Have you said those exact words
Posted By: Dino on 2008-02-24
In Reply to: hubby probs - angelmt
to him, asked him outright what is the problem and how you can BOTH enjoy it? Or..guide his hands and/or touch him the way you want. Otherwise I'd say he doesn't care and maybe you should move on.
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OMG ~ I've been saying those exact words! sm
Not the OP but thank you so much for asking this question. I was wondering the same thing. But this poster hit it on the nail for me. I also have lost all care when it comes to holidays, gifts, b-days, etc. I get him nodda as I get in return. Don't even care if he goes to any activities with me or not. Better off not having him there. Guess it is time for me to MOVE ON......
Now my question is how do you survive without a companion? I have always felt like I had to have somebody no matter how they treated me. I envy those single people who stay single.
Words that aren't words. Top of the list? Conversate.
PLEASE!
Makes me cringe and shudder in disgust.
Not sure of exact recipe, but here: (sm)
Scoop out seeds & gunk of a pie pumpkin, keeping lid to use later. Use apple slices, raisins /cranberries/other dried fruit, walnuts (or other nuts of your choice) to fill pumpkin along with brown sugar, butter, and a little cinnamon. Bake at 450 degrees until you can easily poke through the pumpkin flesh inside. You may want to wait and put the lid in partway through baking, so it doesn't dry out and shrink. Serve in the pumpkin, and as people spoon out a little of the filling they can scrape the inside of the pumpkin to get some of the flesh.
My grandma made this, and she never writes down her recipes. So when I asked her, she said to experiment with whatever, so the above is really only a loose guideline.
Same exact feeling here.
The extreme Christians also changed my feelings a long time ago. I then started researching the facts and theories, scientific versus religion. And did you know that many people with above-average intelligence are not religious based on this knowledge? Interesting stuff. :)
I am having the exact same problem!
I've battled depression and anxiety my whole life. My psychiatrist seems to think it is anxiety as well, but I know what my anxiety is like and this is different. My PCP thinks I might have ADD, but my psychiatrist said it would not all of the sudden appear. My anxiety medicine seems to help some, but then I feel out of it. I cannot work like that either!
Let me know what your doc says. Good luck! :)
Wow! exact same situation! (sm)
Same here. Exactly the same.
I have those exact same dreams...
I was once told that the teeth falling out had something to do with money, don't know exactly what but I certainly have not had a windfall.
Wow - same exact situation
Don't tell me... has your husband been out of work too and laying around doing absolutely NOTHING to help out around the house?
My friend is doing the exact same thing!
She uses her age (38) a lot but if you use words like "uterine prolapse" and "fibroid tumors" they stop asking questions...LOL
I had a similar situation but not exact...sm
when we bought our house 2 years ago. I had to have my office sign something of that nature, but not saying I would still be working there after so much time like yours. I faxed the form letter to them and they faxed it back for my broker's records to give to underwriter. I also had to provide my 1099s from the previous 2 years. On the day of the closing, we had to sit there and wait for them to call my office one more time just to make sure I still worked there, which they didn't do with my husband. It seemed to be a pretty strict procedure but can understand why they would. We also refinanced about 8 months after moving to get a better rate, but didn't have any problems because we used the same broker. Good luck!
I was thinking the same exact thing.
The kid didn't have to go to school in Korea to have been taught those same beliefs. His parents could have had that same influence over him or perhaps his own interests in it.
Obviously a person who could do something like that is very disturbed and probably had a lot of issues at home, etcetera, but the other cannot be ruled out either as playing some small role.
No, she did not send me the exact thing,
did not know I would have to explain, she sends me rah-rah-rah all for the war type things which I delete. I choose to read other things instead of this.
My husband had the EXACT same thing (sm)
and yes, it was a fungal infection. I tried treating it with OTC cream but it just didn't work. Finally our NP gave us a prescription for cream called clotrimazole and betamethasone diproprionate 1%/0.05% (Lotrisone) and within 4-5 days it was completely cleared up. She did recommend Gold Bond as a preventative but he never used it. He's a diabetic to boot, so is always going to be prone to various skin issues I guess...bummer.
Awesome! I would have done the same exact thing!
Way to go! You did the right thing!
This house has no fence around it at all, to be exact. nm
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I have the exact opposite of anorexic
I am overweight, 5Ɗ and weigh 218 as of this morning. The problem I have is when I look in the mirrow I do not really see me as being grossly overweight, in fact I think oh for your age you look alright. Is there anyone else that looks in the mirror and does not see what you actually are- oh no remarks about getting a new mirror, this is from several I have in the house. I have actually seen surprised before when seeing a picture of myself and basically thinking do I look like that? Thanks!
Exact thing happened to me .. sm
but it was not a family member, it was a coworker of my ex-husband's whose wife had just had a baby and they wanted clean carpets. He had borrowed the cleaner once previously, and all was fine, so I had no problems with letting him borrow it a second time. Well, the second time, he was really slow in returning it, but like you, I never said anything until I wanted to use it and asked for it back. Then all of a sudden, it was *broke*. He said he had broken the upright handle completely off. Well, I had paid over 300 dollars for that, so we asked him to at least pay for half of replacement. He did so, but HE wanted to choose what type of cleaner I got to replace it, which was a much cheaper model. I said no. Needless to say, we were no longer friends after that. In my opinion, you just can't let this go. Carpet shampooers are not cheap and if she broke it, she should pay for at least half of a replacement. Tell her that. She knows she is responsible for it, but she will probably become angry, so it is up to you how far you want to push it. Again, though, I do not loan out anything like that to anyone any more. If they need to clean their carpets, they can pay for a rental unit, just like I did prior to buying my own. No one takes care of your items better than you. Good luck to you.
I have a friend in this exact same situation with
her mother. There were 3 of them and they all took turns staying at her house for 2 nights at a time. That way she was happy and no one was doing all the work. They were also lucky in that one of the grandkids could stay during the day with her or, when they couldn't they have a caregiver p.r.n. The only other compromise would be to sit down and talk to his doctor and have him tell your dad that he is no longer able to live by himself and that he needs to be in one of your homes or in an ECF. Maybe coming from his doctor, it would be more effective.
My cockatiel does the exact same thing but
you can definitely tell she is mine cause she also loves to go for my diamond earrings. She actucally got one back into her cage once before we found it. It is hard to tell the sex of a bird like that unless you "ahem, look inside" and I told her (a her in my mind) that we if she swallowed my earring we would find out very soon the exact sex.
I certainly can relate! We have the exact same situation!
Especially since our son started working for my husband, he never has to leave the house. We're back to back in our office. Sometimes I say it's better when we're fighting because I get more work done. When we're in a good mood, and gab too much!
My daughter did the exact same thing.
and still does on occasion. (She was 4 years old the first time and is 6 years old now.) The last time, she cut a big chunk out of one side of her bangs all the way to the scalp. Luckily, she looks good in hats.
Your very best bet to disguise the damage is probably some sort of pixie style hair cut. It will also be easy to keep it looking decent while it grows back out.
I found a bunch of sites by searching for hair cutting guide. Hopefully you kind find one you like that will show you how to do a camouflaging pixie.
Here are a couple I came across:
http://www.hairfinder.com/techniques/shortpixiehaircut.htm
http://www.haircuttingguide.com/short.htm
Kristen Nicole to be exact. I love that. Or
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Funny, that's my exact same story here in New York! sm
I'll believe it when I see it, too. Also, with the feds, we were supposed to get $1,200 back - the feds said there was a mistake in the filing and now we OWE $1,100. That's some mistake, but we can't find it, nor can the software company that we used!
Southerner too, and I have the exact opposite experience...
I put peanuts in my coke sometimes when I was a kid (at that time coke came in a small glass bottle), but not something I did all the time. It was okay...probably wouldn't enjoy it now. My dad did hunt and we did eat squirrel, rabbit, duck, deer, dove, quail pn occasion. These were not like what was for "dinner" but used when they would have a crowd over who liked those type of dishes. Gumbo (my favorite) also could be made with shrimp, duck, squirrel, turkey whereas the quali and dove were used for stew-like dishes..and they were delicious. My mother made something called "Court bouillion" made with fish, like a red fish soup ...loved it, but do not know how to make it. My dad would have a fish fry every once in a while and have company over to enjoy it. For regular daily meals, we had the usual meats of beef, pork, chicken, etc. .For us, we had round steak and gravy often, of course, rice for the gravy. And also, our main meal was at "noon" whereas up north some have it at the meal we call "supper". Not to say that all southerners had their meal at "noon" . I also tire of the generalizations people make, but it's only human nature I guess. Also, in the south (Louisiana for me), we called "pop" a "cold drink" or "coke". Anyone want a "coke" or "cold drink"? Ok. What kind do YOU want, Dr. Pepper, RC, orange, etc. ? Funny, but that's the way it was. Anyone in the south remember Shipley donuts? Loved them! They literally melted in your mouth. Wonder if they are still in business. To me, they were a smidge better than Krispy Kreme, but very close. In the South, we called the coin-operated laundry a "washateria", up north it's the "Laundromat". Fun reminiscing.
Ok, needing answers about furkids - baths to be exact
I have 2 boys- 1 has been bathed here recently and knows the ropes- he has a brother who is wild and hairy and has not had a bath in quite some time. Can anyone tell me- (and don’t tell me carefully!! ) how do you restrain a cat for a bath?
I thank you all for your words.
It is going to be tough when we go back to the dog park and people there ask about her. I walked Sasha today, even though it was pouring down rain. We will have to learn a new way of living now.
there are 3 little words
that I say to my little pup - coffee and cookies, and he is ready to charge out the door! I then put him in my jewel beaded doggie bag and in we go for our order! This makes his day! Everyone that see him laughs. One girl that works at the coffee shop took a picture of him on her camera phone to put him on a college paper she was doing! there are days when he barks in a very different tone to try to get me to take him! You have to see it to believe it!
so in other words--sm
she got herself pregnant, did not want to pay the consequences of HER actions, but still wanted DADDY to pay for her college expenses, and she is now profiting from ending a life....yeah...that sounds reasonable to me (not)! Maybe she should not have had sex, not gotten pregnant, and had the gumption enough to have paid for her OWN college expenses. She would still be in the position she is in now and she would have earned it ON HER OWN! JMO
no words particularly but
I hate when the doctor calls the patient elderly and they are in their 50s, or middle-aged and they are about 35 or so.... elderly primipara...
I cringe when I type a mastectomy or some kind of radical surgery on the vulva or a pelvic exenteration..
There are no words....
 You had me on the floor with the instructions...but that picture is just freakin' awesome!!!
There are no words
Thank you for posting this. I will surely pass it on - as soon as I stop crying!
Way with Words
I snuck into the Bathroom last night, put a color on my hair, the works, did a facial, shaving, showering, etc., blow dry and style, put on a new modern blouse and leggings, Came out and guess what Slim (DH) Oh bout time you stopped wearing that sock cap, your hair looks da* good. Bout time you got out of them sweats... I was getting ready to go to my grandson's music recital at grade school! I thought that was mighty funny!
Can't do this in 6 words
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Six (6), six words. nm
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I really appreciate your words
You have no idea. I painted a dining table and someone we knew offered me $1000 for it but I could not give it up because that meant that we didn't have one. My hubby says "so, we will go get another one and you can do another one". But they never are the same.
He offered to sell my headboard I painted. I have this huge 5 x 8 headboard I painted with a picture of a beach scene and has palm trees for the posts. He wanted to sell that off too. I was a little heart broken, cause I made it for my bed, not someone else's. I am not sure how to get past that.
So in other words, you really cannot
afford to travel elsewhere?
Beyond words
I'm SO sorry to read this. I can't imagine how humiliated and embarrassed you were, especially in front of his friends. I have my 'bad' moods and days where I don't feel so well, too, but it would never occur to me to take it out on my husband or daughter. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, and I'm glad he left to go play golf...and I certainly hope he comes home realizing how crappy he was toward you and shows his appreciation!
Every time I read a post like this, my heart goes out to the poster and I go give my man, whom I take for granted WAY too often, a big hug and a kiss.
Hang in there, girlfriend, and don't let him bring you down ~HUG~
Xtra words
They are probably smarter than we think - extra characters?
any words of wisdom?
We have opened our home to a lady and her son (formerly our neighbors) who have been left homeless after her husband left her for another woman and stopped paying rent, thus they were evicted. She is functionally illiterate, but she is trying to find work, and has worked in the past. We are doing our best to make her feel welcome and be a support system during this difficult time.
Before she came to stay with us, I made sure the bedroom (actually my daughter's bedroom, who is now sleeping in the spare bed in her brothers' giant bedroom -- really no problem there) was comfortable and furnished the bed with an electric blanket, a down comforter, a quilt, and a trunk with extra blankets, as this bedroom is at the corner of the house and if the door is closed it gets quite chilly. When the weather dropped down to subzero, I got out a little tabletop fan/heater to warm up the room before she went to bed, which I do in my room also, because I can't sleep with a cold nose. However, now I am finding that, even with the temperatures in the 30s outside, she is running this heater all night long! I'm scared to see just how much this is going to raise our electric bill, and I don't feel it is necessary with an electric blanket. I don't want to offend her or make her feel unwelcome. She is in a delicate spot. Do you think I should just let it roll off my back, or should I ask her to turn the heater off before she goes to sleep? What would you do? It's not going to break me, but things are really tight around here anyway, and more so now that we are feeding the two of them and providing transportation for them as well.
Your thoughts?
I do not have any words of widsom, however...
What you are doing for this lady is just amazing--bless you! The world needs more compassionate people like you 
Just a thought though, maybe she is afraid of the electric blanket? I have one friend who refuses to use one, even though her own home is absolutely freezing. She said one caught on fire when she was a kid (like 30+ years ago) and she will never use one again. Is privacy an issue? Could she leave the door to the room open at night so the heat from whatever the other source is can warm it up a tad?
Again, I think what you are doing for her is just AMAZING
says who? you, with all the capped words?
lol
I never said that - don't put words into my posts....
no need for sarcastic posts
I said pot.....
all you mentioned is most assuredly highly addictive...
been there, done that - need no lectures from an anonymous sarcastic poster 
Thanks for those words, yes, I am looking forward - sm
to some road trips next Spring and Summer; and maybe this Fall as well. This one sounds just like what you had; same set up inside, beds pull out, bed over the table, whole thing cranks up with a turn handle on the outside. It does have a stove, sink/water; with the hook up outside. Very basic but what else do you really need. Probably cook outside most of the time anyways (have a portable coleman grill too) and I have camp training from Brownies too as a co-leader so open fire cooking is not a problem. We have laptops for movies if necessary to have the kids chill with while we chill outside maybe; and for comfort will put in AC/heat eventually, but we would never use it it the heat of the summer probably, more Spring and Fall so we can do w/o the AC. My DH is so excited about this, as I said he has been really wanting to do this for years. He never got to do anything with his parents (they never went on any summer vacations) so he is like a kid all over when he gets to do things he never did before. I am hoping now that we did get this maybe to do a road trip next summer for at least a week, maybe the Smoky mountains down in TN(after we have AC), or head to NY or maybe Maine, go places we have never been and do whatever. It is getting poured on right now so I will find out tomorrow when I pick it up if it has any leaks at least!
Thank you for all your responses and words...
...of encouragement! I've always been strong and considered myself to be a 2-legged workhorse, often out lastingmore limber 'kids' and even men when it comes to doing heavy-duty tasks, so to be completely worn out after only a few minutes of mildly strenuous activity is a major bummer to say the least.
When I say 'crippled up' I guess I mean more stiff and sore than physically crippled wtih limbs and joints I can't straighten out. However, the pain is so bad I can't even get out of bed without almost falling down and the snap, crackle, and pop when I move around first thing in the morning can even be heard by my husband.
I do sleep like a log though...nothing wakes me up...I'm down at 10 p.m. and up at 7--and only because I have to pee, otherwise I'm sure I'd sleep until almost noon. I used to only need 6-7 hours of sleep a night and was a morning person...the annoying kind who could jump out of bed, get dressed, and have chores done, house cleaned, and all ready to sit down to work by 7 a.m...now I absolutely dread getting out of bed because it means I'm gonna be a hurtin' unit all day.
I've been tested for Lyme and that was negative. The other blood test did have letters...I'm thinking it was that ANA thing but not 100% sure.
The only thing I've taken for pain relief is Tylenol or naproxen but neither work really well and that naproxen just eats my gut away. This early winter certainly isn't helping and I've been dreaming by visiting Realtor.com of finding some place else that's not as artic.
Oye. Time will tell. I have another appt this Friday so we'll see what happens then. Thanks a bunch for listening and offering me advice and well wishes. They are all appreciated like you have no idea!!!
Thank you for your kind words - NM
NM
Thanks so much for your kind words
Under my first post, I wrote what the reasons were for that counselor to be so grouchy, and the principal apologized. No matter. The kids are happy to be back at our old school and so am I. Your note here did cheer my day!
Probably just put together the 2 worse words
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Thank you for your kind words...nm
nm
Sum up your life in 6 words
I saw this idea in the Charlotte observer.
Mine:
I will write a book someday.
Words of wisdom...
Awesome! I love that! I'm telling my daughter those exact words...
I like those words - very very wise
Going to remember that one.
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