've moved about 1-1/2 hours away from where we used to live.)
We rarely have to go to the doctor, but I do take daily prescription medications. We've had our current PCP for about the last 10 years, so it's been a long time since I had to pick a new doctor.
I've narrowed it down to about 5 doctors in the area here and plan to call and ask them some questions before contacting my insurance co. to make the change (which takes a long time to take effect, so it's not something you want to do a bunch of times if you can help it.)
The first thing I'll ask is if they are still taking new patients. (Obviously need to ask them that question!)
After that, I'll ask what their hours are and things like that, but does anyone have any suggestions for me as far as other questions to ask, or any other advice?
TIA, guys. I know you'll have some great ideas and things I might not think of. 
Wow, lots of loaded questions!
1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? EGG NOG
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? SIT THEM UNDER THE TREE
3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? COLORED
4. Do you hang mistletoe? YEP
5. When do you put your decorations up? DAY AFTER THANKSGIVING
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? SPECIAL POTATOES
7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: WATCHING THE COLORED WHEEL SPIN ONTO THE ALUMINUM CHRISTMAS TREE
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? 9 YRS OLD AT SCHOOL
9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? NOPE
10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? BAKE SUGAR COOKIES & FROST THEM, DRINK HOT COCOA, READ TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS, AND DECORATE THE TREE WITH LIGHTS, ORNAMENTS, AND ANGEL ON TOP
11. Snow: Love it or Dread it? LOVE IT
12. Can you ice skate? YES
13. Do you remember your favorite gift? 10 SPEED BIKE
14. What's the most important thing about the Holidays for you? JESUS IS THE REASON FOR THE SEASON!
15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? LOADED QUESTION! PUMPKIN PIE WITH STREUSAL TOPPING
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition? COOKING FOR THE MASSES
17. What tops your tree? ANGEL
18. Which do you prefer giving or Receiving? GIVING
19. What is your favorite Christmas Song? O HOLY NIGHT
20. Candy Canes: Yuck or Yum? YUCK
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
Questions re: Massage machines
Hi,
Looking to buy a massager for my feet mostly, but would like to use on other body parts as well--those MT hands and fingers and elbows and...on and on, and so a versatile massager would be great.
Was considering buying one of those little tripod jobs as a first time test, but they're $10 and it seemed foolish to drop that amount of money when I could get a serious one for 1-1/2 to 2x the price on eBay, etc.
I've been checking eBay, Amazon, Overstock, etc. In general, the customer reviews for Dr. Scholl's is a big, fat NO as regards a variety of that company's models, so I'm not interested and have taken them permanently off my search list.
--Otherwise, anyone have any suggestions on model/brand, etc.? I've seen on line several Pollenex and Sharper Image products that got good reviews and look like they're worth buying.
--Can anyone fill me in on the infrared massagers and what's so wonderful about them?
--Also, I have a sleep disorder; has anyone heard of a massager used near the head and/or neck causing neurologic interference or sleep problems due to the vibrations, electrical pulses?
(Once I saw an acupuncturist who used a machine with pads and electrodes that were applied to my head area--against my better judgement I allowed it. I should have told him noooo freakin' way, but foolishly didn't. My sleep was severely disturbed for several days despite my medication which is extremely effective.
Thanks a bunch.
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