I'm SO Ticked Off Right Now!
Posted By: Can I Vent?? on 2009-04-04
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My kids and I have been staying with my folks for a little over a month. I left a mentally abusive situation that my kids didn't need to see any longer. I had found out from an attorney about a year ago that it was perfectly legal for me to do so if I felt unsafe. Of course, Hubby was mad that I left, and took "his" kids, never mind that he drove me to the decision. I've been willing to have him come & visit them here, as long as he doesn't make trouble, because I know they shouldn't be kept from him completely. However, he called the other day, and wanted me to meet him somewhere to talk. I had suggested it a month ago & it wouldn't work--because it was my idea. Next, he said he was going to come & get them for the weekend. My lawyer had told me that I didn't have to agree to him taking them, and he would then need a court order to do so. So--he showed up with his parents tonight. Unfortunately, both kids were right there. Things were fine, until he demanded that he was taking the kids for the weekend. I told him he couldn't, because I don't trust him to bring them back, since we don't have visitation rules established. Secondly, DS has an ear infection & has been up half the night for the last several nights. Before, he couldn't handle the two of them for a few hours by himself, so why does he think he can handle a whole weekend? He's lied to me too many times before for me to be able to trust him. (Who in their right mind would sign on a car loan for someone he knew his wife didn't trust, even if he thought he did, then lie to her about it, putting them in financial distress? Who in their right mind would turn his wife in to the Department of Children and Family Services for simply spanking a misbehaving child? (She told his mother some tale about getting pushed as why she had a very small scratch on her chin. Grandma wasn't smart enough to believe that she was telling stories to get attention. She'd been telling us all kinds of wild things.) Who in his right mind would take his wife 2 hrs. from home for prenatal testing, and demand she turn off her cell phone so that if her family wanted to talk to her to make sure everything was ok, they had to go through him. Who in his right mind would call his FIL a SOB, when he was just trying to help out? (over the car issue) We all had some pretty heated words, and when they left (without the kids), Mom & Dad turned on me! This hasn't been easy for any of us, but I think their expectations are a little too unrealistic. Their house isn't child-proofed, yet they get upset if my 2 y/o DS gets hold of something of theirs that he shouldn't have (my dad's car magazines). I've told them to put away things they don't want the kids messing with, but they say it's their house & they shouldn't have to do that. They also think I should be right behind the kids, picking up after them, or insisting they do it. I did that (picked up after her constantly) when DD was little. Found out it was all I got done & quit being such a fanatic about it. Mom never did get the concept that my house may not have been as perfectly kept as hers, but my kids were happy that I took the time to spend with them instead of being totally busy all the time. They've also reverted to treating me like a little kid, with chores and all. No, I don't mind helping out, but I don't want to be treated like a maid, either. I got enough of that in my own house. I'm so sick of all the disrespect from everyone. And, at one point, they actually wondered why it seemed that DD didn't respect me! Well, her dad didn't for one, and now it seems that no one else is, either. I really don't need this in front of the kids!
At this point, I'm seriously considering getting out of here as soon as I can get my furniture from my own house. No income right now, but I'm in training for a work-from-home job, so the money should be there soon. Luckily, there are apartments nearby that are income-based. Last I knew, they were pretty nice.
Thanks for letting me vent!
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