Here's a compassionate but honest answer
Posted By: Scribbles on 2007-10-26
In Reply to: Need advice/please don't judge me - sadgirl
You are *not* in love with him.
Please don't dismiss this: You need counseling to undertand the dynamics here. How could other strangers (on this board) possibly help you with a "relationship" you have developed with another stranger? I belive you are looking for someone to say this is OK, and perhaps even give you hope things will work out. It is not OK, and it is unhealthy.
He is *not* interested in continuing your relationship, or else he would not say "you are strong, you will make it..."
He has made you NO promises at all - and you are hurting yourself if you choose to continue to believe otherwise.
I truly can feel your pain, but you have the power to control it - please consider getting help right away.
Good luck to you.
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What a compassionate response
Dogs are social pack animals who DO need ''roommates'' and companionship. How very sad for a dog to have such an insensitive owner, so lacking in compassion, she would put an animal in a cage (and that is exactly what a ''crate'' is -- no matter how much it costs).
what a wise, insightful and compassionate comment.
I wish you all the best and that you come out as a winner because you deserve it.
Short answer: Yes, it's VERY rude. Long answer inside.
I wouldn't want my husband to ask, either. In fact, if he did and the people said yes, I still wouldn't go and stay with them, because I'd feel like they were pressured. Believe me, if they wanted you to come and stay with them at any point in the last 10 years, they'd have asked you. I, too, live near a vacation destination, and I hate it when people ask to stay with me. They're the rude ones for asking, but it puts me in an uncomfortable position of trying to politely say no. And it seems that when I do say no, the thwarted "guest" then complains to everyone else in our social circle that we are cheap, mean and unwelcoming.
Tell your husband to crack open the wallet and pay for a hotel.
I think you should be more honest with him.
NM
Be honest with him and
upfront with your feelings. It's not fair to you if there is no attraction and it is not fair to him thinking you are interested. Who knows, a great friendship might evolve. Just be honest with him right away before things get out of hand. Good luck with dating!!
There is an honest way of doing it as well.
H went to a farm sale and they were practically giving away scrap iron. He bought me an exercise bike for $2 and they threw in a bunch of it in with that exercise bike. Someone came by and asked if they can have it for scrap and H gave it to them. A person can find stuff on the side of the road like hub caps, car batteries, copper wire. I saw a mattress laying out on the side to the road as well. H has a lot of scrap in the backyard he needs to take down.
Unfortunately, there are some that make this a dishonest business. It has been rumored that the city has had missing sewer caps. Someone took that down to the scrap yard. Gosh, what people won't do. 
to be honest
I would just stand there with the hose when the were out and bust up the fight. I am totally serious. If you don't want a fence, get 100 foot hose.
Be honest about it. I really don't think it will be as bad
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You have to be honest with him, but you do sound a bit. SM
codependent on him. Something to think about. I've been married twice (once for 10 years and to my current husband for 4 years) and you cannot change people. You have to work on things together and try to change things together. I man will never read your mind and do what you want. You have to be very blunt with the male species and tell them what you want and need, but be careful about being too needy as that could be a turn off.
You must love him for who he is.
Good luck! I wish someone would have told me some of this stuff 15 years ago, but I'm in my mid 30s and still learning.
Both fixed and he is gay, honest!
He just does not try to mount, goes further than that. He is my youngest son and I still love him although his brother has to run from him sometimes. He is unlike his big brother, very sensitive, coy, tries to keep his weight down (for the other guys, in case he meets some) and I thought maybe seeing about getting him in some decorating classes.
To be honest, that was 100% lies...or was it? nm
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My honest opinion...
After learning this, my husband talked to the security office at his job and was advised that he should request our child be transferred to another team b/c it was considered a breach of ethics for my husband to fraternize with an ex-inmate.
Why did your husband run to his job and tell? Did he not want the ex-inmate working with the team or what? What's done is done. Sounds like you'd better switch leagues or build a bridge and get over it. JMO.
To be honest, I think I had cable when my little ones were
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how about being honest and telling him the truth..sm
imagine how he will react when (and he will) he finds out you have been lying to him. Just tell him. His reaction may be less than when he finds out about a total lie!
To be honest, when I was pregnant with my 3rd child, ,sm
I developed, around the 7th month, a nesting instinct where I could NOT sit still. I went from a couch potato to cleaning freak. I also began to drink tons of water for the first time and cut my cola consumption in half and then went completely to diet drinks, which I will have 3-4 per week now (no more colas). I found that just moving, piddling around, bending and stooping over picking up toys and clothes A LOT during the day has helped greatly to tighten up my stomach muscles. We live on a hill and I like to walk it 5 or 6 times a day.
The key to my weight loss was not sitting in front of the t.v. for long periods of time. I know that 99% of the people on this website work many hours a week and spend a lot of time sitting down in front of the computer. To you I say, get up, get moving all throughout the day, even if it is just 5 minute intervals at a time. It took me years (4 or 5), to keep my weight down like this, but I'm not a size 6 anymore. I am very comfortable with my weight, but it is the daily disciplines that will help you. Start now. Drink plenty of water, walk, take care of yourself and know that you are worth it!
Oh, one more thing! As soon as I get up in the morning I put my socks and tennis shoes on. Always. This helps me to move around a lot quicker and motivates me to do so much around the house. Good luck. Baby steps.
HMMM, I would...Be HONEST and pay in full...nm
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to be honest...all my posts have been 100% lies -nm
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love it. to be honest, I wish we were way back in -
the days where people gave things like a made from scratch pie and the recipe, a promise on a piece of paper, donated hours devoted to a project of your choice, etc., and kids made crafts.
Not being able to post your honest opinon and
experience speaks volumes about the place. The way the economy is and how hard it is to save money for a vacation, I certainly wouldn't want to waste it on a glassy beach and rude employees. TY.
Pssttt....locks are for honest people
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It is Lent so I am being honest - potty mouth without the kids.....sm
in private, I let RIP at times, it just feels good and releases a lot of tension, and of course right after I say a "forgive me god," which is so hypocritical, but he made me Latin and with a simmering temper, so what else can I say. Never in front of kids, my elders, mainly alone.
This was simply an honest post/poll made by a regular poster.
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Wish I had the answer...
up at 2:45 a.m. to get DH off to work, then type from 3:00 am to 5:00 am, then back to sleep till 8:00 am. That's when my 2 yo grandson comes for the day... back to typing at 7:00 p.m. and hopefully done by 10:00 or 11:00 pm. Then off to bed... Try to eat healthy, get some exercise... but at night I do need a shot of caffeine to keep going.. also need to take frequent breaks just to move around to stay away... I used to think that I need more hours in the day.. but then I think I would just end up doing more and more and still not getting sleep... Oh well, only two more years until my DIL is done with nursing school... I hope I can hold out until then.
YOU KNOW THE ANSWER.....you
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I like your answer,
makes sense to me.....
Ok, perhaps an answer
In the Bahamas being as Stern signed the birth certificate, it automatically makes him the father. Now with that said and the Bahamas saying the baby is automatically a citizen there (and being born there is not considered a United States citizen)there is going to be some legal wheeling and dealing going on to ever have them do a DNA. The United States does not govern making anyone have the DNA being as the baby born in another country. Any clearer?
My answer is
no and no- just got more sense than to drink or do drugs and do not fool with anyone who would, not even a child.......
Well...I will answer
I am about 50/50... Thought I would lighten everyone's day but there are some people out there who need Midol, I see
Right Answer!!!
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you already know your answer
just repeat yourself, like she does....I don't have money for that right now, I'm busy with my job. If you give her an inch she's gonna take a mile, you know. She's rude to ask you for exact weight, by the way, good for you not telling Miss Nosy.
And the answer now is
no because I understand about birth defects, nonviability of a fetus, complications of a preemie if they live, etc. so the answer is no, and I got pregnant soon thereafter and had a normal girl some months later.
Well, if she can answer that, then maybe she can tell me
why I have gotten some spots on this brand new $16.00 per tile floor I had installed. I have the tile man who installed coming over tomorrow. I put throughout my grandroom and I asked the other day if I should have sealed it, was told no but I doubt very seriously I would get any kind of satisfaction from where I bought it. Lots of money and now little spots here and there?? Probably not noticable to others but to me and hey, I live here.
Answer
Yes I went to see them and no I did not like, would not go back again. Each contestant performed 1 or 2 times and I thought maybe they would have group as a whole doing several songs, not so. Waste of my time and my money and just think, that was about 2 or 3 years ago and when the contentants were the best, not like this year and you cannot remember most of them on stage.
her answer
I think if you were to ask her and she could respond, she would tell you she had a BIG problem with it!
Thank you for that answer...I like that! (nm)
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I LIKE your answer.... now... maybe this is
thinking outside the box... hey there's T-shirts to be made in this line of thinking... I am starting to feel better already, he he. :)
I will answer you as you seem to want to know
I have been in the same place before as the others, struggling, working as many jobs as I could so I know. My father used to fuss at me because I never saved- how could I raising a family? Finally when I got the first money from the skies??, I then decided to make it count. I did not squander, instead paid bills and put back some. I was fortunate in paying myself completely out of debt and I don't owe anything BUT I have to be careful like the next person, I love to spend and have to practice self control because credit cards can get away from me also if I don't watch it. I did have money in stock market before, lost a lot every single month and when my family member gave me lots, kept asking have you paid your bills and stipulation was I COULD NOT BUY IN STOCK MARKET. I gave my word, put money in CDs, find the best interest I can find and if necessary change them from one bank to another if I find a better rate. I am very, very cheap when it comes to buying for myself but I love to do for others. I never meant the post to sound like others took it, people were talking about paying on principal and luckily last year able to do. I will owe big time this year on my taxes- know that already BUT I have set aside enough to pay that PLUS I have extra when the taxes are paid- then again I pay more on the principal for my home. I am very lucky- just sitting here tonight figuring up how much I owe a month for IC taxes- starting in April I get $500.00+ from a retirement fund- that is taxed- but get this- I will use that money and then put another $250.00 with it and I will have my money for my taxes for the month. Like I said I am very rich in love and happiness and to me that is the most important thing in life- have not always had that either. Grateful for what I do have.
Isn't that their answer to
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Got an answer
Years ago had a hysterectomy and the next day could not find anything in my frig except grape juice, milk and Grape-Nuts. I ate and ate- I spent the whole night on the royal throne- mother asked did I not know- nope- but apparently the cereal is loaded with bran....
Thanks for the answer sm
After asking the question, I decided to research a little and it sounds like cable is liked more by people. I'm just happy we'll have something other than dial up!
thanks!
So he can answer their ads. nm
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You already know the answer....
This is only my opinion but I think you would be much happier on your own. Why stay with a person when there is nothing left and make yourself so unhappy?
One thing I need to say is that he may not have touched you in four years and hopefully if you stay, he will never touch you again but I thought the same thing...I ended up in the hospital with six broken ribs and complications. I would never trust someone who can lay a hand on another again.
Good luck!!
possible answer
The 10 AM phone call was made the next day, the "tomorrow" Judy was talking about.
You won't like my answer ... SM
I would wear both of them out until they could sit down.
The 11-year-old for engaging it (I bet it started there with taunting and teasing) and the 8-year-old for his role, too.
I've raised boys. Been there. Done that. It will work.
You may not like my answer, but I think
stuff starts about this age group. You are right though in that when it is a girl doing "the harm" it is a totally different story. My son is now 14 and went through this with a girl, but I think she really liked him and this is what caused her to pay attention, yet in kids, they kind of think this kind of attention (although it did physically hurt your son) is okay. I wouldn't actually say the girl has special needs.
It hurts us when our kids are hurt, but if I were you, I'd let it blow over because the kids have probably forgotten about it already anyway. I don't know if this helps, but I do hear you and I have been there.
I hope you can learn to forgive (as a Catholic) this little girl for this deed she has done; don't we all deserve a second chance?
ooh, ooh, I know the answer to this one
because we are superior!!!! 
Second answer
Okay, I think I'm done with the computer for the night, so the second, similar answer is:
Madam, in Eden, I'm Adam.
Ya'll have a good night!
A: (answer) Yes!
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Wish I could answer that - sm
I am guessing it was via an online purchase, which I only do from secure sites. I have been shopping online for over 10 years and have never had a problem until recently. I would encourage everyone to check their cc statements very closely because when I talked to the fraud dept at Bank of America she said they can hardly keep up right now with all the new cases of cc theft.
Here is the answer.
Not political but pasting it from politics board. Read it few days back.
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Subject: Stimulus Payment Info.
"This year, taxpayers will receive an Economic Stimulus Payment. This is a very exciting new program that I will explain using the Q and A format:
Q. What is an Economic Stimulus Payment?
A. It is money that the federal government will send to taxpayers.
Q. Where will the government get this money?
A. From taxpayers.
Q. So the government is giving me back my own money?
A. Only a smidgen.
Q. What is the purpose of this payment?
A. The plan is that you will use the money to purchase a high-definition TV set, thus stimulating the economy.
Q. But isn't that stimulating the economy of China ?
A. Shut up.
Below is some helpful advice on how to best help the US economy by spending your stimulus check wisely:
If you spend that money at Wal-Mart, all the money will go to China.
If you spend it on gasoline it will go to the Arabs.
If you purchase a computer it will go to India.
If you purchase fruit and vegetables it will go to Mexico , Honduras , and Guatemala (unless you buy organic).
If you buy a car it will go to Japan.
If you purchase useless crap it will go to Taiwan.
And none of it will help the American economy.
We need to keep that money here in America . You can keep the money in America by spending it at yard sales, going to a baseball game, or spend it on prostitutes, beer and wine (domestic ONLY), or tattoos, since those are the only businesses still in the US.
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