I am putting my post inside so no one has to read
Posted By: if and get offended, if they are so inclined. SM on 2008-04-11
In Reply to: And it's not their fault you offend them. - Moderator
I think it is just a matter of personal opinion, no winning or losing to it. Just as mt101 called me paranoid, I dont take it personal. I am my own peson and my happiness/well being is not wrapped up in what another thinks. I dont know that person and she can think what she wants. I would never try to tell her she could not have that thought. The whole "sticks and stones" thing. I just think it is sad someone can let anothers opinion make them feel so miserable.
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Because you keep putting xx inside your email. That is your name. nm
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Read inside, please....
Hi, I am responding to this post because I am a product of divorce. My parents divorced when I was 7 and then completely ended their relationship when I was 9...into the arms of two other people. The best thing is I gained new siblings out of everything that I loved very much, step and half. My brother was also a product of divorce whose marriage was failing last year..now, sad to say, I lost my brother to suicide. Who does it really hurt in the long run? Fighting hurts the children, and so does a divorce. My advice to you would be to seek the marriage counseling first, and then if you just cannot make it work, then seek out divorce. Just my opinion, but I hope it helps.
Read inside for some hope....
Hello,
Divorce is a very hard thing to go through, especially for children...more so them than you or him. I also was the product of divorced parents, so I know the strain it puts on the children. I have also seen so many women with the same questions and worries. It is always a definite to try and work things out before you make the definite decision of divorce, but if there is no possible way you can stay with him, then I would say move on...now...
MT work is not as bad as you might think. I had a child and quickly became the "single mom." I was the responsible one and was the unfortunate one with no child support, but for 6 straight years (married now)we made it without him or the child support with me working as an MT, both hospital and at-home (at-home the majority of the time). I made the bills, we bought name-brand clothing and still had money to have fun together...WITHOUT HIM. I even had periods of time where I had more than the two mouths to feed for a while. The best thing about MT work is you can set a goal and as long as the work is there, you can achieve that goal, no matter what bad you have read on these boards. I made it and my son was happy, I was happy, and that is all that matters. Even after marriage, we have seen lay-offs with my husband and we still made it with me working as an MT...now 4 mouths to feed and mortgages to pay, et cetera.
You can make it as an MT on your own...with children, I promise...been there, done that.
If you would like to talk more about this...please, feel free to e-mail me.
Hope this helps!
TMI (inside post)......n/m
of course i do, but inside her post,
she said "ick"; put that in combination with the sarcastic sounding comment, again, i think it was and intended to be, rude.
Oh SOOO cute. But please read inside for a warning (I'm a dog owner) sm
Puppies develop habits really quickly, so discourage licking the can thing. Mine would get cans out of the garbage and one had a cut edge and he terrribly cut his mouth and tongue. I felt like such a careless dog mom. A true accident, but now maybe I can help you prevent the same thing? Please excuse my post... I am not a know-it-all and I actually don't like it when someone posts something lighthearted and then someone (like me) gets kind of off topic in the thread with a reply like this one, but maybe it will help you prevent an accident. But this is an adorable picture and I love your puppy. 
See post at link inside
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see link inside post
http://www.officialkwanzaawebsite.org/index.shtml
lots of information at that link - I just googled Kwanzaa and up that came among lots of other sites, full of information.
As for me, if we are *white* in discussion, I use *black* and seems to me my black friends prefer that. I did read once that Whoopi Goldberg does not like the term African American and she stated at that time that none of her relatives came from Africa. However, I have since read that's not entirely true (some of her relatives did come from Africa)......
why only Christian? (inside your post)...
This is why we have to get religion out of it........why only Christians should be president of the USA, the melting pot of the world....? Makes absolutely no sense to me....
Plus, I thought we separated church and state when I was like 5 years old (going back many decades)....
Perhaps someday somebody who practices Hindism or Buddhism might want to be president....
Next time please post your answer inside
before getting your answer inside our heads. Thanks! 
Hilarious post inside. I needed it this morning! sm
"The Obedient Wife"
There was a man who had worked all his life, had saved all of his money,
and was a real "miser" when it came to his money.
Just before he died, he ! said to his wife..."When I die, I want you to
take all my money and put it in the casket with me. I want to take my
money to the afterlife with me."
And so he got his wife to promise him, with all of her heart, that when
he died, she would put all of the money into the casket with him.
Well, he died. He was stretched out in the casket, his wife was sitting
there - dressed in black, and her friend was sitting next to her. When
they finished the ceremony, and just before the undertakers got ready to
close the casket, the wife said,
"Wait just a moment!"
She had a small metal box with her; she came over with the box and put
it in the casket. Then the undertakers locked the casket down and they
rolled it away. So her friend said,
"Girl, I know you were not foolish enough to put all that money in there
with your husband."
The loyal wife replied, "Listen, I'm a Christian; I cannot go back on my
word. I promised him that I was going to put that money into the casket
with him."
You mean to tell me you put that money in the casket with him!?!?!?"
"I sure did," said the wife. "I got it all together, put it into my
account, and wrote him a check.... If he can cash it, then he can spend
it."
Send this to every clever female you know, and to every man who thinks
they are smarter than women!!!
I know..that is why the inside of my post says staff is getting cookies/candy..nm
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see post below named Talent...vid link inside.nm
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link for Mental Health Board inside post
http://forum.mtstars.com/misc/b/8.html
it's located right here above our posts and under the words GAB BOARD
Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very
"scatterbrained" to the maximum, I find it very, very difficult to believe that there is absolutely nothing she can do about this because there is and she chooses not to. You seem to be taking the "Oh, she can't help it approach," and this is where we strongly disagree.
End of story. No more from me.
Why not read the post before going off on someone! SM
There is some great information inside. Give this woman a break!
As I read your post
I looked over at my cat napping. I am so sorry. I truely hope you can maybe go to a shelter and save another kitten and maybe it will also bring some joy into your life. Please don't think I am saying you kitten is just replaceable, but when my family dog died, the best thing for all of us was to get another dog that we knew needed a loving home that we could provide.
If you will read my post....
I am not defending abstinence only programs. I said if parents taught their kids about sex and condoms and STDs there would not be a need for a program PERIOD. In my opinion, as I said, that needs to be taught by parents, NOT by schools. And as far as standards, I don't know how much lower you can get than adultery in the White House, covering it up, committing felony perjury while in office, and the coup DE grace of those hail Mary pardons and stealing stuff on the way OUT of the White House. Oh yeah...there's a REAL standard to ascribe to. One of these days we will know the WHOLE Sandy Burglar story too. If he lives long enough and does not go the way of Vince Foster.
You did not read my post right
The law is completely behind me. They go with me, have the police there as I load up a truck, have appeared in court, spoken with the person who tells me how this works. Good gosh, would never take it upon myself just to pull up and start loading.
Read the post again
I did not ask what should I do- I asked what would others do.
When I read the post below
It looks like only 2 people voiced an objection. Ignore them. Who cares if they object. Some people do nothing but complain and attack on all of these boards. I can only hope some of these people do not behave like this in person but are embolden by their anonymity of the internet.
Read my post again and you will see
I said asked if I MIGHT have costochondritis because of the ribs that are still hurting so bad you cannot touch- this after my seeing him 2 weeks ago and it started before then. That is different from going in and stating I have that diagnosis and for some reason I have found as the years have gone on she is getting much more angry, it seems, in response to anything I say medical wise. Now I would never say anything medical but SHE brings up all the time because she is having this pain or that, going to various doctors, taking this and that and it is her talk more than mine. I said very innocently 1 day I was eating yogart because it was good for you. Talk about starting WWIII!. She asked who told you that and then started on how she had ate such and such all her life and she was ok. She had a much loved sister who was a nurse and I would be more than willing to say she would never say such barbed things to her. If I had just found out about fibro and just now seeking an answer or assistance it would be different but we are talking YEARS and I hurt severely. I told her I would rather know it was costochondritis than say other things it could be such as melanoma or bone cancer which are 2 other things I also read about and researched in trying to find anything I could do to help my own self as not getting it from the physicians I have gone to since, ah, say 2004. Maybe the best thing to do next time she starts about how do I feel, her having this ache or pain, taking such and such medicine, just say really off limits for me to talk about and just let it go at that?
Maybe you should read your own post because
you said murder- that was not mentioned before. You must be a very angry person with all that screaming going on.
If you will read my post above sm
You will see that I said exactly that - talk with the teacher and get the facts straight. I am perfectly aware of how emotional 13yo girls can be and how they can blow things out of proportion.
I still think this is a very inappropriate way for the teacher to have handled the situation. Regardless of how "worldly" kids are these days, the teacher could have discussed the situation on a one-to-one basis or with the female students only.
You should read your post
I'm sorry, but Christians don't tell people to go to "you know where." Christians don't say, not looking for advice - in other words, you don't want anyone to contradict you or criticize you - believe that is called pride.
How likely is it that all 3 sisters hate you for no reason? Have you thought about actually talkng to his sister, the one who hates you so much, about how you can make peace with each other? Doesn't mean you have to love her, but 2 adults should be able to be civil to each other.
As a Christian mother, you should set an example of love and peace for your boys - do you think you are doing that when you are ready to leave your husband over his family's feelings towards you?
If they hate you, that is on them, but if you hate them back, they have drawn you into their circle of negativity. Do not let that happen. If peace making efforts don't work out, then accept the fact that you do not get on with his family, let your sons and your husband maintain a relationship with them, and enjoy your time alone when they are with the family.
Love your children more than you hate your in-laws and do not draw your children into an eternal family squabble. You are pitting your ego against the ego of the sister and the mother - and putting your husband in an impossible situation.
did you not read my post?
"Please don't write and say a boy shouldn't be allowed to have his ears pierced"
and you are right i was asking about an AGE.
But you are 53, so that says it all, you were from a different generation and thusly I understand why you would be against it.
Read OP's post...........
That marriage is beyond repair:
1. She does not love him.
2. She wants out of the marriage.
3. She is unhappy.
4. Her children are not fond of their father.
Tell me what the pleasures are of going to bed and waking up to a person you feel nothing for.
What are the incentives because these are not hard times - this is THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.
No offense, but you need to put your bible away too.
I read the OPs post and nowhere
does she say it is irreparable. She says she does not love him. Well, at times, I don't "love" my husband either, sometimes I just want him to go fishing for a few days to leave me alone. Sometimes I am unhappy, so what? Happiness comes from within, not without. No one on God's green earth, (oh yeah, you don't like religious talk, too bad), is here to make YOU or anyone else HAPPY!! That doesn't mean this marriage cannot or will not be saved. I've been on this earth long enough to know that seasons change, feelings change, everything changes, but if this OP is looking for an excuse because she thinks there is someone out there who is going to fulfill all her needs, there IS NOT, no one can! If she is telling her children things so that they dislike their father, that is emotional abuse. All this OP has said is she is not happy, she doesn't love him. Applies to most of the population at times, and not enough reason to get divorced and hurt the kids.
Sorry, just read post above. I did not
watch until the 3rd season, so did not know they had done wildcards in the past.
I got chills when I read your post...
I have had a few similar events to yours, but nothing to that great extent. Next time it happens, just say hi. 
Try to read the post correctly, it says
the school was sent out a notice. Do you think only 1 child involved? Why would this be an across the board notice? Oh my, 1 kid and the whole school sent off for punishment. I have no sympathy for people who aren't able to read between the lines and think 1 poor kid is being picked on.
Did you read the content of my post?
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Read the post correctly, it says
alcohol, whatever- that means which ever category one fits into, be it alcoholic, drugs, having children you cannot afford and wanting others to take care of, just not up for that. I had 2 children, never had assistance and worked hard to make sure I did have the money it took to raise them. I have said before and say again, I am most interested in helping people or animals out that are in some misfortune, get this now- that is NOT due to their own doings. You can not take drugs, you can not drink alcohol, you can not have a child by taking birth control. All of these are folks own doings and I do not want to pay for other peoples mess-ups. Understand??
Puhleez re-read my post and see....
that I said Denver is mid-west TO ME - in terrain, being like Nebraska which MOST DEFINITELY IS mid-west in terrain and in culture.
I said Denver is NOT geographically the mid-west. I know US geography and I know Denver is considered west. I am not geographically challenged.
Nuff said.
Just read your post and you and I in same situation
my husband also younger than me. I never ever knew something like this existed, the part about not knowing at retirement age which I get there 10 years before him as to what mine would be. Right now my income if both retired right now would be more; however he has an extremely good job now making twice what I do in my job at the present time so who knows? Next year I start drawing over $500 per month from a retirement fund but the way I look at it right now, that will pay my independete contractor (with maybe some more added) for the month so you cannot win for losing.
I did not read the post yesterday and sorry
because I had puppies who got sick with mucus, bloody discharge from the anus, weight loss and I lost them. This is very lethal and had I read her post would have immediately told her to not wait for appointment to see veterinarian because this onset does not let someone take that long before young puppies can die. I had in my back yard and never could let young puppies be there ever. I hope hers is ok and she was able to get some assistance with the pup.
I had to smile when I read your post. sm
Every time she complains of the itching I ask her about her breathing or if her tongue feels swollen. All mothers tend to think alike, well most of the time, maybe not Lindsay L. mom.
please read my post below to mtmomof3...n/m
 
Just read your post and my aunt the other day
was saying exactly what you were saying, was there not a good place that I could go to for a diagnosis on what my problems are. I do not know of a place like this at all. I can self-refer myself to a physician and usually do as I know about as much as the people I run into in the offices. After all my years of typing on all kinds of diseases, treatments and such, I do not need a person say 30 or more years younger than me to explain a diagnosis to me. I am sure I could tell them more than they could tell me. Just went to an urgent care place today for 1 of my problems and refused to weigh- the person taking history said I would have to because they would have to know my weight in order to give medication. I told them most medicines I know come in say 10, 15, 20 mg and I never weigh at any office and I see nephrologist, general, endocrinologist, etc. I refused to weigh, still got to see the physician and guess what, nothing prescribed! I probably have been in the medical field longer than this person on earth. on well, enough venting for the night.
I just read your post- wondering if
you thought this was me posting above (was not) because I wrote about bellpeppers below and just being silly inserted the burp thing. I know nothing about horses, names for males versus females, mothers versus fathers.
I am laughing as I read your post
you are saying Tina with her ole self is better than the younger Beyonce. Oh, now I am splitting my sides, he, he, he, he, he.....Tina used to break it down but she has got too much age on her now- she should have stayed retired and the way we remembered her.
Then dont read my post below yet!
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O Dear! I just re-read my post - LOL
Meant "watching" Animal Planet not washing LOL
I was so glad to read your post
You stated in the beginnig that you didn't want to be flamed, and unless you are right there in the moment so many just can't understand. I personally have never had to deal with anything like this, but I do have 2 children, 17 and 15. Trust me, when Trace Atkins sings "your gonna miss this" he is so right. Our oldest will be leaving for college in a little over a year and I am already having issues. Just have fun and enjoy. I remember one year my DS played basketball on a team that only won 1 game. We took them out for ice cream after every game and celebrated like we had won. I understand what really irks you, but just think about the kids.
I read my original post again and ---
I know I said I hate the dog, but that was a figure of speech - I hate the things he does to my house!
I brought him home at 10 ounces and have put up with his doings for 4-1/2 years - he's not going anywhere!
You need to read the post again and get it straight
I said the place where we get the animals from do not "allow" adoption of this breed but having said that, I read and hear about their "sweetness" all the time on the news and papers and I tend to believe what I hear- you can go for it but I would rather stick with other breeds, thank you. Lots of pits not available through the shelters. Watch animal channel sometimes and you will see when they get pit bulls (I know in Detroit this is the case) they put them down, not able to rehome.
Again, read the post correctly
Animal shelters who take in this breed around here mostly tend to put down because they consider them vicious and unable to be rehomed. The shelters do not want the responsibility of having a dog turn on a person. It is just a fact.
I totally mis read your post. sorry
You are right. I was preaching to the converted.
sorry Mrs. R. I posted above before I read this post.
You are absolutely correct.
BTW, if you had bothered to read the post just above this
snide response from you, I stated that I was working full time. I was not sitting home doing nothing.
I read your post and smiled to myself
You said you have taken classes and it is taking the stress off a little bit when you know what to expect. In case you are thinking about natural childbirth, knew 2 people who went thru the classes but when the contractions started those classes went out the window and they opted for pain killers. I don't know if a class would give you really the insight on what to expect as far as the birthing process.
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